Thread 2 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

[AliasGrape]

Hi everyone.
I noticed our thread was about to fill up, so thought I’d start a new one quick. Hope that’s not too presumptuous of me and have to say thank you to @Sheera1 for starting the thread.

As the title says it’s a discussion thread for any pregnant women who are classed as that bit older for a mum to be.

Copying our list over so we can keep up. If you would like to join please copy and paste the list, adding your own details in date order.

Really hope I’m doing this right! 🙈

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. Due July DC5
@fool11 45, due July, DC2
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1
@stairgates Age 43 Due 5/08/20 DC12
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC (darling child)?
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 19/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Shroppy 38 Due 31/12/20 DC1
@Kiffers 42, due 01.01.21 - first child
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Dia1212 40. Due 21/01/21 DC1
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38. Due 26/01/21
@Louscarlet 39 due 30/01/21 DC1
@Celibacydidntwork 46 Due 31/1/21 DC3

Morning! Only been awake for nearly 3 hours! 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️ I can get to sleep fine but wake up really early. Pretty much every other day. Makes for a very long day!

@onlyreadingneverposting8 sorry if this is the most obvious thing in the world, but do you have really good blackout blinds? I had blackout roller blinds but the light was getting round the sides and I was waking really really early but have recently bought some "magic blackout blinds" that stick to the glass with static, and can now sleep till 7.30-8 which is AMAZING. Sorry if that is a stupid suggestion!

@fool11@Ethellsmum - lovely to hear from you both! Congratulations again

Great to hear from the new mums.
I'm trying to rest but know nothing prepared you for that exhaustion eek. My kids are on hol with their daddy and I have slept , ate , watched telly and read (Janet godleys biog, hypnobirthing book ) these last two days plus some cleaning. The house is silent and its bliss !

I will never, ever miss being pregnant, I loathe it !

Pregnant and alias I am keeping a:watchful /nosey eye ! Id be very pissed off re mw refusing a sweep.

Happy to act as admin for a Facebook group as it works better and is more secure /private. Not sure how to do it but can give it a try , may need another admin.

Morning all!

Need a wee pep talk today I'm afraid. 19 wks and really struggling to feel any movement?! I could definitely feel my DD by this point. Bump feels really low down. Google keeps telling me it's normal and should get better over the next couple of weeks but I'm convincing myself something has gone wrong. Did any of you struggle to feel movement at this stage? I would call for a scan but suspect they will tell me its too early and send me on my way

@realladymarmalade a silent house sounds blissful! And lovely to hear from the new mums. The overwhelming newborn bubble is so special

@Countingblessings I feel a bit the same and I'm only 16 weeks I feel movement sometimes but I think I'm wanting it all the time to reassure myself, I have my gender scan later this evening and I stress every scan that they'll say somethings the matter I think it's just built into us to worry, although I never felt any worry like this with my other two 😞 I called this morning about my combined test results also as it's been 3 weeks and she said oh well no news is good news and I said but I still want to know she said we can't tell you over the phone you'll have to wait till your next midwife app which is 4 weeks away it's my results yet it's like pulling teeth trying to get anything. Try not to worry it's easier said than done I also feel very low bum and noticed yesterday what looks like lovely varicose veins coming out at the top of my groin I think it's the pressure down there 😞

Oh @clarkel1 I feel your pain. I sailed through my first pg but since having a MMC I'm convinced this is all going to go wrong. My 20 week is next week and I want it to come quicker but scared to go too! If I dont feel something soon I think I will phone. It's so stressful

That's awful about your results. Why cant they tell you over the phone? I was told results would be 7-10 days and I phoned after 7 days and they told me over the phone because I told them I was really stressed about it all. It's amazing how the quality of care differs depending on where you are / who you get. I do think though that if there had been something found they would have told you by now so fingers crossed you get good news soon x

@Countingblessings I'm sure everything will be fine - could you give your midwife a ring and get her to listen in for you? Or even a private scan to give some reassurance? I had a private anomaly scan (with DH) as I couldn't face going to my NHS not knowing the score and having to go alone.

@Clarkel1 good luck! Are you going to tell us???!!

@PregnantPorcupine can you give me more details about the black out blinds please, like where you got them.

