November 2020 Babies - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion!

Hi everyone. Congratulations on your little heartbeats - really exciting times ahead even in these current circumstances.
I was wondering what people’s thoughts are on having baths? Someone told me it’s not recommended to avoid your bbt getting too high? Would love to know if people are having them, I love baths too much to not have one for 7 months...but of course baby first!

@Fingersxtoescrossed it’s about body temperature. A bath is unlikely to raise your body temp too high.

@Natmeme45 I don’t know anything about Queens but don’t think I’d choose whipps. It’s my closest hospital but I’m going to homerton instead which was excellent last time. Is that an option for you? You can self refer to any hospital in London but obvs don’t want to be too far from home as car journeys in labour are not fun!

@Fingersxtoescrossed I've read that it takes the body 15-20 minutes to raise the temperature and that your body should not be over 37 C. So a bath not too hot for that duration shouldn't be a problem.

I will do some more research on this as we have one of those lazy spas and during summer months I'll probably use it sometimes at a lower temperature to cool down for short periods of time.

@excitednerves same boat here! I have a 9 month old and she will be 16 months when new baby is due. I had a mad moment in February where I thought it would be a good idea and it happened the one and only time we dtd! Had no idea coronavirus was around the corner and now feel very anxious about the virus, the pregnancy and having a newborn with a young baby. However, I always knew I wanted a second so at least we're getting it done while the baby stage is fresh in our mind! This will 100% be my last child so I'm trying to stay calm and look at the positives.... Close jn age, best friends, entertain each other, similar hobbies etc. I've just resigned myself to a very tough first year but then any newborn would be tough despite the age gap! We can do this!

@Fingersxtoescrossed I've been having a bath every now and again just making sure it's not too hot. Apparently if your skin turns pink it's too hot.

I'm 9 weeks today - booking in appointment this Thursday - hoping I get my scan details very soon after as really want to start telling people!

Huge admiration for the people with small age gaps! My son was a very demanding high needs velcro non-sleeping baby so though we initially wanted a small age gap we readjusted our expectations! He will be 2.5 when the baby is born which I hope will still be small enough for them to enjoy playing together (eventually!).

@Heebyjeeby99 I’m not the only mad person then! Ha ha! Our logic in Feb was that I only need to go back to work for 12 weeks, use holidays for a few of the first weeks, then annual leave to go part time on full time pay, then get full mat pay for number two. But reality is hitting home now! Youre right, a newborn and a child of any age will be hard work, we’re just going to have it extra intense. I’m worried about maternity care during this virus but we will be fine, I’m sure. We only plan on having two as well so going to enjoy it as much as I can.

@WildflowerPetals 2 weeks and 2 days for me. Taking forever!

@excitednerves I would have liked a small age gap, but there was no way I’d be able to cope. It’s easier for ppl that kinda leave the kids to do their own thing (from what I see from family). I’m too much of a helicopter parent and I don’t take my eyes off my boy lol. There will be a 3.3 year age gap for me.

@HarrietM87@sakura54 I think we all just manage with what we’ve got - no other choice really! Whatever the age gap having a newborn plus another child is going to be a whole new level of crazy!

3.4 gap for me. I didnt want a gap this big but considering I suffer from HG it has probably worked out for the better that DS is a bit older and not quite so reliant on me. I am already feeling quite sick and low on energy.

My booking in appt is next week when I will be 7+6 which seems early. Most done over the phone and then need to pop in to the surgery for bloods and urine. I have booked a private scan for the day before so fingers crossed I see a heartbeat and all is well.

Even though I have had no bleeding and plenty of symptoms I am still worried.

There will be 7 years gap between my DS and the baby. I would love a smaller gap but unfortunately that wasnt meant to be for us.

Just back from getting my bloods. It took the midwife 2 goes and lots of jiggling to admit defeat and send me down to the bloods clinic who got it first go. Damn my awkward veins.

