November 2020 babies - thread 9!

[Iona1985]

In honour of our third trimester I thought we should start a new thread!

Congratulations @CoBell and @littlegem84 !

Congratulations @CoBell!!

Yay it's lovely to see all the babies arriving! Congratulations to everyone who has given birth and enjoying the sweet cuddles.

I'm currently 38+4. Had mw app yesterday and was measuring small so was sent for a growth scan. All turned out fine despite the little bit of panic about static growth, in fact it was nice to see the baby in detail as they took ages checking everything thoroughly.

I can't wait to give birth I feel it could be any day now. My hormones are all over the place and I'm so, SO teary over little things. I don't remember being like this with previous DC!

Congratulations @CoBell! Hope everyone is settling in with their babies!

Wonder if anyone will have a Halloween baby? I think that would be a pretty cool birthday to have. I’m 39 weeks today and actually feeling better than I have in ages now I’ve finished work. Absolutely no signs of baby arriving any time soon!

Hey all. Hope everyone’s okay. Feeling a bit low today. We’re going into tier two tomorrow...12 days before my due date.
I’d resigned myself to the fact that it was husband only in hospital and he had to leave after the birth etc but I was keeping mysef going knowing that my mum could at least come and visit me when I got home. Feels like a massive kick in the teeth and I feel really low 😰. I know it’s not just me and I know people are being affected in far worse ways but I still feel awful. Spent most of last night crying. Just need a hand hold and some cheery news to brighten my day! X

So sorry to hear this @mrsr87. I think you are perfectly entitled to feel this way, it is seriously shit.

I have also spent the day in floods of tears. My DH was made redundant in the summer and the tension in my house has been unbearable. He is trying his hardest and has had quite a lot of interviews but each knock back just sets us back. I am sick of being in the house and sick of being in bed all the time (the HG is still pretty awful). It just feels like such a sad house, when it should be such a happy time.

If you asked your mum to isolate beforehand, or pay for a private test, would you be happy breaking the rules and having her over anyway? I certainly wouldnt judge you for it. I think your mental health is important, espcially post natally.

Is there something you can do to cheer yourself up today? Eat something nice, read a trashy mag, take a nice hot bath? Allow yourself the time to acknowledge this is proper shit.

I myself am a Christmas nut so am going to drag myself out of bed, put on a festive film, eat a mince pie and start writing out Christmas cards... I hope you manage to feel a bit better.

Sorry to hear this @MrsR87 and @FilthyforFirth - tough times. I’m in London so have been in tier 2 for a while and have the opposite problem in that my in laws have booked a local b&b for 2 weeks after the due date so I feel very pressured to let them come and visit us when obviously it’s not allowed. They can’t self isolate as they are key workers and they’re in another tier 2 area with v high case numbers so I feel uncomfortable with it. I’ll just have to see how I feel when the baby is here but by booking without even asking us the pressure is already there. My mum is in Ireland and won’t be over for a long time ☹️

It's a rubbish time isn't it, we are tier 3. But if I need the support physically or emotionally then I wouldn't hesitate to get extra help in the house to bend the rules with family.

@FilthyforFirth I love Christmas too! Wanted to start the Christmas cards but we haven't decided on babies name!!!

Thanks @harrietm87. Sorry that does sound stressful with the inlaws. Can you temper expectations ahead of time so you dont feel pressured? What about meeting outside with the baby? That sucks about your mum though.

We are set on a name, finally, so full steam ahead for cards! Sorry you're in tier 3 @pink15. I would do exactly the same. I am tier 1 for now. But cases are rising in the south east so for how long who knows. My mum is coming to stay whatever. My mental health isnt great and I am very worried about developing pnd. My mum works in a hospital and gets tested every 2 weeks. She is going to isolate once her results come through and then come here.

Hi all, hope everyone keeping well

Congratulations to those who have had their little ones already! 🥰

I've just got off the phone to my MW to say that my birth centre is closing until further notice due to covid. It now means the next closest MLU is now going to be a lot busier and a lot more likely I'll end up on the local labour ward. Not the end of the world I know but still

We're planning a homebirth and with the rising cases near us it's making me even gladder.

