Early Oct Babies Part 8

[Treaclepie19]

Will this be the thread where the babies start to arrive?? 😮❤

Thank you @MrsK89 I really hope so ❤ It's breaking my heart 😭

Hope you can get some rest today. I'm sat working my way through a box of after eights and watching frasier 🤷‍♀️

Sorry, cross posted. Thank you @Spark27. You just want to protect them don't you 😔

@Treaclepie19how is he after school when you pick him up? xx

@Treacle81 he was really happy and excited the first two days so I figured it was just a settling thing. Friday he was quite quiet and grizzly but I think that might have been the effect of staying all day for the first time.
I'll have to see how he is today and try to talk to his teacher again. We'd said he would need a properly staggered start but they seem to think he's doing okay.
He's probably masking a lot of it until he gets home. Not helped by his speech delay.

@Treaclepie19 ah that's hard, sending you ❤. Hopefully he will settle soon as he gets more used to it. Does he take long to settle once you're gone? Can school snap a couple of photos of him after you've left to reassure you that he's calmed down?

That's the thing, if he was upset all day then of course that's just not good. It may just be how he is getting there but settles when in with the other children. I'd ask the teacher how long it takes to settle him, wee soul ❤️. My friend who is due on Fri had mw appointment and she mentioned a balloon sweep which they are now doing due to covid. Have any of you heard of this? Doesnt sound great tbh xx

@BntTowers My local hospital is the same, so I'm worried about induction because my DH can't come in until I'm in established labour and we live 40 mins away from hospital too.

@Treaclepie19 What is he like when he's there? Have the teachers said he's okay? It'll feel awful right now and being pregnant won't help with those emotions! But it can only improve, don't give up. He'll settle soon I'm sure, especially as he starts to make friends and gets stuck into the new routine! My DD started with a cold 2 days after going back to nursery after lockdown and she was really unsure about going. Now the first thing she asks when she gets up is if she's going in the car to nursery! Things may always be a bit trickier after a weekend off too. You try and rest today and focus on yourself for a few hours, last chance before baby comes! X

Thank you @Treaclepie19 I hope he settles in quickly. That sounds like a great plan. As ds1 is in year 1 now and ds2 has staggered starts all week and DD is in twice this week for half days, it is taking it out on me already. My groin is just constantly in pain 😔

@Spark27 @Treacle81 thank you both, that all sounds good - was worried I might need several blankets which would take up too much room. Bit of a FTM worry really - started really overthinking blanket numbers and being judged by the hospital for not having enough 😂

Thanks so much for the support everyone ❤
I've managed to stop crying 😂 and done some jobs. Decided if I'm at least being productive that will be better than sitting around worrying. Off to pick him up soon so I'll see what they say about his day and try to discuss next steps with them.

@Treaclepie19 how was his day today? I'm sure he will settle into it once there's a bit of a routine.

@justanothermamma DH doesn't know it yet but I think I'm going to have him on the phone/face time for a good amount of time if I'm in for induction, I feel like if I can tell him it feels like things might be ramping up then he will be able to make sure he is ready to come in. If that's how it all goes of course, ftm and I have no idea what happens! I think when we find out a date for induction he is going to book that day off as holiday so he can be on stand by, but I will feel bad if it ends up lasting a few days...

@BntTowers I'm stressed with it all as DH can't drive so I have to then rely on someone else getting him the 40mins to hospital when they say he can come as opposed to him just jumping in the car, and we'll have to make sure someone is with DD too. It would be so much easier if DH could just be with me from the start, my labour was so quick last time and DH would have missed my last birth if we were in this situation the first time round as I was only in 'established labour' for 15 mins 😳. I'm trying not to think/cry about it or I'll just have a meltdown 🙈. With being induced early as well there is very little chance that baby will come naturally beforehand as well! So doom and gloom, but hey ho!

It'll be worth the stress when baby is here, that's allllll I keep thinking.

@Treaclepie19 How are you feeling now?

Thanks both, he got on really well. He got upset at lunch time and I need to speak to them about him not drinking but I'm pleased that he came home happy.

I've done way too much though and am in lots of pain with spd. That'll teach me 🙈

I'm the same @justanothermamma. Dh doesn't drive so I am worried about him getting to me. Still, what will be will be I suppose.

@Treaclepie19 Hopefully things are on the up 🤞🏼.

I am so fed up of SPD now! It's a nightmare!!!

