Anyone awaiting arrival of their baby?

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Hi,

My baby is due next Wednesday 8th April. Is anyone awaiting there little bundle to arrive around the same time?

Also how you feeling about the virus at such an special time for us

Xxxx

@brummiemumm London - my trust is Kings Trust. No inductions, no sweeps. Had my 38 midwife appt on phone today ‘is everything ok phyiscally and mentally’ ‘no it’s definitely not’ ‘ok sorry, call us if you are worried’ - i’m not annoyed at anyone whatsoever, she was lovely, her hands are totally tied. It must be horrible for them too not being able to help us.
Thing is with me, i’m hating every second of being pregnant, i’m dreading labour, and tbh i am dreading her being out as well because I remember all too well how hard that bit is (i didnt enjoy newborn time). So i’m not really sure what i’m hoping for right now. I feel depressed :-(
Sorry to be a grump.
Packing my hospital bag right now... i remember this being a fun and exciting activity with my first :-(

Thank you for replies. I did wear a mask in the end due to your reassurance, midwife and I had a laugh about it.

Had sweep. Went well, but midwife advised to stay upright and get moving. I have not slept a wink since 2pm yesterday and I need to sleep so will probably have no results whatsoever from it.

I really feel for everybody on here. I have also been having trouble with hip/pelvis pain etc (hence the not sleeping). I literally wake up crying after an hour and have to get husband to sit me up or move my leg as soon as I wake up.

People keep telling me to enjoy the time whilst I have it. There is no way to enjoy this! I am 100% certain I will get more sleep with a newborn than I do now.

I was given usual advice from midwife today,
-have sex.
-walk up and down the stairs sideways.
-nipple stimulation.
-stay Upright.
-jump up and down?!!

Not booked in for another sweep until next Thursday!!! Midwife did say that it’s ok to attempt to do a mini sweep yourself. Massaging the cervix. Not sure I’m brave enough yet but I’m sure I’ll get brave if baby is not here soon!

@123456kent

You sound utterly fed up!

I am totally with you on hating being pregnant. I’ve had a horrific pregnancy from the get go and quite frankly think I’ve come to terms with this baby being my last.

It’s been 12 years since last baby and I also wasn’t too fussed with newborn stage but I honestly think when somebody he had such an horrific pregnancy, newborn stage will be a doddle.

Worst thing about being near the end, wanting it to be over but also being absolutely terrified of giving birth. This time round I am very scared about giving birth.

I wish I had something inspiring to say to you but I am also a grumpy bugger at the moment and can only moan.

Maggie90 that’s ok, i wouldn’t expect anyone in my position to be positive and anyone who isn’t in my position i’m angry at any advice they give anyway, so no one can win here!!
I like what you say about newborn being better than pregnancy after a terrible pregnancy. Hopefully. Whilst i didnt enjoy newborn, things did get better after 8-12 weeks and so i’ll need to keep that end goal in mind.
If this baby was my first, it would be my last!!
I feel so bloody lonely right now. If covid wasnt happening I wouldnt be able to go shopping or anything but i could go to someones house and at least have a chat. I’m done with facetiming friends and having my child and all their children chatting and crying and moaning, its not a distraction!!
Realised i havent left the house for 4 weeks today except a scan and a midwife appt so no wonder i’m snappy

@maggie90 hope the sweep works for you 🤞🤞personally I couldn't imagine anything worse than having sex right now they don't seem to listen to us when we tell them where feeling down and sore and that's the last thing we want well I know the last thing I want lol. @123456kent I'm sorry your feeling shit right now. Sending lots of virtual hugs. I hope when your baba does arrive that they will bring you lots of joy and love and also keep you busy as let's face it we can't do much at the minute. Completely understand your frustration at not being able to go shops etc I never imagined pregnancy to feel like such a lonely time. Bit annoyed that you also didn't get an appointment to see your midwife as mental health is just as important and it sounds like you need to see a different face and have a nice long chat with someone that will listen. Maybe when the baby arrives you could go for short walks with the pram or hope you at least have a garden you can sit in and just try and relax in this weather a bit. Sending love and luck xx

