Pregnant After MMC - Thread 2

[Sakura54]

New thread for those of us pregnant after MMC.

Lots of upcoming scans to be arranged. Here's our current list:

@JennyMY Wed 12th August 2pm
@Sakura54 Tues 18th August 3.40pm
@SmileyT Monday 7th September 9am
@DanceM1 Monday 24th August 2pm

@PhotoMum4 what a gorgeous bump!

@RosieJess91 eeek for twins! But it could just be your showing earlier has your body has been through this before so is a bit more stretched. I went on a hen do at 9 weeks with my daughter, we spent a day on a catamaran so I was in a swim suit and you really couldn't tell, this time round I look like I did at about 17 weeks at weeks!

Great news on the successful scans, it genuinely makes me so happy to hear everyone's positive news 😊

Good luck tomorrow @Pugprincess, at least your scan is in the morning which is good.

@SkyBlue20 pretty sure vivid dreams are a pregnancy symptoms, I've certainly been having an extra dose if mad dreams (and not always nice ones).

I had my booking in appointment yesterday, it was face to face and they did bloods too. The midwife is doing an extra check on my bloods for b12 as I mentioned dizziness and numb/tingling fingers. She said it could also be carpal tunnel, I'm hoping not as I had it with my daughter but not until the 3rd trimester! My next appointment apart from my scan will be face to face at 18 weeks.

She also referred me to the bereavement midwife as I said I've been really anxious, its not so bad its stopping me doing things but I feel like whenever I'm not occupied its on my mind. To the point I'm nervous about going on holiday in case sometimes happens when I go away. I think I'm going to try and take control and redownload the headspace app and start meditating once a day as I've found that really helpful in the past.

I've felt pretty rotten the past few days, I feel like I've had a sickness bug and its the day after when your no longer being sick but still feel like crap and don't want to eat anything thats not brown. Had another 2 hour nap today! I have no idea how those of you who have HG are coping, you are doing amazing, heres me complaining about feeling sick!

@SkyBlue20 in regards to side sleeping; I try to sleep on my side but wake up on my back, then I feel like my stomach aches slightly 😫 I think it's because it's getting heavy in there! Going to purchase a pillow in a few weeks and hope that's really helps!

Thanks for the good lucks. It’s a private one. I’m excited but nervous as just desperately wanting to see heartbeat still there and some good growth progress. Glad husband can come. Think I’m 7+3 today and baby should be measuring 7 if the epu 5+6 was right and if baby has grown each day.

@Sansa87 I had light brown discharge in weeks 4 and 5 xxx

@RosieJess91 I’ve already had to buy new bras once and now I’ve grown out of them 😫 Found some really good bralets on H&M’s website that aren’t too pricey so they’re what I’ve been living in but they sell out so quickly that I need to just keep checking for the next size up. Also think maybe I need something with a strap rather than something that goes over the head as the back still fits fine on the smalls I have, I’m just spilling out of the cups now! Dread to think how many I’m going to have to buy over the next six months at this rate 🙈

@Smilingdonkey That sounds exhausting! Hope work can make some changes for you sooner rather than later!

@SmileyT Not long now until the scans, you just have tomorrow to get through! 🥳 I agree that after mine I think I’ll be able to relax a little bit more. I’m already worried about the 20 week scan (🙄 should really get through the 12 week first) but I do think this scan going well would be a huge hurdle to get over. Fingers crossed for us!
Yes, my sex drive has definitely come back a bit, too!
Thanks for the info on side sleeping - I too am a front sleeper naturally so trying my best to get in to sleeping on my side. I do think it will be much easier with a pregnancy pillow but I’m not allowed (my rule) to buy one of those until after the scan (my whole life is seemingly paused until this scan 🙈)

@Workingmama1 Yes, I believe the dreams are pregnancy-related. I had super vivid dreams last pregnancy but they were all normal things, they’ve just been very violent the last few days 😫 I think a lot of it is the anxiety of the impending scan and also work being quite stressful as all of the meanings seem to link back to that. They’ll hopefully be better soon.
Glad you had a good booking in appt and they referred you to the bereavement midwife. I do like the team at Bolton, they’ve been really nice through everything.
Sorry you’re feeling so rotten 😔

@bubblybon20 Sounds like me - I try on my side but wake up on my front, back or some sort of weird angle between front and side. Definitely think a pillow will help!

