November 2020 Babies - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion!

@Sakura54 4 bedrooms detached although one bedroom is quite small so only really fits a bed/cotbed, chest of draws and an armchair for feeding. I’ve always been so glad it’s detached with night time wake ups! We have a Mazda 2 as well. It’s only just ok for two children. The car seats are so bulky that only I can drive it because my husband doesn’t fit behind the wheel and there’s not enough boot space with a buggy if we go away for a few days. We’re going to get a bigger car. Probably a Volkswagen Touran because that has 3 isofix points at the back and room to transport friends.

@Sakura54 forgot to add that my dds share. They’re 2 years apart and sleep better together. We can review it when they’re older but they’re happy for now.

@sakura54 2 bed end of terrace and a 2017 Ford ka. We are planning a loft conversion at some point next year so hopefully we will be able to move our bedroom to the loft, baby will be with us for a year or more anyways. Our current bedroom is really spacious and could fit 2 kids in it but as of now no plans for baby no 3 😂 ds has his own room and because of the 7 years age gap I dont want him to share a room with a much younger sibling.

Car should fit 2 kids in it, if I had a no 3 then I am sure we would need to upgrade to something bigger.

@canueve I really hope my boy will get along with his little sibling. He has been waiting for a baby brother for a long time now- not really that enthusiastic for having a baby sister though 😂

We will have one child in a four bed flat, and have a Mercedes GLC which is —too big— plenty big enough for child and small dog, despite what my husband thinks 😆

Cross through fail

I figure siblings with get along sometimes and wont other times. I grew up being told that family is the most important thing, and me and my sister shared a room for years (2.5 year gap) and we went through phases of being great together and hating each other. Now we live 3 hours drive from each other, but would still drop everything for one another, and have done on many occasions. But that's all down to my parents drilling us that we should prioritise each other over friends etc. My DH barely speaks to his sister. His family never taught them to stick together. Its what you teach them I think.

I know my DD wont really like a screaming newborn taking Mammys time when she has had 100% of my attention. We have no family near so my and DH are her world. But she will adapt. She has no choice.

@Sakura54 we live in a 4 bed detached, a perk of moving out of London a few years ago. The biggest room is remaining the spare room and new baby will have the current playroom/study.

Our car on the other hand is a fiat punto and barely fits one child. Once we get the ok at the 20 week scan we will be getting a bigger one.

We’re in a 4 bed end of terrace - our room, our son’s room, a teeny tiny study and a guest room which is (usually!) in frequent use as we have big families who live far away so usually have someone staying every couple of weeks. My son was in our room for the first year so it’s not an urgent problem, but I was hoping the new baby could share with my son, maybe when they’re 3.5 and 1 - those of you with other kids - does this sound possible? We don’t have a car so don’t need to worry about that at least!

Just had my booking appt over the phone and they’ve emailed my scan date for my 12 week scan. It’s when I’ll be 13+5 by LMP but at my early scan last week I was measuring ahead so I would be 14+2. I think the combined screen has to be done before 14 weeks so I’ve emailed and asked them to move it - really hope they can!

@ACatCalledLola when did you move your DDs in together?

@HarrietM87 I shared a room with both my siblings until I was a teenager, sharing really isn’t a problem

@BuffaloCauliflower I shared with my sister too! I really want them to share. My query is what age you can start that - is it safe to leave a 1 year old unattended with a toddler for example? Could they wake each other up? My sis moved into my room when I was 8 so didn’t have these issues!

@HarrietM87 yes they’ll be fine, but yes they might wake each other up! That’s just life I’m afraid. Maybe keep baby in with you until 18 months, depending on how they both sleep?

@HarrietM87 I moved them in together when dd2 was 18 months. Dd1 is 26 months older so they’re close. Dd2 slept in our room until she was 9 months and then I moved her into her own room but ended up sleeping on a camp bed next to her for the next 9 months. She woke up every hour or two so there was barely any point in me going back to my own bed. Once she stopped waking up so frequently I put her in with her sister. I think she likes the company.

