November 2020 Babies - Thread 6!

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New thread for the November 2020 club - looking forward to more scan pictures!

I’ve also got my scan on 22nd! So quite a few of us that day.

I’ve had to tell lots of people from about 6 weeks just because of work and needing to move to non-clinical. Not ideal but what will be will be.

@Tonicandgin it’s worth phoning your maternity assessment just to put your mind at ease? If no pain and just some spotting it could just be some irritation at the cervix.

Fingers crossed @Tonicandgin - let us know how you get on.

@Tonicandgin I had it in my first pregnancy about 13 weeks. So scary, but they couldn’t find anything wrong and all was fine. I’m 13+1 today so keep checking like a crazy lady in case I get it again. Hope all is ok for you, but I’m sure it will be, especially as this happened for you in previous pregnancies.

Told dad yesterday, went as well as expected. I've been disowned, so yeah 👍

@Hancock2020 why? That’s not very nice?

@Tonicandgin hope they can reassure you x

Re: work - I’m furloughed till end of June but shoudn’t have a problem continuing to wfh if I’m back after that (I think they may furlough me another month) I might go in once a week and drive, I couldn’t afford to drive every day though. But I like my colleagues and I’d like some normal office going if I can. We have small offices but big desks and I feel fairly confident that I could adequately distance. I think I may have had it mildly already though, just before lockdown, it would be helpful to actually know!

I have an appointment tomorrow morning at 9:30 and I now have a dull ache in my tummy. Deep joy.

Hard not to panic.

@Tonicandgin - I've had dull aches off and on still, and I gather this is normal. Thungs stretching etc. But appreciate with the bleeding this will make you more anxious. Did you have aches when you experienced it on previous pregnancies? Are you still bleeding now?

I'm on another thread on MN and there are several others on there that have had unexplained bleeds in earlier part of second trimester also. And all been fine. But appreciate you need the scan to give you proper level of reassurance. Xx

Hey ladies, well I'm into week 13 and thought I was starting feel better but for the last few days I've had lower back ache, mild aching around uterus, sickness and acid reflux. Thought it was supposed to get a bit easier going into the second trimester 😩 any suggestions on how to feel less crap?

Wow @Hancock2020. That's a pretty extreme reaction. Why has he said that?

He said to me when my kids left to live with their dad ( in the usa, by their own choice, and agreed by me to give them happiness as my daughter was having severe behavioural issues because of how desperately she missed her dad) that if I EVER told him i was pregnant then we were done. This was 4 years ago, since then he has disowned me once because he couldn't handle the kids going, then we made up in June, a month before my wedding (but haven't seen him since then because he couldn't be bothered) and the told him yesterday and only got a reply of "why? We're done" and that's it.
From experience I know he would rather lose out (like he did with my wedding) than consider anybody else because hes mad at me

Dads not the only one though, when the kids left I lost everyone. Mum for 6 months and then she came around, my nan who still to this day doesn't want to hear my name, and things have been tense with my brother.

I imagine they were all upset as they loved your kids and knew they would miss them. I live in a different country to my parents. When I got pregnant it was followed by lots of tears as my mother realised my choice to move away meant she will be the 'other granny', the one who doesnt see the kids often. Do your kids visit during holidays or anything?

Maybe they just need some time to get used to the idea. It sounds like there was lots of difficult times in your family. They are probably still raw from it.

It's such a pity they arent happy. Maybe give it some time.

@Hancock2020 omg that’s awful. I’m sorry

@hancock that's an extreme response, and very sad for you. They obviously have some healing to do. I wonder whether they see the irony of shutting you out of their lives for allowing your children to live apart from you. I hope they manage to heal their pain, which sounds a little self inflicted. I'm sure you were doing what's best for your kids and out of love. It was clearly a great sacrifice that perhaps you could only make because you love them 💐

Like I say, mum came around 6months after, and she's over the moon for us maybe a little too excited lol
But dad has had 4 years to deal with his issues, I've been trying to repair the relationship the whole time.
Since they left I've seen the kids 3 times, last time was july at my wedding because I was ADAMANT they had to be at the wedding.
I was expecting dad to react this way but it still hurts.
My focus is just all on my kids, all of them, no matter where they are they ALL KNOW just how much much I love them, even jelly bean must feel the love I'm pouring into my growing tummy.

On a positive... I've been shopping!

@Hancock2020 I'm sorry that's how your family has reacted. Love the little sleep suit, I am decorating the nursery dumbo themed 😁

Hi all! Checking back in! Had my 12 week scan today and both twinnies are doing really well. Got to have a scan and consultant appointment every 2 weeks from now on, so I'm going to have a lot of pictures! Hope everyone who is still waiting for their scan is doing ok- the waiting is so hard!

Congratulations @Audio30! What lovely clear pics! I can’t remember if your twins are identical or not (sorry, these chats move so fast!)

Thanks @Wise0wl ! They are identical MCDA twins ☺️

@Addler are you alright - that looks nasty! Must be a hot radiator!

@Tonicandgin - I hope things are setting for you now. I have been getting full aches and pains - I think with you spotting it will be exaggerated in your head though and you will be thinking about everything. Lockdown also doesn’t help us through this as we have more time to think about things. Good luck with your scan in the morning - I’m sure it will give you the reassurance that you need.

@Avacadoandtoast yes thank you! DP slept on the sofa bed as every time he moved the duvet would touch it and it felt like I was being stabbed by a hot poker. It took a few hours to be able to fall asleep but when I woke up it's so much better and just a little tender to the touch. Last night I felt sure it would blister, it was so raised!

I have always had wolverine-like healing capabilities though, so good to know that hasn't diminished during pregnancy.

I have been watching this post in the background and have been eagerly awaiting my first scan.

I had my 12 week scan today and baby is lovely and healthy, and was very wriggly, doing somersaults and everything. Such a huge relief and surreal feeling!

It's been a lovely day of finally telling our friends and family.

Here's a picture of my bubba. Due on the 26th November.

@RosyCheeks93 congrats beautiful pic :)

Anyone else got their scan today?? Sooo nervous

So exciting to see all the scan photos coming up now.

Good luck today @Pink15