Thread 2 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

[AliasGrape]

Hi everyone.
I noticed our thread was about to fill up, so thought I’d start a new one quick. Hope that’s not too presumptuous of me and have to say thank you to @Sheera1 for starting the thread.

As the title says it’s a discussion thread for any pregnant women who are classed as that bit older for a mum to be.

Copying our list over so we can keep up. If you would like to join please copy and paste the list, adding your own details in date order.

Really hope I’m doing this right! 🙈

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. Due July DC5
@fool11 45, due July, DC2
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1
@stairgates Age 43 Due 5/08/20 DC12
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC (darling child)?
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 19/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Shroppy 38 Due 31/12/20 DC1
@Kiffers 42, due 01.01.21 - first child
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Dia1212 40. Due 21/01/21 DC1
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38. Due 26/01/21
@Louscarlet 39 due 30/01/21 DC1
@Celibacydidntwork 46 Due 31/1/21 DC3

Thanks only reading ...bit scary. I thought the worst as it wasnt a bloody show, it was like an implantation bleed. Weird. I'm shattered cos my head now can't switch off !

@Realladymarmalade you poor thing, glad everything is ok. X

@Realladymarmalade did the hospital give you any reason it may have happened?

No explanation ...just one of these things...boy getting ready
Baby is well engaged but cervix closed. Not a placental abruption.

I did laugh when they asked about sex as my partner is not here atm..and I can't think of anything worse 🤣🤣🤣.

@Realladymarmalade 🤞🏼 not long now then!!! 🤣 re the sex...Tbf it did set of labour with my second...night before his due date and he was born 8:45am on his due date! Had a sweep with my 3rd and had him 3 days later. Sex was far too much effort! 😳🤣

Congratulations @pregnantporcupine (or should that be not so pregnant porcupine now!!! ) Fantastic news and lovely to hear you are besotted. Such a precious and beautiful time

Glad all is ok @realladymarmalade! Things like that are so scary. You've not got too long to go now though so hang in there!!

Hope everyone else is good and the new babies are all thriving! 20 weeks scan for me last week, all seems well and another little girl! I was so convinced it was a boy but shows you what I know!! excited to finally start buying some bits and pieces and it's starting to feel real now x

Glad to hear you are ok @Realladymarmalade.

Hope your little one settled last night @AliasGrape. I had him sleeping next to me just in his west and covered with muslin. He likes his arms out so we don’t swaddle..he keeps turning himself on his side and try to move close to me, holding my hand and checking if I’m close, he is so sweet. We stayed indoors all day today, way too hot outside. Just wish I could sit in a pool all day..

It’s not easy @Ethellsmum, isn’t it? I’m so tired from it, but we had some good news today, took him for a check up and he gained more weight so is now officially 1% above his birth weight, so we got discharged. So last 7daya ‘feeding nightmare’ was really worth doing, I’m really pleased, but shattered. Physically and emotionally. Hormones all over he place and having terrible night sweats..
And need to spend some time with my daughter, had no time to do anything with her..I’m hoping he is going to drink more so I can drop the expressing and just do bf and top ups with formula if needed. Just have no energy to do it all.

What are you guys doing with regards Covid and visits-from friends, family etc..especially if you have kids which go to school, having play dates etc..so exposed to other kids . We have been shielding for the past 5months, I haven’t been even in supermarket, just been at home and our daughter too..she will go to school in sep so will meet other kids and she is really missing her friends so thinking I should maybe arrange some play dates for her now that the baby is here..so if she meets other kids, and will be exposed to other kids/people, should I /would you allow visitors to see the baby and let them hold the baby? I’m confused with the whole Covid thing and not sure what to do. He won’t have his immunisation jabs till he is 2m old.

@Countingblessings hooray for a healthy scan and a little girl! How many do you have?

@fool11 we've been super strict too and am on my now considering outdoor play dates. We've been to a park when there are other children so I can't see how a play date is any different. I say that but I find it hard to actually just go for it and arrange anything.

If your eldest is going to school in September what's the difference to hanging out with friends now?

I think if I had a newborn now I'd do outdoor meet ups but leave the actual cuddles to a small select group like grandparents or whoever.

It's too hot to see anyone anyway. When my middle one was born it was that boiling summer of 2018. We'd go for early morning walks or evening walks but other than that we stayed in for six months as it was too hot to go anywhere or see anyone.

Hi to all the new mums. Ethellsmum I saw your post and meant to respond. I think I will feel the same that even if its dc3 I am clueless in a sense. It's been over 6 years since I had a been born..

Generally alias pregnantporcupine and fool also you are doing great whatever feeding choices you make. It's very hard with other kids to feed on demand as you are meant to initially and Express continuously.

I have woken today with diarrhoea. Maybe another pre labour sign..who knows . dufferedup we are close - how are you ?

Re covid and social distancing. I have done two outdoor lunches. Had hair and nails done..but now very little..all shopping is online..
my kids are back at school next week. Petrified. They have had playdates and one sleepover with a family who are v bubbled. (This all legal here). The schools going back and expecting within weeks is awful timing anxiety wise.

For fun ..
Working on my birthing playlist

• indie : champagne supernova

• ambient /trance: massive attack teardrop, loads of orbital, theme from Harry's game/clannad/chicanery

• pop /upbeat : roar Katy Perry , Under pressure , Heroes

• hypnobirthing tracks

Anyone got any suggestions?

@Realladymarmalade although I practised hypnobirthing breathing in birth my playlist is mostly Chic, Fleetwood Mac and Super Furry Animals. Music I love and definitely no dolphin sounds or waves crashing.

