Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

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Thankyou everybody, just received a call from the doctor at my hospital who has advised me that my induction will much more likely be next week. (towards the end of the week maybe Friday/Saturday)
I’m feeling 100 million different feelings all at once right now!

@Firstmummytobe I am not surprised you have a roller-coaster of emotions. It's a lot to process. From 36 weeks counts as full term doesn't it so that's a definite plus for your baby.

@Firstmummytobe you will be 37 weeks by then won't you? That's classed as term so please try not to worry - little one is a great weight and the sooner they get them out the quicker they can sort little one right out 🥰 you have got this mama!

@cannotmakemymindup Sorry for the delay! I am due on the same day, well remembered 😀

@Firstmummytobe So sorry to hear about your situation, you certainly haven't had the best luck so far ☹️ but all that negative stuff aside you're doing great and you're sooo close to meeting your bundle of joy 🥰

Decided to go in to the centre of Norwich today to pick up my hospital essentials.. what an absolute nightmare! People everywhere, pushing past, breathing all over you.. i felt so so uncomfortable! All of my bags are finally packed though 👍🏻

Honestly don't think I have seen a piece of news this year that has made me happier than this one. Any sign of this happening in the rest of the UK yet?

@firstmummytobe I'm not surprised you're on a bit of a roller-coaster. How exciting that you get to meet your little man next week though. It'll be amazing.

@JMill13 I'm so happy for you!! 😆 but jealous too.. there's no change to the measures in place at UHCW in the Midlands yet - no partners until 4cm dilated and active labour and have to leave 3hrs after the birth. My friend has been in hospital for 4 days now having been induced and hasn't seen her partner even though she's getting contractions and is in pain- she's mentally in such a bad place poor thing and that's the worst place to be before beginning labour .

I honestly can't get my head around the fact that here in England you could go with your other half in the pub for a beer but they can't be with you to give birth. It boggles my mind.

Hey everyone just catching up on the thread, wow its been a chatty few days!

Sounds like its been a bit stressful @firstmummytobe but great that you will meet your baby next week! I'm due the same day as you, I think id be ok with baby coming anytime after 37 weeks but both my previous babies have been late so fully expecting another late one.

Re: visitors after birth... I've told my DH I want two weeks no visitors but whether it happens remains to be seen. My mum lives an hour and a half away so can enforce that but DHs parents live 20 mins away and his mum works near our house, so i can see her just "popping in". I saw her at the weekend for a socially distanced visit, and I mentioned that we didn't want visitors straight away and that I was going to tell my mum 2 weeks. She seemed on board as she is a health visitor and said that many of the mums she's seen recently have told her they've quite liked having a bit of enforced time without visitors straight after birth. but I didn't get the impression she thought me saying I didn't want visitors included her 🙈 may need DH to make that clear!

When we do have visitors I don't really have any qualms about telling them they can't have a cuddle yet. I'm definitely in the camp of "its my baby and nobody else has any rights over it". It may sound mean but I really resent grandparent entitlement and I can't see how it matters if they have to wait a month or so for a cuddle. This is my third though so I have more self confidence on it being my (and DHs!) baby and know what I'm doing. With DD1 we had too many visitors too soon, most of whom were useless, didn't help and overstayed their welcome and I didn't feel i could say "please can you leave". Looking back I wish I'd been able to just tell people to come another time.

@squashie34 what? That's absolutely crazy, they'd end up having to sedate me I think if it was me in your friends position. Its been one of my biggest anxieties since lockdown & the new rules all kicked it. Going to the 20 week scan alone was bad enough but the thought of being stuck in hospital without OH fills me absolute dread, he's about the only person that can keep my anxiety from going to crazy places. Heres hoping the rules change for you by the time it comes to birth and don't change for here by the time I do.

My friend said the other day her Labour was that fast last year that if her OH had to wait to come in her daughter would have already been born.

Yeah I think it's mental that someone you live with, clearly having a baby with, can go to get a haircut and the pub as of next week but can't accompany you to give birth and stay there? Seems absolutely ridiculous to me.

The whole birthing partner being there & leaving not long after is really starting to stress me out! I’m trying not to think about it in case things have changed by then but I’ve literally got every scenario mapped out cause I have to to keep myself sane 😂

Sorry to bring this up everyone but is anyone really constipated?? I’ve been put on iron tablets that are obv not great for it, I’m taking laxido every day but it’s not great & the pain & discomfort I’ve had for the last few nights have been too much! Does anyone know if you can take senna tablets? I have these & find they work much better but not sure you can take them in pregnancy. I’ve done the usual diet remedies (fibre uptake, green tea, fruit etc)

I can't remember if I said this before, but do check with one of the midwives on the ward as my hospital website says no partners for longer than 3 hrs afterwards, but they told me if they bring a bed and food for themselves they can stay - this is only for afterwards tho, sucks to go in early before birth. I feel like I'm going to need an airport trolley for all my bags ...and now an extra bed 😂

@Newmama29 I'd recommend lactulose for constipation.. I've been prescribed it after previous gynae surgeries for constipation and it's really helping me again now. You have to get it on prescription but if you go onto boots.com you can buy it and then a pharmacist approves it. My consultant prescribed mine but I got an extra bottle from boots online for my hospital bag ready for that first post birth poo 😂

At my hospital it is still no birth partners until active labour but on the antenatal ward the birth partner can visit 8am-8pm. I'm relieved about this as they want me to stay in for 72h after the birth.

