👣 Due Nov/Dec 👣 the second trimester continues

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New thread!

@peachypetite I've been looking at those wraps too. Very tempted but they seem so expensive for what they are

@chubbyhotchoc it does look very easy! And there are loads of threads on here with people saying it was a Best Buy. There is one on eBay, new atm for about a fiver. I have had a couple of friends ask if there’s anything specific I want so could be cheeky :)

Hey all, I hope you're all well? I took a few days off mumsnet as I was feeling quite overwhelmed by everything (which was then compounded by a nasty midwife at my 25 week appointment that I've now complained about - won't go over it all again, but the lack of compassion, competence and continuity in the care I've received has been pretty poor - the thing that tipped me over the edge was her basically laughing at me because I was upset and confused by conflicting advice on movements and her greeting which was "why is this a face to face appointment then?" - as if I was some sort of burden: apparently it was supposed to be a telephone appointment and she made me feel pretty bad that I had basically been given a f2f because I was so upset by the previous issues in my care).

To be honest I'm also still feeling a little bit frustrated by the sudden rampant consumerism that's been thrown at me as 'advice' from every direction. I never thought of myself as particularly 'eco friendly' but actually I am realising that I am (like, I don't understand disposable face masks outside a medical setting and ordering disposable maternity pads made me feel incredibly uncomfortable). It's a bit of a weird realisation as I never put myself in that category: it was only last week that I really thought about it when my husband pointed out that it's odd that I won't buy kitchen paper (because it's wasteful). I guess I am also pretty thoughtful with my money and only spend on things I think are good value: I'm genuinely proud of the fact that I have an almost complete wardrobe for this baby for 12 months and have so far spent £8.50 on clothes.
All that said, I did recently buy a portable air con unit as our new build house was like 30 degrees indoors. An absolutely great purchase (which according to my smart meter doesn't actually use loads of electricity).

@Jellycat2020 - I've stuck with NCT even though it's moved online: BUT they're known for promoting certain ideas/perspectives (and skimming over the details of things like forceps, which I'd rather avoid because OUCH but would like to be clearly informed on) so I'll probably do something else as well. I'm also currently looking at the La Leche League breastfeeding classes as I have lots of friends who struggled with breastfeeding so want to be as well informed as possible (although I'm not 100% set on breastfeeding it seems worth a try).

Welcome back all!
@EithneBlue sorry to hear about your crappy midwife care seems to be a running theme doesn't it! - I saw my midwife write a note to call me this Monday in her diary and I didn't get a call - so she's obviously just looked at it and ignored it. I'm moving in 2 weeks happy to change hopefully will be better
Would love to know what air con unit you got I struggle so badly in the heat!

Woohoo on the big movements @Jellycat2020

So glad your all moved in @excitednerves we were planning to complete on the 28th but our vendors are being slow on their front! So we have to move into in-laws. At least will be able to buy stuff and keep in storage and check into hospital. I'm sorry about your crappy care as well!

@peachypetite those star suits definitely look easy to whip off for a feed, emergency poo or just if it happens to get hotter when you're out and about!

I'm glad to know you got good quality @kkr168 I do think a lot of them come from the same production line as well! I just saw your picture I must of missed it! What a massive Pom Pom lol!

Feeling unusually breathless after my five minute walk to work took me a while to get back to normal felt like my heart was beating fast too.. Anyone else started feeling more breathless ?

@nearlyamummyof2boys it's the 5000 watt one that Homebase sell: our local store was closing down just before the last heatwave and they had them on offer with £100 off so I nabbed it then. If you can hold out for the rest of this year they're often on sale over the winter :-)

@Babyhope98 I've had lots of breathlessness too. Seems to be a daily occurrence now and even happens when I'm just sat around rather than walking about.

@EithneBlue welcome back! Sorry to hear about your crappy midwife appointment. I have my first face to face next week and I'm a little worried about it. I share your feelings on the consumerism and not wanting to be wasteful. It's bothering me a lot more than I thought it would too!

On the baby clothes matter, has anyone bought anything from Matalan? Any idea of the quality?

