November 2020 Babies - Thread 4

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Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion. It’s nearly time for our dating scans!

@burntpinky - twinges I can cope with but this has been pretty much all day! Better tomorrow hopefully. No bleeding though so holding onto that.

What’s the Iona test? Don’t think I’ve heard of that one?

Hi all

Thread number 3 already

So still haven't heard a dicky bird from the midwife, have a spoken to the receptionist multiple times now and left my details and each time she's said the midwife will ring me back
When do you need to have bloods taken by? I keep worrying that they're not going to get me booked in in time but I can't keep ringing them!
The receptionist knew my name and said oh yes you're on the list for her to phone back ~ it's been weeks, how long is the list

Thread 4 even!!

@Clove20 even if you can't manage a full bladder they can still do a scan just an internal one rather than external. I've had loads of them, they don't hurt. I can never time the full bladder right, drink too much and then am painfully full. The last few times I've just said let's do internal and save me the faff of trying to hold a bursting wee.

Place marking (again! 😀) hello!!

@FilthyforFirth I'm hoping for vbac. DD was an emergency section and thats coming up to 14 years ago. This is my second but his first and I highly doubt me ever doing this again so I'd like to have the experience. Chatting with midwifes at EPU, they said the only reason I'd be marked as high risk is because of the scar that would already be on my uterus so no real reason yet as to why there would be a problem to try.

@Clove20 you don't need to be too full. For my 12 week scan with my daughter I didn't pee all morning and nearly wet myself I was so bursting! The sonographer even commented on how full it was

@Pcosandpregnant I had some bleeding at 5ish weeks and so have had two scans at the EPU which didn't show a lot of growth between, but they couldn't confirm anything, doing a private scan tomorrow as being in limbo is killing me

Good luck tomorrow @Workingmama1

@Workingmama1 Oh no I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. I hope it goes okay and I’ll be thinking of you xx

Fingers crossed for tomorrow @Workingmama1

@Fouryearslater
Yes!!! I am so glad you got the treatment you needed and have managed to eat ❤️

I’m in a big mood tonight.
My NIPT came back inconclusive and my brain didn’t run the scenario for that so I feel really sad and panicked as if it must mean something bad is going to happen (rather than it was just too early for me at 10+1 🤦‍♀️)

My husband is being annoying because he is a real “work mode” kind of guy and working from home has meant he can’t snap out of it. It’s like living with a stone... hardly any response, looks at his phone for hours and didn’t give a crap when I showed him the video of me finding the baby’s heartbeat lol.

So I did the most obvious thing this evening 👍 I did a big cry lol

@FlashesOfRage oh no! When or how do you find out why it’s inconclusive?

@BabyKnighty1

I think I’m going to have to email the Dr tomorrow and ask to at least see this report so I know the wording for myself. 🤷‍♀️

She said to ask the midwives doing my booking bloods (at my 12wk scan) on Monday to do it as well and then submit via her private office... not best pleased with that.

She also said that if they won’t do it to ask them to call her and she’ll “try to run over” from her private room to do it 😳

£375. Not feeling happy about any of it.

@flashesofrage I had a quick google and it sounds like it happens every so often and isn’t always something bad which is good. Annoying to pay so much for it to come back like that!

@FlashesOfRage if you’ve paid all that money and it came back inconclusive they should be the ones doing the bloods again! Bit cheeky to ask you to get the midwife to do it! That’s a lot to pay so you should deffo go back to them!

@burntpinky is the Iona similar to the Harmony? You said you’re posting it back, what company are using? I’m looking to do something similar and just wondering if it’s somewhere local to you or if it’s a company where you send the sample of rather than having a scan to accompany..?

@FlashesOfRage this happened to my friend too. They had it re-done and everything was fine. They now have a gorgeous little 7 month old. So I know it is soooooo frustrating and I would be feeling like you are but hopefully this provides some comfort!

@BuffaloCauliflower it’s basically the NIPT test, a version of Harmony test etc - it’s just it’s the only one they offer where I live. Hope your cramps have improved

@Luckyme30 with DC1 they posted it but because of coronavirus they say I have to take it to post office. We got a scan with it last time but as I was scanned last week I don’t know whether they’ll do one today also

@FlashesOfRage I’m so sorry about your test results. The whole point is to reduce worry, not add to it.

If it’s any consolation, my husband is exactly the same. Almost had a row tonight because I’m exhausted and anxious and he thinks I’m “choosing to worry about things”. No sympathy or consoling words whatsoever. Men just don’t get it.

@burntpinky rather than take it to the post office I discovered the other day you can print parcel labels from Royal Mail website from home now if you have a printer! I just used baking scales to weigh my parcel and it was so much easier as fitted into the post box too so avoided a trip to the post office!

@excitednerves @FlashesOfRage my husband is completely disinterested in my pregnancies. He is courteous and helpful but he's not interesting in the weekly updates etc. He never has any interest in the bumps and whenever I have tried to let him feel kicking or the baby rolling over he says it gives him the creeps. His favourite part of pregnancy is about 2yrs after it's over 😂 it's just not the same for them, it doesn't affect their lives until baby arrives, whereas for us it is all consuming.

Hi! Just catching up on this new feed ☺️ got my booking in letter yesterday! I'll be 13+3. Bit bummed I have to wait much longer than 12 weeks. Can I just ask, can I request to be scanned first in my appointment before bloods and other questions? Only last time I went for my 12 week scan I found out I'd lost the baby around 10 weeks.

It's only two weeks away but I can already feel my blood pressure rising thinking about it and being alone.

Did anyone else's letters or paperwork not even mention covid19 or that husbands/ partners can not attend? Only asking because none of my paperwork mentioned anything. Just the normal stuff.

Finding it hard to concentrate to work until I get to my scan lol glad I have this message board. It really helps

@futuredreams my scan letter didn’t mention anything either, but I’m going to phone the day before I go to double check if my DH can attend. I know it’ll be a no but I’m still going to ask.
I’m terrified of it being bad news and I just don’t know how i’ll cope without him there if it is

Sorry I can’t get it to tag you. Damn app. @jeleigh I phoned them yesterday to check because I thought to myself there’s no way they wouldn’t be warning people through the best way possible. Turns out that’s exactly what they’re doing. My husband can’t come and I queried why a simple printout with that information wasn’t included in the many pieces of paper I got or leaflets. All she said was it’s on the internet. I was a bit annoyed because she was being very passive. I also know there are also no signs on the doors into maternity stating this because I had to go for an early scan. I just find it really bad they don’t just give all information straight up so people aren’t upset and have time to digest the fact they will be alone.

@futuredreams I’ve received many letters for different things, but it’s the exact same template, just with different appt dates lol. If I wasn’t told by the midwife what these appts were for, I would have no idea!

I had to check my hospital’s website to double check about the current situation. I’m pretty certain no hospital will allow partners to attend. It’s not essential unfortunately for us.

@calimommy at least we’re not alone ! Ha ha. That said, many husbands are very wonderful during pregnancy, it’s not ALL men, and mine is amazing in many ways, just not sympathy / empathy.