Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 3

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Doughnut, I don't want to tag you as you have left the thread, but I am so so sorry to hear of your news. Sending you love. Please look after yourself. Xxx

@AnxiousLady1 I'm really pleased to hear that things have gone well for you today, it's always good to have positive news.

Oh Doughnut 😔😔 that has made me shed a little tear I was really rooting for you. what terrible luck, I hope you get lots of support moving forward. Sending you a huge hug.

@AnxiousLady1 glad your scan went well And hope you can carry the positivity with you for as long as possible x

Doughnut - sending lots of love and support to you. Please look after yourself & allow yourself to be looked after x

@AnxiousLady1 so pleased your scan went well x

@AnxiousLady1 ❤️😊 Now, put your feet up, girl!

Doughnut I am so sorry 😢😢😢 please look after yourself and hope to see you back when you are ready ❤️

@AnxiousLady1 congrats on a good scan!! What a relief 😄 hope you get to enjoy the pregnancy more now... until the next scan 🙄

Has anyone else received an antenatal GROW chart in the post? With instructions on how to do a fundal height measurement?
It’s come with no letter of explanation... I’m not sure if it’s because they expect all appointments to be telephone for a while, or because I was due to glucose tolerance test and they want me to measure instead? Or something else? The chart starts from 24 weeks and I’m almost 16 weeks.

@tmc14 I haven't had anything like that. I'm due to have a face to face appointment with my midwife at 23 weeks though, that was confirmed during my 16 week phone appointment. Are you due an appointment with the midwife? If not might be worth just giving them a ring

@Knotemma thanks for replying. My next appointment (16 weeks) is in 10 days, I haven’t heard that it will be a phone appointment but I presumed it would be. I’ll leave a message with the midwife, & ask her to call me. I just wish they’d send a letter with it explaining why! The post mark is Warrington & I’m in London so doesn’t seem to be from my trust 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just needed a vent for a minute and wanted to see what your thoughts were too... my friend has just shared a post about that shows a girl holding a sign about infertility, saying she wishes she was in quarinine with children, my friend (were very close she she knows I’d see it, what happened etc) then posted saying don’t let this make you feel guilty for hating being in quarantine with your children... am I just being really touchy? But I think that’s a really crappy comparison to make?? Kinda wanna say something but don’t know what/how to? Am I being touchy, or do you loss mums find this crappy too?

@AnxiousLady1 - that’s brilliant news, so pleased for you!

I also had a good scan today for my 20-week, all is well and baby is developing beautifully! I have a low-lying placenta so they want to monitor that but said 9 times out of 10 it corrects itself so not to worry.

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

@tmc14 the GROW chart will be to just file in your handheld maternity notes - I think it’s generated at the 12week scan and then from 24weeks, whenever your fundal height is measured or you have a growth scan it will be plotted on your customised GROW chart. I guess they posted it to you just so you’ve got it in your notes???

Congratulations @Hoping2020 and @AnxiousLady1 for your positive scans today, lovely news.

So sorry doughnut that you are going through another mmc. It’s so cruel and sad. I also have had two mmc and am sending you much love.

What symptoms are people struggling with at 12weeks I really dont wana be the only one feeling soooo horrid...

Doughnut I'm so so sad for you :( seems like incredibly bad luck, my heart goes out to you :( I hope your partner takes good care of you the next few weeks xxxx

@AnxiousLady1 congratulations xxx

My nausea has been better the last couple of days. Its there but only very slightly. The only symptoms I'm having are a bit of tiredness, lots of hunger, thirst and achey boobs at night.

I'm so upset by what happened to Doughnut and convinced I might be in for the same. Last time my symptoms tailed off after 6 1/2 weeks (I'm 6+5 now) and I found out at the 8 weeks scan.

I have 12 days to my scan. I know time will pass I just need to be patient. I just don't know how I'll bear it if it's the same story :( xx

@MOGMOGMOG85 Obviously every pregnancy will be different, but I didn't start getting nausea until well into week 7. And even then it would vary day to day. And it wasn't as bad as some people's. My boobs always tended to be okay during the day and more achey at night - this is still the case. But most of my nausea started to lift again by week 10. And even when I and the nausea I definitely still had the ravenous part.

I really appreciated the support from everyone when I was having my wobble on Sunday. But you still couldn't have convinced me going in to that scan today that I was going to be fine. The sonographer took one look at me before I said anything and said I looked petrified. She gave me a good reality check before I left. Essentially saying what others say on here all the time. Different pregnancy. And there is no reason to think that because of what happened before that it would mean a bad outcome this time around. Hang in there. xx

@AnxiousLady1 thank you xx you're right. Essentially I just won't know until the scan and as far as raw statistics go it should be ok. My heart just goes out to her it's just so awful :( xx

@MysteriousSheep thank you, I wondered as I didn’t get one with my first... they measured me at each appointment but checked it against their own chart and wrote the number in my notes. Seems an odd thing to do but I hope you’re right that it’s just so it’s in my notes.

I’ve lost track of who is having private scans... I wasn’t going to but DH really felt he was missing out, which I understand, & as this will hopefully be our last baby, I wanted him to attend a scan. Plus 7 weeks between scans is so long! So I’ve booked a local private one for next Sunday. I’m not sure it’s the most sensible idea but I’ve done it now. Is anyone else having a private scan just for reassurance/so DH can see? (Please don’t judge too harshly if you think it’s a terrible idea!)

@tmc14 I'm getting one at 8+3 in 12 days. I can't get one sooner as my large fibroids interrupt visibility when I'm pregnant and last time my embryo measuring 6 weeks was really hard to find meaning I spent 48 hours thinking it was ectopic (I was supposed to be 8+2 when I went but it was mmc). I know if I can see a baby with a heartbeat at 8 weeks I will feel so much better having got so much further than before. Waiting until that point is awful though, especially now I'm past the point the embryo stopped developing.. For me it is important that my partner is there in case it is devastating news. If its good news it will be even more important! And I just don't want to start bleeding at 10/11 weeks again with no warning - awful as it is I'd prefer to know. That's my reasoning.

@MOGMOGMOG85 thanks for replying, that sounds like perfect reasoning! I think I’m making it out to be about DH but it is also reassurance for me too. My miscarriage was at 10 weeks, so I’m past that point but I’m still not convinced everything will be fine, particularly as I’m 40 so very aware of my age.
I bet 12 days feels like a long way away, but hopefully the time will pass quickly. I find the few days before always go the slowest! I’m actually pleased I only have to wait a week more rather than 4 to check everything is ok.

@tmc14 we went a few weeks ago at 16 weeks, 1st time my husband has seen baby and this will be our last (baby no 2 after losing our daughter after birth) so I wanted him to form a bond and see this baby, especially after all our last scans brought bad news. Experience was really good, clinic followed guidelines and was very professional and felt very clean and safe. They were operating 1 in 1 out type thing. Was really reassuring too, going from 12 to 20 weeks is too long! X

@tmc14 I've had a look, but the lovely place I went for my early scan at 9 weeks has closed and I'm also in that weird time of too late for reassurance scan, too early for growth scan, don't want a gender scan because we're not finding out. My anatomy scan is Thursday at 19+1, so it's 5 1/2 weeks since I have had any kind of checks other than phone calls. DH is coming with me and is going to stay in the carpark, so he's nearby no matter what the news is. Because all of my MCs have been natural I'm less nervous than ladies who've had MMC's (I guess) but there is always some scan anxiety for me.

Honestly if having a private scan makes you both feel better and there is somewhere in your area still doing it then go for it ☺️