Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

@Firstmummytobe what @JMill13 said!

I go through bursts of nesting, I’ve been down on my hands & knees scrubbing skirting boards this afternoon 🤦🏼‍♀️ Then I have days where I have absolutely no energy or motivation! I washed all the baby clothes m, dried & ironed them but now don’t have the motivation to put them away! Nursery is half done, I want to build the cot but I just keep shutting the door unable to face it, which isn’t like me as I want things done yesterday!

@JMill13 you've summed up my feelings perfectly! Maybe it's because we know once we're mums & have children demanding our attention, unproductive/lazy days will go out the window so subconsciously we're getting them all out of the way now?!

@heroineinahalfshell haha I was thinking... hoping? this was the case. Maybe just stuck in a bit of a rut of being lazy too. Sorry you're feeling the same way though is nice to hear I'm not alone.

@CherryCreme it could well be change of position. I was measuring big (bump) at my 28 week appointment and got referred for a growth scan which showed baby was breech and sticking its head right out from under my ribs which makes my bump bigger.

No nesting or packing my bags yet (although I've laid most of it out) still got just under two more weeks of work left to go so am waiting till then. Can't wait to finish work and relax (albeit with a 3 yr old running about 🤪)

@mummapenguin - that's so funny about the cup, I'm exactly the same! I read your comment to my DH and without prompt he shouted 'THATS YOU!' - glad I'm not alone 🤣

@heroineinahalfshell and @jmill13 I'm with you guys also on the lack of motivation. I'm normally a manic neurotic person so I have washed all her clothes, pack my hospital bag and de cluttered but still have the next2me to build and I have a load of work to tie up before the end of the month. Yet all I can seem to muster is the ability to wake up, work, do basic household chores and go to bed. I can't even be arsed to leave the flat all day and I'm normally so active! I'm putting it down to third trimester fatigue now I'm 36 weeks.... 🤷🏼‍♀️

@firstmummytobe and @newmama29 - when you say you've washed, dried and IRONED the baby clothes, this might sound stupid but what did you iron?!?! Surely not baby grows? Please don't tell me I'm meant to be ironing them?!? 😱 xx

@StephD2020 I literally ironed everything down to the mittens😂 but I think that’s because it makes them nice and soft and crisp if that makes sense?! But I also think it’s because I’m going absolutely crazy🤣🤣🤣

@Firstmummytobe that's amazing!!! 🤣 can I send my stuff up to you?!?! My DH wants to know if you got a tiny little iron to do it with 🤷🏼‍♀️🤪 I wish I could be that motivated!!!! X

I'm hoping to only ever buy baby clothes that don't need the iron 😂 either that or I'll pay my dad's partner to do it for me, she loves ironing. I've lived in this house for 2 years my the OH and he's had the iron on maybe four times for shirts, I couldn't even tell you where in the house it lives 🙈

Woah ladies, i think I just had a 'contraction'.
It was only one about 15 minutes ago but it totally took my breath away and had me doubled over....it was a very sudden sharp pain low down below my bump and in my lower back and it lasted around a minute. Nothing since and it really didn't feel like BH (i get BH fairly regularly).

Is it normal to get one off random contractions in the 3rd trimester? (I'm only 34+4).
I'm scared to move now lol.

That will be the first & last time they’re ironed! I have an ironing the size of Jupiter with my own clothes but I’ve done all the baby’s 🙈 I know I won’t do them again though!

I want to buy an baby electric swing chair can anyone recommend one? There are so many on the market ranging from £50-£300 really don’t know what to go for but I know they don’t use them for very long xx

@Liverpool20 I've gone for a mamaroo electric swing chair - no idea if little one will like it but my friends swore by it. They're £250 brand new but we got ours off Facebook market place for £125 and then just bought new newborn inserts. I'd definitely recommend looking for second hand as like you say they aren't in them long and also you know know if your little one will actually like it!

@sel2223 that’s exactly the feeling I got when my contractions started, the pain was slight in my lower back then shot round to the front and my whole stomach went hard and I was doubled over in pain. I was that shocked the pain made me vomit, and it lasted around a minute. But I was having these constant about 4 every hour, and then it went to one every 5 minutes but I was already in hospital so they knew what to do!!

Did you have any more of them? If you do I would contact your midwife just for reassurance as you are only really early at 34 weeks xx

@sel2223 it's probably a good idea to call your midwife /triage just in case and for reassurance if nothing else.

We washed all the white/pale baby stuff at the weekend, a friend posted us two parcels of baby clothes so we finally had enough for a wash - ended up doing two loads as I also washed all the muslin nappies. I am an odd ball and actually enjoy ironing, I wanted to iron and fold all the muslins ready but my partner put his foot down on that one so we just folded. Probably a wise decision because I'm not sure I could be on my feet for that long!!