A pharmacist would be best placed to advice the most appropriate otc treatment for constipation in pregnancy @Newmama29

@worriedbutterfly I don't even know what hospital I'm giving birth in yet 😂 most likely won't know until I'm actually in bloody labour with the way covid is going 🙄

At my hospital, no birthing parteners are allowed in until active labour, and then as soon as I’m being moved from delivery suite to the ward he has to go home, and whilst I’m the neonatal unit he cannot visit at all as of now💔💔

I’m being induced obviously, so when I’m being induced I am to go in alone, and I will be in the hospital alone through labour until 4/5cm (active labour) and then he will be allowed in and asked to leave soon after delivery. Being induced is a LONG process and it can take up to 3 days for your cervix to dilate enough to even be in active labour and it can be a lot more painful too as the contractions are a lot stronger due to the use of oxytocin which is a hormone to kick start your contractions. I’m 20 years of age and I will have to do all of this alone except for actually delivering my baby (without my mum who is heartbroken she can’t be there for the birth of her grand child) and I’m devastated because Neonatal ward’s rules are strictly no visitors Except for mum of baby, not even my boyfriend and if the baby has to have an operation and is in hospital for a few weeks to recover, he can’t see him until he is home which I think is outrageous considering he’s going to be at home with me every night??😡😡

We literally couldn’t of picked a worse time to have a baby but what will be will be. It’s going to be hard for me but as long s my little boy is healthy I don’t think anything else really matters💙

I was hoping and praying that rules may of changed by the time I give birth but considering he will be here in no longer than 2 weeks I doubt it will make any difference now.

@Newmama29 @squashie34 I’ve been taking lactulose for the past few weeks for constipation and it is a GOD SEND😊

@firstmummytobe what am absolutely ridiculous rule. It makes me so angry how the rules affect dad's of babies. I understand no other visitors but babies dad is such a huge important part of (most) kids lives they should be allowed to be part of every step. It makes it so much harder on women as well not having someone there if they want someone there. You got this though, you'll be fine, the staff will look after you and your little and hopefully it all moves quickly and all of you can start your new lives together ASAP.

Wow this thread has been busy - not looked at it since yesterday and I think I had about 4 pages to catch up on!

Naff day here - hubby was told at lunchtime he could come home, was all packed and ready to go with sick note in hand and me in the car park ready to drive him home, only to be told his temperature was back and they weren’t happy with his blood test so he’s on the ward overnight for another round of antibiotics. Surgeon a bit concerned that the first round didn’t clear the infection and if the second round doesn’t then he’ll have to have scans and possibly further surgery just so cross that someone discharged him when they shouldn’t have as we were so happy and excited to see each other. I know it’s better that he’s still in hospital being treated but I was just so gutted, especially as I’m obviously not allowed in to see him.

When I was back at the hospital dropping him some stuff off I saw a lady on her way in, clearly in labour - was a bit of a wake up call that that will be us all in a few weeks or sooner!!

Sorry for the long moan, it’s been a really stressful few days!

@mable88 oh no sorry to hear that! Hopefully temp comes down again tonight and antibiotics kick the infection in the arse and he can come home ASAP.
It's such a wake up call seeing others in labour isn't it? I seen a few at the hospital the other day and it hit me then.

Thanks everyone! I’ll take a trip to the pharmacy tomorrow to see what they suggest, I didn’t want to have to go out for anything else seeing as I already had the senna in the house but better to be safe & get appropriate advice ☺️

@Firstmummytobe I really feel for you, the anxiety I feel about having to be induced & being alone for days before I’m in established labour is so bad! I have the midwife in a few weeks & we’re going over my birth plan so going to voice my anxieties about it all. If it’s any consolation, my friend had a baby a few weeks ago & she said the midwives were fantastic & really compassionate giving the circumstances. Her DP was allowed to stay with her as long as they were in the labour suite & only had to leave when she was moved to a ward (she was kept in overnight). Due to this the midwives kept them in the labour suite for much longer than they normally would so they could spend a good few hours bonding together.

Surely the treatment of dads is against paternity rights in some form or other? Especially if your baby is kept in NICU, not being allowed to visit but the mother can isn’t exactly the equality we all look for in the world these days! Plus that’s a lot of stress & pressure on the mum who’s body is exhausted & hormonal from just giving birth as well!

@Newmama29 don’t even get me started because I could go on and rant all night 🙈 the way this country is treating people is absolutely disgusting. I’m all for social distancing don’t get me wrong whatsoever but giving birth is a life experience and on top of that it is exhausting and really tough!!! It’s an emotional time and to be stripped of the perfect situation because of rules is somewhat acceptable due to the circumstances, however damn right disgusting when Boris is reopening the pubs on Saturday 😡😡😡😡

@Firstmummytobe completely agree!! To strip partners of experiencing something so life changing of the birth of their own babies is somewhat obsurd when they are more than likely in the same household anyway! But then don't worry, everyone can hang out together in pubs. It's truly upsetting 😞😞

@newmama29 I just said this. It seems really quite sexist really.

My friends are all heading to the pub on Saturday 🙈 can't get them to come to meet me for a walk but they'll all go to the fucking pub together the day it opens. Absolute shite. I don't even see the point in going to the pub yet. Maybe I'm just being a twat about it because I can't see anyone and they can but its just making me sad. Also apologies for the language that just got to me.

My best friend lives in/is from Manchester so no hope of seeing her any time soon obviously and my other closest friend moved back home to Australia when lockdown happened and they're not opening boarders until there's a vaccine / no flights until at least July 2021. Hate this year 🙈🙈

I know there's worse things and at least I have my OH, just needed to have a bit of a rant. Sorry!