Pregnancy after miscarriage - invaluable support and friendship

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Kasha - I'm so sorry hun {{{hugs}}}

Dondons - sorry to hear of your ebay troubles.

Oh Kasha, no, I'm so sorry, I hope we see you back here really soon. Look after yourself x

Kasha as I said on the other thread..I am so so sorry, I had everything crossed for you. (((hugs)))

(sits down next to Jules and SK ommmmm healthyandwellll ommmmm....)

feel like throwing up again, was sick all day long...going to have a little cry in the tub.

I'll say it again, I am SO SO SO glad that you are all here.

Kasha so sorry x

Jules - you can add talking to yourself to that repertoire as it makes a nice variant on the rocking...am doing it this evening as dh is out and I'm going slowly madder as have another reassurance scan tomorrow...

Kasha
So sorry you had to go through this again x

Kasha I'm so sorry to hear about your mc.

Jules it's such a worrying time but I'm sure you will feel more confident once you get past the 12 week mark.

I'm 13 weeks today and worrying more than before. I feel as if my body has produced another baby that would have a great chance in anybody elses boday but am worried that my body will fail this baby like it did the other 2 I lost. My belly is expanding and I'm feeling wonderful movements and I'm hoping so much this baby at least reaches 28 weeks so it has a good chance of making it. I want this baby so much and so do my girls.

Kasha I am so sorry.

Hope everybody else is doing fine. I had a bad cold and stomach bug, but have recovered now. (Rest can make wonders.) Had a 10-minute MW appointment last week, and everything seemed all right. Bean is very active. It is 25 weeks now though.

In the meantime I got addicted to ebay, hope I will not regret that.

Jules- I know it's hard to relax. 75% is a great success rate!! At what point did you get intervention from the NHS? What is the treatment plan that you are on. I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

I've decided just to let go and let whatever is going to happen happen. I feel like the hormones are waning..got some cramps and light brown discharge and am now working on the buffer in case of mc plan B. Trying to be logical about all this very illogical thing

Hi to everyone! Hope you are all doing ok.

kasha- so very sory to hear your news. Hope you are back heer very soon. Sending you big hugs in the mean time.

justjules keep breathing sweetie.

goingfor3 13 weeks today and know exactly what you mean- worrying more rather than less.

HELLO to everyone else....

Hi Everyone
Welcome Kensgirl, i so understand where you're coming from with all the anxiety, fingers crossed eh?

Kasha, that stinks, i am SO sorry for you. i hope you are recovering well, i can relate to the numbness feeling. put your feet up and take it easy hon.

sweetkitty i have this idea that the need to pee often in pregnancy is actually more to do with knickerwatching paranoia than hormones iyswim!!

justjules know the feeling.....one day at a time! thats the only way i get through each day.

mcchesers my fingers are crossed, i agree with you...what will happen will happen. not long til your scan eh?

Mrsmcjnr how did your scan go today??

hello everyone else!

i have nausea on and off last 3 days, hunger one minute, full to bursting the next and boobs still sore on and off.....lets see how this one goes!

x

also, Kasha, i know this is none of my business so tell me to get lost and it may not be what you want to think about right now, but after i mc the consultant who did my erpc told me that statistically i'd have more chance of a successful pregnancy next time if i waited 3 months before trying. i ignored this advice!! BUT it took 5 months to get pg again anyhow. i searched the net and found very conflicting advice on this. just thought it might be useful to pass on if you've had 2 mcs in 3 months, but as i say tell me to get lost if you don't want to hear this.

scan for me saturday although stared spotting - that will be twice in 3 months here too....
not sure i have the strength

hey charlesandeddie its not over. spotting is really common and doesn't necessarily mean anything. really really try to stay positive, i will do it for you if its too much to manage. your way

thanks mary!
just 'feel' a gnawing - not even pain just a nag ....
not optimistic and the scan is £70

think i might wait the 3 months this time but i am an old hag and tiiiiiime is not on my side!

