Pregnant after Missed Miscarriage MMC

[Smilingdonkey]

Hi, starting this thread -very tentitively- as a graduation from the TTC after MMC group. A couple of us have begun to get BFPs and I would like a space to go though this with people who get why I'm so anxious - especially in the first trimester! Some of the other threads are so big and rather gung ho and I want to tread a bit gently right now!
I am only 4 weeks but have been getting progressively darker tests since 7-8dpo.
I'm becoming more certain this is not a chemical but I am being so cautious! Definitely too scared to work out a EDD yet!

I messaged my local window to the womb at the weekend. And they did say they recommend around 8 weeks for the best visibility, but I can't imagine 3 days would make much difference, I don't want an internal, So they do give you the option i think as I mentioned it and they said to just add onto notes when I book online. Just have to make sure your bladder is really full 🙄🤣

Morning all!

Hoping the hospital call me today so I can have a booking appointment date to work towards - I'm all out of milestones (other than the obvious weekly ones) 🤞🏼 If I remember correctly, it didn't take them very long last time so hopefully the same this time around.

@Sakura54 Was thinking the same about the dates, would be nice to see them all in one place (partly due to my aforementioned terrible memory 😂) Mine's currently Mother's Day and I really don't want it to change from that, I like it! Though I think it might change by a few days going off when I think I ovulated.

@DanceM1 I had an early scan at 7 weeks last time, measured 6 weeks and they still managed it abdominally, saw a heartbeat and everything (and I have a tilted uterus so should have been more difficult). The scans through my MMC all ended up internal though as easier to see everything.

How are we all doing today? How're you, @bubblybon20, have the pains gone? xx

@bubblybon20 🤣 I've been weeing so much.. I'm dreading having to cope with a full bladder haha. It will be worth it though if we can see anything. God I'm so nervous!

@SkyBlue20 fingers crossed they get in touch with you this week, then like you say it's something to look towards! This stage is alway such a long winded process, and also the most worrying! 🤦🏻‍♀️
I am feeling a lot better today Thankyou, still have some slight stomach cramps. But nothing as painful as last night 🙈

@DanceM1 haha 😀😀 hopefully this week flies by for you!x

Glad you're feeling somewhat better, @bubblybon20! You're right, this stage is so long-winded. My mum didn't find out she was pregnant with me until she was four months gone, it sounds pretty appealing 😂

Completely off topic, but it's DH's birthday soon and I want to book a night away somewhere, preferably in the Lake District, does anybody have any recommendations of anywhere nice but not too pricey? There are so many options, it's quite overwhelming!

Hi, was wondering if I could join this thread? I’m TTC my first child, had a miscarriage in 2018, an ectopic in 2019 and a chemical earlier this year.

I’m 6+1 now and had a scan at the EGU last week which confirmed the sac is in the womb and not ectopic, which was a huge relief.

I’ve had some spotting and stomach pains over the past 3 days, as well as the loss of some other pregnancy symptoms, am hoping for the best but fearing the worst. I rang the EGU and they said they wouldn’t scan for at least 2-3 weeks from the last scan, so am crossing my fingers until then and has been helpful to read other messages on this thread from those going through similar symptoms/anxieties (although of course I wish none of us were in this position!)

Interested in people’s views on private scans, as I haven’t had one in the past, but thinking about booking one for around 8 weeks.

Welcome @SpiderBrooch, gentle congratulations (I like that @Sakura54), good luck for the next scan, each day is like a month I swear!

@SkyBlue20 for birthday trip, it's might be too much but the Drunken Duck is seriously amazing, loads of nooks and crannies to sit and relax in and the garden is great.

@Noble89 I'm sorry about the molar. It completely floored me, mostly I think when the consultant said it might lead to cancer 😱 but again I think i was lucky with it as by the time the referral to the monitoring unit arrived my HCG has already dropped down to a negative test so they said not to bother starting it. That didn't stop me obsessively POAS checking it was still negative for a few months after just to make sure. Glad you're ok now too!

Also re the private scans, I would always do one if I can, I would rather know something is going wrong (or right!). I would be worrying regardless anyway.... mine is when I am 7 weeks exactly with the consultant I was under. Think he will be a bit annoyed (lightheartedly!) if it is ok because it means I won't be paying him for the round ivf I was about to start!

