Due April 2021

[Rotagilla]

Hello, any ladies due in April 2021.
Would be great to chat and to compare symptoms etc...

I just booked an early scan 😁
I can't wait!

@Rotagilla eeek exciting! I think I might too, just so DH can join me. When's it booked for?

@LeopardLover Maybe wait until your visitors have left. My GP told me to arrange my booking appointment as soon as I found out. I guess it helps them space the appointments appropriately. Definitely felt a bit early for it though! Good luck with the DIY, at least you have a deadline now 😂

@Rotagilla Oh wow!! That is super exciting. Did you just find somewhere via Google?

@BuckleUp So I took the test this morning and got 3+! However my BBT dropped substantially so trying to practice what I told you about that 🙈. I feel hot and nauseas this morning. Haha yes! Suddenly the pressure is on x

@LeopardLover Aww that's brilliant, must be strong then! My BBT has been a bit all over, so (although it's hard) try not to worry 😊

@BuckleUp I have 2 apps and one says I'm 5 weeks today so maybe that's why I got 3+. Thank you - that's reassuring actually. I'm tempted to stop temping as it's a bit stressful!

Hi all 😊

I’m exactly 5 weeks today with my first it’s all so new and exciting 😁 My symptoms are painful boobs and a lot of pinching and random pulls and pains in my stomach! I keep googling to see if this is normal and it seems to be! I guess they’re just making themselves comfortable 😊

Got my first scan on 23rd September!

How is everyone doing? 😊
The nausea has well and truly kicked in here! I’m 6+1 today.
I have booked my midwife appt for the 8th September, it’ll be over the phone and I’m hoping I get a letter for a scan after that.

When I spoke to the receptionist to book my appointment I explained we had recently moved and got married so I needed to change my details. I assumed this could be done over the phone given the current situation. She said I would need to go down to change my details. I asked what I needed to bring assuming I need to go in so they could see proof of my new name/address but she said I didn’t need anything?
I’m super confused as I’ve had loads of texts saying not to go to the surgery unless asked to by a go.
But also I don’t want any midwife letters to be sent to my old address and ideally I’d like all my notes etc to be in my married name!
I might try call again and hope to get a different receptionist?

Gp*

@BuckleUp @LeopardLover it's next Thursday! Excited I don't have to wait too long...I searched all local places offering it and was hard to find a space before mid September.
So we're going to a clinic 2 hours away...might stay overnight and make a thing of it x

@Rotagilla Omgosh wow! How far will you be? Can't believe everywhere is booked up!

@CatCrazyx Oooh we're date twins then! Lots of random pulling and twinges for me too. Well done for sorting your scan so early.

@JoesM12 Welcome! 😊 Oh how strange re your detail changes? I actually need to change my address too so I'll let you know what mine says. Seems a bit odd to me! X

Congrats and welcome @LeopardLover!

A lot of you seem to have your first appointments booked in so I have a question for you all - have you gone with the nearest hospital? And how far will you have to travel to get to the hospital?

I live in London so have a few hospitals near me. I self referred to the one 5 mins away over a week ago. I haven’t heard a peep from them. I have also called and the phone just rings out, no answer. To top it off the reviews are terrible.
I’m considering giving it up as a lost cause and self referring to the next nearest hospital which is about 25 mins away. Good reviews and it looks far better in terms of care and much newer. I’m worried 25 mins is a bit far considering we’d only have to go 5 mins to the closest.
Thoughts?

@LuckyFlash I've asked to go to my nearest which happens to be a well reviewed midwife-led centre about 30 mins away. However, if they decide it's a risky pregnancy or a complicated labour I'll be sent to my nearest hospital which is 45-60 mins away. I'm just winging it!

Ah thanks @BuckleUp makes me feel better about choosing one that’s a bit further away from me for better care

@LeopardLover Yes it’s all part of the process I guess! Do you have your scan booked? I will be 10 weeks when I get mine.. Before pregnancy I had in my head that your first one was 12 🤔

@LuckyFlash Well the hospital I will ask to be seen at is 15 minutes away however my first appointment is with the midwife at my GP practice, not the hospital.. which I was surprised at. My GP practice is 40 minutes away (I work opposite this GP practice so made more sense for my doctors to be near my work). Not too concerned if I only end up going the once.

Question for everyone... have you told close family/friends you are pregnant?

@LuckyFlash Thank you! 😊

Gosh, I'm so naive I didn't even realise there were reviews - just straight up Google ones?

We have two good hospitals here but I think I'm going to opt for the one furthest away, because it has great parking and is out of the city centre. I was also born there so it's probably a sentimental decision too.

