Due end of November Early December 👣

[ChampooPapi]

Hi ladies,

Finally getting a few lucid moments from the crippling neseua so wanted to start a thread for anyone due around this time.

There are a fair few threads knocking around for around the same months so this one is more for women who prefer not to do the whole Facebook thing or join what app groups. Well not quite yet anyway.

Of course anyone is welcome and if joiners decide to link up in those other ways at whatever point then I for one will definitely support it. It's so good to have support across whatever platforms we use as women, we need either other

💪 To the sisterhood

Anyway. My stats are-

Age 33 this past April
We have two children already both girls age 2 and 10
My Partner/fiancee is also 33 and we've been together 11 years,

We were supposed to be having a civil partnership (yes he is a man) last month but it was cancelled due to covid so it's now next year.

Expecting non identical twins the end of November, but good chance I'll get cut open or induced before then.

See how far we get!

I'm 8 weeks and 2

I had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan back in October so this pregnancy took me 5 months on from then to conceive.

Enough about me, how is everyone feeling?

The first trimester sucks so hard doesn't it!

*glad

Well done @Eskdale2004 I’m glad you finally spoke to someone with some sense. I’m still very off food but hoping things will improve soon. I honestly don’t remember the last time I ate a meal it’s just small plates of fruit, cheese and crackers, a boiled egg...

@peachypetite

same, literally just had a boiled egg for 'lunch' I just can't face anything that isn't plain or fruit !

Me neither, the thought of it is enough to make me heave. Glad it’s not just me!

Hello all you wonderful women 💓

Yes, really devastating news over the weekend. It also reminded me to remember the other women as well who joined and never updated but haven't come back. Perhaps they just didn't have time for mumsnet anymore but also it's likely a couple also had losses and just didn't return.

The last pregnancy thread I was on back in October after I went to my 12 week scan and discovered my miscarriage I never returned, it was just too painful and too hard for me to comprehend what the hell what happening to be honest.

meplusfive has been very courageous and I wish now I had shared what happened with those other women in hindsight.

It is not something we should have to whisper about, or be ashamed about, we go through so much as women that we internalise that this is something that we should share with each other, especially when we've been part of a group and gone through every heave, every headache, every mind body and sould exhausting second of the first trimester.

It's absolutely terrible having to go through all those symptoms for 8 weeks only to not make it to those sunnier pastures of the second trimester, and to have lost the main thing you have suffered for.

Because of my experience and the experiences of others on these boards i must admit that if someone doesn't post for a few weeks, I have looked back through the thread for this, I always hope they've moved on, but I know it is possible they have lost the pregnancy and haven't been able to return.

I say a silent small prayer of sorts, wishing them well wherever they are.

It is the worst kind of laws of averages. But we can all take some comfort in the fact that we are now all gearing up to that 12 week point where we will be 99% out of the woods.

Week 11 to 12 is a vital developmental phase and when next week is over we really can move forward and breath a collective sigh of relief.

Also I haven't used @ for meplusfive because I think she probably doesn't want any more notifications from this thread for the time being. I'm sure she's read all the kind and thoughtful messages from everyone but I think this is for the best from now on for her

@hollyjg sorry to hear that, it has been a rough few days hasn't it. Is everything ok your end of things? You've got so much on your plate, you have soldiered on through these last few months with not even a tiny moan on here. Honestly woman you are a saint! Your alone all week and got your hands full with your toddler, which without pregnancy is one thing, often enjoyable, but pregnant WITH twins, Jesus that is hard. Very very overwhelming and just hard bloody graft. You are a superwoman 🦸‍♀️💪♀️

Are you getting headaches? I've had a migraine this past few days that kept me pretty much bedbound, I'm just coming through the other side now, thank goodness.

Hi all sorry I haven't been on for a while.
Lovely message @ChampooPapi I'm sad there has been sad news on here I made a bad judgement and tagged in the post hence why I have asked for my last few posts to be removed.

