Late October Thread - 4

[DressingGown87]

Thread 4 ladies!

Girls: @DressingGown87 @Jaffas22 @DogCatDex @EmmaA96 (twins) @Parks11 @LadyB90 @Strawberries4days @LST87

Boys: @sunbreak @FirstSurprise001 @WaveStreet @roarfeckingroar
@Mc3209 @KitKatKit @1990shopefulftm @Lolllyf @HelenMarie1001 @Freddie1987 @BS9790

Suprise / Waiting: @60sPony @Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @UpsyDaisy1234 (twins) @Glooorb @AdventureAhead @Elizag20 @justtb @Clalou83 @Sls668 @SJR86 @Flora20 @SamK93

If I have missed you! Sorry!

@roarfeckingroar oh bless you, sending you night-time wee/sleeplessness solidarity!

Sorry to hear about the stress your partner is under. People underestimate the emotional toll of the stresses of loved ones! I know it's hard to feel like your 'usual' selves, but try to take it a day at a time. Sometimes I need to just spell it out to my DH 'I feel like X, so I need Y from you please'.

Swimming sounds fab, and it's great you're able to get out and do something just for you. Hang in there, is about 10ish weeks away for you!
Big hugs x

Wine is 10 weeks and 6 days, if baby comes on EDD. Not that I'm counting . It's hard because im trying not to add to the stress he's under but sometimes I want to scream "FFS I CANNOT LISTEN TO YOU ANYMORE" especially when we're not having sex because it feels like I'm just giving and giving emotionally without the intimacy and validation that brings in return. I'm bored of talking. I'm exhausted.

@roarfeckingroar Haha, I knew you were somewhere around that mark
It is really hard when you're craving a certain level of intimacy but the other person isn't where you are (for whatever reason).
Could you just say it outright to your partner 'I'm here for you as and when you need me, but I also need you too (physically!)'.
Also I doubt many of us are going to be up to much bedroom action once our little ones are here sooo if anybody wants to take advantage of childfree sex, now's the time haha

@KitKatKit exactly!!! But I read so many threads with these awful sex pest men and I would hate him to feel pressured. We're good at communication, I just really wish we could be making the most of this time. It's so hard to translate rationally understanding that it's not because I'm a repulsive whale pig into actually believing that.

@roarfeckingroar that's a tough one. Trust that this is a temporary situation in tough circumstances, it will pass and things will get back to some sort of normal. Stay strong, it will get better xx

I m probably being quite irrational and a bit hormonal and I know we ve got plenty of time yet and I don't think it's the case from my local hospital at the moment. But I know there are still hospitals in England wanting both mum and in some cases birth partners to have covid tests.

I m perfectly happy to get through a swab during labour but DH has always gotten quite anxious about needles or swabs needing doing anywhere so I ve no idea how to get round that, might have more luck with getting him to have an antigen test so he wouldnt have to look but I m just nervous that if he can't push through a test if they asked him to have one and if I got admitted he might not be able to visit then.

@1990shopefulftm I hadn't even thought about having a COVID test as per of the labour process! I had my 28week bloods taken today and talked to the midwife about covid related stuff - she didn't mention routine testing.
So much could change between now and October - If it does become mandatory in your area could you ask your midwife to speak to your partner about it? they may be able to alleviate any concerns etc without the emotions that you're going through.

Has anyone had a glucose tolerance test yet? I'm waiting for an appointment to come through and just wondered how people have found it?

@SJR86 I talked it over more thoroughly with him after posting this and he agreed that if it's a choice between that and missing baby being born, if a test was needed upon hospital admission that he ll get through it.

He really struggles with having anything in the back of his throat and nose but tried to reassure him that it d only be for a few seconds then it would be over and that I m not worried at all about having it done myself during contractions.

I know a lot could change but I guess I find it comforting to have planned for the worse case scenario with them thinking possibly things will get worse when the winter comes round.

@SamK93 aww them cards and gifts are lovely, they will certainly miss your care.

@roarfeckingroar hope your feeling better today, and have enjoyed your swim. I hope his workplace sorts something out soon, as thats a lot of pressure and hours for someone to be doing generally, never mind with a pregnant partner. I miss GIN!!

@KitKatKit hope your bathroom is coming along, ok counting down the days until that plastic is removed from the stairs and landing!

