Pregnant after Missed Miscarriage MMC

[Smilingdonkey]

Hi, starting this thread -very tentitively- as a graduation from the TTC after MMC group. A couple of us have begun to get BFPs and I would like a space to go though this with people who get why I'm so anxious - especially in the first trimester! Some of the other threads are so big and rather gung ho and I want to tread a bit gently right now!
I am only 4 weeks but have been getting progressively darker tests since 7-8dpo.
I'm becoming more certain this is not a chemical but I am being so cautious! Definitely too scared to work out a EDD yet!

Thank you @bubblybon20 😊😘 bless you. I love this thread because we're all so similar in our thoughts and what we've been through. Definitely helping me pass these difficult few weeks with you all here. ❤

Still can't eat a thing. We had a curry last night and I had... a pappadom and a mouthful of garlic naan. Couldn't even touch the curry. Today ive had toast for breakfast and toast for lunch. 🙈 OH is doing a roast for dinner and the thought Is making me heave.🙈😭 x

Hi Ladies, sorry to jump onto your thread but I'm wondering if I can join you even though I wasn't on your original thread 🙈 I had a MMC in March and got my BFP last week, so I may be a bit behind you ladies as only 4w3days and trying to enjoy the BFP but also so bloody anxious and nervous 😥

Welcome and congratulations @SmileyT - everyone is welcome here! I am only a week or so ahead of you 😊 xxx

Hi @SmileyT I've seen your name on a couple of threads! Congrats on your BFP. I'm sure we can all agree with the extra added anxieties after a MMC & MC! You're not too far behind us all 😀 x

Afternoon all! Hope we’re all doing ok? ☺️

I seem to be quite the opposite of most of you with food, I want anything and everything! That said, took me ages to choose what I wanted for dinner at the supermarket earlier - my new favourite phrase seems to be ‘it’s too tasty’, anything with lots of strong flavours makes me a bit 🤢 Having lots of sweet stuff, carbs and cheese at the mo! I am very early though so expect it’s yet to come.

We’re not sure about an early scan yet. We had one last time at seven weeks as I just wanted to know it was a viable pregnancy and it was good as we saw a heartbeat and by the time my MMC was found, my body had started reabsorbing the baby, so I likely would have thought it were a blighted ovum or that baby hadn’t developed much at all if it weren’t for the early one. However, there’s only so much reassurance it can give. At the moment, I’m leaning towards not getting one but we’ll see how we feel. If we do, it’ll likely be 10 weeks as that’ll be past the point baby stopped last time, so still quite a wait and not too long before the dating scan. Will see how it goes. That said, if the NHS offer one, I’m taking it!

@Smilingdonkey So glad you’ve had an excited moment. The odds are in our favour 🤞🏼

Welcome, @SmileyT! I’m so sorry to hear about your loss but also so happy to hear about your BFP ☺️ Welcome to this rollercoaster journey 😬

I’m five weeks today 🥳 That was my next big milestone and so glad I made it! Next one is six weeks and then I’ll ring the midwife to get started on my appointments. I feel kind of chilled about everything at the moment, that anxiety and worry is always there of course but it kind of feels like it isn’t really happening at the same time. I can’t really explain it 🤷🏻‍♀️ At the moment I’m most worried about a spontaneous MC rather than MMC but know that when that 12 week appt comes, I’ll be terrified. Hope our partners can come in by then!
Told our mums, my BIL and SIL and my best friend, which was nice actually. Everyone was thrilled for us and very understanding of our nerves. Need to tell my dad when I see him then that’s it until we hopefully get a good 12 week scan...though I’d love to be able to hold out until 20weeks (I’m too impatient though so I know I won’t).

