Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

@sel2223 hope that speaking to the midwife gives you some peace of mind! How many weeks are you?

I had my 36 consultant appointment this week and it's been decided that I'm having an ELCS on the 29th July when I'll be 39+3. So looks like I'm having a July baby! Feels strangely final now I know a date, unless of course she has other ideas and decides to come early!

@heroineinahalfshell sorry to hear you're feeling down. I can sympathise but agree with the other ladies, 2 of my family members have had unsuccessful IVF attempts and cannot have kids so i constantly feel like i'm treading on eggshells around them! I dreaded telling them i was pregnant but they were quite supportive to me at the time, now i feel like they don't bother.. they don't ask how i am, don't get in contact with me or anything! Whenever i mentioned my pregnancy they ignored me and it really pisses me off, i understand that it's sad but i'm just a normal lady wanting to take the next step in my life and people should be happy for me! You can't please everyone, but don't let it get you down! ❤️

Thank you ladies. I rang up and they weren't overly concerned but told me to go in just for a bit of a check up, which I did. Everything seems fine with both baby and me so hopefully just a one off and I feel a lot more reassured now.
I'm only 34+5 so still a way to go and supposed to be having an ELCS at 39 weeks so definitely don't want to go into early labour lol.

One thing it did do is give me the kick up the bum i needed to pack my hospital bag 🤣

@heroineinahalfshell ah that's so hard and quite sad that she didn't try and talk to you first. Having never been in that situation myself, I can't pretend to know what it must be like for women who've suffered loss or fertility issues but i really don't think you should have to stem your own excitement either.
This is already a weird time where we're not really sharing our pregnancy with anyone: no-one is seeing the bump, you can't really get together with anyone or go anywhere, there's very little support as we haven't seen family or friends as much as we normally would etc. If we want to mention it on social media or post a picture or whatever, then i do think we should be allowed to do that without feeling guilty!

Coming from the other side (my first child and my due baby) are both IVF babas. We’ve had losses and a lot of heartache down the road. Whilst undergoing treatment I remember that sinking feeling very well when I heard/saw pregnancy announcements. I can’t even begin to explain the much not wanted feelings it brings. Although people who struggle with fertility are still pleased for others who don’t have the same struggle it’s actually heart wrenching for most. My SIL had a baby At the same time that our first round had failed. It was so in my face more often that not and sadly I’ve never been able to move on from the insensitive way she dealt with it. I’ve also never been able to bond with the child (I know I sound like a crazy lady)

That being said, I think it was more about how she dealt with it rather than me being unhappy for anyone who announced a pregnancy at the time. I had friends/family have babies and didn’t feel the same about it.

I would give her time and let her deal with it in her own way. Absolutely anything you say to her could be taken the wrong way.

I find it difficult now after being successful with IVF to discuss it with anyone I know going through fertility treatment.

How women’s minds work hey! 😕

Thanks everyone for your replies and especially @Liverpool20 for sharing your experience. I really want to apologise to her if she feels I've been insensitive, more than anything. But I think you're all right that I should just let her step away and process things in her own way and on her own timescale.

What a bargain! That’s great. Unbeknown to me MIL had purchased a Mamaroo for us and brought it this morning 😅 I don’t think I could have justified spending nearly £300 on a chair 😕

Fingers crossed he likes it 🤣

@heroineinahalfshell to be honest it sounds like you’ve been very considerate of their feelings when posting on social media etc. I don’t think there was any need to unfriend you, unfollowing would have had the same effect without hurting your feelings (as you would be oblivious). Everyone has their own struggles - you’re pregnant during a global pandemic and have probably missed out on so much of the pregnancy experience. Interaction through social media may well be as good as it gets at the moment. You have been mindful of their feelings but they should also be mindful of yours and what you are going through. I really feel for people struggling to conceive but I’m tired of the entitlement from some people that their feelings matter more than anyone else’s. I saw a post last week from a pregnant lady really struggling with the current situation. She received so much hateful and insensitive comments about how she should just be grateful for being pregnant etc. Your feelings matter too 💕

I need your motivation @Firstmummytobe! I’ve washed his clothes and put them in drawers but that’s about it. We haven’t done a nursery for him so I think that’s why I’m struggling to get into nesting. Anyone else skipped the nursery?

We are skipping the nursery, we are hoping to move in the new year so don't see the point. We will be putting my desk in the loft when I start mat leave and moving a chair upstairs so I can have a quiet place to sit if I need but that is as far as we are going.

