Thread 2 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

[AliasGrape]

Hi everyone.
I noticed our thread was about to fill up, so thought I’d start a new one quick. Hope that’s not too presumptuous of me and have to say thank you to @Sheera1 for starting the thread.

As the title says it’s a discussion thread for any pregnant women who are classed as that bit older for a mum to be.

Copying our list over so we can keep up. If you would like to join please copy and paste the list, adding your own details in date order.

Really hope I’m doing this right! 🙈

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. Due July DC5
@fool11 45, due July, DC2
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1
@stairgates Age 43 Due 5/08/20 DC12
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC (darling child)?
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 19/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Shroppy 38 Due 31/12/20 DC1
@Kiffers 42, due 01.01.21 - first child
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Dia1212 40. Due 21/01/21 DC1
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38. Due 26/01/21
@Louscarlet 39 due 30/01/21 DC1
@Celibacydidntwork 46 Due 31/1/21 DC3

@Frazzlerock
I totally agree about my due in January group. They have no idea of the realities for many women and rarely read the thread now.
@Celibacydidntwork I understand how you are feeling and I don't know about you but everyday I felt a new emotion. Lots of anger and even some bitterness now. I hope this passes as soon as it can.

I'm so angry about how women are treated right now but I've made a small donation to Tommy's to try and make myself feel better. I've been pregnant for 9 and half months out of the last 12 months and I'm exhausted, no further knowing if I'll get to the end of this one and have another 25 weeks to go.

@Celibacydidntwork I'm on some very very supportive and informative threads about loss which I find helpful. Not sure if you've found any. It's amazing really as no matter what you are going through there's always someone on mumsnet who has been through the same thing. I find that reassuring

Morning all

@Realladymarmalade - it was also my last day at work yesterday 🥂 so closed my laptop and then stayed awake much of the night with a generalised feeling of anxiety because there must be SOMETHING that I haven't handed over properly.. I'm taking the full year, although won't be able to switch of completely as I have a professional exam in November (rescheduled as it was originally due to go ahead on what turned out to be the first day of lockdown - doh). Feels pretty weird.

I've also been wondering about @AliasGrape ? And would love to hear from fool11 and ethelsmum too

Celibacy - please don't be put off from posting here. We want to support you if we can and are old enough to realise that things don't always fit into neat little boxes xx

Nothing doing here guys! It’s all gone quiet again.

I saw the midwife on Tuesday. It’s been a bit of a farce really, last time I was at hospital the consultant (registrar I think actually) said to book a sweep for 38 weeks with community midwife. Called to book appointment and mentioned sweep and was told they wouldn’t do it before 40 weeks. Called hospital back, got passed around a bit and was told eventually the CMW WOULD do it as it’s in the notes I just need to insist at my appointment. So appointment comes and the midwife wouldn’t do it regardless of the notes and/or me insisting and told me to phone the hospital again as they have to do it. Hospital then said they wouldn’t do it either and just to wait for the induction now. So that was a fun waste of everyone’s time.

Anyway all ok apart from that. Midwife said head was engaged but not ‘deeply engaged’ whatever that means. I’ve been bouncing on my ball like a loon and eating dates and pineapple and drinking rasberry leaf tea and am EVEN contemplating having sex with my husband of all things. Although I might save
that as the nuclear option No offence to him but I’ve never been less interested in my life. I’m doing all those things but not really taking them too seriously as I’m pretty sure it’s unlikely I’ll go before the induction date now so am just trying to keep positive about going in.

My hips and lower back are getting really achey right now.

@Realladymarmalade and @PregnantPorcupine happy first day of maternity leave! Must feel strange though in the current circumstances. I had my last furlough pay (such as it was - £40 a week) last week, so I guess I’m officially on mat leave now too, not that it’s any different to the last 4 months for me. DH finishes today, he’s got a week of annual leave then 2 weeks paternity. We keep talking about how good it will be for him to have a ‘break’ because he’s been so stressed and working crazy hours non stop, then we remember there’s going to be a newborn in the mix so not really a break!

@Celibacydidntwork It’s no wonder you’re feeling down and anxious. I want to suggest phoning the EPU back and telling them how much it’s affecting you and kicking up a bit of a fuss, but then I appreciate that might be the last thing you feel you have strength for right now. I’m really sorry if me taking you off the list was hurtful, I just didn’t want to tag you/ draw your attention to the thread in case you were wanting to avoid it. It definitely wasn’t me wanting to avoid doom and gloom or ignore you, I’m sorry if it was insensitive xx

@Celibacydidntwork I ditto the comments on her. This is your space too. As someone said above our pregnancies don't fit in neat wee uneasy boxes and that includes loss on our thread too. It is not taboo and I think most of us here have gone through similar things and we understand. Please keep posting. We know you now. Xxx
I think they are using covid 19 as an excuse for shitty service. How on earth does a few hundred people currently ill with covid affect maternity services across the full country to the point options are removed? Piece of nonsense.

