Pregnancy after miscarriage - invaluable support and friendship

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Healthy and well

That gives me some hope - everyone says you can't feel your first for ages but since you can am going to carry on staring at and poking belly to try and gt a reaction.

Hi all!
Torres, good luck for your scan today! Don't fret about me, am doing okay and trying my best to rest (ha!), 4 more weeks until mat leave and can't wait! Was looking at my 12 blood results and discovered that I was borderline anaemic then, only just within the 'normal' range! Plus one portion of the red blood count was already low at that point. Can't believe they don't check these things, am sure I would not have felt so tired this pg if I had been on iron from 12-14 weeks!
Winky at your good scan and your little boy!
MOM, glad your baby is well, Placenta Praevia must be a worry for you but on the plus side, you will get extra care and reassurance that LO is doing well (and FWIW I am still knicker checking at 32 weeks...I don't think we ever stop).
DonDons, sounds like baby movements to me! When I was having DS1 I was lying in bed one night at about 17 weeks and saw the exact same thing you described, was like being poked by a finger from the inside! My LO also favoured sitting low down for the first part of this pg and all wriggles were right down in my pelvis.
Cece, sorry to hear of your nuchal result but as others have said there is still a very high chance of your baby not having DS. With regards to extra tests it really depends how you feel about the possibility of having a child with DS. I personally would not have any invasive tests as knowing the baby had DS would make no difference to me. Everybody is different though so it really does depend on how you feel about it and how badly you would need to know. Sorry if that doesn't make much sense!
Sweetkitty, congrats ! You'll find some great support on here, I could never have got through the early weeks without the ladies on here!

sweetkitty YES! Am so pleased for yoU!

bouncingturtles Actually, i think your friend has been told a scare story! It is possible that the placenta could come away from the uterus wall but the likelyhood of the placenta coming before baby is rare as usually the placenta comes away after baby has been born, thats why you get contractions afterwards! The otehr risk is cord prolapse where the cord come before baby and gets squashed before the baby is born.
My situation at mo means that baby has nowhere to go if he wants to come out. The risk of a bleed casued by tightenings or contractions is HUGE and could be life threatening. I need to keep my iron up in case i will need a trasnfusion and i have now been discounted from a homebirth.

Am getting more information from the midwife this afternoon but i think i will need to book a section

Bouncing ? its funny when you hold a little one and know you?ll be having one soon isn?t it?

Ahhh Sweetkitty so lovely to see you here, welcome and congratulations repeat the mantra of healthy and well and we?ll take great care of you

EllieG LOL they had better see a difference!

Hey DonDons sorry to here that you are feeling rubbish today but glad to hear you are taking it easy. Sounds like baby to me hon I only realised when the movements became stronger at about 20 weeks that I had actually been feeling those movements but just lighter for weeks and weeks

Beckle ? like the new name very annoying that they have left your iron levels this long

MOM ? hello chin up hon x

Does it feel like funny stuff in your pelvis? Mine feels sort of a bit achey but not quite.

Is that a Q for me Ellie? If so - not an ache no - just like a little 'pop'

There are lots of descriptions I?ve heard, here are some: the squirmies, like fish swimming, like bubbles bursting, like groans, like when you go over a bump in the road

Hello everyone and especially welcome to Sweetkitty!

Janus how are you? Great to hear you had such a good result. Are you still going to have a cervical suture or am I confusing you with someone else?

I'm 10 weeks today, it's great to be in double figures!

Oh cool this is what i was looking for.
I just got a BFP this morning (4 weeks) and already freaking out about the cramps. I'm sure everything is still a bit sore from last months AF from hell and the previous months mc.

Anyone tell me that it's normal to be a bit sore below the bellybutton?

healthy and well

Goingfor3 ? 10 weeks fab!

Welcome Mcchesers and congratulations ? lots of support to be had here I got a BFP the second cycle after my MC too ? I think the cramps are stretching and re-aligning, I remember pains below my belly button too, I guess that?s where it all starts happening and I guess our bodies must get a bit confused given the timeframes hope they settle down and keep repeating that mantra

MOM, sorry the scan wasn't entirely good news. I had this with one of mine though and things sorted themselves out but mine wasn't entirely covering the cervix, just low. Maybe yours will 'move' somehow too, good luck.

