January 2021 due date- bus 3!

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Hey ladies nearly out of room so new thread 😘

Oh phew thought I missed a new thread haha. I went on a walk today and it was lovely and breezy but got bad chafing on my legs 😂.. feeling very nauseous again. Hope everyone is ok xx

@Bubbabee , I got some great maternity shaping/ cycle shorts ( from John Lewis sale) that I wore under my dress and they were so comfy and no thigh rubbing . I would really recommend them. x

So today has been far the worst day I've had.
I'm just going to be perfectly honest bcos I feel like I can trust you ladies and won't be jumping down my throat like NetMums-mums.

Before I found out I was pregnant I would have the occasional puff of weed (not all day everyday just once in awhile) but as soon as I found out I stopped- weed and cigarettes (roll ups) let me make this clear I never ever smoked in front of my kids I would always go outside in the garden and once done I would change my clothes and brush my teeth and hands to get rid of the smell. But it was mostly at night when I would have my little puff so as soon as I found out I was pregnant I went and got myself a e-cig but with 0mg of nicotine so it's basically a shisha pen with flavoured e-liquid.

So I had my booking appointment yesterday and I was honest with my midwife and told her that as soon as I found out I stopped both and she has referred me to the social services. I understand she is doing her job, but after she had spoken to me she called back and said she wanted to make it clear that she is in no way saying that I am incompetent or endangering my children but because it was in the last 6 months she has to report it she said that my honesty would be noted and that some mums don't even mention it until it's brought up on the urine test. I am now waiting on the SS to contact me- but when I have my first scan I have to do a urine toxicology test and blood test.

Honestly ladies not smoking has been easy for me as I've had other things to keep myself busy and I haven't really missed it at all my main concern is the whole SS getting involved.

I hope in being honest I could get some advice and help. Sorry for the super duper long post but I'm hoping that I won't be met with judgement and hate.

@StephS1984 oooh fab thank you. I'll take a look.
@IshaPoet awww gosh that sounds a very stressful day. ☹️.. Yes the midwife is just doing her job BUT it's not recent so I can't see why a referral has been made it's just wasting yours and their time. As easy for me to say I wouldn't worry so much SS are going to see that the whole referral was a waste of time. Try not to be so hard on yourself 😘

Morning ladies, gosh yesterday was a struggle with the heat. Normally I can hope in the heat but I am just getting so hot I can’t face it and just living by the fan. Is anyone else the same?

I woke up thinking yes it’s going to Tain a bit today and now checked the weather and it’s change to hot 27 - so annoyed haha

Haha @MayBug2020 I am the same hahaha! I can’t wait to not be a misery guys and actually enjoy life again. I know that sounds dramatic but I’m just so far from myself. Ordeee a dominos last night even though I still have no appetite but it was easy a few clicks on an app and it was here so no thinking about food too much. Only managed one slice and half of a cookie... so sad lol. Just willing on the next few weeks to feel better!!

@Bubbabee thank you for being so understanding and kind.

@Lollipop93 I know what you mean - my husband said this morning all you do is sleep. Can’t wait to get back to having energy, not feeling sick and enjoying the journey. Oh and wanting to eat and enjoying food. Xx

@IshaPoet they have a bit of an outdated view on anything drug related unfortunately. A friend of mine's husband said he had smoked weed in the past, because he thought it was medically relevant and best to be honest and social then had to be involved. They had like one or two visits after birth I think, but social knew that it wasn't a risk, that it was in the past and it wasn't an addiction at all. I think most people do just lie about it because that's what the situation forces them to do, when really it would be better if we could all have honest conversations about it. Sorry you're in this situation! It totally sucks

@MarvEll thank you for that that's really helped cam my anxiety. I'm not a heavy user just the once in awhile for my insomnia and anxiety. I know being honest was the right thing to do I just hope the social worker that comes will be understanding and not abuse the power that they have and take drastic action on a very little matter.

@MarvEll thank you for that that's really helped cam my anxiety. I'm not a heavy user just the once in awhile for my insomnia and anxiety. I know being honest was the right thing to do I just hope the social worker that comes will be understanding and not abuse the power that they have and take drastic action on a very little matter.

Hi everyone I haven’t messaged in a while as I’ve been so unwell wirh nausea. I’m week 10+2 and it’s starting to subside a little now. However I’ve had really painful cramps this week which I have put down to growing and stretching pains. Feels very tight everywhere on my stomach. Is anyone else getting this?
I find it hard to sleep at night because of it. Every movement feels like I’ve pulled a muscle.

How's everyone doing? 12+2 here and feeling mostly well, almost normal really, apart from sure boobs and altered food preferences. Feeling a bit down due to a tough couple days in work, but feeling positive about the pregnancy.

