Thread 2 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

[AliasGrape]

Hi everyone.
I noticed our thread was about to fill up, so thought I’d start a new one quick. Hope that’s not too presumptuous of me and have to say thank you to @Sheera1 for starting the thread.

As the title says it’s a discussion thread for any pregnant women who are classed as that bit older for a mum to be.

Copying our list over so we can keep up. If you would like to join please copy and paste the list, adding your own details in date order.

Really hope I’m doing this right! 🙈

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. Due July DC5
@fool11 45, due July, DC2
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1
@stairgates Age 43 Due 5/08/20 DC12
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC (darling child)?
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 19/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Shroppy 38 Due 31/12/20 DC1
@Kiffers 42, due 01.01.21 - first child
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Dia1212 40. Due 21/01/21 DC1
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38. Due 26/01/21
@Louscarlet 39 due 30/01/21 DC1
@Celibacydidntwork 46 Due 31/1/21 DC3

Oooh those blues and greens are lush! What is c2c?
I prefer to read instructions and revert to Youtube if there's a stitch I don't understand. I'm doing a polka dot blanket at the mo and love the puff stitches.

I have a very wriggly baby today! getting lots of proper kicks all over the place. I can see my tummy bouncing around, its so weird! Been a long time since I saw that I love the reassurance it gives.

@celibacydidntwork thinking of you today. I hope it all goes smoothly. Its horribly daunting but you can do this. Sending love

@Frazzlerock c2c is corner to corner so you build up the blanket on the diagonal and then decrease to form a square or rectangle. It's a really fast way of crocheting. The yarn is Caron supersoft paints (comes in various colours). As it suggests it's REALLY soft - but it does split easily. I'm making this one cot sized.

I'm generally on the move during the day so don't feel baby much. But she was active this morning! Don't thing I can see the movements yet...dunno whether this is because of chub or because I've got an anterior placenta. Will have a look tonight when I'm in bed as she gets active them usually too. Can't believe we've got this far!!!

@Frazzlerock pic of polka dot needed...I'm a sucker for anything stripy or spotty!

@onlyreadingneverposting8 ahh I will deffo have a look at c2c, great tip for wool too (like I don't have enough already 😂)
This is the beginnings of the new blanket.

Got the pattern from here:
daisyfarmcrafts.com/crochet-polka-dot-lines-baby-blanket/

I can't believe we've got this far either. I always do a double take when I walk past my reflection. I love the feeling in the morning when I go "oh yeah!" It's like a present every morning 😍

@Frazzlerock love it!! Love the colour...I own a lot of teal/turquoise ☺️

I went a bit wrong with the spots, they're supposed to be alternating but I decided I like it like that so carried on! Yeah I figured teal/turquoise is quite unisex so went with it! She uses pink in the pattern which I like too but I had this colour so used that instead

Hi, I went to the epu waited 3.5 hours to be told they don’t recommend medical management at 12 weeks unless bleeding started. Got sent home for expectant mgt with suppositories for pain and appt to call on 4/8 if nothing and a pregnancy test. So fucking pissed off. If nothing within two weeks then medical mgt then surgery last resort. I don’t feel like I’m miscarrying, I packed my kids off for 24 hours to yuck dad so can’t do that again and have all 5 kids inc step kids here from next Tuesday for summer holidays.
Women are being put well and truly last in covid. I’m drinking pimms and thinking positive thoughts that this was meant to be and will pass ok by itself but at the moment I feel very pregnant and emotional.

Oh @Celibacydidntwork that’s truly shit and I’m angry on your behalf. How can they expect you to just wait around for 2 weeks.
Is there anyone else you can speak to? It
seems so bloody cruel to mess you around like this. Good on you for hitting the pimms,
I really hope this horrible part is over for you soon and you can begin to process and grieve in whatever way you need xx

I'm so sorry Celibacy - that is awful treatment.

@Celibacydidntwork really sorry to hear how you've been treated. If there are sound medical reasons why you shouldn't have medical now then that's one thing but to keep you waiting for that length of time to tell you is not forgivable. Xxx

Oh @Celibacydidntwork it just gets worse. I am so sorry you're being fobbed off like this, as if it wasn't hard enough already. Why can't they juts book you in for surgical now? If they might have to do it anyway? I'm so angry and upset on your behalf. What an absolute kick in the balls

They’ve said no women are being offered surgical now not until natural mgt after two weeks (from today) has failed and then two rounds of medical mgt has failed, then surgical only in emergencies

That's really shitty Celibacy, I'm so sorry. Women's health, and mental health, is really being failed right now . I hope your partner (and work if they know?) is supportive and you can find ways to distract yourself.. Sorry that you have to deal with all the dcs and sdcs.. Not what you need I'm sure. If there's any way you can find to look after yourself, be that pimms or distracting day trips or anything else, then do it xx

Thx @PregnantPorcupine I’m def feeling very low today, anxious and shaking. I hope things happen soon, worried I’m getting a bit low and depressed.