Winky, a little boy, how fantastic!

MrsMc, I can see how the worry won't be over until baby is here. Are they going to let you go full term and try natural delivery or does it have to be a c-section?

Torres, how did your scan go today?

Welcome Sweekitty, don't worry, we've all been where you are and everyone is excellent here at keeping you going, good luck.

Goingfor3, it feels so good when you hit double figures doesn't it?! Glad you are feeling better. Had a meeting with the consultant yesterday to discuss stitch. They then decided I would need a scan to check the cervix (er, yeh, good idea!!) but couldn't do one then. Have to go back again next week. If at all possible then they will go along the careful scanning route, which I think I prefer. Just all depends on the scan next week, how much cervix I have left! Bit annoyed they didn't think to book the scan for my visit yesterday but apparently things should be OK until 15 weeks so I have nearly 2 weeks to play with.

Hello to everyone else.

quick update, spoke to mw and she said from what they said on scan report its not likely to move and the fact they are scanning me at 32 weeks rather than 36 is cause for concern as they usually scan at 36 for placenta issues. Looking at a section at 39 weeks at the latest

MOM, sorry about that. When does that mean you will meet your baby now? One week earlier, if that's any consolation! At least you have time now to organise help, etc, for after the birth. My first was a c-section, second vbac, pros and cons for each, main pro for c-section was no bloody stitches 'down there' so could sit comfortably!! I found that made a huge difference with breastfeeding, being able to sit comfortably. Do you have a busy house to organise, eg do you have a school run and can you walk? Hope you look after yourself.

if there are no complications baby will be delivered at 39 weeks at the latest. The risks are less for me if i have a section, i will know the day baby will be here so can plan for the DS's. I do have school run to do and don't drive so the first few weeks will be hard. Thank god for tesco online! I also have a lovely chilminder friend who i am sure i can call in an emergancy to pick up DS1 from school (DS2 still at home)

i don't have issues with sections as such (in case i am coming across that way) i am disappointed i can't have my home birth and so worried about all the risks either way. The faterwards is concerning me sligtly as ds2 wil be 3 on april 6th and ds1 will be 5 on april 25th so will now have to definatly have their b'days sorted as well as childcare etc

Hi all,

Had 12 week scan yesterday and all was fine- was so relieved I burst into tears. Baby was asleep again and wasn't cooperating with the sonographer (must be a boy!) so without warning, she bashed the probe up and down on my bladder! I nearly wet myself!

It's so odd how the screening tests vary from hospital to hospital. I had to have the blood tests for Downs etc yesterday and then go back in 3 weeks for more blood tests and they combine all of these and the nuchal measurements to come up with a risk factor. They were doing a research pproject to see if it made women more anxious waiting the extra 3 weeks for the results and asked me to do a questionnaire. The problem is I'm such an anxious person anyway I will probably skew the results. One of the questions was 'how uncertain of the pregnancy are you' on a scale of one to ten. I thought they meant how confident was I that my baby was ok, and as this was minutes before my scan and I was terrified, I put 1. then I panicked and thought they meant how certain was I of wanting the baby so I scribbled it out and put 10! So I guess I will come over as very uncertain!!

Anyway baby was enormous so they moved me from 12+2 to 13+2 and brought my EDD a week forward- the plus side of this is that I get my 20 week scan before xams now.

Beckle- am glad mat leave is nearly here for you. It's mad that you were borderline anaemic back at 12 weeks but you weren't treated- how on earth could it get anything other than worse? You sound in good spirits though so I will stop fretting for now!

MOM- sorry it sounds like you won't get the birth you want, I hope you are not too stressed.

Janus- how infuriating that they didn't book your scan there and then. Fingers crossed for the scan and that you don't need a stitch

Goingforthree- wow, 10 weeks

mcchesers, sweetkitty- congrats and welcome, really happy you're here!

