Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

I should also add that houses are selling quickly on our estate but where we want to move to is a small village with only a few houses in our price range - it is mostly small terraces in the village or huge 5 bed detached house outside the village. We are looking at a couple of small estates on the edges of the village which have houses somewhere between the two extremes but they don't come up for sale very often.

@Superscientist my partner has no idea what's coming either! I've tried telling him straight, showing him videos, giving him stuff to read etc but I can tell it's not really going in and he's just imagining this blissful time with our perfectly behaved angel newborn 😂

Hahah my OH is the same. All I hear is how fine everything will be once baby is here and how we can do all these things like holidays and trips away anytime 'cause baby can go stay at his mum&dads. He' s definitely in for a very rude awakening when the time comes. All of his experience was when his little sister was born there's 8 and a bit years between them so he helped with that. Not that I have any experience with a newborn either though.

I think a lot of daddies are going to be in for a very very big shock 😂😂

@Superscientist completely sympathise. OH has sprung on me that he's not going to be renewing our rent much longer and wants us to now buy a property whilst I'm due to give birth any day. Now trying to find the right home for us which is added stress! Good initiatives that the government has just launched, however so I'm going to see what we can do!

@squashie34 so it would seem 😂 suppose it helps that they have an entire 9 months of not even really having to think about it before hand, must help them keep their heads in the clouds that nothing is really going to change

Agreed, some of the first time dads are definitely going to be in for a shock! Having a newborn is like having a massive bomb thrown in your life, including all the associated household mess 😜

I think it varies hugely from family to family but I never left my DDs overnight until they were quite old - my eldest was a year, my youngest 15 months. But I bf both my children so it just wasn't feasible. On the other hand I know (ff) parents who have left their babies at parents houses over night from a month old and it worked for them. Someone I know went to a festival for a long weekend when her baby was 2 months old and left baby with her mum for three days. Have to admit I was a little 🤯 about that as couldn't even imagine leaving my little one at such a young age but each to their own, obviously I never said anything as not my baby, not my business, and she was happy with it.

One of my biggest annoyances about lockdown has been not being able to go to the cinema or out of evenings meals etc or meet up with friends on an evening. When baby comes that will all go out the window! I don't do it that often anyway as can't be arsed to be sociable a lot of the time but would be nice to have the option 🤣 i am planning to breastfeed though and tbh that does mean no evenings out for a while. It doesn't bother me but I know it bothers some people who miss that freedom. I generally find when baby is small that I don't want to leave them anyway. Of course you can always pump as well though I never bothered until I went back to work and had to do it.

I guess what I am saying in a long winded way is that everyone's experience is different, so in some ways there's no point making plans about what you will do when baby arrives as who knows what sort of baby you will get. Some babies are just more clingy than others, some have colic, some are super easy going, some are massive boob monsters etc. About the only thing I can say is have low expectations for what you can manage in the first few months and hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised and have an easy baby 😂

Now we know the scheme will continue until March I think we don't need to rush and can decide what to do once she's a here.

My partner and I often have the same outlook on life, however he is a "wing it/it will be fine, if its not fine we'll cope" person whereas am the sort of person that needs a plan a, b and c just in case. This pregnancy definitely is highlighting this difference!! Haha!

I definitely have a low expectation of what to expect to be able to do in the early days. My niece was a terrible sleeper and I went round a few times, when able to, so I could watch her for 15 min so my sister could wash and change clothes.

@NamiSwan I'm the same about cinema trips and meals out. We said at the beginning of the pregnancy we would make the most of it, then covid happened!

What to do about visitors is definitely giving me anxiety, it's still a few weeks away though so will see how we feel at the time and trying to not stress too much.

I feel like my baby has dropped a bit, definitely feeling the head lower down and they seem to have more space at the top! I went in for reduced movements (again) on Sunday and the midwife said the head was well and truly wedged down and not coming back up from there - not quite sure what she meant by it though!
They sent me for a growth scan and baby was estimating 5lb 7 at 34+5. I thought that sounded big but is on the 43rd centile, but the legs were on the 90th 😂, I'm 5ft4 and my DH 5ft9 so no idea where long legs has come from!

@Fig20
My results were clear, if they aren’t they are usually very quick to get back to you so like a couple of days and if you don’t hear anything you should be fine. I didn’t hear anything but my midwife confirmed at my 34week appointment that I was all clear of gd. They like to be hot on it If you have gd to obviously go through any changes that need to be made to keep you both safe x

Is it normal for bump to expand after small walks? I've noticed this the last couple of days I'm normal comfortable size all day and then I take the dog for a 45 minute - hour walk and come home and my belly is huge & heavy. Even today I've had two 15 minute walks and one 30 minute walk and I've just got out of the shower & I'm huge. I thought this was only supposed to happen to legs/ankles not bellys 😂 pregnancy is so weird.