A bit anxious too; this weekend I'll finally be sharing the pregnancy news with family and close friends, and I'm afraid of some stunned reactions. Outside of HCPs we haven't told a soul yet. Hope it goes over well...

@IshaPoet I think that's ridiculous that social services have been called. Lots of people smoke weed occasionally and I doubt it has any impact of your parenting ability. I mean you are allowed to be drunk in front of children so I don't see the difference. Not that I am condoning drinking in front of kids but still... So sorry you're in this situation hope it blows over soon.

How are everyone's bumps coming along? My trousers have started to feel rather tight the last few days!

10+6

@Skyla01 the midwife questioned me so much that it made me feel like she thought I was lying when I said I drink- I've seen the affects bcos of relatives having alcohol abuse and dying from liver failure so I don't drink in any capacity.
The way she worded it was "we'll test you at your 12 week scan and if anything is found we'll test you again at 28 weeks and if it shows up again we will take the necessary action" I've explained myself that it's mostly for my anxiety and insomnia- I was prescribed medicine before but it had such a horrible side effect were I couldn't eat properly and my mood swings were like a tsunami that the one or two puffs would just calm me.

Again I'm not saying it's ok but I was very upfront and honest about it.

@CoalCraft aww how exciting. We told the kids and family and friends on Wednesday and the reaction was amazing ❤️.. made me feel special haha. Hope your announcement goes well xxx

@Bubbabee Thanks! I'm expecting a range of reactions from thrilled to shocked and maybe some a bit disapproving (mum has always been the "focus on your career and don't have kids till your 35" type, I'm 26). Really looking forward to it overall though, if only because I won't have to keep watching what I say

Aww, I'm glad you had such a lovely experience sharing the news, that sounds wonderful ❤️

@coalcraft we're telling our families and a few close friends this weekend too, having kept it to ourselves til now (13+3 today). I am kind of dreading it - like yours I think they will be stunned, as we've never mentioned having kids ever, even as an abstract idea, I don't think...! DH wanted to wait til we had the screening results which came today and were all fine, so we're out of reasons to delay, ha.

Really struggling in the heat too. Have been trying to keep exercising really early or in the evening but its just so hot I can only do about half an hour before I get scared about overheating and stop...!

@IshaPoet I don't know much about SS, but that sounds like a crazy over reaction. I hope you're OK - it sounds like they are unlikely to do much, but still horrible for you - I'm sorry.

@Carabu1 honestly I've been crying since for the past two days I don't know if it's the hormones surging that's making me feel hyper sensitive but I'm feeling very low to the point where I haven't been outside to enjoy the beautiful weather.
I spoke to my mum earlier I haven't told her about the SS bcos that'll just make the situation worse and she said I should come down for a few hours tomorrow to relax and get a mini spa treatment at hers (my big sis said she'll pamper me🥺)

@Carabu1 I can barely exercise at all. The last few weeks I've tried 1 run at the weekend. One time I only managed 2 miles and was ridiculously out if breath. Did 3 miles last week but that was a struggle. Really hope I can manage a few weeks of normal running in the 2nd trimester. It's unreal how extra out of breath I am just now. Must be the expansion of blood volume dropping my blood pressure or something.

@Carabu1 @Skyla01 I haven’t managed to exercise at all for probably 2 months now 🙈 the nausea has just been too bad I can’t do it! I’m really hoping the 2nd trimester gives me some relief so I can get back to it! I’ve got the RWL app, so really want to get into the Results with bump workouts! 💪🏻

I’m the same girls with regards to exercising. I used to run 3 5ks a week and not did anything since March because of nausea and exhaustion. Really hoping I can do at least a bit of exercise in the second trimester! We can all offer each other advice when we get to that point lol!

Hi @TerribleImagination what is the RWL app? That sounds good!

I went for a tiny swim and a little bike ride this week, hoping I can run again when i feel less sick.

Does anybody else have migraines on here?

@Sunshinedahlia It used to be called Results with Lucy and they’ve just rebranded to Results Wellness Lifestyle. They’ve got some really good workouts and programmes on there, but I got it mostly for the pre and post natal workouts. It’s broken down into workouts suitable for each trimester, which is super handy! Then a programme for post natal too.

@Skyla01 @TerribleImagination glad its not just me finding it hard! I'm probs not representative because I usually run marathons and have been running since I was a teenager - so its very much part of my normal everydY life. Now I'm struggling to do much more than 5k at a time though, so I feel your pain. Wish the pools were open - that would be much easier I think! I'm very torn between 'bugger it its too hot' and all that advice about how great exercise is for your baby. Ugh.