Pregnant after Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 5

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@Whiffle77 yep a wee bit of excitement but baby still tucked up warm in there!! Thanks for the info re gallstones. Keeping note of what I'm eating but there's no consistency which is a pain! Just scared to eat all the time just in case. Worry about eating something hot or spicy for days and the think it im having it, and all is fine. And days where I think I've been sensible it kicks off! Can't win 😕 never had any other issues like ibs etc before now, always been fine which doesn't help.

@tmc14 I think its a case of if you're thinking about calling then you should call, there's a concern there somewhere. You won't be any worse off if they say just keep an eye etc, call back in a few hours if still concerned.

@TunnocksTcake @SammiLou2312 Yes, weirdly I quite often don’t feel her much during the day as I’m busy but we met a couple of friends for a socially distant park chat so was basically eating sugar, drinking cold water & lying down for four hours and nothing! Hooked up now, heartbeat seems ok, not many movements yet... hoping she’s just having a quiet day. I’ve been a bit poorly in the heat which I don’t know if that would quieten her at all... the day unit closed at 8, so we started the machines but I didn’t meet the correct criteria by 8 so I’ve been moved & hooked up again... hopefully won’t have to wait too long.

@tmc14 I agree that it's best to go be them a ring, sounds very similar to the last time I went in. Goblin had just got into a weird position, but it's better to get checked out now than end up having to go in in the middle of the night!

No sign of my cousin's baby yet, I think she's having a rough time between the pre eclampsia and the induction bless her, she's also had a less than ideal reaction to the codiene they gave her, so doesn't sound like she's having a great time of it. For her sake I'm hoping it's not too much longer, she's had really severe swelling etc for about 6 weeks now and her last trimester has been difficult with lots of time in hospital. Fingers crossed our little River will make an appearance soon.

Updating...

@Bellsx 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 32wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 33wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Knotemma 32wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 31wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 31wks (26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 32 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@avocuddles 31wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Sunflower1608 28wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣ GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 31wks (due 30/09/20)⁣ BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 30wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 29wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 28wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣ SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 25wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 22wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 22wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 22wks (due 05/12/20) Boy
@footprintsintheslow 14 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby 15 weeks (due 24/01/2021

@Bellsx 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 32wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 33wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Knotemma 32wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 31wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 31wks (26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 32 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@avocuddles 31wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Sunflower1608 28wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣ GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 31wks (due 30/09/20)⁣ BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 30wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 29wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 28wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣ SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 25wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 22wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 22wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 22wks (due 05/12/20) Boy
@footprintsintheslow 17 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby 15 weeks (due 24/01/2021

Thanks all for the common sense. Glad I went as she only just passed the assessment criteria when I was hooked up to the ctg. They suggested I stay overnight but allowed me to go since I’ve already got a scan and consultant appointment tomorrow. Argh, doesn’t seem to be getting any less stressful as the weeks go by! 30 weeks today, will update the list another time when I can copy/paste. Exhausted now. Looking forward to bed.

Hope everyone else is doing ok. x

@tmc14 - glad everything seems to be ok. I’ve been in twice for reduced movements. First time, my tracing wasn’t great, baby’s heart rate wasn’t ‘spiking’ as much as it should and mine was too fast. Went for a scan the next day, turns out baby had their legs over their face and their feet tucked behind their head 🙈 That was four weeks ago and all is well with us so try not to worry (I know that isn’t easy but I hope it reassures you somewhat!) Let us know how tomorrow goes please.

Totally agree with what everyone has been saying about anxiety not going away, just changing. I wasn’t told until I was 32 weeks that I have an anterior placenta and my placenta had also moved up so started masking movements more. After my second incident of reduced movements, I had convinced myself they were going to find something wrong - baby’s heart, my placenta, something, I spent an entire day crying and it was the worst my anxiety has been since the early days. I had convinced myself I had come this close and something was going to be wrong. Had a scan the next day and the sonographer said things couldn’t be healthier - baby’s heart looked great, placenta was really healthy - baby had gone from 2lbs 9oz at 28 weeks to 4lbs 1oz at 32 weeks, indicating they’re getting everything they need from me and doing really well! Anxiety has a lot to answer for!