Hey Ladies, just curious as to what visitor restrictions (if any) you are putting in place when your little one is here? I’m really unsure what to do. At first I was thinking a mask, washed hands etc but that still makes me a little nervous. Some family members have made jokey comments about having to come daily to bond with the baby through the window . I don’t want to be selfish but neither do I want to feel overwhelmed with visitors or feel stressed trying to bat them off/ not offend them. Sounds dramatic but I’m also worried about them hindering my plan to breast feed (in the sense of if I’m struggling I may give up easier if I know someone’s on their way round). Don’t get me wrong these are nice problems to have and feel truly blessed and excited to meet my little one!

@Bobolly We're all wrestling with the same question. If you read earlier in the thread lots of pp have said what they're planning which boils down to - what is best for them, their family and their risks.

@BabyG08 ahh brilliant 😊 hopefully I won’t hear anything. I’ll probably call them in a few days if I haven’t heard back as I’m between areas so I imagine it’s easy to slip under the radar x

@bobolly we are planning to have no visitors for two weeks at least and then socially distanced visits. Not sure how family will deal with that but will cross that bridge when it comes to it. Its funny you mention being worried about visitors interfering with breastfeeding. I read a while back that during lock down in my area there was a decrease in babies who lost too much % birth weight, and the theory was that basically women had more time to sit and do skin to skin, feed constantly and get breastfeeding established.

@Bobolly

Hey Ladies, just curious as to what visitor restrictions (if any) you are putting in place when your little one is here? I’m really unsure what to do. At first I was thinking a mask, washed hands etc but that still makes me a little nervous. Some family members have made jokey comments about having to come daily to bond with the baby through the window . I don’t want to be selfish but neither do I want to feel overwhelmed with visitors or feel stressed trying to bat them off/ not offend them. Sounds dramatic but I’m also worried about them hindering my plan to breast feed (in the sense of if I’m struggling I may give up easier if I know someone’s on their way round). Don’t get me wrong these are nice problems to have and feel truly blessed and excited to meet my little one!

We are planning on isolating 2 weeks before due date and for 2 weeks after birth completely. Then socially distanced visits (if the situation is the same as now)

I honestly really didn’t like all the visitors with my first baby. People who you see twice a year coming to hold the baby when he was just days old 😖 and everyone else coming eve try other day, so considering that, I’m actually quite pleased so have an excuse 🙁

Saw the midwife today and as the little terror is still breech I’m booked in for a cesarian on 12th August. So that’s my birth plan out the window, time to re pack and re write lol

@KittyKat2020 aw bless you! There's still time for baby to turn. I've heard about a website called spinning babies which is meant to be pretty good.

@sel2223 his a big baby so I doubt he’ll fit down there now lol 😂 it’s fine it’s better his here safely

@KittyKat2020 exactly, as long as they're safe and well, that's the most important thing.
I'm having an ELCS too. Getting my date confirmed next week but think it'll be around the 6th Aug

@KittyKat2020 @sel2223 I'm also having an ELCS on the 29th July - birth plan out the window and was a bit wobbly yesterday as I'd really taken to all the hypnobirthing recommendations but after talking to my community midwife more today about it, I'm actually excited now as I didn't realise there was so much you can still have control over in a planned section.

How are you both feeling about it?

@KittyKat2020 @sel2223 I'm also having an ELCS on the 29th July - birth plan out the window and was a bit wobbly yesterday as I'd really taken to all the hypnobirthing recommendations but after talking to my community midwife more today about it, I'm actually excited now as I didn't realise there was so much you can still have control over in a planned section.

How are you both feeling about it?

@cannotmakemymindup thanks, I will have a read through the thread!

@Liverpool20 @NamiSwan I love the idea of isolating for two weeks... will have to see if I can convince my partner! I’m hoping the midwife recommends something like this so I can say we are just following guidance!

@squashie34 you're right, there is a lot you can still control and most feedback I've had about elective sections is really positive.

I've known from the start that I'd be having an ELCS as I had a bleed on the brain last year ao am at high risk of seizures which could be set off by natural labour. It's not what I would have chosen but I've had plenty of time to come to terms with it so I'm fine with it now and excited to have an actual date to count down to.

I'm just really panicked about going into labour before 39 weeks and am overthinking every single thing at the minute. I'm convinced she'll be early.

Hey everyone, planning on having a small baby shower at the end of the month & really struggling to find something nice to wear! Anyone any recommendations? I’ve ordered stuff from the usual - ASOS, river island - but just didn’t like them on! I’m not too fussed on it being maternity as I’ve felt that a lot of maternity ranges are very flowery or quite plain, I’ve bought some stuff during my pregnancy by just buying the next size up which has worked. Just looking for anywhere different I could have a look? Obviously limited with going to shops at the moment!