November 2020 babies - thread 8!

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New thread xx

Oh my goodness @StephRae 😯💐 What a shock!

Super duper congratulations on your babies, they have beautiful names and I hope you have all of the support and care that you need while they are in NICU.

I have been at risk of preterm since 24 weeks with my twins (29wks now) and I can only imagine how worried and unsure you must be feeling 💐❤️

If you aren’t on them already, there are two excellent Facebook groups called;

Twin mums in the UK
and
Twins UK support group

There are many micro preemie mums there who will be able to give you good advice and a handhold should you want it xxx

Sending you love and hugs and wishing your precious babies success at every milestone over the next few months xxxx ❤️❤️❤️

Oh wow, congratulations @stephrae! What a shock. Lovely names, fingers crossed you get to bring them home soon. My nephew was born at 27 weeks and he is a thriving 3 year old now.

Can't believe we have had the first babies of the thread! Hope you are keeping as well as possible.

Wow Congratulations @StephRae. Wonderful news that your babies have arrived safely although it all must have be very shocking for you. Absolutely gorgeous names and all the best x

@StephRae, congratulations on your beautiful babies! Sending all my love and positive thoughts your way ❤️x

Congratulations on your gorgeous babies, beautiful names! Thinking of you all and wishing you all the best of luck to get home. Xxx

@StephRae

Congratulations! I’m so pleased that the babies arrived safely and hope they are doing well in the NICU. Sending lots of love and hope you get to bring them home soon ❤️

Oh wow just catching up! Congratulations @StephRae! Must be such a shock for them to be here so early but they have great weights for gestation! Wishing you all, all the best! Keep us updated on their progress

Thank you everyone, it has been a stressful few days. My emotions have been all over the place because of everything that’s going on from the shock of them coming so early and seeing them hooked up to all the machines to my partner and I having to juggle being at the hospital and looking after our daughter at home. But family have been very helpful and supportive. The hospital staff have also been amazing and we can tell they’re taking good of our little ones. We’ve also been told that the fact that things have gone well these first couple of days is a good sign and that these babies are absolute fighters! So fingers crossed they continue to get stronger 🤞🏻❤️

Congratulations @StephRae sending positive vibes to you!!

Congratulations @StephRae, hope everything is going well

I've had a 28 week growth scan today, got a 2lb 7oz little chunk nicely wriggling away

Hi all
Congratulations @StephRae hope you're little one is home with you soon!

I'm 27 weeks this week and still don't have that 💗 feeling when baby kicks. I feel very pragmatic about the whole pregnancy and I'm
I've just been reading the postnatal health boards and have managed to convince myself that I'm going to hate being a mum and will want my old life back which in turn will lead into PND.
I have had a totally uncomplicated pregnancy, I've not been worried (up to now) and am not uncomfortable or fed up of being pregnant. Most days I can forget I'm pregnant as my bump is pretty small when looking at others at the same stage.
Can anyone share any experiences and try and shed some light as to why I suddenly feel I may have made a mistake
I'm a little panicked by the negative thoughts

Thanks

@TangBloodyFastic to be honest... I think some of what you're feeling is totally normally. Becoming a Mum is a huge deal, and the excitement is matched with fear. Im excited about it, then when something arrives for the baby like the bedroom furniture I have a real omg moment! I think that's natural. But you'll be amazing, I try and just got in to a bubble when baby is active and feel it, I encourage DH to bond with my bump - we talk about it all the time, I offer him to rub in moisturiser etc, I think this has really helped me as we're both on the same wave length. X

@TangBloodyFastic I would definitely say some of these feelings are normal and would imagine most of us are experiencing them to some degree (especially any FTMs). My focus initially was all about getting pregnant. Then it has been safely progressing passed the various pregnancy hurdles/milestones/scans. Now at 28 weeks I've allowed myself to start properly considering there will be a baby here, and it has definitely started to make me worried about how prepared I actually am! I've not yet read any parenting books (everything to date has been about pregnancy itself). I'm aware of how much of a struggle it can be in the early stages and equally have concerns about whether I'll manage this okay, if it will upset my relationship with DH etc. I think these are all normal worries for mums. I'd try not to get too concerned with what you are reading on the postnatal health threads. That's a tiny snapshot and people will likely go on there in the stages of being sleep deprived and feeling at wits end. But for each thread like that there will be a tonne more of positive ones. I read one recently and it was a mother who was worried all through her pregnancy that she had not felt any way excited and wondered if that would come. There was a massive amount of positive responses from other mums who had felt exactly the same, and said those feelings naturally changed when baby arrived. Don't be hard on yourself. You've got this. And when we have wobbles we can always vent on MN. xx

Congratulations @StephRae!

Does anyone know if the guidelines for pregnant women in 3rd trimester have changed any or is it still high risk? Last update I can see online is from end of July.x

@wannabebump I was looking this up earlier today. I think the guidance is still essentially to practice social distancing etc where you can (ie work from home if that's an option). Pregnant women are still on the "vulnerable" list on the Gov site (last updated 10th Aug I think). There's a separate list for critically vulnerable. My office is starting to being people back in now (following Matt Hancocks comments yesterday), but I essentially said I won't be back as the guidance still says I'm considered vulnerable. That said, the nature of my work means it's naturally easier for me to work from home regardless.

@wannabebump @AnxiousLady1 is right, and the RCOG confirm this is just a precaution and there are no known specific dangers to pregnant women or babies based on studies so far. So just follow distancing and wear a mask etc.

@TangBloodyFastic you will be great! The closer this gets the more terrified I am (and sort of wish I could go to a pub and share a bottle of wine or three with friends and I know I’d feel better after that!) Please don’t feel alone 🙂

Is anyone using a pregnancy belt atm? I’ve ordered one for back pain. I haven’t consulted a midwife or gp before starting though? It feels good but just feels like im squashing my uterus and stopping blood supply or something..

@Whatinthename20, I was recommended to get one by a physio. I know what you mean about worrying about it squishing things that it shouldn't squish, but mine said in the instructions to not wear for longer than 2-3 hours at a time, so I just make sure I stick to that (and reassure myself that they're so widely recommended for PGP and back issues that they must be safe enough!)

Has anyone had a random blood glucose test done at 28 weeks? I did and I've got the result but it doesn't tell me if it's good or bad. Anyone know how this works? :)

I've got GD and generally they'll call you if you have a problem as they like to move on it quickly

Do your results say normal? Thats what mine said and I dont have GD.

I was told a call within 3 working days would come if I had it.

@Oatmilk1 no, it just has a number reading, no words or high/low rating etc

Starting to freak out a bit now it's all getting very real. Found someone externally to cover my maternity leave at work as I do a stand-alone role. We were really impressed with her in the interview and she comes across well so I know all the senior staff are going to love her (she's more experienced than I am too🙈). My boss is super fickle (and not bothered about following employment law - he already sees my pregnancy as an inconvenience) so it's making me anxious what position this is going to put me in on my return (I.e. whether they'll even want me back because they've found something better). Or if he feels like his hands are tied he'll definitely decline any flexible working request I intend to put in out of spite to try and force my hand to leave (which I won't because it will be hard to find my job elsewhere without having to start on a full-time basis first). I guess I'm worrying about something which hasn't even happened yet and a lot can happen over the course of a number of months but I just wanted to get it off my chest cause it's playing on my mind today!!

Is anyone else's bed like a fluffy little cloud during the day, but once it comes to night time its like sleeping on a concrete slab?!