Late October Thread - 4

[DressingGown87]

Thread 4 ladies!

Girls: @DressingGown87 @Jaffas22 @DogCatDex @EmmaA96 (twins) @Parks11 @LadyB90 @Strawberries4days @LST87

Boys: @sunbreak @FirstSurprise001 @WaveStreet @roarfeckingroar
@Mc3209 @KitKatKit @1990shopefulftm @Lolllyf @HelenMarie1001 @Freddie1987 @BS9790

Suprise / Waiting: @60sPony @Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @UpsyDaisy1234 (twins) @Glooorb @AdventureAhead @Elizag20 @justtb @Clalou83 @Sls668 @SJR86 @Flora20 @SamK93

If I have missed you! Sorry!

@kitkatkit just seen you're Berkshire / Surrey. I'm from Surrey! On SW London now but only half an hour's drive on a good day to Farnham.

What are people's thoughts on going for a pub lunch when it's quiet? From reading the guidelines, I get the feeling that third trimester is the time when it's most important to stay socially distant, but would you book in somewhere that you knew was doing all it could to stay clean and safe at the moment? Leeds is relatively low on new infections so I'm debating it but wanted to hear people's opinions too...

@roarfeckingroar It feels nice, to feel prepared. Still more to put in, but I have the basics for me, if I did need to be admitted for any reason. Hope your feeling better. It the social changes of my life that I need accept too, whilst watching my friends date and party on one hand, and be in happy family's on the other.

@Freddie1987 I am the same as you, 'moment where things will never be the same.' I have friends with dc who are in happy marriages and so the 'family' thing. Friends with dc who are single, but dc go to the other parent at weekends so they date, socialise, party, and the single friends with dc who also live that lifestyle. I am really going to have to find a babysitter. I will just miss the spontaneous nights out, meals out, social aspect of life I think.

@1990shopefulftm I would try and have little walks around in between working, might help a bit. Hope your DP is feeling better.

@GhostWorld Thank you for that link. I went to my local convenience store the other day, to scan what products they sold. Its good to compare.

@KitKatKit Glad your feeling better after speaking to your DP

@Glooorb Speak to your MW and try and get some more / better reassurance about your concerns. It might help to make a list of questions to go through, as I find sometimes in appointments I can go blank / get lost.

I am measuring 10 days behind, but my blood infection may have contributed to that. They haven't ruled out my ELCS at 34 weeks (8 weeks time), but have also discussed having a scheduled induction at 37-40 if she continues to develop. My consultant is going to review me in 3 weeks, time just seems to be going so quick!

I'm Preston, Lancashire

@Freddie1987 I am thinking of going for a 'mid week' pub lunch in a few weeks. On a day the weather is nice so I can sit outside. Suppose we are lucky we are coming into the summer months. I think as long as you take precautions it should all be ok. I just can't stand my cooking any longer, and the chinese is going to give me a loyalty card at this rate!

@DressingGown87 I ll try getting up and walking up the stairs whilst working, it's only 3 more weeks then I ll be pottering about the house on mat leave.
DH is doing a bit better today, not certain ifs its the antibiotics but either way much less worried :) Fingers crossed for you for the next consultant appointment.

@roarfeckingroar I’m SW London... close to the A3 so quick to Surrey... been making the most of it for nice countryside walks.

I’m at Chelsea & Westminster hospital and finding the care there so far so good and had a good experience there with my first! What hospital are you with? If you don’t mind sharing..

I hope you are feeling a bit better today. I was really worried with my first that my “life would be over” and I would lose my self but it hasn’t been the case it all...so much so I was so surprised when my son got here how much fun it was!
I still make sure I have time to do lots of adult stuff, have a social life & try to keep a good balance. I promise it is possible once you get in the swing of motherhood 😊

@roarfeckingroar Oh you're not far at all! Hope you're feeling better today.

@Mc3209 Somebody asked me on the weekend if I was having my second straight after. My answer was "absolutely not!"

@DressingGown87 Really hope your little one hangs in there until it's the best time for them! Having an ELCS in 8 weeks would definitely help with feeling a bit more in control I think.

@Freddie1987 I think that should be totally fine, we can all take precautions and be sensible. I think we need to balance our own sanity and physical health before we've got newborn babies! DH and I are planning a lunch out at our favourite restaurant in a few weeks so that we can have it one last time before I get too big for comfortable car journeys.

@Freddie1987 personally I would. I went to white rose today and it felt absolutely fine.

@Freddie1987 We went out for dinner on Thursday at a fancy restaurant that we love. They had put a lot of effort into creating a safe environment - they had taken every other table, divided the restaurant up with wall hangings, waiting staff were all wearing masks etc. I felt completely comfortable and it was so so nice to spend some quality time with DH and it felt even more special because we haven't been able to eat out for so long! (And I love eating out).
I would suggest looking at their website or phoning them to ask what their Covid procedures are and then see if you feel comfortable going.

Thanks everyone, we ended up venturing only down the road to our local which has a big beer garden and it was very well organised! Was actually a bit chilly and cloudy, not quite the epic 'first time back at a pub' I had in mind 😂

Thanks ladies! I think I'll speak to my midwife about my labour concerns... I'm going to get the positive birth book as well.

We went to the pub a couple of times earlier this week as we took a quick trip to the Cotswolds. It was so nice to have some "normality", though I still feel a level of background anxiety...

