November 2020 Babies - Thread 4

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Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion. It’s nearly time for our dating scans!

@Hancock2020 I reckon we are all fed up. This was not the best time to get pregnant, but how were we to know right! I don’t even go shopping, as I know we are vulnerable, so DH does it once a week. On a positive note, we have our DH’s and (some of us) DC home with us and our baby’s to look forward to! Can’t believe it’s been nearly a month of lockdown.

Hi @rainbows20, I'm due 21st with my first and definitely very unmotivated!! Hoping I start to get some energy back soon as also no idea how I'd cope with work at the minute. I seem to spend 80% of the day sat in the same spot on the sofa dozing off and being very unproductive!

Hi ladies,

Glad we have this to talk to one another.

@Bluebell2020 Yes I'm exactly the same sofa all day, nap then bed It's good to know others feel the same though, felt like I was letting myself go

@bluebell94 I have the same due date as you and am feeling exactly the same. I had a three hour nap the other day which was my own personal best
I am a teacher and as of Monday I’m supposed to be teaching virtually all day and have no idea how I’m going to cope!

@jeleigh I think if there was an issue with your blood test results, you would've had a call from the midwife. Consultant appointments can be for loads of reasons. Have you got other children? It could be something from previous births? Or any other health conditions?

@jeleigh hmm I'm not sure but can understand why you'd be worried as I get anxious easily too. Can you ring your midwife and ask for your blood results? I'd have thought they'd have to tell you what the appointment is if you ask? Other option maybe ring the antenatal clinic phone number they may be able to tell you what clinic it is eg diabetes etc?

You had questions about a book you wrote? Can't be a very good book then.

Hey everyone trying to keep up with the thread you ladies are a chatty bunch!

I have my booking appointment on Monday, instructions were to attend in person however this morning I had an email saying it would be over the phone now and to expect a call. Suits me! I am avoiding going out as much as possible and was feeling anxious at the thought of going into my local hospital. In fact this entire pregnancy has got me feeling extremely anxious. Even if it wasn’t for coronavirus (which has made me feel even more worried) This is an IVF pregnancy so it feels like throughout the entire period of treatment right up until now I’m constantly worried/anxious. It’s emotionally exhausting!

And yes I do feel unmotivated as others have mentioned, especially with working from home I just don’t have the motivation. I’m
Glad none of my colleagues get to see me as i also have quite a bump and I won’t be telling work until I get past 12 weeks

By the way thanks for adding me to the FB group!

@Pippop21 I hope your scan went ok? I just wanted to say that I had 3 mcs and then my 4th pregnancy was absolutely fine. And I had zero symptoms apart from a bit of spotting at 5 weeks (brown blood) and then cramps throughout the first trimester. No sickness at all and not even sore boobs! I had a beautiful son who was perfectly healthy so none of what you’re describing has to mean bad news.

In this pregnancy I’ve had awful nausea that keeps coming and going, sore boobs, acne, a massive bleed and really bad cramps, and extreme anxiety and yet baby seems ok so far 🤷🏼‍♀️.

It’s so weird how two pregnancies can be so different! I’m convinced it’s a girl this time.

@Pink15 @NoseringGirl thanks ladies. I haven’t got any health conditions, I’m not overweight or anything like that. The only things I said yes to health wise at my booking appointment was previous issues with mental health, I had an early miscarriage in January, and my late father having heart problems. I just didn’t think any of those would warrant a visit to the consulatant but I could be completely wrong. It’s obviously panicked me, but I suppose if it was serious they would see me before I was 14 weeks?
I’m going to ring and find out first thing Monday. I was only just starting to relax knowing my scan is 9 days away then I’m straight back in to panic mode. Pregnancy is a rollercoaster 😂

I’ve now started mega coughing which is a pain in the arse. Had a bit of a cough weeks ago (was self isolating before the lockdown) which didn’t turn into anything, then a bit of low grade cough for a while that I know to be asthma/anxiety because it’s a common feature in my life! But now it’s properly going for it. Coughing and retching and feeling headachy as well, some sneezing. No fever though. I could really do without this just as my anxiety is calming

@jeleigh I think it's likely to be mental health related! I've had some mental health issues and the midwife said that even though I've been in remission for a while, the consultant might speak to me about it when I see them (I need to see them anyway as my eldest was borderline low birth weight and I've had previous gestation diabetes). It's just to see how you're feeling and if you need support from the perinatal mental health team (who in my experience are incredible). Pregnancy definitely is a rollercoaster!

