Pregnant after Missed Miscarriage MMC

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Hi, starting this thread -very tentitively- as a graduation from the TTC after MMC group. A couple of us have begun to get BFPs and I would like a space to go though this with people who get why I'm so anxious - especially in the first trimester! Some of the other threads are so big and rather gung ho and I want to tread a bit gently right now!
I am only 4 weeks but have been getting progressively darker tests since 7-8dpo.
I'm becoming more certain this is not a chemical but I am being so cautious! Definitely too scared to work out a EDD yet!

@bubblybon20 a week ahead wow! That's an ace picture I'm so happy for you.

@workingmama good progression there.

I still can't shake this awful feeling that's something's gone wrong. I've got no one to talk to about it coz everyone just tells me to Think positive.

@DanceM1 me too! I've never felt nerves like it, still got a couple of weeks to pass until I feel like I can relax slightly! Hopefully have my nhs in 2/3 weeks 🤞🏻 I wouldn't worry too much about lack of symptoms I've literally had none for about a week 🤣 obviously I have stressed a massive amount tho! 🤣 I've just told my dad, so only my husband and mum and him know at the moment! :) xx

@ew1990 Thankyou! My bladder nearly exploded! 🤣

Also, I felt exactly how you felt the past few days.. I think I had even got into my head about something being wrong. I think it's almost preparing yourself like people have said. But it doesn't always mean anything has happened! Try and stay positive, do you have a scan soon? 💕

@bubblybon20 it's awful isnt it when they press on your bladder and you think your gunna wee!

I have moments when I think it's all going to be ok but then really down moments too. Yeah I have one on Thursday

@Maggi85 I was going to ask the same! My GP has just prescribed me progesterone pessaries which I need to collect from the pharmacy tomorrow once they get them in stock. He didn’t know much about them but said he had read some studies on Miscarriage Association that suggested they might help, although evidence is limited. I’m willing to try anything as long as there’s no harm and he assured me there isn’t so will be starting them this week.

Hi everyone. I've been watching the thread but haven't had the energy to comment. I am feeling dreadful, all day every day. I think I might be suffering from Hyperemesis but without the vomiting. The nausea is another level extreme. Sipping water is a challenge and I can barely eat, zero energy and the smell of anything makes me heave.
I felt like this in my last pregnancy (MMC detected 12 week scan) and it was debilitating. I fear something has gone wrong again and that's why I feel like this, or maybe this is just how my body reacts to pregnancy? I've been so weepy, I can't put myself through this again if it's another failed pregnancy. I just want to feel well again 😭😭

Wow look at that lovely pic! That is so nice to see @bubblybon20 and nearly 10 weeks so that means you will have your dating scan soon and it will deffo be great news.

No symptoms, how lucky. My nausea and heartburn has been ramping up everyday and I vomited for the first time today. It was delayed this pregnancy and I hoped I would get away with it, but knew it was too good to be true. Last time my symptoms completely stopped at 10 weeks and obviously I found out the reason, so hoping this is a good sign and that I'm not suffering for no reason again.

@Sakura54 hopefully see the midwife this Thursday, depending if she cancels again 🤦🏻‍♀️ and yes hoping to get my appointment through this week 🤞🏻 when's yours booked in for again? I don't mind not having symptoms but makes me feel like I need something to reassure me a bit 🤷🏻‍♀️

@bubblybon20 that is a fantastic pic and not long until your dating scan now, hopefully with midwife this week aswell the next couple weeks will pass by quick 🙌🏾

@bubblybon20 amazing scan picture! Huge congratulations!! I'm sooooo jealous you've jumped a week ahead too, haha!

@SmileyT Thankyou, have you got one booked in soon? X

@swishswashswoosh me too! Like a whole weeks gone in the blink of an eye 😂 One week closer to the 3 month mark 🤞🏻 x

@bubblybon20 yeah I actually had a bit of a panic on Friday night so moved my scan forward to today 🙈 they measured me at 7w1 so think we'll have another one before my dating scan as OH can't attend the NHS one 😔 x

@SmileyT wow! That's really clear for 7+1! Hope you're feeling a little more reassured after having it! And yeah I think I'm going to book one for 16 weeks, just so sad partners still can't attend 😓x

