Late October babies - Thread 2

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Just continuing the chat where we left off on the other thread! @roarfeckingroar @DressingGown87 @MamaNaz @1990shopefulftm @Flora20 @Jaffas20 and everyone else I've forgotten!

@Rach167 I'm so sorry to hear that, it's heart breaking. Take care x

@Flora20 Congratulations on your scan, glad everything went ok. There seems to be a lot of wriggling babies.

@Flora20 that's a lovely scan picture :)

Figured out that my bad posture was definitely making my back worse, decided to work in the living room instead of at a desk today and it seems to have made a difference.
I m 12 weeks today, I was expecting to feel like I ve passed a milestone but I think that ll come if my scan on Tuesday morning goes well.

@Flora20 did you go on your own? I got my letter through my couple of weeks ago and stated that I can be accompanied by 1 person but I called in yesterday to confirm this is still the case and was told that I have to come along on my own and my husband won't be allowed. It's pretty shit as this is our first and we were trying for about a year before it happened so he was very excited to come along. Also it doesn't really feel real for him yet as he's been working long shifts and has had a lot on his mind as we only just opened our business so while I've had really bad digestion and have been feeling wiped and nauseous(granted only in few occasions) he hasn't really had the chance to sit down and really assimilate the news. So he'll be driving me and waiting in the car while I have the scan, bloods etc.

@sunbreak Yes I was alone, I was warned about it when I got my appointment. The sonographer was really apologetic, she was saying she understands why but she thinks it would be more important to let partners in for emotional support. She did print me 4 photos for free too.

It is really hard when it's your first though, at least we've done it all before. The most important thing is that he'll know quickly that all is well and you can start getting more excited together then. I think to be honest it's hard for partners to take it all in anyway, it's not until there's an actual baby in front of them that it's all real!

@Flora20 Beautiful wriggly baby! Glad your scan went well.

@1990shopefulftm My scan is also on tuesday, but in the evening. I'm crossing my fingers for us that ours will go well too🤞

I'll be 12wks tomorrow.

@sunbreak I was alone and it's my first but honestly, the staff were so lovely and the whole experience was quite chilled so hopefully you're going to have the same experience.

I was upset when the news came out at first but I keep thinking past generations didn't get half the experiences we do with all the scans and modern technology and beautiful birthing centres, antenatal classes etc, so I'm sure there will be other special moments along the journey that our partners will be able to share with us

@UpsyDaisy1234 let me know how it goes:) at the moment our due dates must be within a day of each other :)

I m very grateful that DH got to see baby at at 8 weeks and I got to see his face lit up seeing them on the screen so I m not feeling so bad about doing this alone.

Hi ladies, thought I’d join I have a private scan tomorrow going by my dates I’m around 12+3, I’ve only just figured out I’m pregnant with baby number 3! I have an over the phone booking app next week, can’t wait to see baba tomorrow though!

@EmmaA96 Welcome & Congratulations! This is my number 3 too but still as anxious as my first. Lol! My scan is on tuesday. I hope yours goes well. Goodluck!

@1990shopefulftm It's unfair especially for first time mums. Glad that your OH has been able to see your baby already. I guess all that matters is that our scans goes well and hopefully we get scan pictures to show our family.

@UpsyDaisy1234 my DH is an optimist so he's handling not being able to go to the scan very well and if I say anything where I worry about the pandemic still happening during labour, he s been brilliant calming me down.
It's not how I expected my first pregnancy to go like this but baby and I being healthy is the main thing.

@1990shopefulftm Absolutely! I really do wish we can have them by our side come october. A friend who had her baby this morning said her Dh wheeled her from the car to the door. They asked him to wait outside or in the car (basically just to stay within the hosp). When her labour started, he was called in wearing full PPE and soon as baby was born, he was sent home. He will collect them from the door tomorrow when they will be discharged...

Just got off the 4th video call with her trying to guide her how to get on with breastfeeding as there's no support on that at the hosp.

Honestly, the situation at the moment is so worrying.

