Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

@kaxxz don't worry to much especially as a different midwife did your measurement today I think it often varies between them as they don't all use the same point on our pubic bone so that can change it. I only had to wait 2 days for my growth scan. I wasn't measuring small but big but that confirmed baby is exactly where it should be. So I have no idea for the next measurement whether it'll be a big one again or look like it hasn't changed as it's been corrected.

@Sjacey wow very glamorous pic! I took one of me today as 36 weeks but won't be sharing it on here as I look like a bag of crap in my bra and pj bottoms 🤣

Had my 36 week midwife appt today, it was in my house as I'm with the home birth team, and was much nicer than having to go to clinic as DH could be there and listen to heart beat and get involved with chat about my birth plan. Afterwards he said it made it a lot more real for him that we are actually having another baby in the next 4 weeks or so, and that labour was actually going to happen again 😅 I was like yes, its happening 😂🙈 I am starting to get a bit more in the zone/head space of labour and birth now and feel like we're almost there with prep. Got all the stuff for our home birth (pool etc), and packed hospital bag just in case (minus a few bits I need to put in). Definitely all seems a lot closer now.

Is anyone else planning to use clary sage in labour? I didn't last time, but did use lavender and frankincense in a diffuser. I have bought clary sage and was thinking to use it in labour but midwife said as this was my third i probably wouldn't need it, and to be careful as it can send women into hyper stimulation. So now wondering if I should leave it and have it as a last resort if things are going slowly (i.e. very long pre labour).

Can confirm my emotions are off the charts crazy for the second day in a row. Have just had a full crying melt down. Our travel system finally arrived at lunchtime so while OH was putting all the bits together I thought I'd be helpful and zip the inside of the carrycot together but I couldn't get the zip the entire way round, OH came over to fix it and said I'd done it wrong, it was ripped and said this is why you shouldn't touch anything. So now I've been crying for 20 minutes and can't stop. He was like what is wrong now? I was like I'm just a mess and he goes god sake can't even say anything to you now. It just made my brain go into crazy mode, like I can't even zip a carrycot together how the hell am I supposed to have and look after a baby? Turns out the carrycot is absolutely fine and he's fixed it but how the hell am I supposed to do all this when baby's here and he's back at the office? 🙈🙈

Hi ladies - wowser this thread moves sooooo fast!!

I've lost track of who said what but in summary, I'm 100% behind those of you doing petitions - please post again when the gov one is approved and I will sign it!

Good news for anyone in London - Homerton are relaxing their rules on births (see attached pic) so could spell good things for those of you going into hospital! I agree, such a challenging time and I'm still hopeful that they will start to relax more of the rules across the trusts over the coming weeks.

@NamiSwan like you I'm going down the home birth route. I've hired a pair of independent midwives and it has relaxed me sooooo much. I'm thinking about the clary sage - do you burn the incense or do you do something else with it like put it on a flannel?

Must have been a day for emotions yesterday (full moon?) because I was an emotional wreck! @cannotmakemymindup I am totally on your page, shits getting real right now! But we gotta remember that whatever we did or didn't buy or whether things go to plan or not, we will definitely be greeted with our little beans in the next 8 weeks and all they need is us 🥰

Awww @JMill13 our posts overlapped - don't be silly for feeling upset! You are growing a small human for gods sake, who cares if you're struggling with a zip! Women are strong and resilient and you will 100% be able to do things when he isn't around. There are thousands of single parents everywhere (including my mum) who all did fab jobs without the help of someone else so you'll be just fine when he's at work.

And, for the record, if you can't have a good old blub when you are 8 months pregnant then I don't know when you can?! Best brace hubby for the post natal period as things are gonna get a little more bumpy!

Have a good old weep, get the chocolate out and then crack on with the rest of your day hun xx

Back at the hospital again for me ladies, just had a phone call to say that me and the baby have both tested positive for cystic fibrosis and to come to the hospital straight away💔💔💔 I’m absolutely heartbroken but at least now it gives us an explanation as to why the baby has major bowel and instestinal problems.

They may plan to deliver baby even earlier, but i won’t know until the doctor has spoken to me, just on the CTG monitor now and he is kicking away fine.

I’ll keep you updated 😞💔

Oh @Firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to hear that 😕 although have you never had symptoms for CF? I thought it caused quite a few symptoms so I'm so surprised that they've only just found you had it! The main thing is that little one is kicking away on the monitor ❤️ we are all here for you xx

@squashie34 this is what I don’t understand I’ve never ever shown symptoms except when I was a kid I was really chesty but nothing too bad to say CF!!! I know it sounds stupid but I’m only 20 and I jsut really want my mum here and they’ve refused her coming in like I just don’t know what to do💔💔💔

@Firstmummytobe are you there totally on your own or has your partner been able to go with you? ❤️

Ah @Firstmummytobe please don't be too worried. My mum only told me that my older brother has it when I was in my late twenties and he was nearly 40 - you'd never know otherwise! I think it can really vary wildly from mild to chronic so my guess is that if you didn't know you had it then neither will your little boy.