Welcome @SpiderBrooch, I'm so sorry for your previous losses and so sorry you're not having a great time of it now. I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way and hoping for the best for you - spotting can be quite normal and symptoms come and go so hopefully it's nothing to worry about. xx

@swishswashswoosh Oooh yes, I've heard of the Drunken Duck, shall look in to it, thank you!

I haven't decided about a private scan just yet. I think if I do have one, it won't be until about 10 weeks as baby grew to 9ish last time so want to do it after that, but then part of me thinks if I get to that point, I may as well just wait for the 12 week one. I'll see how I feel closer to the time and also if partners are allowed in to NHS scans by then as if they're not, we may do a private one so DH can be there.

I've spent a lot of my day being annoyed that the hospital haven't rang me yet 🙄 The logical part of my brain knows it'll take a few days as the trust I'm under for the midwife has to send everything to the trust my hospital is under and then I won't be the only person they have to call, but my impatient brain is unreasonable 😂

Hi everyone! I wrote a great long lost earlier and my phone died as I was sending it 😫 so annoying?

@swishswashswoosh and @spiderbrooch welcome! Sounds like you have both has tough journeys getting here. Lovely to have you as park of our group. I am an advocate for private scans. I would much rather know than not. My MMC wasn't found until 14 weeks and the foetus had stopped growing at 6 so I am really paranoid it will happen again. I think I am 7 weeks today and I have a follow up scan at the EPAU tomorrow 🤞🤞 for a heartbeat.

@skyblue54 have you got your appointment yet? I have stayed on Windermere and Coniston before and both were lovely.

Re. Internal / external scans it can also depend on chubb ... My stomach is rather chubby (my DD finished off what was already an imperfect midrift!) and that can mean they need to do internals earlier on I think. Xxxxx

@SkyBlue20 I can understand your frustration, you had it all focused on today' but hopefully they'll be in touch soon!

@Smilingdonkey ohhhh I was hoping to get one without needing internal, but I chubby on my tummy 🤦🏻‍♀️🙈

I feel really flat today, almost sad. I'm so so worried something is going to happen, and generally don't know how I will be if something does. I am so praying this one sticks this time, but the weeks are going fast in reality but so so slow in my mind. It's actually so draining. I'm even contemplating buying a private scan every week from 9 weeks.

I know everyone's in the same situation, but just one of those days where I am just holding onto everything 😢😢

@bubblybon20 i know how you feel. I'm convinced it going to go wrong. But someone said to me this isnt your old pregnancy. It's a brand new one so I'm holding onto that.

I'm feeling a bit better today. Got sent home from work yesterdAy and have a gp appointment tomorrow for some blood tests. I have requested a sick note online but heard nothing back yet.

I think I might ring the midwives on Thursday or Friday. Get the ball rolling a bit. Feeling really sick at the thought of my scan on Thursday. But something's progressed because I had no symptoms at ny first one at 5 weeks. Now awful nausea and sore nipples.

Sorry if I've not replied to some I've not caught up in a couple of days.

Welcome to our newbies. And I'm liking the due date list. Id rather just keep this thread going than joining the march babies thread. Feel like we have nore stuff in common.

@ew1990 Thankyou for that, does make it a bit easier to have that in my mind, the thing is it's so hard not to compare every little thing 🙈 I just need to stay positive!

Hopefully you hear back soon, and get your sick note!
I may ring them tomorrow too, I think that's probably making me worse. The fear of doing it, but then I know il feel better and like @SkyBlue20 said it's something to focus on!

Well I'm supposed to be in tomorrow so I don't know whether to phone in again and hope I get one. But then we self cert for the 1st week anyway. I think my job is making me worse. It Can be really heavy and I don't want people to think I'm not pulling my weight but don't really want to tell them why I'm not doing as much. It's so hard!

@bubblybon20 I'm totally with you on that today... I've been in tears convinced its over. I think its because I booked a scan yesterday and its made it too real. I wish I was in work in a way to distract myself at the moment. Really hope you're OK and completely understand how draining it is.. I feel exhausted today. I think its good to remember what @ew1990 said..it's not the same pregnancy. I'm just so terrified of it happening again but I think I need to try and think more positively. A bit of sickness would really really help right now!!