Been feeling a bit down this week just with lockdown and everything.
Feeling better today happy to be back on here feels like coming back to old friends ☺️

Good luck to everyone having scans hope everyone is feeling ok today 🥰

Thanks @ChampooPapi yes I've had terrible headaches but because I've been prescribed aspirin I think it's helping.
I'm having terrible nightmares as well so sleeping badly!
I think we've finally found a house to go to as well and estate agents are opening from tomorrow so fingers crossed.
It's just awful now as partner has to get the train to work and with this new message it's packed! And I have terrible asthma and am pregnant so worried about him bringing it home xxx

@ChampooPapi I agree it was incredibly brave and I like you was thinking the same about those who posted then stopped. I hope she will be ok although I'm sure it will be tough for awhile.

@hollyjg great news about the house. I hope your partner will be ok travelling

@Champoopapi that's such a lovely message. I wouldn't look back and regret having not said anything. I was the same when I had my last miscarriage, I left all my forum groups without saying a thing... it would have just been too hard. I think however anyone handles the news and their grief in those first few hours, days, weeks, they should look back and remember how strong they were to make it through that time. Since my miscarriages, I have found people to be so much more open about their own pregnancy losses on social media, in the news, even in person and it's great! For some people sharing the news is important and for others, keeping it private is what they need. For those who haven't returned or messaged lately, I am also sharing a little thought for them and hoping all is well, it may be some like to know they are going through the same motions as others but don't feel like sharing much. For those who have been brave enough to share any bad news, I hope they know they are still in our thoughts.

@hollyjg that's great news about the house, yes everything crossed for you, I have moved a lot so I know what it's like and until you've signed those papers your in such limbo it's awful. It brings so much anxiety, moving is the easy bit it's the trying to secure the move that is just one thing after another.

This whole going back to work thing is absolutely crazy. That message was so irresponsible, it's honestly like 'ok working class minions, off to work!' while the rest of them take limos, or everyone else works from the safety of home. I'm really sorry your having to go through this.

And don't worry at all about tagging her, I'm sure she blocked or hid the thread already lovely

@champoopapi such lovely and kind words. My thoughts and prayers go out to anyone that has experienced a loss.

Can I ask, is anyone else still getting crampy pains or just wierd random pains in the womb area?

My nausea has subsided but I still have it, it's just much milder. I really am struggling to get any kind of appetite though. I'm eating because I have to not because I want to and there are SO SO many things I have completely gone off.

Sleep is also super disturbed, I seem to wake up every 2/3 hours, usually needing a wee!

@Pinktruffle I get stomach cramps and little pains around my pelvis all the time. I just put it down to our bodies changing so much. If can be very sore at times though!! 😞

@hollyjg thank you for the reassurance. I assumed it was the same thing too to be honest, but after a previous late loss, I can't help but worry!
I'm trying to be as positive and relaxed as is possible during a lockdown.
I work in a secondary school and have been told it's unlikely we'll get recalled until Septmeber at the earliest so at least I have minimal work stress :)

@Pinktruffle my sleeping is so disrupted at the mo, I wake at the slightest thing n struggle to get back to sleep n then wonder why I'm ridiculously cranky n tired during the day. I regularly fall asleep at work, something I've never done before!!

Well said @ChampooPapi 💖

@Pinktruffle my nausea is a bit less the last few days but like you diet still super limited... I’ll take the reduction in nausea tho which has plagued the pregnancy from the start and been so much more horrible than I could have imagined (this is my first pregnancy!)

I know exactly what you mean @Snowwhite2020! I'm so so grateful to be pregnant and it is something we have really struggled to achieve but the first trimester is so much tougher than I thought it would be. I hear women say how fabulous pregnancy is, I'm hoping we'll get some of that in the second trimester!

Here’s hoping for healthy pregnancies with less nausea @Pinktruffle 💕

Anyone else having awful dreams about miscarrying? I’ve had 3 very recently
I’ve been quite calm and composed so far but the fact I haven’t had a scan to actually confirm anything is playing heavily on my mind - you hear some awful stories.
Sickness keeps going for a couple of days then coming back in the form of mild nausea so I’m guessing that’s pretty normal for this stage and a good sign.

I’ve been in agony with my boobs. It’s not like normal breast tenderness but like a throbbing ache which can be quite intense at times (usually only in one breast at a time) squeezing them etc doesn’t make it hurt more when it happens. It’s bizarre and I can’t really explain it but they feel as though they’re freezing cold when they aren’t. Other than that they’re just generally sore and my nipples are very dark too which I’ve never noticed this early in pregnancy before.