March 2021 babies

[Sussexbysea]

Hi everyone,

This is a second thread of March 2021 babies. I’ll add people as I go xx

@DSP21 at my scan in March I was measuring 5 and a half weeks and there was a sac, beginning of an embryo and fetal pole.
I should have been 7 weeks so mine wasn’t good news as I knew my dates but when i endlessly googled it said the heartbeat is usually detected between 6-7 weeks. Could it be your dates are slightly out? The fetal pole is what develops into the heart. I had to speak to a midwife to get more detail on my scan and found out more from her than the sonographer.
I read that a couple of days can make a huge difference but I know what a worry it is.

@Sussexbysea definitely do the nct classes because they'll all be asking you questions and you'll know the answers! Plus always worth meeting people having babies the same time as you, your kiddies can have play dates together!
There is no doubt hormones probably have a lot to do with how you're feeling too x

@Nmvasey
I took a p-test on 10th July that told me I was pregnant 1-2 weeks, i did 2 extra tests which told me the same. On the Monday I called the fertility team to tell them (wish I hadn’t now), they booked me in for an early pregnancy scan on 22nd July. 2 days before did a p-test and it still said pregnant. Day of the scan they found nothing there (I thought the scan was too early), I was distraught. They did a HCG blood test it was low at 576, did another on 24th July it went up to 650. On the sat did another P-test said pregnant 2-3 (still going up). Had HCG bloods last Tuesday they were 1190, they still weren’t happy. So had a scan the following day, where they didn’t see anything in the womb but at the top of the uterus.

The first nurse mentioned termination, but had to wait 1.5hrs for a second opinion to turn up, first 30mins in an indecent position the got told to get dressed and wait in the waiting room so they can sort out others. Second opinion arrived and she suggested to wait, it might move into place.

I await my fate on Wednesday. xXx

@Taylortyler thank you. It’s been nice to talk about it with you x

@Sussexbysea I'm really sorry you're feeling like that. I would also love to do NCT again for dc2 just to meet people- but to be honest might have found it slightly odd if there had been a second time mum in our group. I think NCT do classes specifically for second/third time parents? I vaguely remember that from one class anyway!

I would hope I’m worrying unnecessarily but I feel exactly like I did with my MMC. In my heart I think there is something wrong. I am 6+3 today and have no symptoms and although I didn’t have lots or strong ones , this is what happened last time. I waited hoping there would be signs at 6 weeks and there was nothing.
I’ve looked at early scans but I’m petrified of being told somewhere that isn’t a hospital and also the thought of going through it all again and knowing for certain.

@Oldermum80 I feel pretty confident of my dates, I was using opk's but I usually get ovulation cramping too which matches the opk's perfectly. It sounds like a lot of women end up being slightly later than they thought so maybe that's the case. The sonographer didn't seem worried but I can't trust that either way. I have no symptoms what so ever, a part from slightly tender boobs but wouldn't know I was pregnant otherwise. No one prepares you for the anxiety of the first trimester!

@Sussexbysea Sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. As you say, if you’re usually happy with how things are it might well be your hormones. 1st trimester is a lonely time, so remember this group is always here!

I’m a teacher too!

Sounds like a day of hormones and anxiety for all of us. @Sussexbysea im sorry that you're feeling like this. I'd definitely reach out to a groups, or take some solace from us on here and talk all you need.

I have my early scan tomorrow. I'm 8 weeks + 5 but I have this weird feeling. Isn't it weird that the only validation of y pregnancy is the fact I peed on a stick. I do have symptoms but just doesn't feel real.... fingers crossed this tie tomorrow I will feel a bit better

@Sussexbysea Sorry you are feeling low! I do think the first trimester is a really difficult time with so much uncertainty and worries and feeling a bit crap physically. Covid doesn’t help either right now! I know no toddler groups are back yet, but perhaps you have some virtual/online mums groups running in your area? I’d mention it to your midwife or GP if you are feeling particularly low. Hope you feel sunny and positive very soon!! 😘

@Sussexbysea I really empathise with how you feel - i used to have a really close group of friends but as we have got older and had kids we have drifted I feel very alone - it’s tough not to have that support outside of your immediate family - I’m looking to open myself to opportunities to meet other women to have a wine and a laugh with once the baba is here xxx

I don't know whether to envy those who have had early scans or not. It seems extremely nerve wracking.. I'm nervous
Enough as it is.

