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ChampooPapi · 17/06/2020 17:48

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peachypetite · 17/06/2020 19:33

@RunnerGirl123 so sorry to hear your update. I hope you are able to see someone soon, the waiting must be horrendous.

Beccarans89 · 17/06/2020 19:45

@nearlyamummyof3 I'm absolutely heartbroken to read about your news, I'm so sorry for the loss of one of your boys. I will be thinking of both you and your partner and remember we are always here to support you.

@RunnerGirl123 I'm so sorry to hear you are having to have more tests and wait to know next steps. I've got everything crossed that the referral will lead to something positive and wishing you all the best. I hope you don't have to wait too long to hear when you can next be seen.

MummyShark97 · 17/06/2020 20:05

@RunnerGirl123 I'm so sorry and I really hope you are updated very soon. Really wishing the best for you and little one x

NaomiB79 · 17/06/2020 21:03

@RunnerGirl123 sorry to hear about your prognosis, what an ordeal you are both going through just now. We’re all thinking about you and hoping for a positive outcome for you. It sounds like the further tests you’ll have will determine the next steps more clearly for you because they will look at everything really in-depth. Take care x

EithneBlue · 17/06/2020 21:18

@RunnerGirl123 Sorry to hear that: I hope that your referral is quick and that you get some clearer answers soon.

excitednerves · 17/06/2020 21:41

@nearlyamummyof3 so sad to hear your news. Loss of a baby is loss of a baby, whether you have another one or not. I hope you are getting all the support you need. I’m so pleased to hear your offer was accepted (ours was too!) but it must be such a weird feeling right now.

@RunnerGirl123 what a worrying time it must be for you. I hope things work out for you, it’s great that they are prioritising your care.

lionsmum · 17/06/2020 23:08

Hi everyone. Checking in🌟

@RunnerGirl123 I'm so sorry to read it wasn't better news for you today and to have to go through it without your OH, it's a really tough thing to get through. Leaning that your little one isn't well from FM really is information overload! Especially something new you haven't come across before. I'm glad they have a plan together for you and you are being seen again soon. Will send prayers for you, what a journey you are on. I'm sorry it couldn't be easier x

Pinktruffle · 18/06/2020 00:22

I'm so sorry to hear your bad news @RunnerGirl123 and @nearlyamummyof3. Both of you and your families are in my thoughts and prayers xx

RunnerGirl123 · 18/06/2020 06:54

Thank you ladies. I'll keep you updated as and when I can, even if it's just for a handhold here and there. Your kindness, support and lovely words really helped me through a tough day yesterday and I really appreciate the time each of you has taken to reply.

Please feel free to move the conversation on, back to bumps, kicks and buggies. And whilst I can't speak for others, I personally wont find it insensitive. Yesterday was a tough day for many of us, but sometimes you've got to just keep moving forward. I hope I can join in with the more regular pregnancy chats soon, but I'll just distance myself from it if and when I need to. Lots of love to you all xxxxx

chubbyhotchoc · 18/06/2020 07:30

@RunnerGirl123 aww that's so sweet of you. We're all thinking about you and baby xxx

nearlyamummyof3 · 18/06/2020 08:24

I totally agree with @RunnerGirl123 lovely words.
Pregnancy is for most such a joyous time and I think these weeks when we might let our selves start buying stuff is especially exciting.
So as she very well put let's get back to that.

Thanks again for all the messages they really do make a difference.
What a lovely little escape this place is ❤️🥰

nearlyamummyof3 · 18/06/2020 08:27

The only thing that's making me feel a bit nervous is when to start looking for single newborn items as I feel like I'm betraying my other little one!
But I think throwing myself into the rabbit hole of baby stuff might be a good distraction as we have the new house now.
I am grateful that I didn't buy anything twin related as a reminder.

Sorry to go a bit melancholy again I just had to vent about that 😔

nearlyamummyof3 · 18/06/2020 08:28

The hospital were very kind and said I can ring up any day and go in an listen to my babies heartbeat which I thought was lovely and I think I will take them up on it.
They've also offered someone to talk to and I think that's a good idea as well as my head is swelling with thoughts.
Sorry to go on a bit! I just feel like I need to get it all out or I'll explode.

RunnerGirl123 · 18/06/2020 09:07

@nearlyamummyof3 that's so lovely that the midwives are offering you extra support. Definitely take them up on that offer as much as you need.