@CatCrazyx I haven't even notified my GP yet 🙈 I thought it was 12 weeks too!? I'm not planning to tell anyone until 12 weeks, if I can hold out. I hate keeping secrets! If someone asked I'd have to confess 😅 x

@CatCrazyx I can't keep a secret if my life depended on it! I told my group of close girlfriends about a week after I found out. I told my mum and stepdad on Sunday and I'm telling my sisters tonight. I know it's a bit early (6+1), but I would want their support if anything went wrong anyway. We're hoping to hold out until after a scan (early or 12 week - haven't decided) to tell DHs family as it'll be the first grandchild on that side. I might have to tell my boss early because of Covid, but was planning on telling her, external family and friends we meet up regularly with after 12 week scan too. Everyone else can find out at 20 weeks lol 😂

@LeopardLover I rang them about 2 hours after finding out.. I’m not sure why I got in touch with them so early 😂 They gave me a booklet to read about screening tests and my personal maternity record to fill out. I didn’t want to tell anyone either tbf when I first found out. It’s worrying when it’s such early days. Fast forward a week later I’ve told one of my closest friends and my partner has told his 2 cousins who he is very close with x

@BuckleUp Yeah I’ve told my closest friend as she’s been pregnant before and miscarried before so she’s a good support system. I think I’ll probably tell more close friends and family around about 8 weeks. I’m more worried about telling family tbh as it’s first grandchild on both sides so they’d be more devastated if something happened. I don’t think I’d even put anything on social media either until I have my baby here 🙃

Yeah @LeopardLover there’s lots of reviews on google. I imagine you should take them with a pinch of salt though as people will likely review when they have a bad experience.

I told my parents and brothers last week at 5 weeks. Telling the in laws this week. Everyone else we will wait until 12 weeks. The first person I need to tell is by best friend which I’m dreading as she’s been ttc for 2 years, had 2 miscarriages and her dad just died. We have a couple of friends who have gotten pregnant recently and she’s been so upset. She doesn’t know I’ve been ttc so it’s going to be a very unwelcome shock...

@LuckyFlash
We also have a hospital 5 mins away but a lot of my friends had bad experiences so I’d really rather not have to go there.
I’m hoping to go to the same hospital I delivered my daughter at as I was also born there and I would just feel a lot more comfortable.
It is further away, about 25 minutes but I’m confident it will be okay!

Can I ask everyone’s opinion on something? You can totally tell me if I’m a crazy person 😂

My best friend who I have known since high school, she was my maid of honour at my wedding last year, has been very weird with with me since I told her her I was pregnant.
She knew we were trying and I would confide in her every time my period showed up. Her response was always “oh it’ll happen when it’s meant to” which did annoy me a little bit I never said anything and just let it go.
When I told her I was pregnant over FaceTime I was expecting her to be over the moon for us, because she really does adore my 3 year old already, but her face just dropped and she just said “oh that’s good”. And then went on to moan about her boyfriend and something a bit petty, which she does a lot and I obviously talk to her about it because that’s what friends do?
But I’ve not really been able to mention anything about my pregnancy. I told her I had to tell work because I feel so sick and she said “ yeah I’d be screwed if I was pregnant, I know I’d get sick all the time”. Now she has told me a lot that she does want children but they aren’t trying yet. They live with her parents and she’s finishing a masters. But if I mention the slightest thing she starts to talk about her imaginary pregnancy and her imaginary children and what names she’d use, what she’d do for her baby shower, what kind of birth she’d like etc etc.
The other day she messaged me saying “my friend is pregnant too” I replied “oh that’s so lovely, how far along is she?”
She said “I’m so jealous”
I instantly said to my husband, I think that’s how she feels about us which is why I can’t mention it without her talking about her being pregnant. Which I just think is really sad. I wouldn’t ever want her to be jealous of me. I’d maybe understand if they were trying and she hadn’t fallen on yet but they don’t want to for a while.
Am I crazy? Am I a horrible friend for even thinking this is an issue?
Should I talk to her about it and tell her how I feel?
I sort of expected this just to be my moment and her to be excited for me like I would be with her. Even while I was planning my wedding she was sending me photos of dresses she’d want for her wedding and again, they aren’t engaged or anything.
When her time comes I will be over the moon for her and of course would want to talk about her babies/wedding!
I have my scan next next week and she’s be one of the first people normally I’d send photos to and talk to about it, but I just really don’t want to.
I’m happy to hear honest opinions because I don’t know if my hormones are all over the place and I’m just being more sensitive than usual.

You guys, am I the only one not telling people 🙈 Now I feel bad haha. Maybe the closer to 12 weeks I get, the more different I'll feel.

@JoesM12 Oh I'm so sorry! You are not crazy, it's awks but you're friend sounds mighty jealous. 👀 Which is somewhat understandable if she's always wanted a baby but would be better if she was open with her feelings. I vote for you bringing it up in a considerate way to make sure she's okay with being involved! X

@JoesM12 Your friend*

@LuckyFlash Yes I would probably prepare what you are going to say and how to respond 😔 As a friend she is going to be happy for you but it might also upset her and bring up emotion related to her own situation.

@JoesM12 Honestly, it does sound like a hint of jealousy 😬 even though I don’t like that word! It sounds like she wants the same scenario for herself which is why every time you mention it she keeps referring to herself. I think she’ll grow out of it and become tired of trying to ‘steal the thunder’

Oops.. grow out of it makes her sound like a child growing out of a top! You know what I meant 😂

Hi everyone, hope i can join. I'm 5+1 with 1st baby and second pregnancy. Had a mmc in April at 12 weeks but it ended at 8+4 so it's scary and trying to not think it will happen again, but me and hubby can't really get excited until we're past the main stage.
I've got slight sore boots with some nausea and twinges in my lift side.