Since then, I’ve had to convince myself every day that there’s no reason for anything to be wrong or for anything to go wrong and I’m slowly getting better and more relaxed every day. It’s hard-going though after what we’ve been through ladies.

I just can’t wait for all of our babies to be here safely ❤️

How is everyone doing sleep wise? I was in bed about 1030, asleep by 11. Woke at 3 for the loo and been awake since!! So tired, nippy eyes, constant yawning but getting nowhere. Going crazy. Happening every other day now.
I guess I should get used to it. But its different when baby is here, there's a valid reason why awake half the Night!!
Not much point to this post just a moan really 😂

@Rachael321 I'm the same. Getting in bed and sleeping for an hour or two, then up to go to the toilet, then wide awake for a bit. Back to sleep, toilet, up with my 4yo. 😴😴😴

@Rachael321 @Treaclepie19 same here! Wake up because I need the loo, realize I'm starving, get up to eat, can't get back to sleep. I tried taking a breakfast bar to bed with me last night in the hope that a small snack when I woke up would help.... It didn't work 🙈. I suspect today will be a "quiet" day workwise, think I over did it a bit over the weekend, between cleaning, rearranging and gardening... Only 2 more weeks left at work though!

@Rachael321 I hear you! Current sleep pattern: Exhausted all day, fall asleep early, wake up middle of the night dying of thirst/needing a wee/uncomfortable/anxious (repeat), wide awake in the morning but not refreshed, repeat. That said, I remember post-miscarriage thinking to myself "what I'd give to have pregnancy problems" so I'm also beating myself up for feeling sorry for myself (I know, I shouldn't) or trying to reframe as being a sign things are progressing and I might have a bab soon (better!).

@tmc14 sorry you've had such a scary few days, glad to hear she seems to be ok. Will be thinking of you with your appointments today, glad they're taking it seriously and supporting you.

Updating my weeks - the big 3-0! @tmc14 I'll let you do your own - it feels important you do it this week x

@Bellsx 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 32wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 33wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Knotemma 32wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 31wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 31wks (26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 32 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@avocuddles 31wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Sunflower1608 28wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣ GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 31wks (due 30/09/20)⁣ BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 30wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 29wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 30wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣ SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 25wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 22wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 22wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 22wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 17 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby 15 weeks (due 24/01/21)

Ahh @tmc14 sorry about your worries but glad you were seen and sorted, hope your appointments go well.

Sleep...argh I feel like i am going mad! Im so tired. I fall asleep OK but then wake up about every hour or so for ten mins or so, so im not getting any kind of quality of sleep. I go to the loo every time I wake up but that isn't why I'm waking, its so frustrating! Sounds like it is just par for the course from the rest of you though. Multiple people have told me its preparing me for after the birth - ok good, thanks!! I love sleep so much too, i need a lot in a normal scenario let alone when growing a baby!

I'm sending my matb1 form in to work today which feels like a big event!!

@whiffle77 congrats on sending in the matb1 form, can confirm it feels great!

Glad I'm not the only one struggling with sleep just now (as bad as it sounds)
OH is adamant I'm in the early stages of labour cause I'm so unsettled and fidgety day and night

@Rachael321 it easily could be that lovely.

I'm feeling the same but I'm weeks behind you so baby needs to cook a bit more. The other night I was really concerned something was happening but I remember that with my ds1. My waters broke with him at 37+2 so I keep wondering if baby will be early again. I sort of hope so but considering he had to stay in NICU its probably not best.
Also need time to get things ready 🙈

Hope you are all doing well! Were any of you given a scan at 28 weeks? How much did your little ones weigh. Little girl is weighing in at 2lb 6oz, apparently on the low end of the chart but Dr said it's only really a cause for concern if they don't see growth, got another scan at 34 weeks so hopefully she should have gained another 1-1 1/2lb??

Hoping to discuss a c section when I see the midwife, I had a horrible traumatic experience when I miscarried so I'm just hoping they don't dismiss me. I know it's not for everyone but I've pretty much made up my mind and would at least like to be taken seriously and not just fobbed off as a scared first time mum.