@Workingmama1 sorry you’ve been feeling crappy, hope you feel better soon and that the bereavement midwife can also help 💕 I’ve been having counselling for the last couple of months and it does help me a bit but I’m still incredibly anxious and seem to find something new to worry about every day. I was oiling some wood at home earlier (renovation in progress!) and only later freaked out about the solvents in wood oil, spent about an hour going down a google hole about how I shouldn’t have been doing that and could cause birth defects and miscarriage 😞

It’s exhausting being so worried! I’m off to bed shortly, hope everyone has a night free of vivid dreams!! X

@SkyBlue20 @Workingmama1 I’m also having dreams. Really weird ones too. The other night I dreamt I was attempting my first breast feed and my nipple went really long and was flipping around like hose spraying milk 😅 last night it was great white sharks and I hate them!! See what tonight brings 😩

Morning ladies,
I don't have a bump yet and there's 2 in there.
I can feel it's hard at the bottom but then I get a bit of bloat that comes and goes through the day, I'm hoping for a small bump. This is me full term last year with dd I'm hoping not to get too big this time xx

Does anybody occasionally wake up feeling mega rough? Like hungry/sick/thirsty and needing the loo. I’ve eaten a banana and drank now so wearing off a bit. I didn’t sleep great as worrying about my scan this morning. Got really upset in the night think I’m still grieving the last baby. I feel such a range of emotions that along with hormones I just don’t know how to manage them sometimes. I feel happy and grateful to be preg again, sad I lost the last one, scared I will lose this one, not wanting to forget the last one, scared to get too attached or excited about this one. Can anyone else relate??

@Dipsy77 your DD bump looked so cute and small!

I also wouldn't say I've got much of a bump yet 15+1
I was huge with my second son from 12 weeks.. but with my first I didn't show until 20 weeks. Maybe il be a late shower this time too to extreme weigh loss after my youngest! I think mines mainly a bit of bloating still as I always feel smaller in the mornings. Just want some movements now 😫🤣

@Pugprincess I wake up most mornings feeling like I’ve drunk 3 bottles of cheap wine - headache, nausea, dying of thirst, desperate for the loo. It’s worst when I have slept badly, last night I got 9 hours and I felt ok this morning just thirsty.
I completely relate to the range of emotions too and I’m sure others as well 😘 just try to remember every pregnancy is different and there is no reason this one won’t go just fine. One day at a time. Good luck for later 💕

Morning all! Got away without a terrible dream last night 💪🏼

@Pugprincess Your dreams sound crazy, too, hope you got away without one last night! I also wake up every morning super thirsty (but can’t really face water so have to sip it), really hot and bursting for a wee. But so tired that I can’t be bothered to do anything about it for ages. Also get really hungry quickly after waking up (my husband has taken to bringing me breakfast in bed, bless him). I was a bit sickly this morning but it isn’t too bad at the mo, was much worse earlier on in the pregnancy. I do have crackers next to the bed constantly though.
I can totally relate to the up and down emotions, too. Hope you’re ok and the scan goes ok this morning. Thinking of you. Xx

@Dipsy77 Such a lovely bump last time! It really does just go to show how different we all are, doesn’t it?!

@bubblybon20 I’m desperate for movements, too, - keep trying to feel for them even though I know I’m at least three weeks too early for it, probably more like seven weeks! You should hopefully get some soon 🤞🏼

Hope everyone is having a good weekend, I’m having a lazy morning and DH and I are going to do some painting in the house shortly but not many other plans. Nice and relaxed ☺️

Also meant to say (❗️TMI alert❗️) that after my crazy tingly, sensitive and sore boobs yesterday, I noticed last night that I have loads more of those bumps around the nipple (Montgomery’s tubercles?) - it’s almost like the pain was them appearing! May not have been (I don’t have a clue) but there are definitely more of them. The body is a very strange and wonderful thing!

