November 2020 Babies - Thread 4

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Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion. It’s nearly time for our dating scans!

@LouLouP7 of course you can join the Facebook group! If you add me www.facebook.com/gemma.howe.12, I’ll invite you 😀

I’m feeling so sorry for myself today. Nausea has kicked in and I’m incapable of any movement without wanting to hurl. I’m struggling to look after my DD without the usual distractions of play dates/cafes/soft play and feel like I’m letting her down. DH is being a dream, but I’m also feeling bad there because he’s meant to be full-time WFH!

Has anyone come out the other side of the sickness yet? Or want to join in my moan? I’m 8 weeks now and hoping I’m one of the lucky ones and it eases at week 9-10!

I feel like my sickness has eased a lot. I don’t seem to have to eat as often. Currently 10+2. Still having food aversions though. Dinner time is a nightmare 😂

My sickness has also eased a lot. I am 11 weeks today. It eased at about 9 weeks and then came and went, a few rough days followed by a few good days. After a bit you will figure out what calms it. For me it is sucking hars boiled sweets, sipping water, eatkng basic food like potatoes and chips, and just not letting my stomach get empty. Its rough though, I cant lie. Its just a sort of survival thing. My DH did basically everything for me too while I lay on the cough and moaned.

I have non and havent from the off, my sore boobs have now also gone, and im getting period aches when im relaxing during the night...im 8+3. Have a scan tomorrow and think i'll be saying goodbye to u all...somethings not right so just need it confirming. I wont be ttc again after this one, it will be my 3rd miscarriage in less that 6 months and i just cant do it any more its obvs not meant to be so i give up xx

@Pippop21, I’ve had a similar story but one miscarriage previously. At 8 weeks I started to get cramping as though it was a period. At 8+4 I woke up to a small bleed. The epau saw me within less than 2hrs where I had a scan and baby was described as ‘live’. I know this is not 100% guarantee that everything is still ok. Looking back I had cramps at 4 weeks and then at 8 so it could quite well be breakthrough bleeding, my periods have always been literally timed to the day since I was around 18.

Anyway, I (like you) was convinced I was miscarrying so don’t give up just yet. I just keep telling myself it’s a new sperm and new egg, so it’s got ever chance in the world.

I’m crossing my fingers for you tomorrow, good luck x

@Pippop21 I’m really sorry you’re feeling like that and I can’t imagine how tough these 6 months have been. It’s very possible that the period cramps are your uterus growing though, and so without any other worrying signs of miscarriage I’d take that as a reassuring sign. Glad you have a scan tomorrow to get some answers. Will have fingers crossed for you.

@BabyKnighty1 @SqidgeBum really hope I can say the same in two weeks!

@Spoons1987 I’m the same. I’m exhausted as DS isn’t sleeping well and I really miss having the distraction of baby classes and meeting friends to go to. I’m finding the wait until the 12 week scan really hard. My DH is working all hours of the night and day though and I’m finding that I tend to bicker with him because I’m so tired. Roll on getting out of the first trimester and hopefully a positive 12 week scan so I can start to enjoy the rest of this time.

Not to.be 100% a downer though - I’m thrilled to be pregnant again and can’t wait to go and buy new baby things once we have the all clear. I’ve always wanted two children and just feel like the next year is going to bring so much happiness

@Rainbowafterthestorm im not bleeding as yet, i had some brown discharge a week ago but the lack of symptoms says it all, when u know u know sort of thing. I just feel shit and really fed up of loosing babys or being pregnant for months and cutting out thinfs from my diet/lifestyle for nothing in the end! Its disheartening and i give up now xxxx

@Spoons1987 thats love xx

Fingers crossed @Pippop21. I’ve also been getting period type pains and have had no symptoms. I’m staying hopeful as much as I can.

@Pippop21 lack of symptoms can be very worrying, but mine did the same at about 8 weeks. They just disappeared. No sore boobs, no sickness, even my hormones and mood felt normal. I was also getting period like cramps. I remember on my last pregnancy they woke me up nearly every night between week 7 and 9. 3 weeks ago I was convinced something was wrong with this pregnancy. But, the symptoms all returned. By week 9 I was lying on the couch moaning again. Hormones go up and down, and some people dont get any pregnancy symptoms at all, so fingers crossed that that is the case for you. No bleeding is a good sign too. I have everything crossed for you for tomorrow xx

@Pippop21 I've been getting period pains off an on throughout (I'm 11 weeks now), and as I understand it this is considered a common symptom in first trimester. Understand you want to mentally prepare yourself for the worst, but try hang in there until your scan tomorrow. Don't lose hope yet. Xx

@SqidgeBum i also have lower back ache and have never had any symptoms other than sore boobs. So im not holding my breathe. Thank you though.

I'll update after 12 tomorrow x

@AnxiousLady1 its just hard as i also know that no bleeding doesnt mean nothing too as i have had a MMC in the past so its just a massive mind f*ck really isnt it xxx

@Pippop21 I've also had a MMC so I completely understand your anxiety. Trust me, I have my daily wobbles. I've also had lower back pain off and on and again read that this can be quite normal. I also rationalized that all the sitting on the couch/trying to work while sat on a wooden kitchen chair half the day wouldn't have helped that much either! Xx

Sorry to everyone who is going through a difficult time. I really hope everything works out ok for everyone.

I'm just wondering If anyone is starting to show? Is it even possible to show earlier than 12 weeks with your first?

@BabyKnighty1 I'm 10+2 today as well. Agree, dinner is just horrendous and I feel like I'm going to bed early so I can skip it altogether. Can't handle the thought of a proper meal

@Bluebell2020 yes I'm convinced I have a tiny bump! Feels harder than usual bloating.

I know this isn't pregnancy related so will probably be ignored, but is anyone just fed up?

@Hancock2020 Yes!!! I am!!!

@Hancock2020 Yes me! Probably all sodding virus related fed-up-ness though. I miss being in the office, I hate that it looks like my wedding will have to be postponed, I hate that I won't be able to hug my mother at my grandmother's funeral next week, I want to be able to pop out to the shops and not feel guilty about leaving the house. Fed up and want things to go back to normal.

@Bluebell2020 I was convinced I had a bump until I took a couple of Rennies for heartburn yesterday and it magically disappeared!

Glad it's not just me 😞

@Hancock2020 I have no motivation. I have an essay due in a couple of weeks for my masters and now I’ve been furloughed I should have loads of time to work on it but I just can’t be arsed. I need to find some way to buck up and get it done.

Constant up and down anxiety about this pregnancy isn’t helpful either.