How has everybody’s weekend been? Xx

Anyone else really bloated? Feel huge today!! And really faint 🤦🏻‍♀️

By the way, ladies, the M&S food near me (so presumably all of them) has Frizzero, non-alcoholic fizzy wine stuff, on offer at £1 for a small bottle and it’s actually decent, in case you’re looking for options. Just drinking a pink one now! 😋

Congratulations @SmileyT very happy for you lovely. 😊😘

@SkyBlue20 good weekend here thank you. Nice and chilled and enjoyed a nice little walk. I feel so much less nauseous when I'm out and about. I just feel like I'm missing out on food. 🤣 I love food so much and me and OH always cook together but all I want at the minute is plain toast or plain biscuits. I feel bad for OH cooking nice meals and I can't touch them. 🤢
We told everyone last time so told no one this time except my boss! I would love to hold out till 20 week. Then we could tell everyone were having a baby and it's a... boy/ girl ❤

@bubblybon20 yesssss! Ive put a dress on cuz it's boiling here today and I look 6 months pregnant not 2! I'm so so bloated! 😣 X

@bubblybon20 👋 yes I keep myself from checking google by coming on here, crazy to think that before March I hadn't even heard of MN 🤯 definitely feel bloated but probably all the junk I'm eating x

@Smilingdonkey thanks so much for welcoming me, I'm in another grads group from a lovely thread I was on but don't want to fill people that have never experienced a loss with my utter fear - reading through this thread has really made me feel like I'm not completely crazy in my thoughts.

@SkyBlue20 thanks so much, I've booked an early scan for just under 4 weeks time (7w6) but it literally feels a world away 😩... last time I had a scan at 6w and 7w and saw the HB, so I've just decided to book it for after that date as then I'll feel slightly more reassurance. I also am not having any aversions to food, it wouldn't have been the worst thing considering I've put on nearly a stone since MC and lockdown 🙈

@SkyBlue20 ah must feel a slight relief telling your close family and friends! And it's good for them to be there during your journey! 😀

I'm hoping when it does come to our 12 weeks scans, partners can come in! 😰 I mean il be nervous anyway, but without anyone with me il be a wreck!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@MrsTtobe glad it's not just me 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🙈 I had serious bloat from 4 weeks with my youngest son, but that was 5 years ago!! But didn't have any kind of bloating with my MC, 🤨🤨 x

I too have the bloating. I eat like a piece of toast and bam massive belly. This happened last time too and quite a few people at work asked if I was pregnant. Naive me just said yes. Then had to explain afterward.

If they ask again I'm just going to say im trying to drink more water and it's bloating me 🙈

@MrsTtobe Glad you had a good weekend! Hopefully you’ll be able to stomach food again soon 🤞🏼

@bubblybon20 Yes nice to tell them but I was so nervous beforehand, I almost didn’t want to. I think we made it clear that we don’t want to talk about it ALL THE TIME as we’re just a bit too nervous for the moment so people have been good with that.

I don’t think I’m bloating but I definitely think my waist has thickened already - I’m wondering if it’s because it had only just gone back to normal after the last pregnancy so it’s just stretched back in to how it was quite quickly?!

@ew1990 I may have to steal that excuse to why I'm bloated 🤪

@SkyBlue20 that's understandable! I've only told my husband and my mum. But I'm grateful they don't talk about it all the time either, in my mind I'm happy to talk to you lot about it. But I don't want to plan too much with them! Does that make any sense!? Haha! It did in my head lol!

And I never thought of that, could explain the relaxed muscles in my stomach at this current moment hahaha 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@bubblybon go for it!

Yeah ive only told my partner and my mum too. But we dont really talk about it either. Ive had a few I cant do this moments with me mum but shes talked me down.

I'm exhausted 🙈 DD decided to wake up for about 3 hours in the middle of the night 😴 cutting her last 2 molars then shes done thank god

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ joining the bloated club! Also suddenly completely exhausted this weekend too and feeling a little more nauseous.

Congratulations @smileyT and welcome!

@bubblybon20 thank you! Touch wood pains have been fine..just had a few odd twinges and went straight to panic mode but I'm feeling OK now!🙈

Morning ladies. I came for my bloods again at epu and they was like ooh on Friday they was high enough for us to maybe see something. Can you hang around and we will scan you.

