November 2020 Babies - Thread 5

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Another new thread! Reckon we can get all the scans into this one?

@TangBloodyFastic I’ve been an anxious mess about the mildness and decline of my symptoms constantly, I’ve been through every old thread on symptoms looking for reassurance and made my own 😂 my bf is also pregnant and has only just stopped throwing up constantly at 18 weeks. It’s hard not to see that as the ‘model’ for pregnancy, but really there’s so much variance between women AND pregnancies. Though of course sudden loss of symptoms can be a sign somethings wrong and should be considered. In hindsight though I felt they’d dropped off quickly they actually didn’t

Welcome @Crumpettes good to have you, I’m sure no jinxing Sorry to hear about your previous losses. 20 weeks is very late, were they able to determine a cause?

Had my booking appointment and 12 week scan all good !! i was so nervous! So took my bloods ect after the scan then i went back to the car and done my medical questions with midwife over the phone then I called back in for my folder.

@BuffaloCauliflower so hard not to compare symptoms especially if your BF is also pregnant! Any change or "no I didn't have that" will make you worry but on the flip side you can also enjoy the journey together!
I need Monday to come round quickly and to get this part of the worry over! I've only then another 3 week to wait until NHS scan

@Addler maybe! I’m starting to think it might be a boy, partly because DH and I both have a slight preference for a girl! Don’t really mind of course, just hoping for a healthy baby.

My DM had no sickness in any of her pregnancies though, boy or girl, so wasn’t a determinant there

Congrats @GB88 great news!

@TangBloodyFastic yes I’ve got two and a bit more weeks till my 12 week scan. Feeling less nervous now I’ve seen a heartbeat but I do know things can still go wrong. Finger crossed it’s all ok

Thanks @BuffaloCauliflower no unfortunately no cause could be found. Had post-mortems and both babies were genetically perfect, and I’ve had all the blood, thyroid tests etc and they can’t find anything wrong with me either. Which makes it all the scarier - at least if there was a reason they could treat it.

Glad to be joining this group now to share the journey with you all. I’ve also had fluctuations in symptoms, and in all 4 of my pregnancies I’ve had different food cravings and aversions, so I don’t think there’s any link in symptoms/lack of symptoms and success of the pregnancy.

Oh and I’ve been pregnant with two boys and one girl and can fairly confidently say there is no link between symptoms and gender!

Hi all. 12 week scan went very well. Still in a but of disbelief I had a positive outcome!

That’s fab @AnxiousLady1! I know the feeling of disbelief, but try and just feel excited for a bit

@Crumpettes that must be really difficult. I feel like there’s nothing like pregnancy to remind us we’re really just mammals who speak at the end of the day, we like to think we’re separated from nature but we’re not. Fingers crossed all goes well for you this time x

Getting a lot of womb pulling and twinging today. I’m sure they’re just making themselves some more room in there, but it’s these things I struggle with the most. I don’t really get PMT symptoms so my early pregnancy symptoms stood out. But womb twinges I know well and they usually mean bleeding!

Great news @AnxiousLady1 a nice, anxious free, weekend for you!!

How many people are finding out what sex they're having?

We will be finding out what sex when we can. I like everything being organised and colour co ordinated the not knowing would drive me mad! Also DC1 is dying to know to help pick a name with us and to buy a cuddly toy. But DC1 is adamant that it had to be a pink toy for a girl or a blue toy for a boy won't hear if it being allowed to be either way round lol we will convince DC1 otherwise at some point but like the involvement they feel atm surprising really as they definitely do not not follow that rule and never have

@TangBloodyFastic I ticked the box on the harmony test to find out. We didn’t find out with my son because I wanted a surprise but DH really wanted to so it’s his turn now. Also think it might help my son prepare. I don’t have a preference (and if it’s a girl she’ll still wear all her brother’s hand me downs!) but I’ve had such a different pregnancy this time round I feel like it must be a girl - will be interesting to see!

@TangBloodyFastic we'll find out when we can - it's our first and likely to be the only one and we'd both like to be organised x

We’ll definitely find out, but mainly because I’m impatient! No need for boys colours and girls colours in this house

I think we will find out. My husband wants to and I'm on the fence. I quite like the idea of him announcing the sex at birth however given the uncertainty of everything right now, I think it'd be nice to have this little bit of knowledge sooner 😊

I don’t think we’ll find out again. Either way it’ll be dressed in hand me downs! And if it is a girl this time, it reduces the amount of time available for MIL to buy all the pink!

We will definitely find out I think it'd be easier to bond with the baby if you have a gender hence name!

@Hancock2020 try not to worry as you had a scan already with a heart beat which is the most reassuring thing! It's common for pregnancy symptoms to peak at 9 weeks so it's normal yours have eased. My food aversions are defo less now and tiredness easing too thank goodness!

@Fouryearslater my MIL is similarly inclined! We didn’t find out last time and she still bought loads of pink! Luckily her daughter has since had a girl so it found a home eventually 🤣

Just you and me @Fouryearslater not finding out
Well Dh wants to but I really don't! I've said first we won't, second we will - he hasn't agreed yet

@TangBloodyFastic I’m really glad I didn’t find out with my first. Though tbh I had a really strong feeling it was a boy so it didn’t actually feel like a surprise! But my DH struggled to connect with the idea of the baby before he was born and I think it may have helped so we agreed this time we would. I think it’s a fair compromise!

@Hancock2020 I’ve been laying low for a while as I’ve had absolutely no symptoms and I’ve been convinced something was wrong. I deleted everything pregnancy related from my phone and stayed away from mumsnet.
I went for (another) private scan today because I didn’t want to have to go into a hospital in a few weeks time for them to tell me I’d lost my baby.
The scan was fine. The baby is measuring exactly as it should be (I’m 9+6) and I even saw the baby kick.
It’s so bizarre as I just feel completely normal but it has reassured me that you can have absolutely no symptoms and still have a healthy baby. I know it’s so much easier said than done and I’m sure I’ll be a nervous wreck again by tomorrow but try to stay hopeful

@HarrietM87 I guess it's a lot harder for the partner who isn't carrying the child to feel any kind of connection whereas we feel movement etc etc
Dh keeps calling it "he" he might be disappointed in 7 months time