Pregnancy after miscarriage - invaluable support and friendship

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Healthy and well

Oh Mich, so sorry you are having to leave us
Do you want to talk about it? Plenty of understanding, strong shoulders in here if you need them......

Mich

any news from floss?

Mich very sorry to hear this - not checked in for a while, not sure why, just very busy.

No bleeding now for 11 days so now just waiting for 12 week scan on 30th of this month.

Also now prepared to come out as my 'real' self - cece

x

Meant to say hope everyone is well... it is difficult to catch up if you miss a few days!

Oh Mich Thinking of you.
Ellie & MrsM, thanks for you kind words. Had a horrendous day, didn't finish until 6.30. Think I might be ringing in sick on Monday....
Will take your advice and not think about work!
Have a good weekend everyone!

Thinking of you Mich

Feeling slightly less insane this morning. Just mad now that the medical profession won't do any testing until I reach the magic number of 3 m/c's. Do they really think I wan't to go through this again? Being an insufferable loon every month till it happens and then being scared every time I have to go pee when it does, just in case this time i'm bleeding.

It's so frustrating and I feel like a 5 yr old.

Hamabeads - Good luck on your 12 week scan, I hope it's good ews all the way.

Hamabeads - Evidently that was "news" and nothing to do with the local sheep population!

Mich - will they really do nothing at all? How long have you been TTC? My GP did a load of tests for us at the surgery (bloods and ahem sperm etc) after only 1 mc. When these were all normal he referred us to the specialist - we had been TTC since the MC for about 6 months by then but he realised we'd have to wait another 4 months to see the specialist. Might be worth a try....

Hi Everyone

Sorry I havent been on in ages. ds has been poorly which I then caught and have felt truly shocking. Was convinced the amount of coughing i was doing would damage something and cause bleeding. Irrational I know .

Have read through and done my best to catch up, hope I dont miss anyone.

NH101 - Wow Wow Wow two little beans thats fabulous congrats congrats.

Congrats to everyone on their positive Scans.

Massive Congrats ejb1976 - fabulous news on birth of Joel Emerys.

Ronshar and Mich10 - Really sorry to hear your news, fingers crossed you will be back soon.

Jobean & DonDon - Hope scans went well.

Flosspot and Goingfor3 - Sorry you have been going through a rough time - How are you doing?

Think thats everyone hope you are all ok.

Evening all - Toby is sleeping peacefully and DH is (not) peacefully watching the rugby, so I finally have a chance to look in on you all!

Firstly, CECE!!!! Congratulations!!!!Do you remember me? We mc together early last year! Not the best way to meet, though!. So you finally managed to persuade DH did you?!! Been thinking about you over the last year - so pleased for you and keeping everything crossed that your 12 week scan goes well. As you might have gathered, after another mc around last Christmas, I conceived almost immediately afterwards and baby Toby was born 4 weeks ago - still can't believe after all the worry and stress of being pg after mc, he is sleeping peacefully in his moses basket next to me. Proof again, that there can be joy after the horror of mc

So sorry to hear bad news from Mich and ronshar - hopefully you'll be as lucky as I was after my 2nd mc and conceive very quickly again, assuming you are mentally up for that. Big hugs to you both!!!

Goingfor3 - sorry to hear you've had some bleeding - so hope everything is ok.

Glimmer - can't believe you've only got 4 weeks left - where has the time gone??! In some ways these past 18 months have seemed an age, but now I've had little Toby and you are so nearly there, it is amazing how quickly it seems with hindsight (not so when those first 12-14 weeks drag by at the time!!).

Anyway, big hugs and baby-head sniffs to you all - please keep positive - "Healthy And Well!!"
xxx

Hey Fettle! Glad to hear from you and Toby
Went to wedding reception last night, lots of fun, bride was looking exceptionally beautiful (no bridezilla here!) and her groom looking handsome and proud. They are old dear friends from Uni or mine and DH, and I know they will be very happy I felt a bit guilty because I (or rather Turtle) was getting lots of attention from our uni friends - of which there was quite a crowd! A few of them are coming for a visit in December, I'm hosting a Xmas buffet - 2 weeks before I am due, but the rest of them I won't see until the new year, so glad to get to see them all!

DonDons - We've been TTC for 15 months, this being our 2nd m/c. They were adamant last time that there had to be 3 before they would start investigating but I have made a doctors appointment for next Friday in the hope that by then I'm ready to do battle.

