Pregnant after Missed Miscarriage MMC

[Smilingdonkey]

Hi, starting this thread -very tentitively- as a graduation from the TTC after MMC group. A couple of us have begun to get BFPs and I would like a space to go though this with people who get why I'm so anxious - especially in the first trimester! Some of the other threads are so big and rather gung ho and I want to tread a bit gently right now!
I am only 4 weeks but have been getting progressively darker tests since 7-8dpo.
I'm becoming more certain this is not a chemical but I am being so cautious! Definitely too scared to work out a EDD yet!

@NMH19 I'd think that's a good sign that there is no bleeding but I'm no expert. I think of be tempted to call GP to discuss - in my experience they tend to refer you to EPUs who have to then see you! Have you got some ICs you can test on on in a few days to check? Xx

Woo @SkyBlue20 your perfect line puts mine in the shadows. So amazing!
I'm going to do cheapys for progression this week and my other FRER in a weeks time.

I'm pretty spotty too, don't usually get them but I have also been using a new foundation lately so could possibly be that. Also Have a headache this afternoon, I've drunk loads of water so definitely not dehydrated. What painkillers can we take now? Just paracetamol?

@Smilingdonkey

Ahhhhh!!! *@SKYBLUE20*! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU I'M SHOUTING!

😂 Thank you!! 💕💕💕

So I've known I'm pregnant for about two hours and it's already horrendous - this anxiety! How on earth are you all coping?! How far along is everyone? I'm 4+2, SO early! Still convinced I'm going to have a chemical or something. I'm trying to go step by step - the next step is get to five weeks. Then six. Then call for my MW and booking in appts. Then an early scan, etc etc etc.

Thanks @ALew15 - I waited for quite a while before testing, if I had to guess I reckon I'm about 18DPO but it could be less, could be more. Looks similar to the line I got last pregnancy at 15DPO. I'm going to do my other test at the weekend I think just to make sure it's still dark and then I'm out of tests and won't buy any more. Argh, this is all so difficult, isn't it?! I think it is just paracetamol, yes.

@skyblue20 I don't 😂 I worry all the time. But then I Think worrying doesn't help.

I think I'd feel better if I knew how far along I was.

I'm thinking about @ranoutofgoodnames and how yesterday went.

I'm also wondering if @Ranoutofgoodnames is ok. I hope no news doesn't mean bad news.

@SkyBlue20 I'm also happy for you and the fact that you made it on your first try yet again! So fertile lol.

Yes, it's not a nice feeling. I mean we got our BFP, but this is just the start and we are still so early days. 6+2 here so another 6 weeks to go before the moment of truth and it looks like we will have to be all alone again in the scan room.

Yes, also thinking about @Ranoutofgoodnames - hope you're ok 💕

@Sakura54 I know - first time both times, I can't believe that! Hoping it's not a case of not having a problem getting pregnant but struggling to keep them.

Urgh, the thought of being alone for that 12 week scan again is awful. Trying not to think that far ahead - one step at a time.

Safe to say, I have got no work done this afternoon, must work a bit late and catch up!

I agree. The anxiety is awful. Awful. Trying to remind myself that the likelihood is that things will be ok - especially as all my pain has stopped and I feel pretty much ok now. I think I am due between 5th and 9th of May depending on when exactly I ovulated ... So 5 to 5+4 weeks.

Worst thing is I am a rational sensible woman who suddenly believes that I can jinx something. As if me telling my mum has caused this stitch pain?!! 🙄

Anyone else had any symptoms.. since this morning, I've had a continuous watery mouth lol, as though I'm about to be sick 🤢 luckily I haven't been sick for 5 years, and was only sick once with my son. But this is horrible 😂

@Smilingdonkey i hope you're ok and glad the pain has eased. Im with you on the jinxing of things. Im constantly thinking something terrible is going to happen because ive jinxed it. 🙄

@bubblybon20 yes soooooo nauseous here. Have only been sick once but the 24/7 nausea is draining. It's a mixture of absolutely starving hunger pains with can't eat a thing and absolutely no food that I 'fancy' I can't stomach squash even. My mouth also keeps filling with saliva. 🤢

Congratulations on the BFPs!

@Smilingdonkey I know exactly what you mean... Id like to think I'm quite rational but not now... believing even joining this group could be jinxing myself.

I phoned the midwives yesterday and they did the initial forms straight away over the phone and have given me a date for my booking appointment already. Last time I had to wait 2 or 3 weeks just to do the initial form over the phone then my booking appointment was at 11weeks. My NHS scan then should have been at over 14weeks. The midwife I spoke to said as my booking appointment will be at 9 weeks this time I should definitely get my scan at 12 weeks which is good 🤞
I also asked her about an early scan at EPU. She told me to call them this morning. I did but they said they won't scan me early unless its an emergency. It was EPU that told me in April when I had the MMC to call them next time I got pregnant to book an early scan and that was during lockdown. But apparently they won't now. Anyway.. I understand that and I think I will book a private scan for around 7 or 8 weeks?!

