November 2020 Babies - Thread 3

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Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion!

@HarrietM87 So sorry to hear this, go to A&E, this worry is too much to handle.
Hope you'll get good news x

@HarriettM87 Our BEP clinic wasn't open so gynae ward advised me to go straight to A&E. There was only me and someone who'd been arrested (and the 2 officers) there but he'd been there before me. Triage did their thing within 20 mins and because I showed no symptoms of Covid they moved me to another waiting room so no one would be going near me.

I hope everything is ok but please go to the hospital x

@HarrietM87 do what your gut tells you at this stage and if it’s to go to A&E because you need to see someone/know what’s happening then go. Sincerely hope everything is ok xx

@KatieGlo yes and there are car seats which needs bases and isofix. The maxi cosi website is good as you can put your make of car in and it will tell you what fits. But not saying maxi cosi best or anything - that’s just what we ended up with car seat wise

Also think about (just to complicate things more!) if relatives are going to care for baby at all and whether seat needs to be transferable to their car!

It is a bit of a minefield! But I think it’s also good to have lots of choice

Thanks so much for the messages. I’m on my way to A&E. I can’t bear not knowing for sure though I feel deep down it must be bad news. I will update you all later.

@Whoamieven whoever creates the new thread post the link to it on the previous one, but this time we jumped too soon so you probably missed it

Best of luck @HarrietM87

I hope it goes well @HarrietM87. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Best of luck @HarrietM87. Thinking of you and have everything crossed. Xx

Best of luck @HarrietM87 Keeping everything crossed for you. Xx

Good luck @HarrietM87. Thinking of you.

I’ve got an appointment at the EPU for a scan on Weds morning. It’s going to be a long 48 hrs. The triage midwife I spoke to on the phone was quite reassuring, saying that sonographers sometimes struggle to find the baby abdominally at 10 wks.

To be honest though, it’s the hope that’s killing me at the moment.

Good luck @harrietM87 x

They wouldn’t scan me at the hospital. Said it was against current policy to do reassurance scans. So it was a total waste of time. They checked my cervix and it was closed which is a good sign but basically it could go either way. I’m so upset. I rang beforehand and they said they’d scan me if I came in. I can get a private scan on Wednesday I think so will have to wait for that. This bloody virus.

That's infuriating @HarrietM87. You are bleeding! I am starting to see an issue with their definition of what a reassurance scan is. To me, reassurance scans are done to see if everything is ok despite there being little evidence that something is wrong. Bleeding and then getting a scan is, to me, medical. There is a medical reason you need the scan.

It is starting to feel like if you are pregnant, unless your head is falling off, nobody is prepared to help you. You are expected to just go home with no knowledge of what is happening to you or your baby and just get on with it. That's disgraceful.

@HarrietM87 That's a bit unfair when other hospitals are still able to do them. Good news that your cervix is closed. I'd had a small bleed and the week after a huge one that made me feel daft about the first one. My cervix was closed on that and they said the bleed must've come from me not the baby. Too much coughing or wretching etc (even though I've not coughed or wretched). I know the scan is the only reassurance you can accept but I'd take the positive from this xx

@HarrietM87 that’s rubbish esp when you rang ahead. Would they be able to refer you to EPU for tomorrow? Just hugs x

Yes exactly @SqidgeBum - I feel like reassurance scan implies I’m just doing it for the fun of it! It was a horrible experience. I heard the gynaecologist briefing the dr who was seeing me from behind the curtain and she was just so cold. The EPU won’t scan me either at the moment so I’ll have to get a private one.

@HarrietM87 I’m sorry you couldn’t get an answer today. It is really rubbish. I would complain. I know that hospitals are busy, but it is no excuse for taking away required care.

@HarrietM87 you’re bleeding, cramping and have a history of miscarriages, but that’s not a good enough reason to get a ‘reassurance’ scan?! Wow, just wow.

I’m in the same boat. 9 weeks and started bleeding on Saturday. They won’t do anything basically got to wait until my 12 week scan or wait and see what happens in the next ten days. No private clinics open near me. Sending you positive thoughts.

Oh God. I just feel for all of you! This shouldn't be happening. Pregnant women still deserve medical care. Its disgraceful. You all have my thoughts

@HarrietM87 and @mrs2468 that’s absolutely awful. Women shouldn’t have to go through the agony of waiting and not knowing. Just a thought but is there another hospital nearby that has a different policy? Where I live (south London) there are several big hospitals within 20-30 minutes and they all have different policies. For example Kings and East Surrey are still seeing people in the EPU but Croydon aren’t. I had a look when I was comparing what policies they had and what had changed due to Coronavirus.

How awful re: the scans. I hope you can sort something to reassure you one way or another soon.

Another note on prams, check the width of your front door 😉

@HarrietM87 I am appalled at how that was handled. As others have said, "reassurance" is being misinterpreted here. Its a medical need. Being sent home to simply wait and see is awful. I can't fathom why they were able to check your cervix and wouldn't just scan you while you were there. I know it won't mean much, but I have read many other threads where people have had red bleeds at this stage and early into second trimester (totally unexplained) and their pregnancies have been fine (confirmed on scans). Take care of yourself today. Eat lots of chocolate (if you can) and watch something to try take your mind off it. xx

@HarrietM87 fingers crossed everything is ok for you

On a different note, dont want to sound overly dramatic but chicken super noodles OMG! they are literally the best thing I've eaten for weeks 🤣🤣🤪