@1990shopefulftm glad you’ve manage to speak about it. My concern is that your BP has to be from your household, but if that’s the case I’m doing it alone. My friend is having a ELCS and has been told they don’t need to be tested prior, but they do have to isolate for 2 weeks. I’m seeing my midwife Thursday to discuss my birth options and Covid. I assume it can all just change, like travelling to Spain, that changed overnight.

Today I have reached the third trimester!! It must be 8th time lucky!!

@DressingGown87 it's cruel that there can't be a compromise and you have someone that has self isolated themselves beforehand and then joined you at the hospital to support you.

@1990shopefulftm my friends all have DC, so it’s impossible / unfair to ask them to isolate away from their own D.C. for 2 weeks. My best friend is meant to be my BP. After the birth, your visitor had to be your BP too, so I might not even get visitors or be able to see my mum, if they keep me in for any reason. The MW said it’s on case to case, so I’m hoping there can be an exception. Other than that I’m trying to not think about it.

@DressingGown87 I m keeping my fingers crossed for you

@SJR86 I had my GTT yesterday- it really wasn't so bad. I fasted for 12 hours before, got there and they took my blood immediately (1 vial for the GTT and 2 vials for 28 week bloods). They then gave me the glucose drink to consume, and told me I had to wait 2 hours (and remain onsite) and then had blood taken again after that period.
As the GTT was at the same time as my 28 week midwife appointment, some of the two hour wait was taken up by that. The rest of the time I just read my book!

I'd recommend taking a sandwich or something substantial with you to eat after the second set of bloods is taken. Hope it goes well when it eventually happens!

@DressingGown87 thank you! The bathroom is basically done and now the downstairs loo is being torn apart! Can't wait for the builders to be done so I can do a big fat clean of the house, there's dust and crap everywhere! How are your works coming along?

@KitKatKit thank you for letting us know how the GTT was as mines next week! That advice will come in handy. When do you get the results?

@KitKatKit thank you! I'm just waiting for them to send the appointment through.

No worries @SamK93 @SJR86 .
Apparently I'll hear within a week if the result is positive and I have GD, but if I don't hear anything I can assume it's negative. The midwife said "No news is good news!"
Hope it all goes well for you both

@KitKatKit I’m just waiting on flooring (fingers crossed for Sunday) then I can get the sink vanity fitted. But the bath, shower, wc, and tiling is all finished. I’ve booked my old cleaner, to do a full deep clean And clean all the carpets once they’ve finished, as I can’t move the sofas / furniture on my own, and dust seems to get everywhere! Hopefully your finding it easier now the upstairs is finished. 😊

@SJR86 I had mine last week. It's just a standard blood test - absolutely fine. I haven't heard anything back so must be good news.

I am watching '24 hour baby hospital' program right now, and sobbing happy tears at all new babies being born.

Happy 3rd trimester @DressingGown87 and everyone else already there! 🎉 October is fast approaching.

@Mc3209 i haven't looked at that because i thought it was a sad one, like 24hs in a&e. Is anyone watching babies on Netflix? I find it fascinating, makes me so excited to have our own little one here soon.

@WaveStreet that's what I thought too before tuning in, but today's episode was pretty much C sections and vaginal births with good outcomes.
For me, it still feels a bit surreal that I am going to have a baby. I know it sounds stupid, but somehow my brain is not quite catching onto the idea of pink squishy crying baby is currently cooking and being here in few months.

I know what you mean. I can't get to grips with the idea of having an actual baby, for good, like as my baby, not just for an hour or so.

@WaveStreet thank you!

@mc3209 @roarfeckingroar that’s exactly how I feel. Like this one doesn’t go back? I have to some how evict this baby out of me?

I will give both them programs a go. I’ve still got one episode of maternity ward left.

@Mc3209 @roarfeckingroar @DressingGown87 Yes I also feel like that! I'm actually getting more frightened about the birth too, a friend has just successfully delivered a lovely little boy but only after nearly 50 hours of labour!!! Scary thought

I had my first trip to the maternity unit last night for reduced movements. I felt baby early in the evening but there was none of the usual bedtime acrobatics. DH knew I wouldn’t be able to sleep so about 11pm he made me phone maternity triage and they asked me to come straight in.

It took a student midwife and then a midwife 10
mins to find the heartbeat. Longest 10 mins of my life waiting to hear something other than stomach swishing sounds. Baby was fine, just hiding like they do at all their scans.

Has anyone else had this? 27 weeks today and I’m hoping it will be the first and last time!