@DanceM1 I'm going to call midwives tomorrow if everything looks ok at the scan. Pain is completely gone now ... Just bloating and a bit of nausea. I had awful sickness (vomiting constantly) for 17 weeks with my DD. Much less with the MMC (unsurprisingly ) so I'm assuming that if this one keeps going it will be bad again 😩
At the moment just exhaustion at about 3pm every day ... Luckily I'm still working from home most days so can sleep if my partner has the baby!

@Smilingdonkey Glad you’re feeling a fair bit better, that’s got to be a good thing ☺️ Agreed about jinxing things - we’re just debating whether to tell our mums tonight or whether to wait a couple more days, retest and then tell them. I mean, we’d tell them if we had a loss anyway so why not just tell them tonight?!

However, I’m suddenly obsessed with thinking I’m going to have a chemical - what are the odds with a dark line? Surely that means my HCG is strong? Or can it happen? I think it’s because I read they’re classed as chemicals until 5weeks and I’m only 4+2 so obviously my brain has gone in to overdrive 🤦🏻‍♀️

@bubblybon20 I’ve noticed more saliva this evening, too. Am also very thirsty and feel sick (but not like I’m going to be sick) 🤢 @MrsTtobeim with you on the starving hunger pains, too! Just had to have a banana while husband cooked as I couldn’t handle the hunger that had snuck up on me from nowhere!

@skyblue20
I'm trying to take things one step at a time:

• get past chemical risk stage - tick
• establish this is not ectopic
• get past stage where baby stopped growing last time (6 weeks)
• get to 10 weeks
• 12 week scan 'A OK'

Then I will start to be less neurotic I think!

Agreed, @Smilingdonkey, that’s much like my plan. First step is make it to tomorrow, then the weekend, then five weeks, then six, etc. Only seven/eight weeks until, all being well, we can relax a little (or start panicking about the 20 week scan 🙈)

@SkyBlue20 congratulations!!! I am so happy for you!!

@Smilingdonkey glad pain is dying down - do whatever you need to do to reassure yourself I reckon.

Sorry for the radio silence - I had sad news as it was an empty sac so not my baby this time. I kind of knew after the last scan so it feels ok - sad but equally I am glad the waiting is over with you know? Also I am taking some comfort with the speed at which it has happened - Hopefully just a matter of gritting my teeth and trying again to find a sticky bean!

Next step will be to have some tests done after I have had my first period and ladies this means that there will now be a period of at least two months where I am neither pregnant nor trying to get pregnant and that feels like a very peaceful prospect at the moment... we are also buying a new house so I have lots of stuff to distract me.

I hope you don’t mind if I hang around as a cheerleader for you all - I don’t think I will share the miscarriage process etc as I want this thread to focus on the current beautiful pregnancies - your continuing healthy pregnancies can be my inspiration!! xxx

Oh @Ranoutofgoodnames, I’m so sorry 💕 Can imagine the next two months do feel quite a peaceful prospect, a bit of time to stop thinking about TTC and pregnancy - it can be all-consuming, can’t it? Have you been given options for the next stage of the process? Hope it’s all dealt with quickly and kindly and you can start to heal. Sending you lots of love and please do stick around xxxxx

@ranoutofgoodnames I'm so sorry this one wasn't your baby. You sound so strong. I hope the process is as smooth as it can be and you can enjoy a peaceful summer. I am glad you will be able to get some support now. I would love it if you stayed with us 😊 If you don't want to share things on here but need some support at any point please just pm. Sending love xxxxxxx

@Ranoutofgoodnames I'm so sorry ❤️ two months of summer where you can relax and enjoy things sounds lovely and then hopefully you can get some answers x

Hope your scan goes ok this morning @Smilingdonkey x

Sending love, @Smilingdonkey, hope all goes ok 💕

@ranoutofgoodnames oh I'm so sorry 💗💗

Ive been to epu. They said if hcg is over 2000 they might be able to see something on a scan. Even if it's just the sac. Mine was 1700 so just under! But definitely pregnant.

I have to go back on Friday for bloods again and then they said depending what it is they will pencil me in for a scan but might be a couple of weeks as the appointments are going really fast.

@smilingdonkey good luck for later

Hi all,
Thanks for the messages. So all looks ok. They could see a gestational sack and a yolk sack and it was in the uterus. Took early to see anything else but she said she can't see anything to worry about at the moment. They will rescan in 2 weeks to check for foetal heartbeat. Such a relief! So now I can move on from my 'is it an ectopic?' stress into a 'will my foetus grow?' stress.

Weirdly the pain has come back since I left the hospital. She said it was probably my bowels (!?) But I'm unconvinced. I think it is linked to the UTI they won't treat. I just requested a call back from the GP to see if they will re-test.

@ew1990 that all sounds good. How far on are you? My fertility app says 5 +1 but other apps say later becuase they ignore my long cycle . I think I might be about 5+3 ...

@Smilingdonkey glad it's looking good! Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for you now! X

@Smilingdonkey such good news. It's just one worry after another isn't it! I don't think it ever stops 😂

@@smilingdonkey glad it went well. I'm not sure? MMC bleeding started 6 weeks tomorrow and I dont know when I ovualted. I'm not going to ring the midwife I don't think till they scan me and I can have a rough idea