We had a nursery for our first, she moved in at 11 months this second one has a chest of drawers in the spare room until we move

Ladies do you have any advice for me please? I'm in extreme pain just under my left ribs round to my side, is this just a normal thing? It's been going on for about an hour or more constantly but it's so so so painful!! I've tried everything with no relief so far ☹️

@Oldestchild90s do you have a birth ball at home? It could be that baby is lying awkwardly or on a nerve- getting on your ball or going for a little walk could help move them and see if it eases?

Is baby lying under your ribs? I find lying on the opposite side to the discomfort helps

Completely embarrassing moment in co-op today where I keep getting lightening crotch. Baby must have lay on a nerve (which she seems to be doing a lot more frequently recently) and I screamed out so loud in co-op and nearly fell to the floor it was such a sharp shock! Everyone was looking at me like I had gone into labour I was so mortified I ran out the shop and told OH to finish up 😂😭

@Beau2020 hahahahaha that really made me laugh because this happened to me in Asda a couple of weeks ago and the woman next to me looking for her milk went ‘oh my gosh are you okay’ and I said yes just baby hit a nerve 🤣🤣🤣

@beau2020 oh no 🙈😂 the things that these babies do to us!

Hahaha @Bert2020thats as far as we have got 😅

@Oldestchild90s I had bad pain under my left rib for days last week. I asked my midwife and she said that it’s likely due to the baby’s position or muscular. It can be a sign of pre eclampsia though if accompanied by the other symptoms so might be worth mentioning to your midwife. 💕

Has anyone been tested for gestational diabetes due to the baby’s abdominal circumference measuring too big?

I called the community midwife office on Friday after spotting the mistake on my growth chart and they got back to me yesterday and told me to go in today. I saw the midwife this morning and when they corrected it it showed a drop from the 90th percentile to below the 50th so I was sent for a growth scan today. He was measuring 90th percentile in weight (5lbs 8oz at 33+1) and his measurements were normal apart from his abdominal circumference which was out of the normal range. They did a blood test for gestational diabetes and I should get the results in a few days. They checked my blood pressure and urine (which was fine).
They’re rescanning me in 2 weeks to see if he’s growing as he should be. It’s worrying to think that if there is an issue it would not have been picked up until face to face appointment at nearly 37 weeks if I hadn’t noticed the mistake. I’m hoping that he’s just a little chunk or needed a wee 🤷🏽‍♀️💕

@Fig20
Not the same case, but when I had my20 weeks scan everything was in the 50 percentile except for the abdominal circumference that was in the 90th.
They didn’t seem worried about the measurements, I then had the GD test at 26 weeks and it was negative, so he just seems to have a big belly.

I wouldn’t want to worry anybody, but just make sure that the sonographer has checked absolutely everything because unfortunately that’s how my babies bowel problem was spotted due to his abdominal circumference being enlarged compared to the rest of his body, and they weren’t even going to do an in depth scan and it’s a good job I asked for one!!

I hate having to say things like that because I don’t like to scare anybody but I just like to be honest about my experience xx

This baby wants to keep me up all night tonight I think, pregnancy insomnia at its finest I’ve had 2 hours sleep on the night when I need to be up early for a busy day today🙃🙈😩

Morning all,

Anybody been in a similar situation to me at all.........I'm so upset/worried!!! Had a scan last night and she was breech, I'm 33 weeks and 3 days at the moment.

I've had 2 vaginal deliveries in the past and would like another vaginal delivery again.

Hope all is well with everyone xx

Morning @Lottie37 there is still time to move them, my first moved in my 36th week. I done a lot of inversions, played havoc with my heartburn but worked well. Remember their head is the heaviest part of them so keep upright as much as possible and no slouching on the sofa, I try to keep cushions behind my back or sit on the ball for posture as I am dreadful.

@Firstmummytobe I hate pregnancy insomnia! Not long till you meet your baby though so maybe that's subconsciously playing on your mind and keeping you awake.

@Lottie37 I've not been in the same position but apparently, babies can turn up to 37 weeks so there's still time. I think there are exercises and things on the web to try and help them move

After being really strict with lockdown since beginning of March (But we’ve seen family in the last 3 weeks) We were talking last night about how we will deal with family wanting to meet the new baby and agreed that if possible we will not have contact with anyone in the 2 weeks leading up to due date (carry on if he’s late) and for at least 2 weeks afterwards. I mentioned it to MIL and she was shocked and I can tell I’m going to have a fight on my hands when it comes to his side of the family 😖

Am I overdoing it? I already felt pressured to come up to date with government guidelines if it was up to me and not DH I would have remained shielded at this time