@StephD2020 im terrible at the min im hoovering every hour just in case theres cat hair. I have a 11yo and a 7yo too they are not that impressed haha. I just need everything in its place. I always had a idea he would be early but he could be here in 17 days if my consultant goes with induction and my sonographer who does my growth scans said with a big cheery smile ill see you in 3 weeks if you are still pregnant by then 🙉🙊🙈 xx

@Firstmummytobe @Superscientist thank you both. I had one more in the middle of the night but nothing since then although I have got horrible backache.
I think I'm going to ring triage just to run it by them as it's been playing on my mind all night

@sel2223 ring your midwife lovely, that’s exactly what happened to me and I went in to early labour and had to have medication to stop it! I’m sorry to scare you but it’s important you get advice! It might not be the same that happened to me but better to be safe than sorry ❤️

@sel2223 def ring the midwife, hopefully it's just one of those things that happen and midwife can put your mind at ease 💚

@sel2223 I hope everything is OK and the midwife can reassure you.

I'm feeling really down today. I have a large group of friends who keep in touch via a facebook group - we met on an online forum and started doing twice yearly meet-ups and chat on the fb page is pretty constant, they're a lovely group of ladies.

There's one group member who I've always got along with pretty well, and she has family in my town so we've met up for drinks off-group/our partners have met.

She and another group member have been struggling with infertility/unsuccessful IVF rounds so I've tried to keep pregnancy updates on FB to a minimum, both on group and on my personal page, as I didn't want to upset them. I've probably posted 3 status updates referencing my pregnancy and one bump photo this whole time. I've just realised today that she's unfriended me. She hasn't unfriended the other pregnant group member.

I feel really shit that my pregnancy has upset her & maybe I was a bit insensitive in my iniital announcement to the group, but also hurt that she wouldn't message to talk, or unfollow my posts rather than unfriending me. I want to message her, but don't know if that will just cause drama and it's better to just leave her be? Has anyone faced similar with friends not coping with your pregnancy news, how did you handle it?

@heroineinahalfshell that’s a sad situation, I haven’t been in your position but I have been in your friends. Not long after having an ectopic pregnancy my best friend fell pregnant. I took it really hard & for the sake if my mental health I had to distance myself from the friendship until I had grieved & healed properly. I knew that it wasn’t my friends fault & she had been really sensitive & mindful of my situation but I had to do what’s best for me. However, I still made it a point to speak with her & meet up regularly, I attended her baby shower & visited when baby was born every week. I knew I didn’t want to look back & regret missing out on these things based on how I was feeling at that time, but it did take my a good few months into her pregnancy to realise this. In my opinion the best thing you can do is continue to support her without bringing it up, she probably has a lot of conflicting feelings towards it & needs some time to process these

@sel2223 hope triage manages to reassure you! hopefully just a one off and you can keep baby cooking just a few weeks longer.

I’m very fed up of pregnancy currently and especially fed up of my hormones, they’re up and down constantly and I’m getting the rage at my husband for no reason. I shouted at him yesterday because he bent a spoon in the ice cream when he went to get me some Anyone else going mad or is it just me??

@Liverpool20 I did some research a while back and liked one that was £150 new, and then did a FB marketplace search and found someone selling it for £50! Took all the fabric bits off and put them in the wash and used Dettol wipes to wipe down the frame. Didn’t want to go overboard and spend lots as they grow out of it quickly and also you don’t know if you will use it or not or if baby will like it. The lady I got it from said her son grew out of it at only 4 months because he got too tall for it!

@heroineinahalfshell I think this is a really tricky situation. Whilst my heart breaks for people who struggle to conceive or carry a baby, and I do understand your efforts to be sensitive, it's not very practical or realistic for your friendship when you feel like you have to hide or keep quiet about such a big thing, which will only be a hundred times magnified once LO arrives. I have had friends who struggled with secondary infertility, but luckily they had their first child to comfort them, so not quite the same degree of heartbreak I guess. These friends never expressed bitterness or sadness at my pregnancies though, fortunately for our friendship, but I was always aware of their struggle and tried to be sensitive to that. It's hard, but I think sometimes people just grow apart because of life events and differing journeys we are on. It's obviously very hard and salt in the wound for your friend, to see you pregnant and about to meet your baby. Personally I would try to see it as respecting its too hard for her, and let her go. I'm sorry, its not your fault, it's nothing you could have done differently.

@heroineinahalfshell my brother had a little girl who is now 6, and even though they are no longer together and he has another little boy with his new fiancé, he has always kept really friendly with my nieces mum. We are all really good friends, and she fell pregnant with her new boyfriend, however sadly noticed reduced movement at 34 weeks, and when she arrived at hospital there was no heartbeat💔💔

I was about 12 weeks pregnant when this happened. This is going to sound really insensitive, but whilst being as sensitive as possible, I would never regret sharing with family and friends pictures, updates, or anything else about my pregnancy as I believe that I would be missing out and there is always going to be other babies/children/pregancies in social media.

Whilst being as sensitive as possible, you should never stop yourself from enjoying or sharing anything about your pregnancy. It’s a special time in your life and you should enjoy it how you usually should and your life shouldn’t be put on hold!!
If the person isn’t able to cope with seeing these things, which is completely understandable as this is the worst thing that could possibly happen to a woman, (infertility, misscarriage etc) then maybe it is best just to let them grieve and cope however they want to and if that means removing you as a friend then that is their choice as heartbreaking as it is xxx

Not meaning to sound disrespectful or insensitive in this post whatsoever, b it this is just my opinion and everybody’s opinions would be different x