@Countingblessings it is very early for some to feel movements. Can you ring and speak to your midwife? When's your 20 week scan?

@Clarkel1 sorry but your midwife is talking utter bollocks and I would ring again. I've had my results over the phone and of course they ring just a day or two later after the test if they have bad news to tell you. Which they obviously don't have in your case. Also during covid people have been having all
Sorts of over the phone consultations about very sensitive to issues. It sounds like she's making it up as she goes along.

@footprintsintheslow these are the ones. You have to keep the windows closed to get the absolute full blackout, so a bit of a pain when it's hot, but still the best solution to light mornings that I've found..

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0030C1CUC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_rgXhFbPV237A4?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Ditto the bollocks @clarke1 they are your results. I just called the midwife daycare room and a random midwife looked them up. How irritating for you.

@Countingblessings
I am back to really chronic headaches again. On holiday so not work or screen stress. I wake up in the middle of the night with them and they just come from nowhere during the day. I am drinking loads. My blood pressure was textbook last week so can't be a pre-eclampsia thing. Maybe this is just what my pregnancy will be like?

@Sheera1 I had a number of headaches last week - they'd come on out of nowhere (went away with paracetamol) none over the weekend or today though!

@PregnantPorcupine going to look into blackout blinds for our new house! Not much point in doing anything in this one with us moving in a few weeks! I've been a life long bad sleeper - I just find the day long and a bit boring when I wake up so early! We are basically in full lockdown as our eldest son is back on steroids for his colitis and has been told to shield until he's on a lower dose by his consultant.

@Countingblessings I wrote a whole bit to you and it seems the tag deleted it grrr. Was saying I am with you on the worry. I think after mmc we are all going to worry throughout. I am 23 weeks and now worrying I am not feeling as much or as strong movements as I was a few days ago. It is all quite stressful. It is not long till your scan but will also feel a lifetime away. You could have an anterior placental which blocks movements or just good strong muscles. Try and distract your self. It is a long time from 12 to 20 week scan. Xxx

Hi everyone yeah I agree nonsense it's my results I have the right to know. I'll call again tommorrow, so on a brighter note we are having a boy and omg it was as clear as day 🙈 I am still in shock as I was totally convinced it was a girl. I couldn't believe how much baby was moving and I couldn't feel a thing so it put me at ease a bit that just as I'm not feeling it doesn't mean it isn't ... it was a lovely scan and the staff were amazing checked over everything as well.

I've had a terrible headache last two days also, so I've got the doctors calling me on wed see what they say over the phone. I never get headaches so this is a real bummer, also booked an eye test for tommorrow just incase I need glasses as my eyes feel so strained , hope everyone doing ok xx

Oh that's lovely @Clarke1

@Countingblessings it is a crazy long time from 12 - 20 weeks with no reassurance. I didn't feel anything till well after 20 weeks so it's definitely not unusual.

Morning ladies, hope you are all well.
Congratulations @Clarkel1, that’s wonderful. I think it’s a year of ‘boys’..5 women pregnant in our office, and 4expecting a boy..

I didn’t feel any movements with my first till about w22, this pregnancy I started to feel around w15, with anterior placenta..just shows every pregnancy is different..feeling the movements is reassuring but then I was stressing when I didn’t feel any for longer period of time/half a day etc..I had 10 scans with this baby (high risk pregnancy)) which in a weird way was nice as had scans every 2-4w (and I had some private ones so my husband could be there too) so seeing him was reassuring ..

A bit of random question for you all who have already kids..what did u do with the fallen out first tooth ? Looks like my 5y old first tooth is gonna come out, she is very excited about the tooth fairy (did u just do the coin?) and did you keep the tooth or bin it? I have no idea what I should be doing...

Lovely about the scan @Clarkel1

@Countingblessings I’m literally about to give birth and still worry about the movements. I just always expected there to be more/ more constant. DH has barely felt any to be honest, I’d always imagined it to be more of a non stop thing! And even when I’ve had lots of movement, 10 minutes later when things are quiet I start thinking ‘oh shot when did I actually last feel movement? Am I sure I really felt it 10 minutes ago? Am I remembering that wrong’? I don’t think it ever stops!