I also find out if I get made redundant on Friday, hoping and praying I don't!!

It certainly feels more real now @Hagster! I feel ready to finish now, my interest in work is low but workload sadly still high!
Misery loves company @Rachael321 plus its reassuring to know its normal...its just frustrating when I don't feel like there is a reason!

@bananamuffin99 I had a scan at 28 weeks and my little one was 2lbs 9oz and also on the low side of the growth chart. Had another scan at 32 weeks and they’d jumped up to 4lbs 1oz and bang on the 50th percentile! Got another scan tomorrow at 34 weeks so will let you know what they’re up to now. Try not to worry, they all grow at different rates and your little girl might have a growth spurt between now and then, mine certainly did!

@bananamuffin99 our goblin was 2lb 10 at 28 weeks and was in the 48th percentile. I've been told that as long as they aren't in the bottom 10th and are following their curve all is good. I've got another scan at 35 weeks, so will see more then, as midwife isn't doing fundal height as she feels a mix of that and scans messes with the curve.

On the c section front talk to them about your anxiety, your previous experience etc, they should be fine with it. I have a friend who's twins passed away shortly after birth at 25 weeks and as soon as she mentioned a c section they just sorted it for her. Birth trauma is real and you need to do what's best for your mental health.

Fingers crossed it's good news on Friday job wise x

Happy Monday ladies. Hope you had a good weekend.

@tmc14 Hope all goes well with your scan and consultant update today, after yesterday's quiet period.

@whiffle77 congrats on getting the MATB1 form in. It does feel like a weight is lifted when that's done. I'm taking over a year off in total, and counting down the days until I finish up. I plan to stop work at 36 weeks, so still have 10 more weeks of work...

I'm with you all on the sleep front. Although I've always been a side sleeper I am now finding it really uncomfortable when I sleep on my side. I have a pregnancy pillow, but find I will wake with pain in hips, arm, shoulder etc. Pain that subsides once I'm up and about again. Half the time I hobble to the loo throughout the night. Also, I know the temperature came down since Friday, but I am getting serious night sweats!! Fan is going constantly.

Updating my weeks!

@Bellsx 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 37wks (due 20/08/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 32wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 33wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Knotemma 32wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 31wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 31wks (26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 32 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@avocuddles 31wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Sunflower1608 28wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣ GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 31wks (due 30/09/20)⁣ BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 30wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 29wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 30wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣ SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 26wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 22wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 22wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 22wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 17 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby 15 weeks (due 24/01/21)

Hi everyone - @tmc14 I'm sorry I was a little confused by the thread - has everything been given the all clear yet? Sorry you're going through this :(

I called the midwife today really upset because I can't feel any movement (as in I still haven't really felt movement, except a funny stretching sensation from time to time - never a kick that I've been sure about). She basically said I'm still early anyway even without an anterior placenta and not to worry. But she did offer me to go in and have a listen to the heartbeat. I needed to clean the house first as we had 2 people viewing today so I did that and then I felt another big stretching/pushing feeling which I can only assume was baby. I had another one an hour or so after. So I didn't go in - didn't want to waste their time. I am supposed to be having a 28 week scan and that would be the next time I see someone. Still haven't had that appointment come through yet though.

What a horrible time, just waiting and waiting and wondering if everything is ok. So I seem to only be feeling movement about every few days and its a weird sensation, not something I can be 100% sure of. Best I can describe its like a churning/pushing/stretching thats quite definite and lasts about 20 seconds or less. The sensation is closest to bowel discomfort - but then again I am terrible at describing stuff! I hate having to describe sensations in my body at the best of times so this is a nightmare for me! I think I can only feel baby's movement when he is low down which might explain it.

Sorry for all of you suffering insomnia. Since the first trimester I've been only going to the loo once a night if that. I know that will change when I get bigger. But I do get every other night where I wake up at 2am, 4am, 5am and can't go back to sleep. I usually just get straight up, go into the living room, read the news and have some food, and then after a couple of hours I'm tired out and can go back to sleep. It doesn't work if I have something to do first thing in the morning sadly as there isn't time to go back to bed! Not looking forward to going back to work which I guess is you guys main problem!

