Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

@sel2223 well if it's not normal I'm joining you in the weirdo department 🤣🙈 every time I go to the loo I check just to make sure there's no 'show' there. Totally understand where you're coming from. I also wake up at night and I have dreamt about contractions and when I wake I think 'did that really happen?!'

I honestly hope this anxiety and worry eases when baby is here or I'm going to go neurotic! 🤯

@Firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to heat what you're going through, especially alone. You're so strong, just hang in there and remember we're all here for you

@sel2223 If it's not normal I'm in trouble because I'm doing the same thing 😂 Everything feels more extreme now, and I'm all restless and anxious on top of it, and rationally I think it's just the reality hitting me of how soon there's going to be a baby but I keep googling anyway. I keep having the crazy thought of "what if I miss early signs and I actually am in labor" and obsessively wanting to keep OH nearby in case. Which I'm sure is driving him insane lol

@Firstmummytobe sending you lots of hugs. Since your first posts on the other August thread we were on, you’ve been so positive and happy, I know you’ll get through this and come out the other side. Xx

I’m with you on the over analysing @sel2223, I’ve had some dull period type aches the last few days (I’m 35 weeks) which I’ve been wondering about!

@sel2223 I'm the same! I've been getting a lot of twinges down below & an on / off dull ache, presumably when she moves? I think the babies head might be engaged now but I'm going to confirm at my appointment. I'm now nearly 36 weeks but I'm convinced I'm further along so I'm also worrying about early labour haha!

Also the trips to the loo are getting ridiculous now. I think I went around 10 times in the night 😫🙈

Morning ladies, Thankyou for every bodies kind messages, I literally just cannot catch a break😞😴
I’m at the Liverpool women’s hospital today at 3 o’clock to see their head of fetal medicine for an ultrasound scan of baby, so at least there’s a positive I get to see my bundle of joy again one last time before he’s delivered 😊
My results of the scan will then be sent back to Ormskirk hospital to be reviewed where they will make a plan for delivery wether that be next week, tomorrow, 2 weeks time I do not know.

Fingers crossed it’s soon, I Just have this mothers instinct in my gut that there is something wrong and I can’t sleep with the thoughts of something going seriously wrong.

But if he’s anything like his mummy and daddy he will be stubborn and get through whatever life throws at him.
I can’t wait until he’s here and I can just hold him in my arms and keep him safe because right now deep down something is telling me he isn’t 💔

We will get there one step at a time ladies and I will keep you all updated, thanks again for such kind messages I really feel as if I’m being so negative on such a positive and happy thread but I know you are all behind me which helps a lot to know I have somewhere to come to vent and for support 💙

And also, on a more exciting front... I made it to week 36 today so little man is classed as term now 😁😁😁

@Firstmummytobe Thank you for your update. You are not being negative at all, this is your reality that you are dealing with and need support in. Exactly what you said one step at a time, one day at a time.

@Firstmummytobe you’ve not been negative at all, you’ve been extremely positive despite all you’ve faced! I can’t believe that you’re only 20 & having such a mature & strong outlook after everything you’ve experienced. I’m constantly sending you positive vibes & looking forward to the post of your LO arriving! 💙

I’m with you all on the paranoia & anxiety! I’m convinced my waters are trickling out daily!😂

@firstmummytobe you've got this! You're not being negative at all, in fact you've been so positive through all that this pregnancy has thrown at you recently. Your wee man will feed of that strength and come out fighting.

Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes @Firstmummytobe. I hope your scan today goes well 💕 It’s so exciting that you’re now 36 weeks!

I had my first midwife appointment today in 5 weeks and the midwife measured my fundal height. This is only the second time it has been done (last time was 27+1 done through clothes and I’m now 32+4). I noticed when I got home that the midwife has plotted it on the wrong week. If it were on the right week there would have been a drop from the 90th percentile to the 50th percentile. I know these fundal height measurements are not very accurate but I feel so anxious lately about things being missed due to a lack of appointments. My next appointment is in 2 weeks and is over the phone which seems pointless as they won’t be able to check my urine, blood pressure or growth. Would you give the community midwives a call or wait until the next appointment?

You can see in the chart that she has written the measurement in the right box but plotted the cross on the week before. I’m not sure if it’s a mistake or not 🤷🏽‍♀️

That is great news @Firstmummytobe

I'm exactly the same @sel2223, I've had a some dull cramps the last 2 days and my Braxton hicks have increased so I panicked I was about to go into labour. Im making sure I do a handover note for work today just in case something happens this weekend 😂, I'll prob go way past my due date now I've I've that though!

I've also been having a squelching noise today, it's so weird. It's when the baby moves, particularly when they're moving their legs (his/her feet keep being pushed under my rib 😫). I assumed it was the amniotic fluid moving around, but don't actually know if that is the case! Anyone else has this?

@Fig20 I personally would give the community midwives a call as this isn't correct. Especially the later appointments in pregnancy have been in person especially to check urine etc,. Ring up to explain your concerns.