@Pinktruffle this is a useful thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3971393-Baby-clothing-basics-where-do-you-buy

Thanks @peachypetite. Only one person mentioned Matalan but it was negative. I've only bought from M&S so far and really love the quality

@Pinktruffle yeh that thread seemed resoundingly next, M&S and in terms of the more budget places tu at sainsburys.

@Pinktruffle I got this sleepsuit from matalan www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2775221_c228/unisex-marvel-baby-grow-newborn-18mths-grey because my stepson is a huge marvel fan. The quality seemed fine to me, did anyone say what the issue with matalan clothing was?

@kkr168 aww that's adorable, my DH would love it (he's a comic book collector)! I had seen a grobag that I really liked at Matlan. Just one person in the thread had said the quality was really poor and they wouldn't buy from there again. No one else mentioned it

@Pinktruffle I've found in everything I've searched for baby so far (and that's a lot!) ie. car seats, prams, clothes, there has always been one person give 1 star even though there might be 20 people give 5 stars! It's hard not to take notice of it though lol!

@nearlyamummyof2boys yeah, when you are spending your own hard earned cash, you become cautious! That's why I was wondering if anyone in this thread had bought from Matalan.

Welcome back @EithneBlue sorry about ur bad experience with midwife I have mine on 27th and I really hope they arent nasty to me or anything as I am the kind of person that wont keep my mouth shut at all and will tell em where to go there and then lol sorry that's who I am I havent brought no more clothing other than what I got about a month ago waiting till winter stuff comes in I suppose I had the breathlessness a while back but so far been good my little man been quiet last couple days had movement but not alot not gonna panic though as I no on websites it says not to count till 24 weeks I'm only just hitting 23 on sunday

@nearlyamummyof2boys grrrr to slow vendors. Ours caused us some frustration too but thankfully all behind us now. I hope you can move in soon and hope that living with in-laws is going ok.

To be fair I don’t think my care is crappy, not so far anyway. I think I’ve just had extra-special and now I’m getting normal and it’s just another thing I’ll miss about leaving London. I’m on my own with DS and no car this week too which isn’t helping. I think I’m just in an adjusting phase.

I'm worried about that to @excitednerves I'm so used to being in London and popping out to anywhere so easily! I think I will struggle at first when OH is working and I'm with DS and no car either - I can't drive will learn after I give birth.

@peachypetite Ive had some things from Matalan (as gifts because we don’t have one near us) but I was pretty impressed with them. There’s always one person who gets a dodgy item and then avoids a particular brand forever

@nearlyamummyof2boys I’m finding the lack of coffee shops in a walkable distance the most frustrating bit! First world problems, right? I was in Teddington which is coffee shop and independent boutique central and now I’m on the outskirts of a small village. We have a beautiful house, a garden, loads of space, close to family, close to the beach, gorgeous places (and coffee shops!) to drive to. In the bigger picture, it’s really not important but it’s just going to take time to settle in.

@excitednerves oh lovely we were in Wimbledon Park so handy for everything! But I totally agree we will be on the outskirts of Liverpool and in the long run it is going to be amazing such a nice place for the kids to grow up we are near fields and lovely walks! But as you say it will be a matter of adjusting 🥰🥰

The company I bought my birthing ball from is running free exercise classes, excited to join next week’s!

@Kj1010 I think up to 26 weeks you can have quiet days but should be feeling something atleast a day. If you are concerned go to triage to get checked just in case, you could drink a cold drink like coke and lay down and see if that sets them off ☺️

@Babyhope98 I get what ur saying but Idid say he been quiet but have had movement I would defo go to hospital.if I was concerned but today he has been moving so all good there ty tho

@Jellycat2020 we had an NCT course booked for October. It was supposed to be a small group socially distanced and was over a Saturday and Sunday with a follow up breast feeding session for me on the Wednesday after.

Unfortunately last week they said it was moving online so we cancelled. The whole course was over £200 and I just couldn't justify paying that to sit on a Zoom call for six hours a day. We lost £30 cancellation fee but felt it was the right decision for us. It was the practical elements of the course we were most interested in and you don't get that online.

I need to find a new course now too, hopefully one in small online chunks. I heard The Maternity Collective do some good ones but haven't done much research myself