Oh Charlesandeddie, hoping for the best for you!
Marymalone - that is good advice, though I agree there is so much conflicting advice about!

its so difficult. but i think you should be focusing on being positive and not the what ifs and what you might do "next time" its just a negative drain on your energy reserves. what happens, happens, doesn't matter what you think so you may as well be positive cos it feels nicer! now off for a relaxing warm bath, you! (and an imaginary large glass of dry white!)
oh and round here, £70 is a bargain for a viability scan as far as i know! (london prices)

CharlesandEddie I really hope you see a kicking baby on screen on saturday. I've had three episodes of bleeding this pregnancy and baby is still holding on. I was prescribed preogesterone pesseries to keep my uterus relaxed, it may be someething worth looking into, some obstertrions are very for the treatments others say there is no proof but it certainly doesn't do any harm.

Charlesnadeddie, everytime I see your name the song would I lie to you pops into my head!

just popping my head around the door for any news of glimmer and jossie. I've not been around much lately as I've been up in Scotland visiting my mum. She has lung cancer and has gone rapidly downhill recently . I'm home again now, but had to say the hardest goodbye to her yesterday

off to try and catch upo with the thread. I don't post a lot these days (feel EDD+ 24wks is a bit too much of a graduate...more like last years graduates!), but I like to lurk and I always point people in this direction if I come across them elsewhere on the boards

congratulations on all the recent BFPs; this thread is wonderful for keeping you sane and positive.

Hi to everyone else

Hey Daisy!
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I know all too well how difficult it is to be far away from your mum when she's not well. You have my deepest sympathies. It was good that you had a chance to spend time with her.

Mary Thank you for saying that. I read your message to my DH and he said "see that's what I said!". Very good advice

Hi to everyone..

YES Mary - Mccheesers is right - your advice is so sound!
I am trying not to feel blue but its hard. I already have children and am over the magic number so feel no one will take me seriously if i have recurrent m/cs
I have had 2 so far and this would be 3 ( well i think i had one early 20's too acually so that would be 3) this would be 4 ...
i have not gone to doc or anything this pg hence no free scan when bleeding - guess i have not dared to believe it yet.

i hate this feeling a fraud bit

ok mary - taking your advice and taking my cramps off to a lovely lavender bath!
take care everyone!

Daisy so about your Mum. It is so hard to be far from your Mum while she is so poorly and cancer is such a devestating illness. I was 1.5 hours from my Mum when she had it and I felt so helpless, I never knew which goodbye would be the last . Is lovely to hear from you though, is there still a success after m/c thread running? Would be nice to 'catch up' with some of the other graduates too!

CandE and McCheesers, it is sooo hard in the early weeks to believe that your LO will be fine. Bleeding and spotting is very common in pregnancy and TBH I have had more bleeding (and heavier) in my successful pgs than I have with my m/cs. I have bled with every pg and managed to have 2 healthy boys and am 35 weeks with DC3 now. Mary's advice is excellent, you need to put all your energies into positive thoughts for the LO you are carrying and concentrate on staying healthy and well!

IKWYM about feeling a fraud too CandE, even when I was feeling absolutely crappy with nausea and exhaustion I still felt a fraud until I started getting a bump and feeling LO move around - you will get there and you should see your Doc too.

hi beckle..."suits you" that big bump

there is a success after MC, but it doesn't move very fast, unlike the frenetic pace on here....everyone too busy with the fruits of their success I suppose, and their postnatal threads.

DD is doing really well though. I'm still BFing and we have recently started weaning...a little early but she is more than ready for it; the face planting in my dinner every night kind of gave me the hint. She is a little wonder; so happy and cheerful, and has to "talk" to everyone no matter where we are.

Another positive thoughts champion here. Uki had a mantra she used to repeat, and I used to tell myself everynight that I would still be pregnant in the morning.

Good Luck to everyone.

Daisy - just want to say sorry to hear about your mum