Keep the faith hun, you're doing all the right things. Just focus on your little bean and think that by this time next month this period of worry will be far less and hopefully you'll both be on a road to recovery x

@stephd2020 thank you, hormones are driving me crazy, I never cry so this isn't fun. I know logically that I'll be fine, my dad managed to bring me up on his own from I was born so if he can do it I can, I just need to remember that. Bless OH though he just hugged me and brought me a cornetto.

@firstmummytobe well this has just given me a massive reality check. oh chick, I'm so sorry! At least now yous can all prep yourself with knowledge on everything that yous can do for you and the little, you got this and they will look after you both at the hospital. Stay positive and keep us updated when you can 💛

@squashie34 my partner works at Ashworth mental hospital and there is literally no way of me contacting him as he isn’t allowed his phone, and when I’ve called reception they could t seem to locate him so he doesn’t even know... but he finishes at 4 o’clock so I’m counting down the minutes 😭

@Firstmummytobe Ah so sorry you are on your own. I have two friends with daughters with CF and there are lots of different types of it. One has another younger daughter without it to. All their girls are absolutely thriving and learning so well. They're just extra hygienic families. But they travelled, gone on planes to other countries all sorts. It's never held back any of them.

@StephD2020 that’s what I thought but it looks like it’s affected him pretty bad with him bowels being so deformed sadly💔 it’s just crazy because you think “that will never happen to me” and then reality just sinks in that it can I fact be you and you have to be prepared for everything but I just want him here and safe now because I literally cannot cope anymore with worry💔
Thankyou everybody I will keep you updated of course 💙

@Firstmummytobe I would ask to speak to the head of midwifery and explain the situation - I think it's disgusting they have given you this news all by yourself! I get there's covid and they need to minimise risks but this is extenuating circumstances and you should be entitled to have support there! Please don't let them fob you off because you are young ❤️

Oh lovely, that must have come as such a shock. Not long till 4, is there anyone you could call to keep you distracted until you can get hold of your partner?
Take things slowly over the next few days, I imagine there will be lots of things to process for yourself not just your little one. You don't have to have all the answers straight away, take it one day at a time and before long you will be an expert in cf and what it means for both of you.

@jmill13 well if he came back with ice cream then all is well! Can't be mad at someone/upset once you've had a cheeky cornetto 😋

@firstmummytobe keep the faith hun, at least they know exactly where you're at now and what needs to happen. And soon your other half will be on the way ☺️ sending lots of positive vibes your way lady x

@Firstmummytobe goodness me, you just can't catch a break can you sweetheart.
I am in awe of how well you have been dealing with everything that has been thrown your way, I don't think I'd have been anywhere near as strong and resilient as you have been.
Just keep doing what you're doing and try and stay positive. We're all right behind you.

@Firstmummytobe you poor soul! You’ve had some time of it this pregnancy, but know that you are stronger than you think & your LO has one amazing mama! 💙 I would definitely want my mum there & I’m in my mid-twenties so you’re not silly for wanting your mum! Try & speak to the midwives regarding how you feel, they should be compassionate & supportive! Please keep us posted.

I’m still super calm regarding being a mum but so far I think I’m just very naive 😂 regarding emotional outbursts though I am finding myself getting more & more irritated & sharp tongued which I then feel terribly guilty for 🤦🏼‍♀️

@firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you all the good vibes that you get some encouraging news soon. I'm sorry you've been alone and had to hear that by yourself, you're being incredibly strong ❤️

@sjacey ah yeah I wouldn't be too much stock in the growth scans or big changes like that either, they are knows to be not hugely accurate. My last scan suggested baby is on about the 75th centile, but like you say, at least she's on it!

@heroineinahalfshell I'm glad, please feel free to ask back if there's anything I can let you know about my experience. Yes that could be why you are having all those tightenings, definitely. I was in and out of hospital being checked over the first time I had polyhydramnios as I didn't know if I was going into early labour or not. My tightenings like that started about 32 weeks that pregnancy I think. Good you're not too uncomfortable yet, long may it last!

@stephd2020 haha exactly. Ice cream makes everything better. Feeling better now that the prams all set up as well. We're just sat trying to figure out how the carrycot unclicks again

@Firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to hear your news, that's crazy! I can only repeat what @sel2223 said - you've been amazing this whole time through everything the pregnancy has thrown at you, you've got this.

@MamaFirst thanks, yes the tightening started at 32 weeks for me and that's also when they measured me as 97th percentile (at the growth scan yesterday she was back on 50th percentile), so I'm assuming that's all down to the polyhydramnios.

@Firstmummytobe just catching up, what a run you've had. Stay strong my love you're doing amazingly well. ❤️

@Firstmummytobe how are you getting on? Thinking of you

Ladies, is it normal to start overthinking every little twinge or ache?

I'm 34 weeks now and really feel like everything has stepped up a gear this last week or so. I'm suddenly huge, everything hurts, I've got all manner of pains and cramps and twinges and tightenings going on and am constantly googling 'early signs of labour', convincing myself that she's going to come early.

I feel like I'm losing my mind 🙈