@spiderBrooch really hope you're doing OK.. how are you feeling now?

@Smilingdonkey SO annoying when you lose a long post! I admire you for coming back and doing it again! Fingers crossed your your scan tomorrow, sure everything will be A-OK 🤞🏼 Is it nice and early so you’re not having to wait all day?

@bubblybon20 So sorry today is a bad day. I know nothing I can say will help so I’m just sending hugs instead. Hope you can have a nice dinner and watch something on TV to help take your mind off everything and before you know it, it’ll be bedtime and tomorrow is a whole new day xx

@ew1990 Glad you’re feeling a bit better and that you’re off work. Hope you get your sick note soon but definitely just self certify until you do. Do whatever you feel you need. Positive vibes for your scan on Thursday, too 🤞🏼

I’m getting really frustrated at myself as haven’t been exercising but I’m just so tired that I can’t get out of bed in the morning and by the time I’ve finished work I just want to nap on the couch. Need to cut myself some slack but also really do need to do something, get out of the house for a walk at least!

@DanceM1 oh I'm sorry you're having a bad day too! Yes maybe the scan has made it feel too real too fast 🤷🏻‍♀️ but it's something exciting to look forwards too for you. Totally agree on the sickness, I wish I was the sort of pregnant women to get sickness, but I'm never sick, just feel it occasionally 😫😂

@SkyBlue20 Thankyou lovely. Going to chill out and watch crap tv. And you're right tomorrow is a new day. 💕

Hi everyone I'm 7 weeks and 4 days with very little symptoms compared to previous pregnancies I'm wondering if the progesterone and aspirin would mask them or even the seven seas trying for a baby ?

@bubblybon20 I know the feeling exactly. I was taking to a friend today and I said that I see this currently as medical thing going on in my body which may or may not develop into a pregnancy at 12 weeks ... I think that's how I need to see it until then.

Not that I'm suggesting that this is healthy or that you should do this at all!

@SkyBlue20 ahh I'm so glad that it's gone quickly for you, I need to stop counting down the days like it's Christmas holidays 😂 I rang my hospital today (after I submitted a form online on the 12th) and they said they don't even book booking appts now, they'll just call between 7 and 9 weeks, so random as last time I received a letter within a week confirming a date, guess it's because of COVID 🤔 but 12week scan booked for the 7th September 🥰

Welcome @swishswashswoosh 👋

@Sakura54 I like the idea of dates once we all feel a tad more comfortable ☺️ I think once I get my private scan done I might start to believe this is going to happen, then I might panic 😂

@DanceM1 I'm with you on wishing for few more symptoms but keep reminding myself I'm early and should be careful what we wish for 😂

@SpiderBrooch hi 👋 I've booked a private scan because I couldn't bare getting to a 12week scan and pregnancy having stopped 6weeks before and me having missed out on a month of ttc. But think for a lot of people they also don't want false hope and feel safer at 12weeks, I'd say do whatever you feel comfortable with x

@bubblybon20 my OH has already said if I get super anxious he'll book me a scan for every week 🙈 I think you have to do what's right for you, it won't change the outcome but if it makes you feel better there is no harm in it x

@ew1990 what do you do for work? Another girl I was speaking to has been signed off until 12weeks because of previous losses so if it's too laborious don't feel bad putting yourself first x

Sorry this turned into a really long post replying to everything from last night 🙈

@skyblue54 I have been exhausted and vomiting today - this is how it was with DD and not MMC so 🤞 it's a good sign. I can't get anything done - I feel your pain! I know exercise would help but I can't actually do it 😫 The food aversions are back tonight too ... Really wanted to a life living on mashed potato and full fat coke for 3 months like I did with my daughter 😭

@bubblybon20 - don't wish the sickness upon yourself! 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Hahahaa @Smilingdonkey listening to everyone on the thread with sickness, I do regret wishing that 🤣 just kind of want some symptoms you know!? 🤣

@smileyT I'm a HCA at a hospital. It's just the heavy bed bound patients that worry me and all the moving and handling. I'll see if I get a sick note first as it did say they would respond in 48 hours and only did it this morning.