@NoseringGirl that’s made me feel a lot better. I did report quite serious mental health issues, most of which I’ve recovered from or were a few years ago so I can understand why they would want to see me. It’s nice to know that there’ll be specialist support there if I need it

@jeleigh I also have a history of serious mental health problem, though I’ve been pretty much fine for the best part of a decade. Will be interesting to see if they direct me anywhere as well

@jeleigh i mentioned my mental health issues to the mw- easier over the phone somehow than doing it in person! She signposted me to their perinatal mental health team, they’ll ring/send a letter. I was too scared in my first pregnancy to admit to having issues! This time round i needed to as i’m on meds already and have been in a dark spot prior to finding out i was pregnant. Its good to know there is support out there.

I was doing ok with my mental health until we got locked up. Now it's just like what's the point in anything? I dont want to get dressed, I dont want to eat (I m making myself eat dont want to hurt baby) and just cant be bothered

I think we dont tell the MW because we think they'll tell social services to take the babies away if we do. Or at least that's my opinion

@Hancock2020 I can tell you for a fact the last thing social services want to do is take someone’s baby away. Depression during and after birth is really common and needs support. Please speak to your midwife if you’re feeling down, they want to help

I can definitely reassure anyone worried about being honest about there mental health is nothing to be afraid of, I've had some serious issues in the past and also after the birth of each of my babies. I've had nothing but excellent support from midwives, health visitors and the perinatal mental health team. No social services involvement whatsoever. My children are doing really well and so am I.

Afternoon ladies , catching up with the thread. I have been a bit quiet recently but last night we had our private scan and seen a happy healthy wee baby measuring bang on for my dates (9 weeks today)

Anxiety is still rearing its ugly head but I think that was mainly due to getting to 8 weeks where we had our loss last year.

I think I might be ready to join the fb group now ... how do I find it? x

@Hancock2020 I'm not just fed up I'm fucking fuming. I'm raging at the arsehole who either ate that animal or who let the virus out of the lab (depending on which story we are to believe). My children are lucky, we have a big house and large garden and can go out for walks as often as we like but this is all just bullshit. We have been doing exactly what we are told (stay home, shop every 1-2 weeks -which is no mean feat when you have three boys who are "starbing" every hour. Realistically we need to buy a cow for the volume of milk which is consumed.) we have done this for 5 flaming weeks and yet the curve where we are is still rising SO WHAT THE HELL IS EVERYONE ELSE DOING?? I try to see it as a 'war time' where nothing/anything goes, this is not normal, we are lucky to be safe in our homes and not worried about a bomb falling on our beds or my family being dragged from our home, but I have absolutely reached my limit. We are so lucky that I don't work because I don't know how people who both work are managing to do so and look after their children. It is an impossibility. We never see my husband, even more so than when he commuted to the office. He goes into the study and vanishes. I'm also sick to my eye teeth of people without children criticising parents who bemoaned the loss of schools/child care. This is not about not wanting to spend time entertaining your children, our whole lives are structured around education, work and socialisation. Keeping children alone and indoors goes against everything society has geared us and them towards. So yes it was a huge shift in normality and even for me as a SAHM it took a week or more of adjustment and creating a new routine to find out how we were going to get through each day. I will say though, the children have been absolutely brilliant through this. They are far more adaptive than adults. Right, I think I have bored you all enough now, sorry for the rant but thanks for listening haha

Social services called me once, as DS had an accident at home and I called 999. The paramedics decided to report me, because I let DS take a nap and was apparently reluctant to go to the hospital (I was in shock, had to change his poo first and pack some stuff, geez). I also think it’s because I look like a young mum, even though I’m far from one lol. I should have known when the paramedic asked me in the ambulance if I was ‘alone at home’. Annoying, I’d think twice if I ever had to call again.

@HarrietM87 o have my scan tomorrow ar 12pm, i think i have found baby on my doppler im 8+3 and im 86% sure its baby so i feel a bit better after that (its deffo not mine own, this is much fast as my own is just above the spot where i found baby and a tiny movement upwards and it flips back to mine) xx

@littlegem84 Can you add me to the FB group please? I'll try to add you now.