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I lost the thread! Felt so alone....

oh Ellie welcome home!

Hey Ellie - glad you found us today!
Ronshar - how are you holding up? Sorry that your GP aren't being more helpful. I would continue to push for a scan date in a couple of weeks, now is too early, but it sounds as though they are very reluctant.
Is there any pain? If there is no pain that is a very good sign. Try to hang in there, we are all sending you positive vibes.

Had horrendously busy day yesterday, nearly started crying at my desk but maanaged to calm myself down, everything went horribly wrong but I think it is all sorted now....

Found you!

MumOfMonsters has no internet again Just updating you

Spugs - That is all great information, thank you. Not being from the area I am literally clueless. However I believe I live pretty much in the middle of the triangle those 3 hospitals make, so on the back of your information I'm going to do some research and see if I can just go for the one who will give me the best service.

MrsMcSpooky - I was in the open plan office yesterday so ultra cautious, working from home today though so no doubt my work ethic will develop some holes! 30weeks!are you not beside yourself with excitement yet? I'm hoping that by that stage I won't be aprehensive 24/7.

Ladies I'm really not coping very well. I'm in such a panic that things are going to go wrong. I keep waking during the night, if I can sleep, wondering if I'm still pregnant. I'm so fearful that hings will go wrong and there is just as much chance that they will as they won't. I'm so irritable and grumpy which is due to hormones and stress. I'm not usually a stressed person and know that stress it's self is bad for the baby.

Poor Goingfor3. I know exactly what you are going through. It's such a terrible state to be in and time just crawls.
Now firstly, do not worry about the stress for the baby. I did worry about this but a healthy baby will life through this and most likely doesn't even notice it. It is still very small and mostly supported by the yolk and not the placenta, i.e., it doesn't get your stress hormones through the umbilical cord. (This is what I told myself, I am not a doctor).

Is there anything you can do to take some time out? Maybe go to the swimming pool or for a massage or aromatheraphy. I had some accupuncture that was very helpful. Try and get some treat, even if you do not feel like it. I can't remember how old your other children are. Maybe you DH could look after them and you could meet some friends?

Can you distcrat yourself? I watched a lot of TV series in the first weeks, which allowed me to 'escape' my reality for a while.

Finally, come here and post freqently -- sharing is one of the few things that helps a little.

Thinking of you

Goingfor3 - I know how you feel, my husband is threatening to make me sleep in the spare room if I spend one more night tossing and turning.

I have no fabulous advice other than hang in there. I try to calm myself by quoting statistics, reading the success stories on this site and believing that sometimes we deserve good things to happen. (though believe me, non of us deserve the bad)

Goingfor3 -- I think your anxieties are also heighted because of the uncertainty of what happened in your last pregnancy. In my case this was certainly the case. It could be good to try and talk over medically what has happened with the Measles and the stitch. Why do they think the stitch did cause problems in the end?

Glimmer with the stitch there is always a risk it could go wrong due tothe nature of it's placement. With my previous pregnancies I relaxed once I had the stitch put in but with this one I am going to be scaned frequently until 34 weeks so I'm not going to be able to relax until the very end of the pregnancy. I have to say I feel like having a big temper tantrum and shouting it's not fair!

Goingfor3 -- yes, unfortunately you are absolutely right: life is not fair!

hi all, I was wondering if it would be ok if I joined in with you? Am 5+2 after a mc in January this year. I feel incredibly anxious, and don't see how I am going to make it to my first scan (will have to pay for nucahl fold at 12 weeks as only 20 week scan offered on nhs) without going bananas.

obviously that was meant to be nuchal, sorry!

I had a missed m/c last November and had almost given up hope of becoming p/g again.

I am pleased to say I am now 12 + 5 and have my first scan on Thursday.

I had a dopller at 10 weeks and the baby's heartbeat was loud and clear - unlike last year which was when we realised something was wrong.

I am soooooooooo nervous and haven't really been able to enjoy the pregnancy so far as I don't want to get my hopes up. I opted not to have an early scan but now wish I had as the anticipation is killing me. M/c's a re a horrible thing and really make you realise how precious a healthy pregancy really is.

I am also 37 so I am nervous about the scan showing up anything else.

I don't think I will sleep on Wednesday night thank God for Mumsnet - it is helping stay sane x

Oh, good luck for Thursday, but having already heard the heartbeat is fantastic. I can't wait until I can get to that stage, just for the reassurance. Actually, I'm already thinking I muight buy one of those home fetal dopplers, but I'm a bit worried they will be pants, and I'll be obsessive about it.

Any views?

Hey sybil and jobean - welcome to the thread, although sorry you have to be here.
Good sign to hear heartbeat Jo - will have all my fingers crossed for you thurs x
Sybil - I was thinking about getting one of those doplers, but was also worried about it making me worried when couldn't find, so don't think I will yet

goingfor3 - sorry you are feeling anxious hon, it's a horrid feeling x

baby definitly moving, saw stomach go up and down last night when it was kicking and it went off on one again this morning so pleased that all seems to be ok.

hi to all the new comers sorry your here but its offeres brilliant support and i know ive found it really helpful.

mich - theres a site called birth choice which has all the stats for hospitals. think there about the same but obviously as RVI has the fetal medical centre attatched they end up with more c sections etc. one thing to bear in mind is that at sunderland you have your own room the whole time whilst at the rvi and durham your put on a ward.

Hi everyone - I had my first scan yesterday at seven weeks

It's twins!!!!!!!!!!

Good old Clomid

or should that be

OMG nh101!!!! just as your predicted!!

Spugs - Glad to hear your little one is making itself felt. It must be a fabulous feeling.

Thank you for all your info, I will crave the privacy of the private room but LO comes first. I'm going to go and do some research during lunch.

Yes I had an inkling...

She said she couldn't be 100% sure there are no more in there but said she could only see 2 yesterday!

We feel very blessed (and a bit scared!)

NH101 - OMG! Brilliant news - another success for the dreaded wonder drug!

Welcome JoBean and Sybil - we all know how you feel - keep your chins up!

Re the dopplers, I don't have one but understand from various threads that they tend to not be too easy to use until you are about 16 weeks at least - and even then a trained MW can struggle to find a HB - might cause you more (unnecessary)stress than comfort at this early stage...

Well my 12 week scan is on Thursday (I'll be 14+2 by then!) so I hope you are booked in for your scans and you don't have to wait as long as me....although I had an emergency scan at 11 weeks it's still driving me crazy!

Fantastic nh! Am so pleased for you hon x
Now if only popsy would come on here with a bfp that would really complete things from the march mc thread

goingfor 3- are you ok? Really sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Please don't add to your stress by worrying that stress is bad for the baby. I agree with Glimmer on this. What is most important is looking after yourself and your mind- having things planned to look forward to, swimming, walks (ok maybe not today) and like Glimmer, I find acupuncture takes the edge off my panics. I've been watching loads of comedy DvDs in the evenings in an attempt to switch off before bed.

sybil- welcome! I agree, that 12 week milestone seems so far away (still does to me and I'm 9+6). Could you afford a private scan around the 8 week mark to break up the long wait?

Dondons and Jobean- best of luck for your scans on thursday.

I've been wondering about the doppler too but I'm concerned if its not that straightforward to find a hb, I will be send into panic overdrive!

Hi ellie, all well with you? been meaning to ask how the wedding plans are going xx

NH

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY for you girl!!!!

What exciting news!

6 weeks today for me, a mere 34 more to go...