Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 3

[Avocuddles]

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Oh @Avocuddles you poor thing, what a crappy few weeks you guys have had! Hope your partner is feeling much better today.

I have just had my scan and all is ok, measuring exactly as it should and heartbeat was going like the clappers. Feel really relieved! They did find a fibroid though which I've not had before, despite many TV and ab scans, not sure how that will affect me going forward? They didnt mention it at my TV scan for my last pregnancy. Something else to worry about!!
Adding myself to the list now with some trepidation...
@Bellsx 23 wks (due 20/08/20)
@Rachael321 23 wks (due 20/08/20)
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)
@Hoping2020 19wks (due 13/09/20)
@SammiLou2312 19wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)
@Knotemma 18wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)
@LilMrsS 18wks (due 24/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo 18wks due 26/09/20)
@TunnocksTcake 18wks (due 26/09/20)
@avocuddles 18wks (due 27/09/20)
@Sunflower1608 18wks with twins (due 28/09/20)
@SunStruck 18wks (due 28/09/20)⁣
@Scout20 14wks (due 29/09/20)
@Littlegoth 17wks (due 30/09/20)
@HighHopes20 16wks (due 03/10/20)⁣
@Treaclepie19 16wks (due 07/10/20)⁣
@Aria2015 10wks
@tmc14 15wks (due 11/10/20)
@Hagster 13wks (due 12/10/20)⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)
@DressingGown87 13wks (20/10/20)
@rachelrainbow (11 weeks, due 1/11/20)
@teaandtantrums90 10 wks (due 07/11/20)
@Shefliesonherownwings 9 wks (due 10/11/20)
@Whiffle77 8 weeks (due 04/12/20)
@MOGMOGMOG85 7 wks (due 13/12/20)

Hi everyone, I've been very quiet on here of late. Don't think I've even featured on thread number 3 actually. I was sending myself completely crazy with anxiety and felt it best to take a step back for a while. Today I also had a scan and all was well so I'm feeling a little more positive. Was a bit further along than I thought putting me at 8+2. We decided to tell our parents too. I was a bit reluctant but my OH really wanted to tell his nan which I completely understand. @Whiffle77 congratulations on your scan today too! I've not managed to catch up on everything but was so sad to read about doughnut 😔 Hope everyone else is doing well!

Oh gosh @ldawg that means we have the same due date! How funny we both had a scan on the same day! Congratulations on your scan too, hope it eased your anxiety. Mine has definitely helped, and I feel prepared for the next four weeks until 12 now I hope.

@Whiffle77 @Ldawg amazing news both of you!!$ 🥰 congratulations! So exciting.

Have you ladies who are around 17-18 weeks with your first felt any movements yet? I haven't felt a single thing yet 🤔 or if you have felt it, when did you feel it (if you're further along)?

@Whiffle77 & @Ldawg so pleased you have both had nice positive scans today!

@SunStruck I'm 18+4 and haven't felt anything at all yet. I was just on the higher end of healthy BMI pre-pregnacy an have no one how much weight I've gained (I don't own scales). However I have got a sizeable bump now and feel like I'm holding a lot of water, so don't know if that will have an impact. I know it can take up to 24 weeks the first time around, so I'm not concerned, but I would love to be able to feel some movement

@Ldawg so pleased you had a good scan

@SunStruck I’m only just 16 weeks, so haven’t felt anything yet, but for my first I didn’t feel anything until I was about 22/23 weeks. I had an anterior placenta so didn’t feel regular movements for ages. I’m really hoping that’s not the case this time as I would really like the reassurance of movements sooner!

Found out yesterday I'm having a girl and a boy 🥰, just feels so perfect.

Insisted on a meeting with my boss this morning after a difficult nightshift. I've insisted they move me to a different ward. I really don't think they care about my well being at all. They had a patient who threatened to kick the baby out of me (I wasn't there) a few weeks ago and they moved him. But they didn't even give me the courtesy of a call to let me know he was back and I came on to shift with no prior warning. Then this weekend came on to the shift with a brief warning that they have a lady on the ward who is very poorly and when she was last in hospital she particularly targeted pregnant women (due to her past trauma of sexual abuse, forced termination, miscarriage from domestic violence and having her children taken from her). The assaults on other have been serious including kicking a.pregnant women in the stomach, punching someone's teeth out, biting someone's finger off etc etc. She's very poorly but it's just not worth the risk me being around her. I'm devestated that my bosses haven't advocated for me and taken charge after risk assessing my presence on the ward. It shouldn't come down to me feeling unsafe, unvalued and vulnerable then feel like I'm letting the team down

@Sunflower1608 omg that is terrible! You are definitely not safe there - well done for taking your own health into your own hands because it sounds like you are right and your bosses aren't paying due attention at all! I hope you get an answer soon as to somewhere you can go where you feel safer and looked after xx

Hi everyone thanks for your kind words! DH is ok though still feeling quite ropey which makes me anxious - I cope so much better when I'm ill than when he is!

