Late October Babies 2020 - Thread 5

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Thread 5 ladies!

Girls: @DressingGown87 @Jaffas22 @DogCatDex @EmmaA96 (twins) @Parks11 @LadyB90 @Strawberries4days @LST87 @sls668 @plentyofplants Uppsydaisy (Girl twin)

Boys: @sunbreak @FirstSurprise001 @WaveStreet @roarfeckingroar
@Mc3209 @KitKatKit @1990shopefulftm @Lolllyf @HelenMarie1001 @Freddie1987 @BS9790 @hmeadow24 @Ghostworld @roarfeckingroarr @Glooorb @mamavee @UpsyDaisy1234 (Boy twin) @Samk93

Surprise / Waiting
@60sPony @Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @AdventureAhead @Elizag20 @justtb @Clalou83 @SJR86 @Flora20 @Watersintheclouds @Jaffas22 @justtb

If I have missed you! Sorry! I did quickly scan through the start of the last thread, to add people and update the list, but only did this quick.

@Mc3209 I've only had it since hitting 30 weeks, i've been putting the fan on at night which seems to help a bit. Yes, I've washed their sleeping bags.

Sorry if this has already been covered!

I know all babies are going to be different sizes etc but what has everyone been buying in terms of sizing?

I’ve not bought any newborn clothes, only a couple of vests, and just gone straight into 0-3 months. But now I’m wondering if I should start getting a few newborn bits - or at least one outfit to bring him home in 👀

@1990shopefulftm I'm hoping they change things sooner rather than later. I just want to be able to see my family, friends and not put so much pressure of my BP who has her own children, job and life.

@mc3209 My grobags arrived today, and I was just about to wash them. As I'm trying to get through the baby laundry pile on the floor. I don't see any harm in doing so.

@FirstSurprise001 I have quite alot of 0-3, but I have bought a multi pack / or two of 1month / newborn vests and sleepsuits. And a special sleepsuit for home time. Just haven't bought any outfits in that size as seemed pointless. I will get more if needed, I've not bothered with tiny baby. All the sizing seems off though from different shops.

@DressingGown87 It's difficult not to get annoyed with the selfish people that live in our area that aren't following guidance now when you know that having a birth partner there with you is a big deal.

@FirstSurprise001 I've got tiny baby and newborn in my hospital bag and then if my measurements seem higher then I'll take the tiny baby out and put 0-3 in. I've gotten 90% of his clothes off ebay so if i don't use them I won't be too bothered and i m sure i can find someone that would use them.

@Mc3209 I wash everything, for me or baby - the chemicals and general dirt on anything that's passed through a factory, warehouses etc aren't something I want near skin!

@FirstSurprise001 I didn't have any newborn last time as everyone insists that babies can go straight into 0-3 and it would be pointless. Then I had to send mum to buy a few packs of newborn sleepsuits before she visited because the 0-3 drowned my daughter - she was 6lb 15 so not huge but not unusually tiny either! I wouldn't bother getting outfits though, sleepsuits are all you can be bothered with in the early days 😂

I've got a mix of newborn and 0-3 months because people told me 0-3 months can be too big at first. I've also got a packet of tiny baby vests and sleep suits just incase but it they dont fit I was just going to donate them to the ward if they will take them

Ladies I know a few of you had said that your belly button had popped A few weeks ago! Mine hadn’t until the last 24hours, it’s quite painful and looks bruised, and looks like it’s on it’s way to an outie. Did anyone have this?

@1990shopefulftm I know, wish people could think of others too, and they can relax the restrictions.

@DressingGown87 there's no pain or bruising when my belly button popped out, it's flat and a bit more oval now.

@DressingGown87 mine hasn't popped yet, so I don't have a personal experience. Yours sounds painful.

Mine hasn't come out yet either! Its quite stretched though. I've had these lovely stabbing pains in my crotch today, worse when I turn over in bed (from one side to the other). Is this the infamous lightening crotch they refer to?! I don't think it's PGP or SPD as my pelvis seems fine. No other pain. Anybody else experienced this?

@DressingGown87 I'm impressed yours lasted so long!! Mine popped out a couple of months ago I think and it looks so weird.

I had my 32 week appointment today and it was great. Baby all fine and he's flipped so his head is now pointing down. Plus, as I'm giving birth on the midwife unit not the labour ward (unless something goes wrong) my midwife told me that it's not their policy to move us to the postnatal ward, we're in the private birthing room until we leave hospital - which also means DP can stay 🥰.

@KitKatKit mine felt painful from my belly button down to my crotch and then it popped and went bruised and tender to touch around the area and directly down. It was when I was in bed trying to get comfy when it was worse. She is head down, and her bum is there so don’t know if she is just sticking it out. Hope it get easier for you and isn’t the dreaded lightening crotch! Is your baby head down and putting extra pressure on your pelvis?

