No heartbeat detected at ultrasound

[BC11]

Hi all,
I went for a private scan yesterday thinking I was approx 7 weeks + 6 days. It’s been measured at 6 weeks 5 days and no heartbeat has been detected. Has this ever happened to anyone else, and has anyone ever had a successful story? I’m confident it must be a missed miscarriage. I’ve had no symptoms but my tender breasts have eased a lot now too. ☹️

I have had this happen I didn't believe them she is 18 this year they where wrong next scan showed up everything fine Good luck x

@VenusStarr hello, I’ve had my medication today now and back home. Hopefully this will work this time. The nurse in the hospital told me in front of everyone in the waiting room we were going to get the medication which frustrated me a little xxx

Hi @BC11 I'm not surprised you feel frustrated, that's really insensitive :( I think sometimes working in that environment people have become desensitised to the trauma as they're dealing with it all day, but this is your baby ❤️ I hope you're getting on OK xx

@VenusStarr hi, I’ve got to have surgery Monday. Emotionally, having a really bad day today. Feel so fed up 😭 X x

I'm so sorry for your loss @BC11. I had surgery for a MMC last August and it really helped me to draw a line under the whole sad time and start moving forward again. The staff were lovely and I had no pain afterwards. Try to treat yourself kindly this weekend, it's a difficult time.

I'm sorry to hear that @BC11 ❤️ this limbo period is really hard. I got through it by not doing much, just watched easy programmes that didn't require any thought and ate what I wanted. Xx

Hi @BC11 I am so sorry for what you are going through. I have just been through (not quite over) a missed miscarriage myself. I had a private scan at 12 weeks because my nhs one was only due to be when I was more than 14 weeks. Like you, I had no signs at all of miscarriage and strong pregnancy symptoms. However, I had a really bad feeling the whole time and the nurse said this is often the case. It has been the hardest thing i have ever gone through and so completely heartbreaking. I just hoped I may be able to reassure you about the surgery at least though. I had it done with local anaesthetic as the night before I had already starting bleeding very heavily but everything was still there. I was terrified, especially at being awake during it because I thought it would be so distressing. However, I can honestly say the nurses were incredible, as was the consultant. I was even laughing with them during the procedure. I honestly have no idea how they managed to make me relax but they put me completely at ease and once it was done I felt such a relief. Don't get me wrong, i have cried an awful lot over the last few weeks but i think the surgery will actually help you. I hope this makes some sense after i have babbled on!!
I really am sorry. So many of us go through it, but that doesn't make things any less upsetting.

@dancem1 I’m really sorry you’ve been through it too. It’s the worst, I feel like I’m massively falling apart.
Was the surgery really painful being under local? X

No it honestly wasn't. They told me it would be very painful but they gave me local anaesthetic and gas and air which I didnt need most of the time. To be fair, I've always suffered with quite severe period pains so maybe the cramps didnt seem too bad but it really was fine! The most painful part for me was that evening after i had it, I suddenly got very strong cramps and I'll be honest they were awful. But you may have already experienced that with what you have been through so far x just have a hot water bottle and painkillers ready and take them regularly even if the pain is not too bad... I found this made it easier when the cramps did come on x

@BC11 I should have said as well.... my husband kept me well supplied with wine and chocolate.. make sure you have plenty! Don't try and do too much either. Stay in bed if you want to stay in bed and let it all out. Xx

@dancem1 thank you for sharing your story. Was this your first pregnancy? It’s so so hard. Didn’t think it would ever happen, until it does. Still doesn’t feel real ☹️ xx

Yes, my first one. Is that the same for you? I know exactly what you mean, I feel the same x

@DanceM1 Yes first. How you feeling now? I’m always here for a chat. Are you going to try again? X

@danceM1 @BC11 hi ladies sorry to read about your losses. I'm joining you today as my 12 wk scan revealed a missed miscarriage. This is the second time. The won't do medical intervention on me because of Corona but I have to take the tablets again on Monday xx

@Furbabymum15 I’m so sorry to hear your sad news ☹️. Do they have any idea why it’s happened twice from the scans? It’s so difficult, and I’m always here for a chat if you need it. Try and stay strong, you’ll have your time - we all will xxx

@BC11 Thankyou so much for your kind response, if you need a chat I'm here too. They've said they will visually examine the tissue when it comes out but until it happens a third time they don't thoroughly investigate. 😞 X

@Furbabymum15 that’s so frustrating. Why 3 times, like I don’t understand that and I never will. I understand it’s a lot of NHS time but I just think it should be done sooner. It’s such a traumatic time. Did you have any idea this would be the case when you went for a scan? Did you have any symptoms or any reduced pregnancy symptoms?
You’ll definitely get your time but right now hearing that doesn’t make it any easier. Lots of rest and speak about it, I’ve found helps a lot but I’m sure you found your own coping mechanisms last time. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through it again. xxx

@BC11 I know it's not the best support but I honestly don't think I will try again, I'm 42 and don't have any children I don't think it's meant to be xx I had bleeding at 6 wks but the scanned me and it was implantation bleed and they seen a heartbeat, no warning signs after that. I was 12+1 yesterday but baby measured 10+3. I had no warning last time either xx

@Furbabymum15 Life can be so cruel. I think if this is what you want then you definitely have time to try again. It’s a difficult decision to make right now, as I can imagine your emotions are all over the place. I really do hope you have your happy ending, everyone deserves that in life. Xx

@BC11 I desperately want to be a mum, maybe time will heal the soul.How are you feeling Hun? X

@Furbabymum15 I‘ve heard so many stories about people getting pregnant again straight after a miscarriage. If you feel mentally and physically ready for that, age doesn’t mean anything. I’m sure you’d be an amazing mum, and I really hope you have your time. I’m getting there, I really am up and down. I want the surgery over with on Monday then I can start thinking a bit more positive. Xxx

I had a vaginal scan about 5 weeks and all they could see was the “yolk” no heartbeat they said I was earlier but I knew it was wrong. I panicked.

Abdominal scan a few weeks later showed heartbeat.

buy an hcg test online (you will need 2 at least)

@BC11 I'm sure you will be an amazing Mother too, all this is hard to register we know we are pregnant bit yet we feel so empty xx what time do you go Monday? I've to be there for 10 am xx I will be thinking of you ❤️

@Furbabymum15 it’s just so horrible. Have you got someone at home to speak to about it? I’ve got to be at the hospital for 10am too. I’ll be thinking of you xx

@BC11 bless you, my mum has been my rock xx big love to you for Monday xx