I think we hit a wee period there with no news as scans etc all done for now hence the quiet there.

Happy Mat leave @aliasgrape @@pregnantporcupine and @Realladymarmalade. I am so excited we have more new babies about to be announced on our thread. I can see my name getting closer to the top! Hope you are all keeping well and not too uncomfy.

It will be a surreal feeling switching off laptop for a long time and I totally get the anxiety over having missed something. I finish for 2 weeks tonight and feel that way.

I plan to take a year off if I can afford it. I am also starting home education for ds (10) so need the time to adjust to new baby and that. Eeek. Timing is pretty good though really! I think I will have to go back part time. I am working from home and the office have said I won't be back in. I did work a fee days anyway from home and could manage home education around some home days but not with a babba too. Looking forward to taking DS lots of places and active learning. Scary though too. Initially we will just relax after school issues and find out feet.

@frazzlerock that is a fab deal on your changing table! I bet it is gorgeous too.

I have curbed my marketplace bargain obsession for now! My friend dropped off a bag of baby toys like lamaze early baby stuff which is amazing. If it is a girl we are sorted for clothes as she has boxes in her garage waiting for me if it is!

I have shortened my baby names and DP actually agrees. Time to change our minds but the frontrunners are for a girl, Emi (shamelessly pinched from @frazzlerock list hope that is ok?) or Katelyn and if a boy Adyn or Alexander. Emi and Adyn are my faves.

Glad I am not the only one starting to feel huuuuge. I didn't feel like this with DS at all. When the doorbell rings it takes me ages to get up lol. I think after my sneeze and turning over in bed too fast I am very conscious of round ligaments but also my balance is just off.

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Typo! Easy boxes not uneasy boxes, but actually uneasy boxes is probably more accurate.😁

Evening all!

Oh @pregnantPorcupine and @Realladymarmalade it must all feel so real now that you've finished up!! Fingers crossed you get some 'me time' before the little ones arrive. Same to you @AliasGrape. Anyone else nearly due? Would love to hear how @fool11 and @Ethellsmum are getting on.

19 weeks for me now. My scanxiety is going through the roof for my 20 week appointment. Just dont feel sure if I feel movement or enough movement. Previous loss just taints every step! Had my consultant appointment. Was all geared up thanks to the pointers from you ladies. It lasted a total of 4 minutes. Quick canter through the pros and cons (but mainly the cons) of c section and sent on my way until 34 weeks. What was the point?!

@Celibacydidntwork how are you doing today? please dont ever think you've brought doom and gloom here. I have had an early miscarriage too and found sharing my feelings on another forum (not mumsnet) so incredibly cathartic. Just let it all out, we hear you! I'm gutted about how you are being treated. I really dont understand why medical support in these circumstances is not being offered. It's such a traumatic and difficult thing to go through physically and emotionally. Why it's not a priority I'll never know. If you feel strong enough you should try push for support and /or intervention. Dont suffer in silence xx

I've started a new crochet project. I actually went to a wool shop having not been out shopping since March!

This is for my friend who is having a boy in October.
(Single crochet, ribbed).

Hope everyone is as relaxed and comfortable as is possible.

Like the colours @footprintsintheslow! I'm doing 3 things currently! 2 blankets and started a little cardigan yesterday that I've nearly finished - decided to leave it short sleeved. Had to order buttons though so can't finish it totally until they arrive.

Hi everyone can I just ask how long the NT results take it's been 3 weeks all the measurements etc looked fine at scan but I know it needs the combined test results will I only hear back if there was high risk? X

@Clarkel1 I didn't have the test myself but my understanding is that high risk results are returned ASAP so that decisions on further testing can be made. That said I would have thought you'd have had your results by now. Probably worth giving the hospital a call on Monday and seeing what they say.

Hi @Clarkel1 after two weeks I rang for a midwife phone appointment. That took another week and when she rang I was told over the phone that all was well. So I knew after 3 weeks.
My letter still hasn't arrived and it's a month ago now.
She said if it was a high risk I would be been called sooner. So you should be getting positive news I'd say but maybe ring to find out b

Hi everyone, hope you are all well, must admit had no time to read the thread..the little one took over our lives..he is wonderful and so cute ,I’m bias 😊) but it is hard work, especially if you already have kids at the age they still need/want your attention. I’m very tired, get about 2h of sleep a day..sleep deprivation is brutal..feel bad as been shouting at my 5y old just coz tired and he’s been crying most of the day..Otherwise we r good...
If you guys planning BF, harvesting colostrum in advance really helped..especially on d3, before I got milk..
Tried many maternity pads, boots ones are the best, right size and nice and soft.
Hope you are all well..have to go..it just doesn’t stop..

Thanks ladies, one other question (sorry) I have pain in my pubic bone area like either side and it's sore to touch the bone, has anyone had this? I'm only 16 weeks so don't think it's too heavy even though my belly is quite big x

Haven't had that sort of pain myself
@Clarkel1 although everything down there is pretty bruised feeling for me as I have varicose veins in the area 🙄😳 but I suspect in your case it's the ligaments that are softening and things being a bit more unstable- possibly the start of SPD? May be worth contacting your midwife to see what she thinks as you can get referred to a physio if it is SPD.