Thanks for the info

Good luck Mich - I probably should have added that we had been TTC for 11 months before 1st MC, so about 15 months altogether before any tests. Hope you can get somewhere - will be thinking of you on Friday xx

Hello all- thanks for thinking of me. Thought I'd update you.....

NHS direct told me to go to A&E so I had to abandon the dog and get a neighbour to take me (they told me not to drive). She was absolutely brilliant- I don't think she stopped talking for two hours....

Anyway after 5 hours in A&E having bloods and seeing lots of SHOs (none of whom were impressed that I had had no monitoring given past history...) they admitted me as a suspected ectopic. Very scary night on the ward- not at all the kind of place that induces sleep...I had a canula and surgical stockings fitted in case they had to rush me to surgery, nil by mouth and a drip...all very Holby City. Anyway finally got a scan at the EPDU on Friday morning....one teeny weeny baby with one teeny weeny heartbeat. I am going back on Friday for another scan. Delighted, relieved, excited, and exhausted.

Flosspot that's fantastic news! Am so pleased for you. Now remember 'healthy and well...'

xxxxx

Ah Floss, you must be so relieved! Thank goodness!
Now, as Dondons said you must recite "healthy & well, healthy & well...." over and over whenever you start to feel even a tiny bit panicky, and sometimes when you are just feeling OK anyway, for a bit of extra reassurance!

So, who made it to the Baby Show? I went on Friday with DP and my mum (weren't you meant to be going too Floss?> Bought a few bits and pieces, tried lots of pushchairs, made a decision and then my mum announced that her and dad were buying it for us! What a lovely surprise! I kinda thought she might buy some little bits for us, but certainly did not expect this!

Flosspot thats fantastic news really pleased for you.

Good morning everyone!

Flosspot - that is very good news, you must be so relieved

Feedmenow - one of the ladies in my AN club went, she was unimpressed by the nursery chairs apparently! She said she got a few freebies but it sounds as if there was a lot of overpriced tat!

Went swimming again yesterday! Oh and I've bought a Tommee Tippee microwave steriliser from Asda - £12, and it includes 3 "Closer to nature" bottles and cleaning brushes. Absolute bargain. There is a matching breast pump, but I'm going to wait and see if I can get b/f established before buying one.

So, so pleased for you floss, that's brilliant x

Sorry to hear your sad news mich, am thinking of you

Hey ladies

Ejt ? lovely to hear from you hon glad all is going well.

Oh Mich10 ? I am so sorry, I really am I hope it?s not long until we see you again. I would recommend reading Lesley Regan?s book Miscarriage if you haven?t already. It is quite technical but it helped me to pinpoint why I miscarried and I got tested for a blood clotting disorder as a result and am now being treated in this pregnancy. I was lucky, it became obvious to me from the signs in the book that that was what was wrong but at the very least, it will arm you with some avenues to pursue. I found it much easier to persuade my GP to test me for something particular than to ask her to investigate why I miscarried.

Hamabeads/Cece ? thinking of you and all the very best for 30th great news that the bleeding has stopped

Bouncing ? I hope you are at home today; taking it easy sounds like you had great fun at the reception great deal on the steriliser

Evening all - Toby is sleeping peacefully and DH is (not) peacefully watching the rugby, so I finally have a chance to look in on you all!

Hey Fettle

Hello Flosspot poor you what a lot of drama but how wonderful I am so pleased for you

Feedmenow ? sounds like you had a lovely time I am having to repeat the mantra too, baby is a bit quiet and I am getting very nervous about my 28 week scan on Thursday ? healthy and well, healthy and well???

Mich Hope you'll soon rejoin us.

Flosspot Glad, you got some good news.

I am at home with a cold. Not really dangerous, but LO deserves some rest. He is so wriggly, but very very gentle. I love him to bits.

I have to go. My DH banned me from this computer, because he caught me checking a weblink to willywigwam website from my AN thread. It is supposed to prevent accident when changing nappies on baby boys, and I almost p*ed myself laughing.

MrsMcSpooky - Thank you for the advice on the book, I think I might pop out and buy it, if I can get through the check out without crying again. At work trying to appear normal feeling very blue and alone. DH has alreaday moved on and is talking about not dwelling, looking forward, trying again etc. I know he thinks it helps but really I just want to "lamp" him.

Men do sometimes have a crap reaction to MC - even the nicest of them - mine said some unbelieably stupid things after ours, and we talked through them, but even though he is lovely I just don't think he got how I was feeling in the way people on here did. Yours probably means well, he's just being a bit obtuse.
There's no right way to react - take some time to grieve and try not to expect too much of yourself or give yourself a hard time.

fantastic news flosspot