Thanks for the reassurance re weight gain (or lack of). My BMI was 27-28 to start with so guess that means I'm unlikely to have gained as much as slimmer ladies at this stage. I looked at the suggested weight gain chart and it suggested I should have put on 3-4 pounds minimum by now, but I know that I probably lost around that much when I had the virus so hopefully all fine overall. @SunStruck I am definitely saving a lot of calories from wine and hangover food too!

@TunnocksTcake I have the exact same cautious mindset where I can't contemplate getting anything for baby until after the 20 week scan. Two long weeks to go for me.....

@Whiffle77 and @Ldawg glad your scans went well, very happy for you both.

@SunStruck no definitely movements for me. I've had some gurgles which occasionally think 'is it?' but can't tell if they are baby or digestion at this stage!

@Sunflower1608 your work situation sounds appalling, I hope they take heed of your request and sort a safer working environment for you, there is no way you should be made to compromise your safety in that way. On a more positive note I am happy for you on finding out that you are having a boy and girl, amazing news!

Thank you everyone. Definitely feeling a lot less anxious but also well aware that it may not be long lasting!

@Whiffle77 we do have the same due date! How funny - there's not that many of us in this group!

@Sunflower1608 that's awful! Hopefully they can find you somewhere else to work? Has that not been suggested with regards to covid anyway or was it personal choice? I'm not patient facing but my boss has said I could work from home for part of the week. I've declined for now as it's nice to get out of the house and distract myself from symptom checking 😆 Lovely that you are having one of each!!

Have been feeling pretty depressed this week as I haven't had any really bad symptoms since Monday. Then today hit me with extreme exhaustion, headaches, horrible nausea, ravenous and so hormonal I could punch the wall and cry at the same time. So felt a bit more positive after all that! My nausea finally eased this evening and I'm having some more alcohol free prosecco to celebrate - it's so nice. What an awful rollercoaster this whole thing is, I'm toasting all of you ladies who are also muddling your way through it! xx

Can someone plz check my discharge (WARNING tmi picture included) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3891951-can-someone-plz-check-my-discharge-warning-tmi-picture-included

Does anyone mind checking my discharge pic out...i cant believe im posting it but its really worrying me as i had the same thing with my MMC so obly look if u dont mind seeing the pic...dont want any judgement for uploaded xxx

@Pippop it looks fine to me! Check with your midwife if you're worried but it doesn't look too unusual to me... xx

Thanks @MOGMOGMOG85

@MOGMOGMOG85 My symptoms were so up and down until 11 weeks that it drove me crazy. And I started to feel much more normal by then. Like you, I felt miserable when I was sick, but even more so when I wasn't 😂 And it was up and down every day. I still managed to eat a hell of a lot most days and that almost worried me too, into thinking "well I couldn't be that sick". I read something yesterday in a pregnancy magazine and almost wished I'd read it weeks ago (but I was busy burying my head in the sand). When discussing changes you go through in pregnancy it simply said "Your Body. Your Pregnancy". Ultimately, we can't mark our symtoms against anyone else's, and I've seen plenty of others in MN that have had pretty much zero symtoms through whole first trimester and had normal 12 week scans. So celebrate feeling more assured by the symptoms (and them giving you a breather), and don't be hard on yourself or worry yourself if they ease. You would think we would all be used to hormones messing with us on every level by now (they've been doing it since our teenage years). But pregnancy just added a whole other dimension 😂

@Ldawg I wasn't really given much of a choice. The advice for risk wise re covid is that other then I'd we have other predisposing conditions, we are only higher risk in 3rd trimester. My role can't be from home. And with PPE and as long as there is no covid positive patients on the ward I've been expected to stay on

@Sunflower1608 regardless of covid your employer has a responsibility to keep you and your baby safe. I'm making an assumption that you're working on some kind of psych unit? I think it's completely reasonable to talk to your boss about working in a post with non-violent patients/ lower risk patients during your pregnancy. It sounds not only like some of the individuals are making directed threats but as a result of their particular conditions/life experiences are a significant risk to you. That should be unacceptable to your employer and it's their responsibility to make reasonable adjustments, not yours! If you get no joy talking to your direct manager I'd take the issue to hr. You and baby are too important x

@Knotemma by boss was quite apologetic when I told her how I was feeling. She's caught between a rock and a hard place between difficulties around managing adequate staffing, people leaving due to getting burnt out and safety. She's promised she will sort an alternative safer option for me by my next shift. I work on a psych intensive care unit. And up till recently it's been ok, but the last few weeks have been ridiculous

Morning ladies, hope everyone is doing ok?

Just wanted to pop on as I've been following in the background for weeks now but after a mmc in October and a mc in December I've really been in denial about this pregnancy and almost refusing to acknowledge it.

