Young first time mums

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Hi I’m 20, currently 19wks+4 and thought I’d try reach out to others that might be feeling left out of other threads x

I'm also in a preschool.. By the time I go back I'll be 20 weeks!

I'm quite worried about the job situation after maternity. I'm currently a support worker but the hours are very long and wouldn't work around family life. How do you all find nursery's for those that work at one? I was thinking that might be a nice option with the hours etc but not sure x

@Newbee123 bless you! Hopefully they’ll offer to give you something. I’m on furlough so I’m okay money wise etc feel quite lucky really.

@Pol96 crazy how fast it goes, unfortunately I can’t go back because it’s not suitable or worth the risk with me being in the third trimester, I’d love to go back though.

@Amyyy1 I’d say I enjoy the children side of things. Quite hard to get a nursery that is worthwhile though. But yes a lot easier if you need childcare/part time hours etc you can take baby with you and usually get discounts x

@Amyyy1 hi hun you can apply for a bank role like me which is 0 hour contract fits around children and what times you would like to start and finish etc only problem is no paid holidays and not guaranteed hours

Hi girls, I’m just looking for a group to join, pregnant with my 4th and 5th babies at 38. I had my first at 19 and it made me so happy to come across this group and see everyone supporting each other, there was nothing like this for me and I had all the same anxieties. I just wanted to let you know now I’m definitely on the older mum side that when you walk in a playgroup and the older mums stare they’re not judging you- they’re wondering if you’ve got stretch marks, more energy than them, looking at your young skin, the great clothes you’re wearing and how you’ve dressed your baby. They’re worrying about all the same things you are, if you’re doing a good job, if everyone is judging you, if everything will be ok at work, if their relationship is going to be ok. Yes, there’ll be the odd bitch making herself feel better by making you feel small but rise above it. Being a young mum is brilliant, my eldest just turned 18 and I’m immensely proud of her as she is of me. I had one mum friend of my own age and we saved each other. I suppose what I’m saying is get out there with no fear of judgement you’ll find your people!

Popping in as oldie aswell Had my first at 22 and last at 43. As Anne above says if you catch an oldie pregnant.lady looking over at you it is with pure envy I was in the scan waiting room recently looking around and jut hoping I wasnt the oldest in the room or that people wasnt looking at me thinking OMG look at that pregnant granny! Enjoy your pregnancies and babies everyone, its an amazing journey xx

@stairgates @AnneTwackie That is lovely for you both to pop onto this thread to reassure us nervous bunch!! Thank you🥰 x

Hi ladies. Not caught up on the chat in a while, lovely how many of us there are! Hope everyone’s doing ok?!
Got my 16 week appt today, first time I’ll actually see a midwife so looking forward to actually speaking to someone and 🤞🏻 hearing the babies heartbeat.
@Amyyy1 so weird that we’ve got matching dates, my name is also amy and I’m also a support worker. Is anyone in the same boat as me? Pre lockdown my work said all vulnerable people to stay home as a precaution. I’ve been off for almost 3 months now (being paid so I don’t mind) I can’t do my job from home and can’t do my normal job pregnant. No one in management seems to have an answer so I’ve no idea if I’ll be off until maternity starts or back at work but doing something new

Hi. It's great to see a thread like this, I feel like I run into a lot of people who are on their second or third baby. I'm 22 and 32+5 with a baby boy. How is everyone doing?

Hey ladies
Hope all your pregnancies are going well it's funny because I was a ridiculously young mum! Now I'm one of the elder ones on here at 28.
I have Ds12 Ds10 Ds8 & Dd6 all two years apart x

@Awkes That is a coincidence lol! I wonder if our babies will be the same sex too 🤣

@Camia I literally know nobody who is a similar age & pregnant. I don’t think it helps that we’ve not been able to access any antenatal classes etc.
We are at a similar stage, how’re you finding it? Do you feel prepared yet? Cos I sure as shit don’t 😂

@BabyG08 I am exhausted and my back is killing me. Nesting like crazy but have no energy to work on anything.