Have just had a quick scan through and wanted to say hi to everyone! Dp is home and on a housework mission, which means I have to be as frenetic as him! But that means I can't hang around MN

Anyway, welcome McChesers, congrats and heres to a healthy and well pg for you!

Hi All

Have not been able to post in a while as have had no internet connection but hopefully sorted.

Have been reading through in an attempt to catch up but boy do things move fast.

Congrats to anyone who has joined and to everyone who is having good scans.

And a massive congrats to anyone who may have had their little one while I was gone.

Hope everyone is well.

Morning all

I popped on here when I first found out I was pregnant (I was bloodsuckingLOONEY then) and haven't been on for a while (not sure why, just couldn't keep up with the amount of threads I was on etc!).

Anyway, I'm 7 weeks now (EDD 21st June). Had a scan on Friday after having bit of bleeding for a week or 2 plus loss of all symptoms etc. Some of you posted on my threads where I was worried I'd lost the baby etc - thanks for the support So, I had my scan on Friday, baby measured what it should and had a little heartbeat so I should be feeling ok. Why do I still worry? Now I keep worrying because they didn't do an examination and check my cervix was closed. Maybe they didn't need to as the scan showed all was ok? The pain and bleeding has gone so I really shouldn't worry should I!

Any idea's to stop the worry? My MC was before ds and so I hated my pregnancy with him and don't want it to be the same this time!!

Hi Looney

Just wanted to say congrtas on the scan. It is hard to relax. I keep thinking I will relax more after 12 weeks and the scan. Can you try anything to try and distract yourself, or help you relax. I know from June thread you have a lot on. Could you maybe just try to find 15 minutes even before bed, have a nice bath or something like that. Just something that will help you chill out with all you have going on. That might help you stop worrying as much.

All of which is easier said I know. Just take each day at a time as a postive that all is ok.

Welcome and congrats McCheesers! Here's to a boring pg for you.
Torres, glad your scan went well! Great news that they have put you ahead by a week too! I am in good spirits actually, I am still in disbelief that I am pg and so so grateful. It is difficult to feel down when you know that fairly soon you will (hopefully) be snuggling your new baby!
Looney, congrats on the scan, glad you saw your LO and heartbeat! I don't think there is a way to stop worrying when you are pg after m/c, I am still worrying at 32 weeks! The best advice I have is to come and unload on here when you are feeling down, I had some very low times in the early weeks and the ladies on here really helped to reassure me, pick me up and help me through it.

Hey all - congrats on positive scans torres, looneytune and feedmenow. Looney - try not to worry any more than you have to, (easier said than done I know) the first weeks are HORRIBLE, but you have had a scan and seen the LO is OK so it bodes well so far. Lots of love to you and mcchesers - with an extra big fat congratulations to McChesers for the BFP!

helloooo

just wanted to pop back and say hi and pass on my best wishes to everyone

My little lad is 4 weeks now - on the one hand that seems crazy and its all gone very quick, whereas it also seems like he's always been here. Tho I'm still in shock and awe that I managed to have him

Anyway - am very eager for you all to get to this point. Lots and lots of love x

Hey EJB, glad to hear you and ds are well!
Torres, Looney - great news about the scans! It is perfectly natural to still be worried, jsut keep telling yourselves "Healthy and Well!".
McCheesey - welcome aboard
I'm 33 weeks today!!

Hey gang, thanks for the welcome. It's nice to be free to discuss what a basket case I've been. Actually I'm much more chilled this time round then the last. Just trying to keep busy and eat nice things seems to be the trick.

What's with the constant face stuffing? I've only had bloating, gas, cramps and the nipple bumps as symptoms but it's very early days yet. I reckon we conceived on the 16/17th.

My DH was meant to be out of town that week, but managed to drop his passport and lost it before he tried to check in. Talk about fate!

I've just got to make it through to Christmas and I'll feel heaps better. It brings a wee tear to the eye to see all these familiar "faces" going and growing strong.

Torres and Looney- that's great about your scans!!