Anyway, after my symptoms fading off about a week ago and lots of cramping and aches in my pelvis we booked an early scan yesterday at 10+3. I had to go in on my own (hubby was outside in the car) and was already in tears walking in through the door expecting the worst after my last 12 week scan. The ladies were absolutely brilliant, so understanding and caring, and to my complete disbelief baby appeared on the screen wiggling around and measuring at 11+1!!

The point of this post is that I'm sure there are plenty of other mums like me fearing the worst after a previous loss and I was convinced my symptoms disappearing meant that everything had gone wrong again, but everything was ok. I know it's so incredibly hard ladies but there is always hope, we're all so completely different and each pregnancy is completely different so we (I include myself!!!!) need to try and remember to breathe and stay positive 😀

Fingers crossed that our harmony test results come back ok but for now I finally feel like I can breathe and say hello to little bump 💕

@Sunflower1608 I'm really glad your boss is understanding and is looking at alternatives for you, it definitely sounds like a environment difficult environment even on your best days.

Over the last week or so my morning sickness has started to creep back in and I've had a couple of rough mornings. Today I actually feel like crap. I've logged on but I can't focus, can't decide if I'm too hot or want to throw up and have been violently sick. I think I'm going to call my boss and go back to bed 🙈 hopefully things don't ramp up enough to have to start the tablets again

@MrsG3 Congratulations on the scan. What a relief for you!

@Knotemma - I can't believ you are sick again. You poor thing. You had it really bad in the first trimester didn't you? Did they diagnose HG?

Now that I've passed my 12 week scan, I am taing the big step of adding myself to the list. Happy Monday ladies!

@Bellsx 23 wks (due 20/08/20)
@Rachael321 23 wks (due 20/08/20)
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)
@Hoping2020 19wks (due 13/09/20)
@SammiLou2312 19wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)
@Knotemma 18wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)
@LilMrsS 18wks (due 24/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo 18wks due 26/09/20)
@TunnocksTcake 18wks (due 26/09/20)
@avocuddles 18wks (due 27/09/20)
@Sunflower1608 18wks with twins (due 28/09/20)
@SunStruck 18wks (due 28/09/20)⁣
@Scout20 14wks (due 29/09/20)
@Littlegoth 17wks (due 30/09/20)
@HighHopes20 16wks (due 03/10/20)⁣
@Treaclepie19 16wks (due 07/10/20)⁣
@Aria2015 10wks
@tmc14 15wks (due 11/10/20)
@Hagster 13wks (due 12/10/20)⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)
@DressingGown87 13wks (20/10/20)
@rachelrainbow (11 weeks, due 1/11/20)
@teaandtantrums90 10 wks (due 07/11/20)
@AnxiousLady1 12 wks (due 07/11/20)
@Shefliesonherownwings 9 wks (due 10/11/20)
@Whiffle77 8 weeks (due 04/12/20)
@MOGMOGMOG85 7 wks (due 13/12/20)

@MrsG3 congratulations to you, it's so uplifting to hear your positive story. We can all empathise with what it feels like to go through early pregnancy expecting the worst, it must have been wonderful for you to see your happy and healthy baby wriggling away and is glad that you feel like you can finally breathe.

@Knotemma oh no I thought you were past the dreaded sickness by now! Hope it's just a one off and you don't need to go back to the meds. If you can take it as easy as possible, my (definitely clinically approved) prescription is Netflix and biscuits. If you're feeling feverish then make sure you get some paracetamol in you too. Get well ASAP!

@AnxiousLady1 glad to see you added to the roll call, 12 weeks is a big milestone. Happy Monday to you too!

@Avocuddles I'm back in bed 😂 it seems to be settling and I think I just got hot from throwing up, rather than being feverish. I'd hoped that at nearly 19 weeks I was past this 🤷‍♀️.

I've never been diagnosed with HG because I've always managed to keep myself hydrated enough to avoid hospital and apparently it's really uncommon to get a diagnosis without at least one hospital visit

Hi girls. Sorry I've been busy for the last few days and haven't had a chance to catch up with the thread in detail. In fact, I've avoided it a bit because it's the 4th day in a row of no symptoms for me. I know they sometimes come and go, but I'm just not feeling pregnant and convinced the only reason why the mc hasn't happened yet is because I'm on progesterone. I know I shouldn't be thinking this way, but I'm finding myself feeling down about it and convinced the 12ws, if I get that far, will be bad news. I'm nearly 7 weeks now and feel like it's pointless to even sort out the booking appointment. Obviously I'll do it this week, but just not having a good feeling. Sorry I'm rambling, I don't even know what I expect. Hearing too much positivity does not help me either, I really don't know what I want/need now. Just needed to get it off my chest.

Hope you're all keeping well xxx