And nowhere near prepared 😂 I feel like there's so much to do before he gets here and I have no idea what I'm doing. I found out at a growth scan yesterday that he's measuring 2 weeks ahead (and 5lbs) and when I updated my mom she made a comment about how she's betting he'll be early. Apparently my brothers and I were all ahead and ended up being born 2-3 weeks early, which I know doesn't mean this one will be but still...starting to feel scarily real

@Camia I’m exactly the same! Naps make me feel worse too so I can’t win 😂

Oh wow! Well I hope he’s not too early for you. I have no idea what I’m doing either, I’m going to be one of those mums that just wings it I think 😂
I’ve got a scan on Thursday and all the babies in our families have been huge so that’ll be interesting to see if they can tell. Just feels like a waiting game doesn’t it, nothing to keep our minds busy

@Awkes I'm in a similar position, I'm a nurse and have been off since mid March and won't be working on site or my normal role (if at all!) until next summer which is absolutely crazy! My manager is going to look for some stuff I can do from home in the next few weeks but won't be anything like my normal job even if there is anything I can do. It's bizarre but has been quite nice being able to stay home through pretty much all of first trimester when I felt so tired I couldn't manage a day without a nap 😂 missing the social side of work and a normal routine though 👎🏻

Hiii, I’m 23 and a first time mum! I’m 6 weeks 2 days & just wondering if there was anyone else who hasn’t experienced morning sickness as of yet, should I be worried? Symptoms I am getting are fatigue, urinating frequently and sore breasts :)

@bluebell94 I’m hoping they’ll just let me stay home tbh. They’ve reopened but on a limited service so staff they’ve got working are only doing a day or 2. Don’t expect that to change until social distancing is no longer required so fingers crossed we could both be off until next year!

Hiii, I’m 23 and a first time mum! I’m 6 weeks 2 days & just wondering if there was anyone else who hasn’t experienced morning sickness as of yet, should I be worried? Symptoms I am getting are fatigue, urinating frequently and sore breasts

@BabyS1 welcome to the group and congrats! Don’t worry you could just be lucky like me. I have had no actual sickness. My first trimester I just felt like I was a bit hungover.

@Alayna1 I never had any sickness at all in my first trimester, just felt tired and a bit dizzy 😊

@Alayna1 welcome to the group, I'm almost 9 weeks and not been sick.. I have started feeling a bit nauseous (which started from about 6ish weeks) I am constantly tired, and get a bit dizzy but I think that's because I have no appetite.

I'm not considered young anymore at 35 (well at least not in baby making terms!), however I was a young mum with DD - I had her when I was 21. She's now almost 14 and although it's been a tough road trying to establish a career, work full time, and raise a little girl, what I can say is - I LOVE that I now have a gorgeous girl who's turning into a lovely young lady, and who is quite honestly my mini best friend. I'm TTC baby number 2 at the moment with DP - I know I'm on the slightly older side so hope luck is on our side! - but my hope is that my DD will be an amazing supportive AND fun big sister to the little one. So, in a nutshell, it's been a long hard slog as a young mum (and I sometimes freak out to think at 39 I'll have an adult child 😳), however, it's so worth it! 🥰

Good luck to you all

@BabyG08 Hopefully your scan goes well. I think that's kind how this last stretch goes, from.what I've heard--a lot of just waiting. Especially with the virus and all it's hard to keep my mind off it and keep busy with other things

@Alayna1 I never had any major morning sickness, just some waves of nausea on and off if I didn't eat enough, so I wouldn't be too worried. Some people are just lucky and get it mildly or not at all

I’m 20 and I’m 34+6 with a boy :) and I’m in SW Scotland x

@Camia @bluebell94 @Pol96

Thank you ladies! I was starting to get worried because I just feel normal with the exception of some symptoms!
Also my first scan will probably be at 8 weeks is that normal? I wasn’t sure because things have changed because of COVID-19.
It seems like forever away! I just wanna see my baby and make sure everything is okay