Hey, no signs of anything happening here. Booked in for a sweep on 18th and have started bouncing on a gym ball!

footprints you've just reminded me I love Sara by Fleetwood Mac and several others ! Duly added :).
Did you find music helped? Never used it with my others and I don't know why.

duffered when is your EDD ?.
My sweep is on the 24th.

Ahh that’s so sweet @fool11 Our little one slept really well last night actually - she likes to mix it up I think! She wouldn’t settle till about 1 - not in cot, not on me, nor her dad.
But at 1 she went down and actually slept till 4. I’m sure she would have slept longer actually except we woke her up to feed as we’ve been told not to let her go more than 3 hours.

I reached out to a few mum friends -they all have older kids now - just saying how low I’m feeling about the feeding and got such lovely supportive messages back I cried for about 2 hours at them and then felt loads better.

@Realladymarmalade does sound like things are moving! Exciting. My playlist had some Finley Quaye (is that how you spell it - mind blank!), lots of David Gray as we’re both huge fans, Morcheeba, Portishead. Then on a different note some Eva Cassidy.
Can’t remember the rest! Oh I had that song at thousand years’ too, not my thing usually but heard it when heavily pregnant and the words about waiting for you and ‘all along I believed I would find you’ just made
me think about this much longed for little baby! We also had the Vitamin String Quartet version of Can’t Help Falling In Love With You which I walked down the aisle to and we had that on repeat during the section itself.
Can’t tell you how much it helped me!

Also @fool1 we’re in an area with extra lockdown restrictions so that’s made our decision for us. In laws and my sister have looked at her through the window and that’s it. It’s really sad actually although I’ve not exactly felt up to visitors so in a way a blessing? Feels so wrong though.

Realladymarmalade -same as yours, 29th. I told them I was miserable so they offered a sweep a week earlier than normal. In theory I can have one at 28 & 29 weeks then induction will be on 29th if needed.

Doh! 38 & 39 weeks obvs.

Duffered mine were adamant no sweep until 39 weeks. But if I moan enough ! Yeah I thought we were EDD twins but couldn't remember- just curious how you blagged that early.
I'm getting induced on 29th if I'm still waiting

alias great playlist choices.

Glad you could reach out to friends. I've only got a handful who have recent baby experience so I will be doing the same..

You can always offload on here. Sometimes I find it easier when I don't know anyone !

Today I just cant get the name Roman out of my head. It's a two horse race now between that and Zachary.

@Realladymarmalade I really did find it helped. In the early stages of induction we just had Radio 6 on then when the pain ramped you I had gas and air and my playlist on and I thought I was at a festival, up dancing on the spot (all plugged into monitors). Then that joy didn't last but half an hour later I'd given birth.
So yes I'd definitely say it helped.

@Realladymarmalade thank you - it does help being able to talk here. I have friends with kids at uni and a few with kids about 4 and up, so not many babies around but at least they have experience. One friend I thought I’d drifted from recently but she’s been the most amazing support since the birth messaging every day - she had a similar experience with her eldest in terms of EMCS and then not able to breastfeed so she’s a good one to remind me that by the time you get to the stage she’s at you can barely even remember how you fed in the first weeks and it certainly doesn’t feel important anymore!

Midwife came today and dd has got back to her birth weight back plus a few ounces, and she agreed also that she was a much better colour too. So that’s really good news. And we can let her sleep now she doesn’t have to be woken every 3 hours - we’ll see if she does actually go that long again but I don’t feel so ‘against the clock’ which is nice. We’re not discharged yet though, but that’s more for me and the fact I keep crying and cried over midwife about feeding. So I think she’s keeping an eye.

aliasgrape bless you. You did what you could re the feeding. I have a very healthy happy six year old girl who is the product of bottle feeding. Please be kind to yourself. I just think breast is best is absolute bollocks for some women. There are are many advantages to FF babies. You and your husband can share the responsibility. It's not the birth or feeding dream you hoped for this much wanted baby but just give it time to process. Glad the mw is keeping you on too. You are amazing in producing this wee human and keeping her going through your exhaustion too , so hold yourself kindly! xxx

Hi all. Man I can't keep up at the mo. Been on hols so not really been online.

Thank you for the reassurance on the age comments. It did get me down for 5 mins.
Today I was talking about a scary film we watched last night called Host. It is really good and really scary if you like horror films btw. My dad came out with "I don't think you should be watching films like that just now". Eh? Am I 80 and pregnant? My last check up a couple of weeks ago my BP was textbook. Sheesh.

Congrats on the girl news @Countingblessings. I still don't know and wish I had found out now as it actually makes getting things in quite hard. I still think girl and will be so shocked if it is a boy. 😂

Back to work tomorrow which sucks but I have 14 weeks till they will give me a section unless things progress more quickly. I might be off before that so thinking just 12 weeks then I am outta there. Have no motivation.

Covid wise I went out for 3 meals on hols. 2 there was no-one else there for two. 3rd it was busy but tables 2m apart. I will prob isolate from 28 weeks. Happy my sonnis not at school as ours go back here on Wed. Also teacher pals I think I need to keep away from. Worries me a bit we are back to 33 kids and a couple of adults in one room. My niece and nephew are both back so do feel quite exposed mixing with them.

Just popping in to say our little man arrived last Tuesday, a nice quick delivery which was lucky, still waiting to finalise a name :) Congratulations all the new arrivals! Hopefully there will be more soon for everyone!