@60sPony I'm also with Chelsea and Westminster and in SW near access to the A3!

@Glooorb that does sound difficult. Have you spoken to your midwife about any adjustments you might need for the birth? I can see why it would be a bit scary.

I'm back into feeling paralysed by fear and generally empty. Speaking to a new therapist tomorrow, which I hope will help.

@Freddie1987 We're not risking it and have been really strict about social distancing. There's still so much they don't know about how the virus impacts the baby and some studies are now finding it has an effect on blood flow to the placenta even in first and second trimester. Everyone has to weigh up the risks and benefits for themselves, but for me it doesn't seem worth the risk to the baby just because I wanted a meal out.
www.newscientist.com/article/mg24632823-400-what-the-latest-research-suggests-about-the-coronavirus-in-pregnancy/

hi ladies I was just checking whether you feel your baby has a pattern yet with its movements. I'm 24+2 have felt baby regularly for a good few weeks but some days are quieter than others but today I have hardly felt a thing. I know at this stage baby is still quite small and could have just changed position but I'm not sure whether I should be phoning the assessment unit or not

@krissy12
I'm having a similar experience to you, some days are non stop and today I've felt hardly anything either except niggles really low down. It's happened a few times before and I do have an anterior placenta. when I spoke to the midwife she said you should start to take notice of patterns about 28 weeks so I'm trying not to worry too much until then. However she did also say to phone up if there's any worries about reduced movements at any point, so there's no harm calling if you are concerned as it's their job to provide us with reassurance and to check things are ok. They'd rather check and everything be fine. It is such a worry when they have such active days and then really quiet ones I definitely stress about it so totally know how you feel! I normally find when I'm considering whether to phone that baby decides to wiggle about!

@krissy12 I phoned about the same thing when I was 23 weeks and they saw me for a Doppler (all was fine). I knew I would drive myself nuts with worry if I didn't phone. No one minded I phoned and in fact encouraged to do the same if worried at all.
Give them a ring, better to be overcautious than 'undercautious'.

thank you think I will phone them today if its still the same

Hope everyone is going ok?

@krissy12 hope your feeling better, or have got some reassurance? I have quiet and strong days. I have a birthing ball, which is amazing for my back / pelvic pain, I find lightly bouncing on it also gets her moving.

I am on annual leave from today for a week and a half. Can't wait, have absolutely no plans whatsoever. Almost done with all baby shopping too, just pram and PackAndPlay left, but that's DH jurisdiction.

How are you doing, @DressingGown87 ?

thanks @DressingGown87 had no movement this morning/afternoon so phoned triage who advised drinking cold water have some chocolate and lie on side to see if that encouraged any movement. luckily it did although not as strong as normal. midwife said she wasnt concerned as too early for a pattern but if it would reassure me I could go up for a heartbeat check. I've decided to see how it goes the rest of the night/ tomorrow because they are really busy and I would be waiting hours but if it is still the same I will go up. hope everyone else is ok?

@krissy12 mine had a quiet day the other day but i had a bath and he was kicking away after being in there for a bit, might be worth a go too

@wavestreet I don't have a bath unfortunately only a walk in shower but it is going to give me a good excuse to eat the big box of maltesters in the cupboard to see if I can give baby a bit of sugar high to get him/her moving a bit more

@Mc3209 weeks off with no plans are sometimes bliss! Hopefully you can have lots of rest, walks, and just enjoy some you time ☺️ Have you got a short list of Prams?

@krissy12 don’t feel afraid to call them, or that they would be busy and go for the heartbeat check. My movement was dull for a few days, MW said it was down to position, (kicking my back) and said my stomach muscles (which I didn’t know I had) are quite hard and block it. Enjoy the Chocolate!

My back is killing at the minute and I’m sleep 12-13 hours per night. But other than that I’m doing ok. Bathroom starts this week, which is going to be huge disruption, only bathroom too!

I have quiet days too, sometimes he's really active and others it's just wriggles lower down. It's two weeks tomorrow since I've had my NIPT haven't heard anything yet.

I've just had a stupid breakdown because I'm just really p*ssed off with my husband at the moment. Financially we're not in the best place, I get paid every fortnight, first wage of the month goes towards mortgage and car insurance second wage always goes towards direct debits, shopping, kids etc. His job is guaranteed hours so he pays here and there where he can. Now all of a sudden, amidst everything, barely making ends need and preparing for baby he's decided he's going on holiday this weekend! I don't care I'm just so annoyed, his friends from school got in touch about a month ago about a reunion and then last w elk he bought up going to Switzerland for a weekend a boys holiday, we both knew we couldn't afford it and that was that. Now all of a sudden he's just called me up and said that his friend has booked his ticket and hotel and said don't worry you can pay me back when things are easier for you. That's not the point I couldn't give a monkeys if his friends paid for him, there's still spending money etc that we've got to fork out of somewhere and I'm annoyed at the fact he's going! Why is he going?! I just think he's being really selfish right now. We've been married 9 years and I've never been on holiday apart from a couple of weekends we've had away as a family. Now at the age of 29 whys he going on a random boys holiday?! I'm mad. I don't know why but I just am! He's also going on a Friday morning and coming back Monday morning, I work mornings, he looks after the kids until I get back. What am I supposed to do about work? I don't have childcare or any family to look after them. I'm just so angry.