Thanks for all your replies. I haven’t broken any rules yet during the whole pandemic and the thought of it makes me feel a little uneasy. I feel that if I did it for one, I’d have to do it for three households ( MIL, dad, mum). We live in quite a quiet area but with lots of security cameras and curtain twitchers so that also makes me feel uneasy. I guess I’m just going to be driving a while to go for a walk park in the park for as long as we can in the cold 🤪. Unfortunately none of the parents live that close to us so it seems such a shame to only be able to meet outside. It’s just not the same. For now, I’m going to keep my fingers crossed that it only goes on for a matter or weeks and that we can have visitors in the not too distance future! Plus, I’m really lucky that my DH is an amazing man so at least I’ve got the support from him.

And good idea about the treats! I’ve got some some alcohol free gin and some nice sea salt dark chocolate ready for consumption later.

Love to all you ladies that are in the same situation or worse! I really do worry about the effects this is having on mental health especially ante and postnatal health. I know so many people who are struggling way more than me. I don’t think the government are considering it enough.

I also worry about all the mums' mental health 😔 I've not been able to work since March so have been at home for 7 months which has been really difficult at times as I'm normally so much on-the-go. Husband has been fantastic which has helped massively but I've not been able to see friends as much either. My parents are 2.5 hours away and in tier 2, sister 4 hours away (tier 1) and in-laws 1.5 hours away (Wales!) so we will very much be on out own when little one comes. Thankfully currently, we're in tier 1 and our hospital is (currently) allowing partners in from triage and through all of labour which I'm holding onto! Our MLU has also been closed as its only taking Covid patients, but this has been the case the whole time so I've resigned myself to labour ward. Just keeping fingers crossed I can still get a birthing pool, though it's certainly not guaranteed!
I'm just focusing on enjoying these last few weeks of being pregnant as much as I can, in between the aches and pains and lack of sleep! 😂 I really will miss feeling her moving about and wriggling. Trying to stay positive for the birth and as long as we're all happy and healthy, that's what counts ♥

I’m so sorry that so many of us are feeling a bit down. This pandemic is really shit.

If it’s at all helpful, regardless of what tier you’re in you can form a ‘childcare’ bubble with one other household to provide informal support for children aged under 14. I’d say a newborn is covered by that... Tiers are certainly not going to stop me getting the support I need (but also I’m planning to use Covid as an excuse to keep those busybodies away too!)

www.gov.uk/guidance/local-covid-alert-level-high#childcare

Unless you're in Wales! I really hope mine arrives after our 'firebreak' lockdown is over, as it would be nice to have some support at home, especially as DH is a bit useless. We're also planning a homebirth, fingers crossed it goes as planned either way. It feels like a very uncertain and turbulent time doesn't it?

Congrats to those who are already holding their little ones, and I'm excited to see news of the next arrivals.

Ah yes- sorry @Anotherboy 😬 I hope yours arrives post-firebreak too!

So of the 80 members of the Facebook group, a whopping 17 had bubbas (if I can correctly count 🤣) before November which made me excited that before long they'll all be here and we will all be able to enjoy our little wriggly munchkins regardless of the nonsense going on around us. Hope everyone finds something good in the day today x

@littlegem84 fingers crossed! Can any one join the Facebook group? X

Hi ladies. Anyone remember me? Lol. I left the thread and FB group after my MMC back in April, but my due date was supposed to be today so thought of this thread.

I am pregnant again (23w) and due in Feb.

Just wanted to say a huge congrats and good luck to you all!

@FudgeFlies of course! It's a private group so if you add me: www.facebook.com/gemma.howe.12 I'll invite you to join 😀

@Sakura54 congratulations, such wonderful news. Good luck with the pregnancy!

@Sakura54 that's great news!! Congratulations:D

@Sakura54 I saw you on that other thread and wanted to say how happy I am for you. X

Wonderful news @sakura54! I remember you and am so pleased.

Wow 17 babies already? I guess fb is more busy than mn as I dont think we've had that many announcements here! I'm not on fb so waiting for the updates here.

I am feeling so sad today. Am going to speak to my hospital tomorrow but I am worried DH wont be able to come anymore or stay for very long. I just knew it would all go to shit again when we were due.

I've got 17 days to go and slightly dreading it now which makes me feel awful

@littlegem84 thank you! I’ve added you x

@Sakura54 congratulations!!

@littlegem84 can you please add me to the group too? (I'll add you now and you can always ignore =) ) I've just realised that I'm going to have no mum friends locally as we have just moved so it would be lovely to be part of it x