👣 Due Late Nov/Early Dec it's bump time! 👣

[ChampooPapi]

Thread three 🙌

@ChampooPapi we’ve not heard from you for a while, hoping everything is ok?

@Awkes sorry your experience has been impersonal - I think I speak on behalf of everyone when I say being pregnant during the pandemic is a unique and stressful experience at times. You’re not alone!

I really hope you get a Named midwife soon! They’re supposed to help explain what to expect and how covid is affecting things and any changes to business as usual-this would have helped manage your expectations at your scan. I too was overwhelmed at my scan and I had been told the process-it’s nerve wracking as it is without your partner there!

Hopefully by your 20 week scan you will have more information as to what to expect! With your screening results, you are in the the right place, there is lots of information available from those who have had a similar experience to you. I had a link for a thread on here about NIPT and harmony, I will try and find it for you. Welcome to the thread!!!

On the subject of appointments, has anyone had any good news about partners joining the 20 week scan, or am I being overly optimistic?

@chubbyhotchoc I’ve booked a “quickassure” with ultrasound direct. I’m more wondering if they’ll be able to say anything about skull shape/NT as both indicators of downs which is what they reckon I’m at risk for. I’ll be happy just to see baby doing well tho and for my OH to see also as his first child too. I’m 14+2 today and just feel fat and bloated more than pregnant. Been really lucky and had no MS but also just makes it feel a bit surreal like are we sure there’s really a baby in there. Has anyone’s belly popped yet? Or felt movement? Really looking forward to having those definite pregnant signs

@Awkes I asked specifically about NT and they said they weren't trained which is very annoying when it cost £400. Reassurance scans just check heartbeat and movement. It is nice to see those things though.
Don't worry about lack of morning sickness. I didn't have much with my first nor much of a belly for ages. This one is the total opposite. All pregnancies are different.

@Awkes here’s the link;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3886190-NIPT-would-you-pay

Thank you for thinking of me, I've been absolutely wiped out with the MOTHER of all migraines this while week. I'm really sorry ladies for missing all the goings on. Is everyone ok here? Any developments? Do we know the sex of @nearlyamummyof3 babies!

I've been so useless but managed to crawl to my scan which was cancelled and brought forward to yesterday. Got a brilliant picture of one baby, the other one is just squashed by it all the time but I'll upload it, really good leg action!

I'll forward some nipt/harmony threads for the poster who was asking too

Twin 2

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3886190-NIPT-would-you-pay

Hey @ChampooPapi so nice to see you back!
I'm having two little boys!
So will have a gang of 3 - but I have the start at TTS and one baby is getting hardly any fluid so there is a 50% chance it will get bad enough to need surgery.
I'm having a scan next week with the doctor and they will probably scan me once a week now to keep an eye on it.
I'm glad everything's ok other then the migraine you had me worried ❤️❤️
Lovely scan - they could only get one of my boys as well xxx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3051122-Is-combined-screening-the-same-at-Nipt-or-Harmony

@ChampooPapi hey there! oh I’m sorry you’ve been feeling unwell! But great scan pics! Thanks for digging out the links to threads, too 😊

Thanks for link guys! That’s a bit rubbish about the scan but still be nice to see baby and bonus we could potentially find out gender. I’m adamant it’s a boy and dying to know if I’m right or not! My 20 weeks not too far away and can always revisit nipt or amnio options after that I suppose. Trying not to worry about possibilities yet as early days still and downs or not I’ll be continuing pregnancy so my worry’s are more about if the baby does have downs what other health issues will go with that, how severe they’re learning difficulty will be etc. I work supporting adults with disabilities so somewhat prepared.
Has anyone found out gender yet?

@Awkes Sad to hear you felt rushed in your appointment, I'm in Essex and had booking appointment over the phone at about 10 weeks then 12 week scan where I saw a midwife face to face after the scan and she took bloods/weight/height/blood pressure etc. and chatted with me and made sure I felt ok and was safe at home etc.

The next appointment I have is at 16 weeks and is a phone call only - not a scan. This was supposed to be with the local community midwives however as there has been a delay with contacting them (some areas served by the city hospital, the hospital contacts the local midwives and some you have to contact yourself - it is not clear and I had to ask multiple times to be sure) the city hospital is now covering this appointment but only because I specifically asked what was going on with it both at the booking and at the 12 week scan. My midwife said it is super easy at the moment for the telephone appointments to fall through the cracks a little with everything going on and new systems being put in place, particularly if their care is split by area. My first appointment with my local midwives is now not until August and I have no received a letter from them with this appointment after the hospital registering me and then me chasing them up but as they aren't running classes or anything at the moment I am not sure what that will involve yet.