@roarfeckingroarr I know I’m suprised it lasted this long! Did your going bruised? Glad your appointment went well; that great news about DP staying too. Are you planning a water birth?

@DressingGown87 yes definitely a water birth. My birth plan is poncy AF geared towards a calm environment with few people present, water, low lights etc.

@roarfeckingroarr that sounds ideal! Hope it all goes to plan, and you’ve got a good playlist to push too!

@DressingGown87 Yeah I think his head is down so that's what's contributing to it! Joys!

@roarfeckingroarr "poncy AF" 😆 That did make me laugh out loud. You do what you need to get through that labour! Great news that your DP will be able to be with you.

I've got my 32 week appointment next week, will ask them when they expect a birth plan from me and also about my local hospital's birth partner policy. Hope its similar as I'll hopefully be giving birth on a MLU too x

@KitKatKit @DressingGown87 I actually had a nightmare where I went into labour and couldn't find my colour coded birth plan 😂. KitKat I hope your MLU allows partners too.

I realised today that the reason I've been feeling so teary, overwhelmed and alone is down to unresolved grief from losing my mother during childhood. I've been in touch with a therapist who specialises in this stuff and I'm going to start seeing her in a couple of weeks. DP rang on the way home from work just now and we spoke for an hour about it, he's so happy I'm taking steps forward. For a northern engineer he's very in touch with emotions and very pro therapy!!!

@roarfeckingroarr Sorry to hear you've been struggling, it really is brilliant you've found someone to talk to and fab that DP is supportive. I've continued my counselling sessions over the phone throughout the pandemic and they've been invaluable. I really hope you're able to gain a sense of resolution and closure. Pregnancy is such a difficult time, and when you're dealing with all of these other emotions it's easy to feel overwhelmed.

Nearly the end of another week ladies... oh, for those of us who were chatting about not having bought stuff etc... I ordered my carseat and base today (finally!) I literally woke up and thought "today's the day!" Funny how we work sometimes isn't it! Still got the pram and side sleeper cot to go, but I'm definitely holding out a few more weeks for those

@roarfeckingroarr I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling, being pregnant is a difficult time and I think it's a reminder of one more experience you thought you would have your parent there for and they aren't there. I hope the therapy helps you resolve some things and I'm glad your DP is supportive.

I'm I don't want to say glad that's not quite the right word at all, perhaps grateful that I have a best friend who also has a dead parent as I can be completely honest with her whenever I've been struggling in the past.

@roarfeckingroarr make two copies just in case! Glad you had a good chat with your DP. Pregnancy is mentally and physically draining, and it will bring with it so many good and bad things (blame the hormones). But it’s great your getting help, and speaking to someone. I really hope it helps. You sound like an amazing, independent person, who has achieved so much, and I’m sure your mum will be beaming with pride. Us northerners can be quite emotional!

@KitKatKit Are brains do work in funny ways!

“Rant Alert” there has been a nice warm breeze here today, perfect for drying washing. So I washed the last of the baby things, put it all on the line. My next door neighbour (who is 60+) has had his mates round today (breaking local lockdown which is a daily occupancy) and sat smoking weed all day, so my washing now stinks! My house stinks! 🙄

Thanks guys. You're all so lovely. It's funny how humans deal with grief and hold onto things only for them to be triggered years later. I feel good about my new therapist and these realisations.

@DressingGown87 oh my gosh I would struggle to not go around there. That's so so inconsiderate!!!

@DressingGown87 also thank you. I've found pregnancy pretty damn hard and struggled with not feeling grateful enough and worries that I'll not be any good and that's so kind of you to say.

@DressingGown87 do you feel comfortable reporting them on the non emergency police website?

I think if I didn’t live on my own / have anxiety I would go round or report. But really don’t want to have conflict, when I’m home alone. He is really nice and pleasant to speak to, but does shout, swear, has people round all time, has a completely different sleep schedule to me (up to 3am sleeps until noon), obviously smokes weed and doesn’t respect lockdown. I would contact the landlord, but I think they are friends.

@roarfeckingroarr your going to smash it, don’t worry. I’m sure your going to give you little boy and amazing life, full of travels and amazing memories!

@roarfeckingroarr Sorry to hear you've been struggling, I think it makes a lot of sense that you'd be thinking of your mum when you're becoming a mother yourself. Really hope your therapist can help you in these last few weeks X

@DressingGown87 That's horrible, it would drive me crazy! If it helps I reported a breach of lockdown last weekend (people in next street have been having big parties every Saturday night for the last few weeks, had to close all the windows even during the heatwave as the noise was so ridiculous - I finally broke!) and I've heard nothing since 🙄 Don't know if they've been contacted but on the other hand they wouldn't know it's me who's complained!