If my DH misses the birth I will absolutely devastated, my local hosp are only giving patners an hour with baby before Mum and baby go on the ward and they can't visit after that until Mum is discharged - even then it's being picked up at the door! So if DH misses the birth there's every chance he won't see baby or me until we're discharged which is terrifying! It's the worst case scenario, but I suppose if I prepare for that anything else can only be better? It's the fact that people can go to pubs together with another household (you're telling me no hospital staff have been out and about between shifts) but you can't have a birth partner throughout one of the most vulnerable points of your life that upsets me the most (that alongside the envy of not being able to enjoy the pub that I could go to if I wanted 😂).

That's good to hear @Treaclepie19. I am having a lot of back pain, just at right side so hopefully hot bath will ease as doubt we can apply deep heat xx

@justanothermamma oh no, that's a really tricky situation to be in. If you can get someone to look after your little one is there a pub/cafe near by that your partner could settle himself in?

I feel like I really need to get myself into a positive frame of mind with it all, but it is very hard to do and I'm not sure how I'm going to get there yet.

@Treaclepie19 hopefully things will start to pick up if he is coming home happy.

Tried calling triage again today, as it seems a bit worse today but no answer.
I've got scan tomorrow so hopefully can speak to consultant after.
Also want to find out if the rules have changed in the hospital regarding partners and labour.
Fingers crossed I'll know more about being induced x

@Treaclepie19 glad your DS had a good day at school, hopefully he will get used to going more each day and it will be less stressful for you both. I can imagine he must be tired after so much time at home then suddenly going every day. Hope you get some rest tonight too.

@justanothermamma sorry to hear your hospital are being so strict with the rules, just seems to unfair how different everywhere is but makes me feel grateful for how our rules are at the moment compared to places like yours, I dont feel I can complain then. What do people that have csection etc or need more help do...surely they dont have more midwives helping mothers that are physically less able, seems so frustrating. I hope your DH can be with you.

My DH can drive but he is not confident at all, I have the car for work and hes worked from home for years so doesnt really drive. With lockdown he hasnt driven since before then so we are hoping my mum will take us to the hospital so he can stay calm and supportive for me.

My friend had her baby girl this afternoon. I am so thrilled for her. Her first birth was over several days and ended in unplanned c section. This time she had her naturally and took 8 hours in total so complete opposite. Baby was only a couple of days overdue too, so didnt keep her waiting too long. It makes me so excited to meet our baby now!

Thanks so much everyone ❤
He is really tired but also struggling to sleep so going to bed about 8.30 and then up at 6.30 which is just not enough sleep for him.

Thats so lovely for your friend @LexiM!! 😊

I've got the consultant on Wednesday to discuss my growth scan for reduced movements and only just started thinking about it properly. I'm expecting her to reinforce the induction offer or even bring it forward. I was hoping to leave it and try naturally though so will see what she says.

@MrsK89 don't be afraid to keep calling if you're worried. They're there to help.

Hope your bath has helped @Treacle81!

I can barely walk tonight. Night times are the worst. Especially when lying in bed. I try and turn over but have to sit up to turn and even then its like my pelvis is cracking. Eesh.

@BntTowers There's nothing near the hospital which is a nightmare, which is made worse by not knowing how many hours it could be waiting! My Mum is 30mins away so a bit closer hopefully he can go there as a back up!

@LexiM We are in a low risk area as well which makes it all the more frustrating, but what will be will be I suppose.

@MrsK89 Thinking of you!

Anyone else not sleeping?

I'm here on the not sleeping. Already been up a few times to wee but this time I cant get back to sleep so on the sofa with trash tv. I swear even with having a newborn and night feeds I'll still get more sleep than now 😴

Hi all, do you mind me joining? I was briefly on the very first thread. Due date3-4 October, first time mum, expecting a little boy and planning a home birth. So far pregnancy was a breeze but recently started feeling heavy, heartburn, swollen fingers ouch! And of course sleepless night! Hope to catch up on day naps as soon as maternity leave starts. How are you all doing?

@justanothermamma we used HelloFresh a lot early on in lockdown, the problem is a lot of recipes are fuffy and you need to cook some of them within the next few days as best before dates are quite short. I want to try ordering Mindful Chef ready frozen meals instead. I don't feel like cooking at all recently..

Hi @Viletta, congratulations on your pregnancy and little boy. I cant believe they'll all soon be here. Seems like forever ago the first thread was started, but it's also raced by. It's good you've had a fairly easy pregnancy, but sorry it's starting to ramp up now.

I'm pregnant with my 2nd DD, due on 27th Sept. Definitely feeling it more 2nd time round. 1st pregnancy seemed like a breeze compared to this. Starting to get fed up with the insomnia, heartburn, aches and pains, etc. But not had any real complications for me or baby so I am very lucky.

Exciting news on the home birth. I'm opting for all the drugs in hospital 😅xx