November 2020 Babies - Thread 4

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Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion. It’s nearly time for our dating scans!

@Pippop21 good luck my dear!

Thank you hunni xx

I'm so sorry ladies I feel like I've opened a big can of worms that no body wanted opening 🥺

@MissSparkles81and @MoreGinPlease2020 here’s the link www.facebook.com/gemma.howe.12 and she will add you. It was posted a few pages back. Or pm me and I will add you.

@ACatCalledLola I think @littlegem84 has accepted my friend request - someone has anyway 😬

New here, Due 16th Nov. Have you guys all had confirmation of midwife apts and dating scans and what not? I'm 9w +5 and still havent heard anything, will hopefully hear early next week but my anxiety has gone through the roof after 6 weeks of just praying everything is okay 🙈

Oh great @MoreGinPlease2020. I’m sure you’ll be on soon!
@Pippop21 I hope your scan goes well.
11 weeks today and after a couple of days off I feel so sick again. My scan is another two weeks away so I’m anxiously counting down the days.

@ftmNov20 Welcome! I've had my booking in appointment date which is in 2 weeks (I'll be 10+1) but I don't have a scan date yet. I remember last time around they didn't send that until after the booking in appointment, but that was when I was 8 weeks and the scan was just past 12 weeks so I'm hoping they're more prompt this time around.

Hi! Everyone who has sent me a request should have now had an invite to the Facebook group but let me know if it hasn’t appeared! 😀

Whenever I eat my digestive system seems to savagely attack the food sending my tummy nuts! Is anybody else having this?

@Hancock2020 don’t worry, this is a safe place to vent and no one minds. I’m struggling with it all too. I’ve been off work sick for 5 weeks with this damn morning sickness (which now seems to be lessening thank god!) and have no idea how I am going to wfh next week with my husband wfh too and looking after our 19 month old DC.

Same time worried about my job as I am now a cost to the business rather than someone who earns them money and an easy target I think. I’ve only about 6 months to work until Mat leave. We have no protection where I live either so if they laid me off I’d be screwed unless I could prove it was discriminatory which I think would be hard as I would be the only one in the “pool”.

I keep cursing hsving got pregnant now whilst at the same time being grateful to be pregnant. And I just am failing to see an end to this situation. I miss my friends. I miss going out for lunch/dinner, “popping” to the shop. Baking (we can’t get flour). I miss going to the office and the banter. I think I am going to miss (as been off sick since kick down) hsving the divide between work and home. I miss being able to make plans. It just feels so so surreal.

I also don’t want to be a Debbie downer but I think it’s hard with all the hormones and worries pregnancy brings anyway to cope with this too.

On the flip side, as my mum says “things never stay the same” so this WILL go away, it’s just a matter of when, which no one knows. Some good signs in Italy and France though apparently with some non essential shops/services now allowed to re-open. So I think we have to try our level best to hold onto these small glimmers of hope.

It WILL change and life WILL go back to normal. And boy am I going to party (probably shattered partying but still) once it does abd this baby is born!

@hancock2020

I've said this before but I'm a trustee for a perinatal mental health charity. Whilst I'm not clinical,I can assure you that no one ever wants to remove a child from a parent with mental health issues. In fact it's only ever a very last resort if the baby is in danger. In fact my charity doesn't even deal with these cases, they would refer them and notify trustees - they're so incredibly rare that in the year I've supported them we have never had one case even close to it and we've supported countless women.

Support is focused on the mother and whole family to help them recover.

@ftmNov20 same due date as me. Have you spoken to your midwife at all or doctor? I had to fill out a form online to let them know and then a midwife called to book my first appointment. It was at that appointment shes requested my scan but I'm still waiting on the letter through.

@Pippop21 hope you get on ok tomorrow. Good luck.

@littlegem84 Ive just sent you a friend request on fb 💞

So, I have my dating scan next week. Only my partner and I currently know I'm expecting. A few weeks ago, I had horrendous cramps one night, followed by a slight bleed the following morning. I honestly thought I was miscarriage but there has been nothing untoward since. I'm resigned to the fact that I may no longer be pregnant, just holding my breath until the scan and hoping.

Anyway, all being well, I am pregnant and then will come the part of telling family and friends! But is anyone else dreading the, "OH (other half), you were bored during lockdown" wink, wink type comments?! We found out about the pregnancy in Feb, just before this pandemic broke, and it was planned but I don't think anyone will buy that grin.

Anyone else still to break the news?!

I think I may have accidentally given the game away on face book 🙄 I asked a pram company for some prices and now one of my friends has commented 😬

My parents know, and my best friend. But other than that no one knows yet. Hopefully after the results of the harmony test, and scan next week, we will be able to tell the husband’s parents.

@4thTimer 20% of pregnancies have some bleeding that isn’t an indication of miscarriage and the baby is fine. Can be caused by lots of different things. If it wasn’t much and you haven’t had it again the chances are good!

But I get the anxiety. My symptoms have been getting better and better for weeks and it’s hard not to think something will be wrong, even though I know lots of women have low symptom pregnancies and are fine (including my mum!)

Fingers crossed for you. I have another 3 weeks to wait 😬

@4thTimer yes I've also been thinking we're bound to get the lockdown baby comments!! I mean the maths for me doesn't even work out and we knew a couple of weeks before lockdown but still very much expecting it...
I hope everything is ok at your scan x

@4thTimer I hope your scan goes well. Bleeding can be completely normal and several people have had it on here and everything’s been fine. I was wondering about the comments too although if anyone does the maths then they will realise that it’s actually a Valentine’s Day baby. We haven’t told anyone yet so it will be interesting to see.

@Hancock20 It may have been accidental but what a way to out yourself! I love it!

@Hancock2020 asking for a friend?! 😂

@4thTimer I'm also dreading the lockdown comments. We were TTC for 2 years and I know I'm probably being hormonal and unreasonable but I feel like I'll get quite irritated by people making those jokes. I found out a couple of weeks before lockdown! Good luck with your scan hope it all goes really well!

So I managed to walk into the corner of our bedroom wall on my 50th trip fir a wee in the middle of the night. Absolutely twatted my head and then barely slept! What fun!