@SkyBlue20 fingers crossed for us both, will make things less stressful once small movements are felt! 🤣 I also had super sensitive nipples, but I also have an awful lot of spots appear! So defo sounds painfully normal 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

@SkyBlue20 no crazy dreams last night as I hardly slept which makes sense with what @Poppy10121 says about feeling worse after bad sleep cause I felt terrible this morn.

Scan went really well!! Baby has caught right up. It’s grown 11 days in the past 9! I’m now measuring 7+3 and I think I’m roughly 7+4 today so baby is bigger than the last one now. She could see the arm buds developing ❤️ Really relieved and happy. I’ve booked in again for sat 19th lol. X

Hey - I hope people don’t mind me posting in this thread. I posted in a new thread this morning but here seems like it could be a good place for advice etc. Long post 😬

I had a mmc in March this year, the development had stopped around w5/6 and I realised something wasn’t right around week 9 as my symptoms had gone and I’d had a little bit of spotting. I went for a private scan and it confirmed something wasn’t right, I then went to the early pregnancy unit where they told me I had to wait two weeks in case dates were wrong but the Sunday before I had to go (w11) I started to miscarry and passed naturally.

Finding out I was pregnant again in July was bittersweet, I just couldn’t get excited because of what happened last time however things seemly were going fine as I had more symptoms than last time and no spotting etc. Then on Friday (11 + 2) I had pink discharge, my heart filled with dread. Saturday, there was fresh/red blood, albeit not loads. I went to early pregnancy unit - I couldn’t get a scan, which was upsetting as I wasn’t able to have a reassurance scan like I should have due to covid. They offered me an internal scan, took swabs and I went home as the blood had turned brown/seemly stopped.

I’ve woke up and there doesn’t seem to be any new blood, I’m not in pain or anything but I’m so anxious the same thing is happening again. I have my dating scan on Wednesday and I just can’t see it being good news. I just wondered if anyone had experienced anything similar - good or bad news? I’d rather be prepared for the worst...

Thanks

@Pugprincess so glad everything well and baby has Caught up! What a relief for you!

@Lrr31 👋 hello, so sorry about your mmc in March, we've all been through something very similar so understand how you feel. It's honestly the most stressful thing find out your pregnant again after a loss, the worry never leaves you!
A few ladies on the thread have experienced some bleeding/spotting in the first couple of months so hopefully they'll be able to reassure you slightly, but it is really hard not to just feel negative! I had a small bleed showing on one of my early scans, and said that it could cause some bleeding and now to worry, luckily mine absorbed itself so I didn't experience any bleeding. Hope someone can give you some advice. But sit tight, brown blood normally means old blood so hopefully everything is okay 💕

Ahhh congrats, @Pugprincess! 🥰 Looks like a little jelly baby 😍

@Lrr31 Hello and welcome. I’m so sorry for your loss 💕 A few of us have had bleeding during our pregnancies so far and gone on to have good scans. I had almost exactly what you describe at 8+4 - a bit of fresh red blood, no pain. I was told to go to A&E, who sent me to EPU and luckily they scanned me. The scan was fine, baby had a heartbeat and was measuring right, and I had a private scan already booked in for nine days later (9+6) where baby was still looking good - had grown as it should and had a heartbeat. I’m 13 weeks today and still waiting on my 12 week scan (it’s also on Wednesday) so I can’t definitively tell you that all is ok after the bleed but I have had two successful scans since it happened and I know lots of the other ladies in here have had similar. It’s so worrying, especially after previous MMC, and unfortunately it can go either way, but just wanted to reassure you that blood doesn’t always signify the worst. I hope your dating scan goes well and do chat to us through all of the worry and anxiety, we’ve all been there. Big hand hold xx

Thanks @bubblybon20 + @SkyBlue20 that’s good to know. I know every pregnancy is different but hearing that there are some happy outcomes does help with the crippling anxiety. Part of me wishes I’d gone for a private scan now but after last time I just couldn’t go back to the same place and go through same thing again. I feel like I’ve jinxed myself as I’d just started to calm myself down, thinking things were looking better this time. Lots of rest until scan, and probably a million trips to the toilet checking for more blood 😳

Everything crossed for you scan on Wednesday @SkyBlue20

Great news @pugprincess?