It is perfectly normal to feel low and depressed @Celibacydidntwork after such an awful experience. You're grieving. I think I'd be worried if you weren't low and depressed. Are you sleeping? If not, ask your GP for some sleeping pills to get you through. Maybe even see if you can get on the counselling list if you can, just to give you an outlet. I saw several therapists over the 4 years, some better than others but it was helpful in some way or other.
Otherwise, feel free to shout and scream in here. I ended up taking up boxing which I found a really good release especially when i was triggered, which was constantly of course.

@Celibacydidntwork I think that if you are feeling anxious and depressed you should contact the epu again. Your mental health is important and if waiting for the 2 weeks they're asking you to is simply a thing that's been brought in due to covid you have a very good argument (significant mental distress) for requesting that you be treated sooner. Another option you could consider is a different hospital. They do not and are not all running the same system. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I waited it out with my first mmc (moving house during the waiting period 🙄). I don't know how many weeks I actually was when they found the baby as that was the reason for my scan! But the baby measured 9 weeks. It was 2 ish weeks until I started light bleeding and then I miscarried ~ 2 weeks after that. The difference was that I wanted to wait it out that time...with my second mmc I just wanted to get it over with and started the medical management the day I was scanned. Sending you love xx

How was your experience with the medical management @onlyreadingneverposting8? My friend is a dr at another hospital and says he will prescribe mistropol but I have to travel there and it’s three hours away

@Celibacydidntwork my medical management was fine. I had an oral tablet on the Saturday (this made me very nauseous) and then pessaries on the Monday afternoon. I bled heavily in the evening and had period like cramps. Bleeding stopped overnight and was scanned the next morning. I hadn't passed the sac at that point and was told I would be sent home and brought back 48 hrs later for more pessaries if I hadn't passed the sac but before I was sent home the sac came out painlessly.

Quiet day on here. Hope everyone is well.

Had my midwife appointment ytday and all is well.

About to finish up for 2 weeks off work tomorrow and can't wait.

I am almost 23 weeks and feel massive. Way bigger this time than with DS. Have to roll to get up out of bed. 4 more months. Eeek. I am going to need a forklift or crane!

I’m sure @Sheera1 it’s because everyone feels bad to post after my doom and gloomy and they’re all hoping I fuck off to another thread of doom so everyone can get on with baby stuff

Sorry to be a doom and gloom on all your news go ahead and post about how wonderful you all are. Jabuary 21 thread actually ignored my take me off the list all together - human nature is a bitch isn’t it - everyone out for themselves

@Celibacydidntwork been thinking of you!
@Sheera1 excellent news re midwife. I feel big too....and already have to ask the other half to help me up 🙄😳.

@Celibacydidntwork please don't worry about that here. I think the majority of us have been exactly where you are, several times. So we know what it's like. Perhaps the people on the other thread have no idea. So many people think it won't happen to them, like they're invincible or something. That's one of the many reasons I didn't join the 'due in..' antenatal groups. I've ha to leave so many times and no one really gives a shit.
You're doing amazingly and, as far as I'm concerned, you're more than welcome to talk to us.

How are you doing today? How is your DP/DH holding up?

@Sheera1 I feel very similar! Rolling out of bed and huffing and puffing going up our three flights of stairs. I have suddenly got much bigger.

I had my midwife today and had a listen to the heartbeat and baby and I both passed all her tests with flying colours. She said she's more than happy to see me again in 3 weeks instead of 6. I got my MatB1 form too at last so can hand that over to HR which all seems very official!

I've also just committed to buying a second hand Mamas and Papas changing unit/chest of drawers for £40. Pick that up on Sat. No idea where it'll go for now but figured it was a decent purchase

Celibacy . I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Its fucking heartbreaking. I agree that this pandemic had thrown women's maternity and mental health under the bus. I personally don't see this as doom and gloom..its more than that... It's a huge thing to deal with. Many women on this thread have had similar experiences. I don't think anything you said has shut down any conversations at all. Sometimes it just goes quiet. But keep talking to us if it is helping. Have to say this group feels like my kind of people. We are all a bit older and have a different (? Wiser?) And more supportive take in things than other antenatal groups on here.
I think your reaction is entirely normal and I hope you can push as much as you can for the right management and support instead of having to wait. Keep talking to us if it is helping , this is a supportive space x

So....last day of work officially yesterday.😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊🍾🍾🍾🍾🍾
..still some bits to tie up today.

Was the strangest feeling 'finishing up' with nothing but a ceremonial switching up of my desktop . But that me done for a year in my NHS role. I don't plan to take more than 6 weeks off for my private practice (bcos business is business ) .

What are other folks plans for those working out of the home ?

I'm also 35 weeks Saturday. The same day that my partner heads offshore for one last 2-3 week stint. I'm trying to not think about going early but I'm feeling lots of pressure below and for the last week , sickness , feeling like I have diahorrea but I don't.

How are the new mums ? *Fool and the other one ?

How are you Alias ? (Pointed question)