When do I have to hand in a MATB1 form?

I'm back next week and will have to explain to them that I am entitled to my maternity holiday even if I don't choose to return to work. Whether they give it to me before my mat leave is I guess their discretion. However if they don't I will have very little holiday to use and I don't really want to be going into work with an hours drive each way when I might pop any minute!

xxx

@Hagster @Hoping2020 @AnxiousLady1*@Whiffle77 @MOGMOGMOG85* Thanks all. It probably was confusing to read, I was a bit babbling!

Scan and appointment all went fine, although they picked up (missed at 20 week scan) that I have placenta praevia... So my next scan has been brought forward to 34 weeks and we'll see what happens then. If it's still too low I'll be booked in for a section at 37 weeks... So a bit of a curve ball! Was really happy that placenta is actually working better than at 20 weeks, and that growth seems good. As for the birth, what needs to happen will happen. Hoping to avoid a section but if that's what's needed to keep us safe, then obviously that's great that they spotted it. She's still not moving as much today, but they were happy with everything so she's just having a bit of quiet time. She's also moved to transverse, so maybe that's why I'm not feeling as much.

@bananamuffin99 Really hope they are supportive of your choice. From my experience of me and friends, it's just something you know is right for you, whichever way your head leads you. I'm terrified of a section, even after a traumatic first vaginal birth, I can't explain it at all, it just really scares me. Even though I've never heard of someone having a bad elective section. For many others it's the other way around. And all of those feelings and valid and should be listened to.

@MOGMOGMOG85 Sorry it's stressful for you. I had exactly the same, really didn't feel strong movements until about 24 weeks. Very stressful. Sounds like you're definitely feeling things, but it's so worrying, especially when it feels late to be getting those patterns. Also when you have so much other stuff going on! I hope work realise their responsibilities and stop messing you around. Do go in and hear the heartbeat if you think it would help. I can't help on the MAT1B, I'm self employed, so need to do mine asap, (I"m quite late but didn't get it until late) and also need to pay my NI to make sure it's up to date first. Job for this week!

@bananamuffin99 I didn't have a scan at 28 weeks, but also remember that the weight is normalised for you. So, my son was always measuring 'big', but was told actually for me, he was 65th centile, as I'm not that short or slight. So if the Dr is saying it's ok, it's maybe because for you, she's doing fine, and isn't too low on the chart? I Hope that makes sense. I feel really tired today!

@MOGMOGMOG85 You hand in your MatB1 form no later than 15 weeks before your due date. So I handed mine in days before I hit the 25 week mark. On the movement I think we all can relate to that stress. I'm 26 weeks now and have only really started to pay attention to it more over the last few days. Everything says you only track patterns by 28 weeks and it will obviously vary from person to person, whether it's their first pregnancy, where placenta is, where baby is. Most of my initial movements were all low and to the left. I get some now that feel more central. But at scan last week baby was in breach position so it makes sense I guess!

@tmc14 Glad all went okay today. I know someone on another thread mentioned going in 3 times for reduced movement with their first. Turned out her girl was just overly chilled and is the same since birth. Loves sleeping!!

@AnxiousLady1 I would love that to happen! My son basically had a dance party from about 25 weeks to birth... and still doesn’t need much sleep and is constantly on the go. If this one can be nice and chilled I’d appreciate the change of pace 🤣

Glad all ok @tmc14 and a chilled baby after birth sounds perfect!! 😂 I guess we have days of more or less movement so it makes sense that sometimes they will too. The hospital would always rather you go in than not, its just hard to remember that when you are anxious about everything and think you might be being daft!
@MOGMOGMOG85 I was going to say check your mat leave policy but then I remembered how crap your boss is, but it should be 15 weeks before due date like @AnxiousLady1 says. So im a little early as it needs to be before 25 weeks, but glad to have got it in! Im also finishing just after 36 weeks, found it hard to know when to choose given I may have a section at 39 weeks but also might go natural! No point planning too much though as they will come how and when they are ready!