@lrr31 that must have been scary seeing blood, it's not always bad news and a few ladies on here have had bleeding followed by scans showing all is well! Good idea to rest up, try to keep your mind as occupied as you can and fingers crossed for a good scan on Wednesday

Sorry that great news was meant to be followed by an explanation mark not a question mark 🤣

Haha it’s ok @Workingmama1 😁😄 thank you everyone else for the congratulations. Love the jelly bean name 🙂 I will still worry no doubt as we are never really out of the woods are we. Lots of growing pains though! So sicky today. I still haven’t thrown up but I reckon it will happen at some point. I’m craving mini cupcakes at the moment 😅

@Lrr31 welcome and I hope your 12 week scan goes well. I would have maybe advised booking the private one but with it only being 3 days away I suppose you might as well wait. The bleed could be caused by lots of things, could have had a cyst rupture or something...I had some light brown discharge in weeks 4/5 and I panicked too. I know red is different though and would panic more. But as the others say it’s not always all over. On another thread a lady had red and clots and was sure that was it but she’s still preg and ok 👍🏻 It’s not easy this pregnancy after a loss lark is it? I tissue check like a mad woman x

Hey ladies hope everyone’s having a nice Sunday, I saw this on Facebook earlier and thought how true it was www.bbc.com/news/uk-53613348

@Lrr31 hope you manage to get some answers I know when I went for my early scan on the ultrasound she did say to me that I’d had a bleed but it look like implantation and she was happy with it and reassured me it was all normal, she did also add that I could have brown spotting. So hopefully it’s something similar. Xx

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@SkyBlue20 only 3 more sleeps for you, hope it comes around quickly. I was feeling pretty good but the fear is starting to creep in a bit now for the morning 😬 that's random about the bumps, obviously the first thing I did was have a little nosey at mine but burger nipples are still there without the bumps 🙄

@Dipsy77 ahh some twin mummas still keep relatively small bumps at least until the 3rd trimester, hope that happens for you especially as you've still got such a little one to be carrying around x

@Pugprincess congrats on the scan 🥳 and yes to waking up feeling off most mornings but it definitely seems to have calmed the last couple weeks 🙌🏾

@bubblybon20 at the end of the day I also have a 'blump' (bump/bloat) but definitely not firm like a baby bump yet 😂 but I am only 12weeks and it's my first so I guess that is to be expected x

@Lrr31 sorry for your previous loss, I know a lot of ladies have had bleeding and gone on to have successful scans so please keep positive, the odds are in your favour x

@Lu93 ahh reading those stories was so sad, I feel almost lucky that my MC was in March but just before lockdown hit hospitals. Although EPU wouldn't scan me even though I knew it was over, so had to do a 2hr round trip for a last min private scan to go back to the hospital 3hrs later and demand surgery, if my DP hadn't been able to be with me on that day to advocate for me who knows how I would've coped or if I'd even be able to have walked out of there 😭

@SmileyT yeah was just horrendous, to be honest I had my missed carriage in lockdown, I remember going to the EPU and the nurses were amazing me and my husband went to go wait in the waiting area and this nurse shouted No he can’t! Then we was told it was the first day of partners not being allowed in. He waited in the car park and I had to go out and tell him the pregnancy wasn’t progressing and just broke down outside the hospital. I had two lots of medical management and demanded a d&c seen as though my body wasn’t detecting the loss. The nurse wasn’t allowed to hold my hand or anything during the procedure and she just kept apologising it was awful. They really need to change the rules xx