Ladies ? sorry, this is a me, me, me, rant, rant, rant post but I have to get it off my chest and can?t share it with anyone else. I am FURIOUS with DH he was out straight from work last night on his leaving night from his old job. He was meant to catch the last bus home with mates but called me at 11.30 (already been in bed and asleep for 30 hour) to say he?d decided to stay out. He was barely coherent. After that I got 4 more calls ? all forgetting about the one before and the last one at 1am finally saying he was in a cab with 2 friends, a couple. The girl grabbed the phone from me and told me both boys were being a nightmare, my DH had been barred from the pub and she had to walk him around for 30 mins before a taxi would accept him. He finally arrived home in a noisy whirlwind at 1.45 and came upstairs to say hello (though he nearly didn?t make it up the stairs). I tried to persuade him to come to bed but he wouldn?t, he wanted to watch TV but first he slipped on the bathroom mats, jeans round ankles trying to go to the loo and couldn?t get back up and I had to try and get all 17 stone of him back on to the loo. He then proceeded to go downstairs, trousers still round ankles and nearly falling over the banister. I followed him to get his jeans and shoes off t least so he wouldn?t trip over and turned the TV on very low in the hope he?d fall asleep and that would be it. No chance. I was woken 15 mins later to crashes and bangs in the kitchen (getting himself nuts to later choke on). He then fell over again and I waited anxiously for sounds of movement before going back to sleep. About 20 mins later, I was woken again to falling over, doors crashing, cats scampering (remember also my poor can who is in plaster and groggy from sedatives) and the back door opening. I heard him come back in 10 mins later and closing the kitchen door (big no no as means cats can?t get food, water or to the toilet) he went back in to the lounge turned the TV up full wack and seemed to settle down. I tried to get back to sleep reasoning that he?d fall asleep and I could then go down and turn it off and finally get some sleep. It was 2.30 am by now. I was woken again at 3.15 or so to choking and more falling over. I went down to see if he was ok only to find the hall and kitchen and lounge floors all wet with wee, piles of mushy poo on all those areas too and the piece de resistance, DH without boxers (which were on the floor covered in both of the substances just mentioned) lying on the leather couch on my favorite rug naked, covered in ?stuff? and choking. The stench was unbearable and I noticed a huge pile of crap on the natural wood window sill, smeared on the window and curtain. God it was disgusting, I screamed at him (no effect on him at all) gagged, shut the door and proceeded to gag and have to throw up whilst I cleaned the hall and kitchen so the cats wouldn?t get it on them. I got to bed at 4 feeling very tearful and angry with a wide awake Beanie kicking about hoping that he would stay downstairs and I?d finally get some sleep. 5.30 he staggered upstairs, I was having none of it, turned the lights on and told him he wasn?t coming near the bed unless he had a shower. Amazingly, he did what I asked and at 6 a clean but still wasted DH came to bed and fell asleep, snoring like a bore 10 mins later. Finally, I got some sleep until 10 when the cats and Beanie wanted feeding and a delivery lady came to the door. He of course, is sound asleep. I?ve had my breakfast and aired the house but I am not going in the lounge, he can sort that. Now I have to mop the floors as last night?s clean up was just basic with anti bac wipes. I?ve also discovered more poo outside on the back step ? another job for DH.
Now the crux, he is meant to be going out all day to watch football and wet a friend?s baby?s head. I was meant to take him to a far away station (we have no local trains at the mo) so he can go back into town and get rat arsed again. I told him I?d collect him at 10 and no later but I have horrible fears of the whole thing happening again tonight and I am exhausted as it is today after last night?s debacle.
Am I being unreasonable to insist he takes the car and doesn?t drink? He doesn?t see his mates that often these days and is really looking forward to today and I guess he has cut down a lot on the booze since I got pregnant which is probably why he got so drunk last night but I just feel that he cannot behave like that, and that to totally lose control of yourself and put yourself in harm?s way when he?ll be a Dad soon is totally unacceptable plus how will I cope with a newborn that he will want to cuddle if he gets in that state after its born.
I don?t want to be a dragon or nag but I just cannot put up with that ? any advice before the beast awakes?!
Thanks ladies, sorry it was all me ? I can now hoover and mop my shitty house knowing you?ll give me sound guidance!!