@workingmama1 amazing line!
@bubblybon20 that photo is fab! Also amazing to be told you are a week further along - I'm very jealous!
@Alew15 I am very sick now too. I had debilitating sickness with my DD and pretty bad with MMC too. It's not a sign that anything is wrong. Some of us just suffer more from the hormones. I have PCOS and uterine fibroids and I think they make me more prone to the nausea. This morning I spent throwing up and this afternoon eating to reduce the nausea (not really working) it's utterly utterly miserable. I got anti-sickness pills from the docs with my DD so I'm going to call them tomorrow and see if they will prescribe them. Solidarity xxxx

@bubblybon20 yeah I thought it was pretty clear considering how early I am, I definitely feel reassured for today but I'll definitely get nervous again as I get closer to that 12week mark, really hoping things will have changed by September but it's not looking likely x

@smileyt lovely photo. My hospital have just announced that partners can attend 12 and 20 week scan but must wait outside untill you go in and then wait outside again if everything's ok so maybe yours will be soon. What area are you in?

@alew @smilingdonkey so sorry to hear you are suffering with sickness. I Was prescribed cyclazine but haven't needed to use them as sickness stopped the day I got them 😓

@ew1990 thanks ☺️ yeah it seems to be different everywhere, I'm in Enfield, North London... they've only just moved the scanning back to the hospital, MW I spoke to on Friday didn't seem to think they'd be letting partners in anytime soon but who knows. Some places aren't doing reassurance scans at all at EPU, but I guess that makes sense as some areas have just gone back into lockdown 😔

Oh yeah we've just gone back into lockdown. Its rubbish. Was just feeling a bit or normality again as Well. So they might change it for my area yet but will see

@@bubblybon20 and @SmileyT so pleased that scans went well for you today!

@ew1990 where abouts are you? Im Greater Manchester so just back in lockdown too 😪

We've been in all weekend until the results of my daughter covid test came back, she's negative but now me and OH are ill with colds. My temp spiked to 38° so I had to go and get a test today too to be on the safe side. Worries me as I was similar at the beginning of my last pregnancy and that didn't end well. Also found out i was pregnant just before lockdown was announced so it feels like deja vue. Hoping I cam control the temp with paracetamol and it doesnt do any harm.

Ok, I need some advice from you all. I am due to see a very good friend on Wednesday and she has been struggling for years with infertility at a time when all friends are having babies left right and centre. She has equally been unbelievably supportive of me through both MMC and she is godmother to my DD. That sort of wonderful friend you want to protect from ever hurting. I want/need to tell her that I am pregnant (and still nervous about it going wrong) as we always talk about it when we see each other - she is hoping to start IVF and is on the nhs waiting list at the moment so it's obviously a topic at the forefront for both of us.

I was thinking I would phone her before we meet, either the morning of or the day before to tell her. I know she will be upset and I want her to have the space to be upset/hang up and not be face to face feeling like she has to put on a front to be pleased for me when I know it is more likely than not to make her really upset.

I had the opposite when I was struggling after my first mmc, I had confided in a friend who unbeknownst was pregnant and instead of just telling me there and then she announced it when I was at dinner with 6 others. I was so upset that I had to leave, I just felt so betrayed that I had poured my heart out only for her to be so tactless as to put me in the position of me then trying to be pleased for her but then being utterly heartbroken (didn't help she also announced really smugly they hadn't even been trying and she knew I had for over a year at that point 😣). Our friendship has never been quite the same since.

What do you ladies think? This is what I would prefer if it was me but maybe that's not actually the best option and I just haven't thought of something. Any other way to approach it??

@workingmama greater Manchester too. Tameside without giving too much away. If you know it.

Hope you and your other half feel better soon. Glad your daughter is negative. I've had a runny nose but I'm sure I read somewhere its a symptom of early pregnancy.

Yeah I found out I was pregnant at the start of the last lockdown too.

@swishswoshswoosh I'm not sure what I would do. I think I would phone her the day before to let her know

@Poppy10121 I had them with my only successful pregnancy so far... those and baby aspirin. I’ve had 5 pregnancies so far so fingers crossed for us both - they can increase some symptoms so boob tenderness etc so my only concern is that if I do have a MMC I may not be aware as I could still potentially see symptoms..xx

@swishswashswoosh I think your approach sounds just right and very tactful - you are going to give her the time and space to come to terms with it - how thoughtful you are and you are both lucky to have such supportive friends in each other xx I know the smug tactless friend too well unfortunately and it can damage life long friendships I totally agree xx