@sakkura on dc3 and 3 bed here. We were about to buy a 4 bed but Coronavirus hell (job security) means that's increasingly unlikely this year and next year I'll be on stat mat pay.

My babies have been in with me for about a year anyway but will need dcs to share for a bit so the other bedroom is free for baby. I've always coslept but have put them down alone from 6 months and brought them in on first wake up.

Not sure how well it will go down with dcs (6 & 4) but we all have to make sacrifices in this climate.

Will be buying a Citroen Picasso Grand as soon as the lockdown is over. I currently have a Cleo.

Ah ok thanks - good to know! My son was such a bad sleeper too until I stopped bf at 13 months...really hoping this one isn’t the same but will prob keep them in our room til they’re at least 1 and then reassess. My son loves the Alfie stories (Shirley Hughes) and he shares with his little sister Annie Rose and it’s very sweet ❤️

We love those books too @HarrietM87. Dd1 was really excited when I said her sister would be sharing with her. I let her choose bedding and pictures for them both (within reason ). They see it as a novelty at first and then it’s too late to go back!

New builds are built sooo compact...I barely have a landing/corridors and all rooms are kinda small. DS’s room has a cot bed, big swivel armchair, wardrobe and drawers. Most likely will have to get a bunk bed in future to keep it ‘spacious’. Deffo not having more kids so I suppose we don’t really need a bigger house/car. It’s probably a good thing we are small ppl lol (I’m 5ft 3).

My parents bought a new house, when pregnant with me, so I’ve never had to share with my bro. They then converted the attic into a bedroom when my sister came along.

DH, on the other hand, grew up with 4 siblings all squashed together with extra relatives sometimes, so no wonder he’s never complained about space lol.

@mamayoucefka Dsis is 8 years younger than me. We speak everyday and she works with DH lol. Can still be friends despite a huge age gap.

@SqidgeBum I'm in Gloucestershire too! My scan is at 12+2 according to LMP so hopefully they'll get yours booked in promptly and you won't have to wait too long.

Hiya guys - just wanted to check in - Due in November too! I'm 7+3 had telephone booking in and last week went for brief hospital appointment for bloods etc which came back ok!
Just counting down the days until 12 weeks scan on 13th May! Gutted my partner cant come in with me! We've decided that if all goes to plan, we will hold off telling family until we can tell them face to face - as this is first grandchild for both sides. Whats everyone else doing regarding announcements during the lock-down?

@mamayoucefka my brother is 2 years younger than me, parents were done with kids then an accident aka my little sister happened 😂 she's 9 years younger than me and we are so close! She was the first person after DH I told I was pregnant. Also worked out well for babysitting duties for my parents when I was slightly older ha!

Ok so just heard back from the hospital. They’re not going to move my 12 week scan because they say my private scan report (which moved me 4 days ahead) isn’t reliable. It’s from a Harley street clinic, done by a consultant!!! This means that I’ll be over 14 weeks when I have my nhs scan which means that the screening results won’t be reliable. I’m really upset about it and don’t know what to do next. Might just have to phone and plead with them again.

Does anyone else have a fitbit? Mine is showing that my resting hr has dropped a bit over the last few days. Of course I’m worried now. Should it still be rising?
@HarrietM87 definitely phone them and explain. You could always tell them that you ovulate early so you believe that it’s correct.

@HarrietM87 I’m so sorry about this - definitely call them!

Just checked my paperwork for my booking in appt and noticed that they’ve booked me in at the wrong hospital (within the same Trust) which is far away from where I live and not where I want to give birth. Gave them a call and my preferred hospital isn’t able to do a booking in appt until I’ll be 13 weeks which is basically useless...

I feel really bad for how underfunded and overstretched the NHS is and know how much worse it is with coronavirus, but selfishly I feel really nervous.