In terms of buying things for your baby, it doesn't mean you'll have forgotten their twin brother at all, you just need to prepare for the baby you have. I think all you can do is see how you feel and take your time buying anything if needed. And there's nothing wrong with waiting if that's what you decide to do, some people don't buy anything until after 30 weeks. You just do what feels right for you. Wishing I could give you a big hug.

RestorationInsanity · 18/06/2020 09:17

@nearlyamummyof3 perhaps it's too soon for you to think of this, or just not something that would help you, but perhaps you could buy something for your surviving baby from its twin? That way you are acknowledging them both. It must be so incredibly hard but you're doing wonderfully.

Anyone else have days where they just don't feel that well? I can't put my finger on it, just feel a bit bleurgh. I feel a bit spaced out and my stomach feels all stretched and uncomfortable. Am hoping it's all good signs baby is growing away in there!

Awkes · 18/06/2020 09:24

@nearlyamummyof3 so glad you’re getting such good care and support from the hospital! I absolutely agree with @RunnerGirl123 whatever you feel you want to do. There’s no right or wrong way and whatever you do I’m sure you’ll have mixed emotions. For me buying things is a way to bond with my baby and if it helps you then that’s great. Any time you want to vent that’s what we’re here for!

lionsmum · 18/06/2020 09:46

@nearlyamummyof3 that's wonderful the hospital are being so supportive and caring, it will be a huge help for you. I must admit following my sons death we were offered specialist counselling and she made such a huge difference to us, it was amazing and just the kind of support we needed. I know everyone is different but if you feel it's something that may help you it might be an idea to take them up on the offer🥰

@RunnerGirl123 what a positive way to look at it, you're very strong through this & I hope this group can offer you support through the difficult times💖

@RestorationInsanity I'm with you on that one, some days I'd just love to climb into bed and do nothing else but I can't seem to figure out exactly what's wrong, agreed am hoping it's all signs of positive things happening! It seems like such a long road to the 3rd trimester😅

Has the heartburn started for anyone else yet? I ate something quite spicy too close to bedtime and come 4am I woke up with seriously severe heartburn, thank goodness I'd picked up peptac from the pharmacy earlier in the day!

nearlyamummyof3 · 18/06/2020 09:54

Hi all we've decided to plant a rose bush in the garden of our new house to remember our little boy by. 💙

Thanks @lionsmum I think I will take there offer up with the hormones of pregnancy as well!

Love to you all you're all lovely ❤️

chubbyhotchoc · 18/06/2020 10:07

@nearlyamummyof3 that's a lovely idea to remember him. He'll be with you in your new home 🥰🥰

MummyShark97 · 18/06/2020 10:11

@nearlyamummyof3 really admire your strength and a rose bush is just such a lovely idea. We're always here, lots of love x

@RestorationInsanity yes I know exactly what you mean I've felt so 'off' the last few days, back to being really off food again and ever so tired!

peachypetite · 18/06/2020 10:22

@nearlyamummyof3 that’s a beautiful idea and tribute. I’m glad the hospital have stepped up.

firstbabybell · 18/06/2020 10:25

@nearlyamummyof3 what a lovely idea. And it will grow with your other baby as well. 🌹

@restorationinsanity I'm glad you raised this. I totally had this yesterday. Feeling slightly unwell but really nonspefic & quite full & uncomfy in my tummy. And day before had to go for a quick lie down at 5PM! Feeling better today weirdly.

I'm hoping it's a big growth spurt!

Snowwhite2020 · 18/06/2020 10:29

@RestorationInsanity I definitely don’t feel right. Work has turned up he pressure a bit and I think the extra stress is not helping but yes- headaches and a funny queasy feeling most of the time and very tired... bleh!

NaomiB79 · 18/06/2020 11:22

@nearlyamummyof3 a rose bush is a lovely idea 💙.

@RestorationInsanity I don’t feel great this week either been really tired and I vomited this morning for the first time in ages. Still waiting for this magical stage that everyone goes on about where you look and feel great and have loads of energy!

EithneBlue · 18/06/2020 11:39

@nearlyamummyof3 - A rose bush is a lovely choice :) And I am very glad to hear that you have so much support in place from the hospital.

@RestorationInsanity - I seem to have about one day a week when I feel terrible (had it yesterday): Foggy headed, headachy, exhausted and very thirsty... exactly like I'm hungover, tbh -- I have assumed it's just baby having a growth spurt or something.

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