No heartbeat detected at ultrasound

[BC11]

Hi all,
I went for a private scan yesterday thinking I was approx 7 weeks + 6 days. It’s been measured at 6 weeks 5 days and no heartbeat has been detected. Has this ever happened to anyone else, and has anyone ever had a successful story? I’m confident it must be a missed miscarriage. I’ve had no symptoms but my tender breasts have eased a lot now too. ☹️

Yes this has happened to me twice. My first and third pregnancies. I have 2 boys (second and fourth). They are 17 and 12. It's more common than I ever imagined. Hugs x

I was 7 weeks wen I first went
they measured me at 9 weeks
wen I went back 2 weeks later
n they found a heartbeat then
but not at 7 week internal scan
so fingers crossed for you x

Hi, hope you’re doing ok. I’m sorry that the sonographer wasn’t very sensitive about it with you.
Unfortunately it does sound like a confirmed missed miscarriage - over 7mm crown rump length on trans a final scan with no heartbeat is diagnostic. Your symptoms easing off would fit with that. Typically you can see a heartbeat by 3-4mm. I think that the good news stories on here would all have had measurements 7mm. Of course you may want to have another scan anyway and your EPU should do this for you if you want it.
Obviously I hope you have a miracle story - but I don’t want to give you false hope. I hope everything goes smoothly for you going forward.
x

@TenThousandSpoons0 hi, thanks for your message. My initial scan was a private one, so my EPU do want to do another which is tomorrow. I don’t want to go and feel extremely emotional because I know what the outcome is. She was also adamant it was a MC because it was over 7mm. It’s absolutely terrifying, and I just wish it was all over ☹️ x

@blessedmummyov5 hi, thanks. Can you remember what mm it was measuring at at 7 weeks? X

I know, it’s a really terrible thing to go through and really all that helps is time! You can ask the sonographer to turn the screen off if you don’t want to watch, sometimes that can help. Having the scan will help you move forward either way - but if you don’t want to go then there’s no harm in waiting another week or two until you feel ready.

@TenThousandSpoons0 thank you. I know this sounds like a really daft question but does it affect you getting pregnant in the future in any way? X

Not daft, and no it shouldn’t do at all. I’m sure you’ve seen on here that many many women have had miscarriages and gone on to have healthy pregnancies, even just a short time after. X

@TenThousandSpoons0 thank you. Guess you just don’t expect it to happen to you until it happens. It’s terrifying ☹️. I’ll definitely be trying once I have a clear head x

hi,

I'm really sorry this has happened to you, it's awful.

I had a mmc at 9 weeks. it was the shittest time. theres no way to dress it up - what helped me though was the following;

• got it confirmed at my epu (I also found out initially at a private scan) and they were very supportive
• afterwards, I tried to be really good to myself. lots of fresh air, spoke to people constantly, focused all my energies on exercise and eating well and gave myself little goals to achieve.
• I started ttc again as soon as I felt ready to

mine does end positively - I fell pregnant again 4 months later.

this is gonna be one of the saddest times of your life and I am so so sorry but you will get through it and there will be hope for the future. it doesnt affect your future pregnancies. it's very rare to have recurrent miscarriages and in most, is a one off occurrence. also, do not blame yourself. they are predominantly caused by chromosomal abnormalities that you couldnt of done anything about.
I found the statistics in a strange but sad way comforting. 1 in 4 pregnancies sadly end in m/c and more people then I realised opened up about their own experience once I'd had mine. talk to people on here aswell who have been through it. I found it really encouraging joining boards full of women in the same boat who were cheering each other on

again, I'm really sorry but know the pain you are feeling will one day lessen and there is so much hope for the future even if it doesnt feel like it right now ( I know when it happened to me I felt I'd never get over it - I still think about it now sometimes and the despair I felt but I got there and so will you )

@tartanbow thank you so much for sharing your story. It really does mean a lot. The fact that the miscarriage isn’t happening naturally yet is making me struggle a lot more ☹️. Just want it to be over so I we can try and have a happy ending when we’re ready. It really is difficult, and I don’t think you understand until you’ve been through it x

was the most horrible feeling ever, I still remember the wait before the sonographer said they weren't able to find a heartbeat and they'd expect to see it clearly by that point. I'd already seen a heartbeat 3 times by then aswell so it had stopped which broke my heart. I can honestly say I'd never felt true heartbreak until that happened.

but as I said I fell pregnant again 4 months later and now have my wonderful DD.

I know you probably dont feel like it right now but it will happen for you. I didnt believe people when they said that because I honestly felt like it wouldn't.

the only even slight positive to take is that you know you can get pregnant. I had to hold onto that afterwards otherwise I think I would of fallen apart.

lots of hugs to you x

I'm so so sorry this is happening to you. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I think even if baby was 6+5 it would likely have a detectable heartbeat, though I see some others have had different experiences. I'd love it to be a little miracle for you, but guard your heart.

It's 1 in 4 that end in miscarriage - sadly - so this doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you can't have a happy ending in the future.

Hi all.

Wanted to update you all.
It’s been confirmed today I have had a missed miscarriage. Thanks all for your kind words xx

I’m so sorry sweetheart. I’ve been through this and it’s cruel. Be very very gentle with yourself right now.

BC11 very sorry to hear that. Take care xx

I'm sorry for your loss @BC11

Thanks all, I really do appreciate it. I’m trying to be kind to myself, and my partner is very supportive. I’m sure things can only get better x

I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ve also been through this and it sucks. It’s heartbreaking. Take care of yourself as best you can over the next while. Hope someone can give you the biggest hug xx

I'm really sorry, OP

sorry to hear this.

feel free to private message if you ever have any questions about what I did after or how I coped with the bad days! (you will get there though!)

or as I wrote before, the boards on here for women who are going through it at the same time I found really comforting.

look after yourself

Thank you @tartanbow. I tried to private message but for some reason it won’t let me x

I am so sorry @BC11 ❤️ be kind to yourself. It does get easier, I promise. Have the hospital given you some options? Feel free to message me, take care xxx

@VenusStarr thank you. I have taken medical management. I thought about it over the weekend. They gave me the medication this morning which is kicking in already ☹️ xx

@BC11 :( I found a heated wrap helped and taking regular painkillers. I also found I wanted to be near the bathroom. Try and rest too ❤️ xx