@onlyreadingneverposting8 thank you, yeah I was thinking maybe call them on Monday, as my neice had it in pregnancy and hers started about 16 weeks also x

Just popping in ... baby is 8 days old today. She is adorable and I’m totally besotted with her.
Life is chaotic. I’m feeling guilty that the other kids are not getting enough attention and I’m irritable and emotional but I’m reminding myself it won’t be like this forever.
I’m so sad that pregnancy is over with too - which is ridiculous when I have my baby in my arms. These hormones have a lot to answer for!

Aww lovely to hear from the new mummies. Glad all is going wee for you both and great tips on the maternity pads. Ones I had last time were awful.

@clarke1 I think you are Scotland? They told me 4 weeks for NT tests. I phoned after 4 and they had my results. I am now 23 weeks and never received the letter. 🙄. If I hadn't called I would still be wondering. That pain sounds awful. Haven't had that. Check with midwife for relief too xxx

Hi everyone, new here. I'm 40 and 13 weeks pregnant. I find the mumsnet boards super tricky to keep up with is there a Facebook group at all? Thanks :)

Hi all, so lovely to hear from @fool11 and @Ethellsmum on how you’re getting on. Ethell I’m getting really sad that I’m not going to be pregnant anymore too, even though I can’t wait to actually have my baby here. It’s weird pregnancy hasn’t been the easiest ride, though on balance I think I’ve been pretty lucky, but perhaps because I think this will be the first and last time I’m ever pregnant I just don’t quite want it to be over.

Had a bit of a zombie day yesterday after about 2 hours sleep total the night before. Keep telling myself it’s practice! Better last night though despite lots of back/hip pain.

I’ve been trying to stock the freezer with meals for after the birth. Got fish pie, veggie cottage pie and macaroni cheese so far. Not the biggest freezer so running out of room but going to try and squeeze a chilli in there today.

I keep hoping things are going to start naturally but realistically I know we’ll end up going in Tuesday for the induction. I’m really trying to be positive about it. One way or another I’m having a baby this week which just feels insane!

@AliasGrape, have you tried a sweep? Sorry, maya be you’ve mentioned it in earlier post..it worked for me for both kids. I was really dreading to be induced at 39w, hence asked if I can have a sweep at 38, with my first I had a sweep at 39w. I supposed to have either a ballon or pessary induction, but when I went for a sweep I was already 3.5cm dilated, soft cervix, head down that the midwife said I can’t be induced, ballon would fall out 😬, and for pessary I was to far ahead so I was kind of happy I can’t be induced..if you haven’t tried would it be an option maybe tomorrow? Worth trying, but obviously might not work..if you need to be induced, when they do the check ask about your bishop score..anything above 7 should work for induction, below 5 they say don’t bother to try..I was 7/8 when midwife did a sweep..my friend’s score last week was 3 and ended up with c section..
I used to eat lots of .fresh pineapple for the past month (as it helped my with constipation , sorry TMI) , maybe that helped too to soften cervix, they say pineapple is good ..who knows. This is our last pregnancy (as ivf) and no frosties, I just admit I didn’t enjoy being pregnant so very happy that he is out. He is absolutely gorgeous and I’m so much in love with him. Hope all goes well for you x

@fool11 yeah I had a bit of a nightmare with the sweep - consultant said to have one with community midwife who refused to do one, the hospital kept insisting she would and then by the time I’d had my last appointment with her and she wouldn’t the hospital then said they wouldn’t do it now either as consultant wasn’t available until I go in to be induced anyway.

I was thinking when I go in maybe I’ll ask for a sweep first before anything else.

Interesting about the bishop score, I’ll ask about it. I know baby is head down and midwife said last week that head was about 3/5 engaged.

I’m bouncing on my ball, eating dates (I read a study that said they were meant to ripen cervix!) and drinking rasberry leaf tea. Going to try a long walk today.

Ahh that’s lovely you’re so in love with the new arrival ❤️ Congratulations again xxx

@Sheera1 thanks yeah I'll call them tommorrow, I have my gender scan tommorrow As well, super excited as with all the things going on until 12 weeks I didn't think I'd even get to this. 😀

That’s terrible that midwife didn’t want to do it, I guess different trusts Do things differently, they do it in my hospital, antinatal unit..Shane they were not helpful..

Many woman have I suction and it works well for them, if my sweep didn’t work I would be induced too, to some level, like have waters broken or would have to go on a drip..at the end of the day,you and baby need to be safe, so whatever it takes, and at that point you just want the baby out, and see babies little face, I felt very blessed when they put him in my arms (despite bloody pain I had to get through without any drugs 😬)

Women have induction..sorry autofill..my phone keeps changing words all the time..