She took my blood pressure too but not my height or weight. Odd. She also confirmed I would have more bloods for the abnormality screening at 12 weeks and the scan is 'in the system' and I will get a letter soon. She said they have a 'good system in place and delays arent really happening' so fingers crossed my 12 week scan wont be at 14 weeks. I am in gloucestershire though, it's a pretty quiet hospital in comparison to bigger city hospitals.

I just hope the kids will like each other and play together. My nephew is 3 1/2 years older than DS and they love each other and run around together crazily every time. It’s so nice to see! He also has cousins and little ‘uncles’ all different ages on DH’s side that he always plays with, but maybe it depends on how sociable your kid is?

@HarrietM87 same here - originally we wanted a less than 2 year age gap, but I couldn’t even contemplate trying for another until DS was about 18m. He was a super clingy, colicky baby, a horrific sleeper and generally just very demanding (compared to his two cousins who are both a similar age). Even now at 2 he has to be cuddled to sleep, doesn’t sleep through and can’t play by himself for more than about 20 seconds! I don’t mind too much having a longer age gap because both my son and this baby will have cousins within a few months of each other, who we see often.

Hi, I’m new here but really wanted to have some people to chat to about this pregnancy as me and OH haven’t told anybody yet.
I had my first appointment yesterday but it was a phone appointment. She told me I’d have my bloods and tests done at my 12 week scan.
I’m due around the 23rd November according to my app and the midwife said to stick with this for now.
Dealing with terrible nausea at the moment, I’ve tried ginger biscuits but I think they taste awful on a normal day so they’re not that much help. Trying not to complain too much about it as I miscarried last year so hoping for the best this time round but it’s so hard when you’re stuck in the house constantly wanting to throw up but never actually throwing up!

@EBM20
I'm the same - got told I would get a call but haven't - I'm 8 weeks on Friday. I've tried calling but it's constantly engaged !
I'm still working so I'm worried I will miss it if they do ring me 🤨

Those that are having their 2nd/3rd child, how many bedrooms have you got? I have a 2 bedroom new build (aka small) house lol. I also have a new Mazda 2. For some reason I seem to think this is ok and aren’t planning to upgrade anytime soon despite planning this 2nd child! Might be to do with the fact I spend a lot of time at my parents and in-laws house so think we will be ok in our little home...

Im 8 weeks next week and not spoken to midwife yet. Have left two messages (with a real person) and they keep saying they'll phone me back and they don't
Don't know what I'm supposed to do? All "seems" ok so not particularly worried and with everything going on I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that it's just down to the chaos within the nhs at the moment
I'll give them until the beginning of next week and ring again.
🤷🏻‍♀️

@Sakura54 - 3 bedrooms but only 2 are upstairs. Our sons room is big enough to fit 2 kids but then we don’t want him disturbed by baby. We had planned to move and put house on market in June but that’s been railroaded somewhat. So think we are going to wait until Jan now and put it on then as baby will be in with us for 6 months anyway. We just don’t want to put our son in the downstairs bedroom even though I’m sure he’d be fine.

If we can’t sell we can possibly re-configure to divide his room in two but am told it wouldn’t meet planning regulations so seems better to move if we can

@Sakura54 but I think one of my friends has 2 in 1 room - want to ask her but she doesn’t yet know I’m preggers. But they’re fine!

@Sakura I have a 3 bed semi and a ford focus estate, but my parents visit from abroad, so we need the room, and we are getting a caravan next year, hence the big car. I shared a room with my sister as a kid. No big deal. I would put my kids in the same room even though we have the 3 bed. It forces them to exist together.

@mamayoucefka my two best friends have younger sisters 7 years apart and they are THE best friends, the older ones are madly in love with the younger ones and it's a great relationship, kinda wish I had a younger sister or brother like this.

@Sakura54 sorry should’ve said, we want to move anyway for other reasons!

welcome @Pheeb234 , lots of us are on the same boat. I am not telling anyone till week 12 - and some people only after 16/20 weeks.

Fortunately i don't really have bad MS, but from what I've read ice lollies help to keep you hydrated and with a bit of calorie in it too. i've read boiled candy too.
I'm sure someone else will come along and offer better advice on what they can stomach right now.