I have not been given a named midwife and that's fine with me - I didn't even know it was a thing. I have only found this out in so much detail from specifically asking questions and butting in on midwives - they dont seem to mind although the receptionists were a little short with me. Maybe next time you speak to a midwife get a list of questions you think of and write them down on paper to ask them and maybe call your own community midwives yourself to ask if you are registered and if you can get registered? I hope this all works out and the rest of your care goes smoothly

Hey @Awkes - @Icantthinkofanickname123456 is totally right about contacting community midwives they are very good at giving advice and giving you the correct numbers to chase up. Or even just to let you know if everything you're going through is normal!

Luckily with my twins the midwife could see at 16 weeks - I was booked into have a private to check but luckily I didn't need it - I'm having to cheeky boys 💙💙

@Icantthinkofanickname123456 sounds quite similar to what’s happened with me. I’ve tried to corner a midwife or nurse or anyone really whenever I’ve had contact but always just seem to be fobbed off as soon as possible and I always think they’re so busy I don’t push the issue. I should be registered and got a 16 week now so finally can get some answers

@nearlyamummyof3 it was the community midwives office I last had contact with but was just more the same. Think they’re all just very overworked and with covid causing havoc. I’m a terrible suffer in silence sort of person and hate confrontation so I’ve probably made it worse not pressing for help sooner.

Congratulations on twins and boys!! 🥂🥳

@Awkes don't worry I am exactly the same! I would never push or argue - you just have to remember this time it's not just you it's that little baby as well: and trust me they got mothers who I'm sure would push and confront a lot less politely then you will 😂

@nearlyamummyof3 I’m sure there are! 😂 I’ll have to start practicing my mum voice. I’m really very stern when needed at work don’t know why I struggle everywhere else 😂😂

@champoopapi you can see their little feet! 👣 Don't think I've ever seen that on a scan pic before! So cute. 🥰

@awkes get chasing. Royal College of Obs & Gynae have said that, & I quote: "women will need at least as much support during pregnancy" throughout the pandemic. And also that we should be asked about our mental health at every contact (did a presentation to 80 people about pregnancy & COVID at work last week so feel like a bit of an expert! 🤓).

Don't feel bad, it is what should be happening.

@nearlyamummyof3 oh my god, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know it happens to a lot of twins who share a placenta. They are very well looked after as soon as they detect it and there is a lot they can do going forward through the next twenty weeks to keep the other twin healthy. But it is really such an awful worry for you and your partner to have to go through, I can't imagine it, really really difficult day to day, you just have to put faith in the amazing doctors and nurses at your hospital, they have a lot of experience with what's tttts and know the exact protocol for getting those babies to as close to term as possible. You will 100 percent be having a c section now as well so they can keep everything under full control and stable.

Obviously thrilled for you that your having two baby boys to join their older brother, they will be so close and you know boys now girl! You've got this 🥰 xx

Hope everyone is doing well today. I had a bit of a scare last night, I started bleeding quite heavily. I went to the hospital and they did a scan and thankfully the baby is fine but they don’t know what caused the bleeding so I just need to rest for a few days and hope that it stops. Was difficult because my partner couldn’t come in with me but I’m just so relieved the baby is okay, I was so terrified that I was miscarrying! The doctor was great and I got to see my baby again moving about and it’s heartbeat was clear and strong thank goodness.

Oh you poor thing! @NaomiB79 that must of been so scary I would freak out!
So happy everything is ok. They are (normally) just so good in the hospitals.

Sorry you had to go through that but the relief must of been amazing when you knew everything was fine x

@NaomiB79 oh my god! That is absolutely terrifying! You must have been going out of your mind, and your poor partner int he car park just waiting to know. That is unbelievably scary, how are you feeling now your home? Please tell me your in bed and your partner is home today? Huge cuddle from me to your both 🤗

Morning all lovely to see all the healthy happy scans I was wondering if anyone had any good suggestions for drugstore facial products? This hormonal acne isnt backing down , I was thinking maybe something along the lines of tea tree as it's all natural but that can be drying. Anyone found any miracle products yet?

Dee96 teatree is actually not recommended in pregnancy. A lot of essential oils aren't. Cetaphil is a safe face wash but won't do anything beyond keep your skin clean. Hormonal acne needs antibiotic really. Mine has been terrible. Very large cystic type spots down both cheeks and my back. Gp gave me duac and then the pharmacist told me it wasn't safe and to go back and ask for zineryt which is a topical solution and safe to use. It's really good and my skin is a ton better

@ChampooPapi @nearlyamummyof3 thanks for your messages it was really scary! We are both working from home just now so my partner is here and I’ve taken today and tomorrow off work to rest. I think the bleeding had stopped now so hopefully that’s it and there will be no more scares!

Hope you are both doing okay, it’s been a rough week for you both too!