I'm waiting now to go in. I'm petrified

@ew1990 I know it's so hard but try to enjoy it. Getting to see your baby for the first time. How special. We're all here for you. Let us know how you get on. Xx

They Think I'm about 5 weeks so no baby yet. There's a yolk sac and it's in my womb which is good. Another scan in 7-10 days

Hope all goes well @ew1990. Scanxiety is very real, especially when you've had a mmc.

Hello, sorry I’m late in joining this thread, but would like to share my story with you and say I completely understand why you are so anxious!!!

I had a missed miscarriage last year in September, at 9 weeks, and then had an ectopic in February this year, I had to have one of my fallopian tunes removed and feared I would never fall pregnant again or rather was afraid to fall pregnant again. I have been off work since the missed miscarriage, well just before, from August 2019 due to needing bed rest at the time as I was spotting and then due to loss of the baby. I had counselling after my missed miscarriage and then as I was about to go back to work had the ectopic which hit me right back to where I was, then lockdown happened! So I haven’t been to work since.

Anyway the good news, I feel pregnant in April this year, in shock and so close to my ectopic I freaked out. From the day I knew I was pregnant I couldn’t relax, I had the worst anxiety attacks and was so negative. I thought the worst and it is only now at almost 18 weeks in to my pregnancy that I’ve started to feel some hope, mainly because I felt baby move the last week.

I was determined not to get close emotionally to this baby and found it hard to accept the pregnancy. I have not really been able to enjoy the pregnancy so far. It’s like I’ve cut myself off emotionally through self defence, so if the worst happened I wouldn’t be so upset again.

I have only told close relatives and one friend about this pregnancy so far. Am waiting till my 20 week scan to tell the whole world. It’s been hard to keep it secret. But the more people you tell the more real it is and I didn’t want to believe it at first. I couldn’t believe it, with my bad luck. This will be my 7th pregnancy, I have one son, and hopefully this will be baby no. 2.

I’ve worried about every pain, every symptom and exhausted google during this pregnancy. I’ve constantly called midwives to get reassurance and have just reached out to our local support group for help with my anxiety. Which started after my MMC and peaked at the beginning of this pregnancy.

I felt miserable at the beginning of this pregnancy and feared for the worse. I also have the worry of premature labour and possibly incompetent cervix as my Son was born 6 weeks early and since the. Have had lletz surgery on my cervix which increases the risk of premature labour. So have had to fight to get my cervix measured and monitored during this pregnancy.

I also had spotting at the beginning of this pregnancy so was scanned early.... I actually had a scan a week, 6 in total before I was 8 weeks! So my Head was sure of another miscarriage.

Up until recently I just couldn’t believe a baby was in my tummy, even after my 12 week scan I couldn’t connect to this pregnancy. But now I’m a bit calmer and bit more positive. I will always worry as I know anything can happen at anytime but it does slowly get easier.

I hope your pregnancy goes well I wish you all the best xx

Oh and they said I've got a little hemmoerage (sp?) Where it implanted so that's why I've had spotting. And I may have some more. And I've got 2 cysts on my left ovary

@ew1990 great news that you got the scan and another one to look forward to in a week or so ☺️ exciting times x

Hi all,

I hope it's OK to join! I had a MMC in March after a month of scans due to bleeding/spotting.

We started TTC and I fell pregnant again straight away and I got the BFP at the beginning of June. At 5 and a half weeks pregnant I had a small bleed and thought it was all over again, but a scan at the hospital showed baby was there and they put me 2 days ahead of where I thought I was which meant I was 6w+1 and there was a lovely heartbeat.

Decided to go for an early scan yesterday as I have been so worried about it. Everything was fine, and they added another 2 days onto the pregnancy so I was 8w+6 as of yesterday. It has helped me feel a bit calmer, but I know it won't be long before I start to worry again! Today I have noticed a very small amount of brown discharge when I have wiped, but I am hoping this is due to the internal scan as I have heard this can happen??

Someone send help, look how bloated I am!! 😨😰🙈🤦🏻‍♀️