@1990shopefulftm glad you’ve managed to find some relief for your back! I stopped my physio (been going 17 years) just before lockdown. Can’t wait to go again!

@EmmaA96 congratulations and welcome. Good luck for your scan tomorrow.

@UpsyDaisy1234 glad she has you for some extra (or complete by the sounds of it) support. That must not be the nicest situation, to be rushed in and out. Hopefully she can come home tomorrow, to enjoy family life together. It such a shame, that the care is being compromised in areas, but understand the NHS is under so much pressure.

Whilst the lockdown isn’t really effecting me (due to not having a partner) I feel for you guys who are going through it and not being able to have your DP/DH by your side. I also hope by October, I can Atleast have my best friend or someone by my side.

@UpsyDaisy1234 @DressingGown87 there's so much about the benefits of having a birth partner so I can't see them taking that away completely.
I m nervous about not being able to be discharged the same day, it being my first I know I would find it challenging being on a ward alone with baby.

Hi guys! Thought I'd butt in too so I don't miss anything lol 12 weeks today and first app on Monday. Looks like there's going to be a lot of Halloween babas 😁

@Flora20 congratulations on your scan. Glad to hear it went well.

@EmmaA96 welcome and good luck with the scan today. This is baby number 3 for me too.

@Csmore welcome! Looks like there’s a few appointments happening at the beginning of next week 😊.

My scan went well yesterday. Baby was super chilled and only had a few wee wiggles. I was so emotional! I got 4 pictures for free, and she also recorded a clip which she asked me to video on my phone after to show my DH. Due date has changed by 2 days, so now due 29th October.

I was supposed to have my baby at the end of October. Last weekend I started getting a small pain in my lower back and then Monday I started spotting brown so I rang my midwife and she said it's common to have old blood but by Monday evening it was red. Tuesday came and there was spotting but this time bright red burr was told again this was normal and because my 12 week scan was Thursday (16th) to just wait. Tuesday night I was cramping all around my stomach and Wednesday morning at 3am I had to rush to the bathroom where there was lots of blood so I rang the epu and she said I had to go to a+e where they checked my cervix which was slightly open and said I was probably miscarrying and that I would need to come bk for an early scan. Came back to the hospital in the afternoon on Wednesday where I had a scan and found out I had a missed miscarriage where my baby died just after 8 weeks and my body hadn't recognised it yet. She asked if I wanted to look at the screen but I couldn't. Within 3 hours of me going home I miscarried everything. 1 day before my 12 week scan.

@Lynz2020 I am so sorry to hear that you've such horrible experience.You must be heartbroken. Sending you lots of hugs and I hope you look after yourself.💐💐

@Lynz2020 I am so very sorry that this has happened to you. Sending you the biggest hug. Take care of yourself 💐

@Lynz2020 I am so sorry to hear that, please look after yourself, hun. Sending lots of handholds and hugs your way. Xx

Thank you, it was a traumatic experience to hear the news but then for it to all happen in a few hours, I never thought I'd go through it. I have a couple of friends who are midway through pregnancy and it's their 1st etc so you always think why me? was my 1st pregnancy and we got pregnant 1st time trying so thought we were lucky. My midwife said there was no reason why I wouldn't have a healthy one next time and I could try again as soon as I was ready. I've read lots of stores about people getting pregnant after a couple of weeks.

@Lynz2020 I also had a missed miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and found out at my 12 week scan. We were absolutely devastated, but my midwife also told me that it was possible to fall pregnant again really quickly. I found out I was pregnant with my first son a few months later. I know how hard this is, but hope this offers you a little bit of comfort. Sending lots of love, strength and hugs your way 💐 xx

@lynz2020 Im absolutely devastated for you! I've just woken up this morning with a tiny bit of brown blood on my pants and I am terrified. Haven't spotted and have had no blood since my last period in January so now im in bits that ive miscarried. Cant get through to anyone either for advice 😢 Im really anxious I will go to my scan on Monday and theyll tell me ive lost it and ill be totally on my own because DH can't come in with me 😭

@Csmore do you have a number for the local EPU? Keep trying them