Thanks for the reassurance on induction @fool11

Well we go in at 10 today! I was worried I wouldn’t sleep last night but it had been a really busy day with one thing and another and I had a long bath, face mask, listened to relaxing music and some meditation things etc and did actually manage a reasonable few hours (with a few wee breaks). Was still awake at 5 but that’s standard now.

Kind of wish I’d taken the 8am slot as I’m just twiddling my thumbs a bit now. Feeling fairly calm though. Just looking forward to getting on with it really.

@AliasGrape are you actually going in to be induced today? How exciting and scary and wonderful.

I had a wonderful induction with my daughter. I took in my crochet and it helped to pass the time. Good luck today and keep us all posted.

Good luck @AliasGrape - looking forward to hearing from you later! Xxx

Good luck @AliasGrape....very exciting and prob scary at the same time..just think you will have your little one in your arms soon x

Good luck @AliasGrape! Xx

Oooh exciting @AliasGrape. I am sure all will go well and new baby later today or tomorrow.

@fool11 I kept the teeth as think I read some article that may be nonsense about harvesting something from their teeth in case of a bone disease or something (can't really remember what it was lol), so I kept them. Under the pillow in foil and replaced with a coin. Think we do £2. It might have been £5 for the 1st one as someone at school got £5! 😡😂

@clarke1 Congrats on the scan and having a boy! So lovely. I think boys are nice and easy but prob as I only have a boy and girls are a bit of a mystery to me 😊.

I think I need to call my GP about my headaches. Midwives were not interested. They are so bad. Seem to be worse when I stand up. They start at the back of my head at base of my skull/neck and then unless I take paracetamol or co-codamol if paracetamol doing nothing, it spreads up my head and into the back of my eyes. Comes out of nowhere and is really very sore. I have no idea what is causing it. I did think work tension but am on holiday now at a beach house and could not be more relaxed. I was wondering if it was the pillows here hurting my neck? Hope you get some answers and let me know what they say please. I wondered about an eye test but my eyesight is pretty good.

Thanks all.

Possible change of plans! Got to antenatal ward. Midwife looking after me was lovely.
She couldn’t see why I’d been told I had to have an in-patient induction, when I said it was my age she said ‘well yeah but you’re only just on the threshold’ and when I said the consultant had told me the growth looked like it was slowing a little she said that she couldn’t see any major concerns with the chart, so I think I was right in that it was just something the doctor told me to add weight to the induction argument.
(Why are they so keen?) Anyway she spoke to a few people and they agreed I could try an outpatient type induction first - so pessary and then go home for 24 hours.
She really took my concerns seriously and listened to me talking about what happened to my mum and why I was anxious and keen to keep things more relaxed if possible.
Ironically the ward was so nice and quiet and the staff on all so lovely I’d probably have been happy to stay in after all, but we’ve decided to take the option of pessary (or is it called a propess? ) and go home till tomorrow. They’ve done a trace/ monitoring and that’s all fine.

I’m just waiting for a scan and an examination to double check everything is ok to do that. If so then at least I’ll get another night in my own bed! If not then back to plan A I guess. I feel fairly relaxed either way right now.

@AliasGrape hope it works for you! Personally think you're incredibly patient! By 38 weeks I'm done with being pregnant and want that baby out! 🤣

@onlyreadingneverposting8 D’you know I feel fairly ok - definitely niggles, the heartburn has been hard to take at times, and hip/pelvic pain that has made me a bit miserable, but overall I haven’t felt so terrible that I’ve been desperate for it to be over, which is how I expected to feel. I know that makes me very lucky.

Hospitals make me really anxious, obviously there’s what happened to my real mum but I also lost my adored adopted mum a few years ago and the end was that traumatic that I ended up being treated for ptsd and unable to go near a hospital/ even the gp or even see anything vaguely medical related for a year. I sound very dramatic! I’m not really and I’ve come such a long way (had to if we were going to get fertility treatment) but to me any less time in hospital and anything we can do to make things less ‘hospital like’ is a win.

Although ironically the midwives on the ward were so lovely and the ward so quiet and chilled feeling I’m sure I’d have been fine staying!

Home now - we only live 5 mins from hospital anyway. Had the thingy inserted so will see if it does anything. Might end up no further forward but worth a try. Back in tomorrow lunchtime.