I'm finding i'm worse in the evening, I feel almost feverish at times. The only thing that stops the nausea is jelly sweets, not the start as far as healthy diet is concerned!

Sorry * best start.

@Aurora124
I wish I hadn’t been scanned early, if this one doesn’t work out and I find everything strength to try again I won’t be having another early scan. Has caused so much stress and anguish. Wishing you all the best xx

What was the Stacey Dooley programme like? I really like her but don't want to upset myself if it's all doom and gloom & suggesting it's foolish to be pregnant now.

So sorry to hear of so many people struggling at the moment.

@H108 @Aurora124 I agree! I wish now I had waited for a few more weeks before my first scan. The lady at the clinic assured me 6 weeks would be perfect and that waiting a week or 2 more wouldn't make much difference (really?!!!) now I'll be stressing for another 2 weeks and just trying to get through the days. Not a great feeling. Just let nature do it's thang!

@Oldermum80

I would hope I’m worrying unnecessarily but I feel exactly like I did with my MMC. In my heart I think there is something wrong. I am 6+3 today and have no symptoms and although I didn’t have lots or strong ones , this is what happened last time. I waited hoping there would be signs at 6 weeks and there was nothing. I’ve looked at early scans but I’m petrified of being told somewhere that isn’t a hospital and also the thought of going through it all again and knowing for certain.

I'm 6+3 too and no symptoms, although if I'm still too early to see a pole or embryo on the U/S scan then maybe it's just too soon for us? Clinging to hope, and the symptoms will come rushing in soon!

@Sussexbysea sorry to hear you're feeling lonely - I can definitely relate! We live about 35 miles from any family/friends, and some of them don't have cars. I work in London so I'd normally meet them in town, but haven't since lockdown and unlikely to once on mat leave. I love where I live, and wouldn't have had a hope of buying in SW London where most of my friends are, but we had lots of plans to join local groups in spring/summer this year and lockdown put a stop to that! Definitely planning on NCT. As someone mentioned, perhaps look for groups for 2nd time mums? And there's always somebody on here to chat virtually!

@DSP21 the days are going so slowly! Not helped that I’m off for the school holidays whereas I would normally not get time to think.
It’s such a worry and I’ve been here before and thought I could cope with it again, now I’m not so sure.
I’ve been up through night with a pain in my side too. Nothing bad and had it before pregnancy too but it makes you more anxious!
It’s funny how desperate I am to feel sick when I was so ill with my daughter that I couldn’t keep anything down and was permanently glued to the toilet 🤣

@Oldermum80 I'll be here with you counting down the days! And completely with you on wanting to feel some kind of sickness to know things are progressing, we will soon regret it I'm sure!

We had planned to tell our parents this weekend, more so for support than to just 'break the news' After the scan I'm feeling like maybe it's best not to get anyone's hopes up, but hubby thinks support is good either way.

Hi everyone hope you are feeling well. I got my scan appt come through yesterday for september 1st - very exciting! Counting down the weeks now

@Phie04 I had my letter yesterday too! 27th of August..it’s so exciting isn’t it😁

@Oldermum80 I've been saying the exact same thing to my husband. At home I overthink ever ache or pang. At school I wouldn't even have time to notice them!

@Clara9 dreading going back in sept especially if I still don’t know anything as I’ll only be 10 weeks but at least I will be distracted. Really need to actually do some work rather than googling my lack of symptoms!