She's plotted both the measurement and the date incorrectly! She's plotted 31.5cm and 31w5. It wouldn't hurt to give her a ring just to give yourself peace of mind.

One thing to consider is that with two measurements it's hard to see a trend - the first could be erroneously high or the second erroneously low.

Mine was incorrectly plotted too at my last measurements as a scientist it bugs me but in my case only the measurement is out so I'm just under my curve rather than significantly.

@Superscientist@cannotmakemymindupyeah I think I should call them just to put my mind at rest.

@superscientist I am also a scientist (love a good graph 😄) so it’s bugging me. Yeah it has also been plotted at the wrong height 🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t have much faith that 2 measurements nearly 6 weeks apart are going to show any kind of reliable trend though to be honest.

Anyone else feeling really anxious that things might be missed due to a lack of appointments? I think that this is what is getting to me the most with this whole virus situation and I feel more anxious as time goes on.

@Fig20 I would definitely chase this up, at least to give you peace of mind. I’ve been extremely lucky that all my appointments have stayed as normal & not switched to telephone or cancelled all together. I had a call from the health Visitor today to introduce herself & she seems to think that most services will be back to normal by august 🤞🏼

@Fig20 It's definitely gotten my anxiety going a little too. Especially being a first timer, I don't really know what to worry about. Luckily my doctor has been really good about going through my symptoms with me during my phone appointments and reassuring me that it all sounds normal. And starting next week I'll be actually going in for the rest of my appointments, so that makes me feel better.

@Fig20 I feel your frustration- I had my 32wk appt yesterday which was all a bit all over the place. I am measuring bigger but still within the lines, I'm going to try and tidy up my diet a bit, a few treats have crept in lately!

My 34 wk appt is now over the phone - having been told previously it would be F2F. I am worried about not having checks especially the measurements, BP and urine.

In the good news - my hospital have just changed the rules. DH can be there for all. Hoping we'll see a few more announcements before August. (I'm in Kent) x

@fig20 honestly I would call community team and get checked. My community midwife told me at 28 weeks that over the phone appointments are pointless because they wouldn't be able to tell anything, to know whether it was all "normal" or not. Things can be missed etc.

It is completely ridiculous (and dangerous) that anyone is having mw appointments over the phone. Complete madness, especially in these later weeks where they can pick up raised blood pressure, swelling, infections, GD etc. The fact its not consistent throughout the country shows its not justified too, if one can do it then they all can - unless perhaps in extreme situations like towns returning to lockdown.

I would definitely phone back about the fundal height measurement. It is incorrectly graphed and the drop would trigger their criteria for rescanning you for 'slow growth', or at the very least a repeat fundal height measurement first. Almost always nothing to worry about, but why do it at all to then not follow it up properly?

Hello sorry I haven’t really spoken much on this!

@WorriedButterfly I’m Kent too! Just seen that MTW trust are allowing partners for whole thing from Monday. They still can’t come to scans but I shouldn’t moan!

Hopefully this means other places in UK will follow suit for you all 🤞🏼

Hi everyone. It's good to know that it hasn't just been my experience about a lack of face to face appointments. I was last seen F2F in mid-May (28 weeks), my 31 weeks was cancelled and my 34 weeks was by telephone. I've been assured that 36 weeks (next week) onwards will be F2F but it's hard not to be anxious (I'm a FTM too). No idea what position baby is in / how I'm measuring etc.

Wow, not been on in a week or so and it's a new thread! Hope everyone is ok 👌

Some of our hospitals have started relaxing rules - not mine yet though! I'll keep my fingers crossed!

I've just got my induction date for 31st July 😬 not technically August anymore - but sure it'll not be so quick as for the babies to arrive that day!

Had my 34w midwife appointment today and I'm feeling really emotional and weepy now. Talked to her about the polyamnios and she gave me more information than they did after the growth scan - she said I'll have a scan at 37w and they may advise me to birth on a maternity ward due to increased risks of cord prolapse/baby not engaging, and they may also want to induce me at 38w.

It's the possible induction that's upset me - I know it's only a possibility at this point and at 38w it's pretty safe, but I really don't want an induction. I'm being a baby about it really but I'm just sad i may not get the midwife led, naturally occuring birth that I wanted. Plus I will just worry about the cord constantly.

On the plus side, my sugars are fine and the baby is on 50th percentile, so it's not GD and she may not need inducing if her growth stays OK. So i should really be thankful.

I think it's crazy so many of you have had phone appointments - I'm in Salford so a big metro area, and all my appointments have been f2f except my 24w. I just don't see what use a phone appt is at this stage.

I had my 34w appt today. Why are people not being seen face to face? Does it differ from county to county? Thats a shame that people are having to have appts over the phone 😭

Please can someone give me guidance because there's one thing i don't quite get and haven't been explained to, the growth chart thing.. mine seems to measure 90th centile every time. Is this bad or good? Midwife just says 'yeah all good see you soon' kinda thing but when i ask her to explain she never really goes in to it.