Sounds like we're all as fed up as each other!! I think we need to cut ourselves some slack though - this is such an unusual situation to be in and it's totally understandable that we would be feeling crap - we are stuck indoors, we aren't getting the usual support from midwives or even visits from friends and family that we usually would have, and we are surrounded by uncertainty and negative news! We need to be kind to ourselves. I felt very grumpy this morning but I've just done some lunch and a bit of housework and feel better for keeping busy. Tonight I'm going to have a nice long bath with a face mask and try to relax - the more oxytocin the more likely labour is!! We've got this ladies we can do it!!

Hi everyone!

I’m due on the 23rd so 38 weeks today. This is number 3 and she feels incredibly low!
Weeks ago the midwife said ‘because it’s number 3 she’ll probably feel like she’s falling out!’ And blimey she wasn’t wrong!

Starting to get super uncomfortable at night and spend most of my evenings sat on the ball. I’m getting very achey legs and hips in bed!

Someone is supposed to be coming today or tomorrow to do my homebirth assessment so I’ve spent the morning cleaning and tidying (although what’s the point with 2 dcs and a dp isolated together?!)

I don’t think she’ll be very long at all so trying to enjoy the last little bits of pregnancy as this is our last one!

Good luck to everyone and congrats to those who already have their lovely babies! What a time to give birth eh?!

Thanks everyone for nice words. @oddshoesb- you are having a home birth? I’m intrigued. I’ve been getting super pissed off at people suggesting this to me as I was told 4-5 weeks ago this would be the very first change, they would be scrapped. I’m in London though, maybe more of a stretch in ambulances? What are you planning on doing with older children?
I’m in a better mood this afternoon too. Managed to relax these last few hours while my 2 year old played and is now asleep on me so I’m good. Sorry if i am bringing bad vibes to a thread!
I just ordered a TENs machine. A poor attempt to try and regain some control in this situation!

@OddshoesOddsocks @123456kent I was also told no homebirths (well my midwife said they obviously can't force you not to have a homebirth but they can't recommend them as there won't be enough midwives or ambulances so they are saying it's not as safe as it would be) but then I live in Birmingham which is one of the worst hit places after London.
I've had a much more relaxed afternoon. Went for a long walk with hubby in the sunshine (which always gives me period cramps now) and now I'm having a little lie down with my Hypnobirthing tracks on in the background 😊

Hi both, I’m INCREDIBLY lucky, I’ve planned a homebirth since day one and was anxious about them cancelling them but our trust (Warwickshire) is actively encouraging them at the moment. It is their plan to use the MLU as an isolation unit for new mums so anyone who NEEDS to be in hospital can go and anyone who is planning on using the midwife led unit is encouraged to have a homebirth. They’re confident that there’s enough community midwives and ambulances available so I’m happy to proceed with it.

That being said, dd2 was born at home and arrived before the midwives and paramedics and there was no pandemic as an excuse then 😂 fingers crossed they’re quicker this time!

@123456kent it’s amazing what can help you feel a bit more in control isn’t it? Glad you’ve had a better day today
Not 100% sure on the plan for the older ones. They’ve got a bag packed ready to go to my mums if needed. She’s only over the road and both households have been self isolating for the last 2 weeks to try and make it a separate safe as possible. I’m going to keep that as a last resort though, like if I need to go to hospital. I think I’ll just try and keep them at home and hope it happens in the night! Or resort to Netflix and bribery...

@brummiemumm that sounds like a perfect afternoon!

Really Wish I could have a home birth, wanted one since the beginning but they aren’t offering them where I am.

I have just looked at my online letter from sweep today and saw that my bishops score was 4/5. This basically means no where near labour urghhh.

I have decided I am no longer going to sit pondering when I will go into labour and trying to make it happen. I have now excepted that I will probably get to 42 weeks and need to be induced.

I am 40+4 today so I am now going to relax for the next week and get on with last minute things. I haven’t been doing anything for past few days as I’ve been so fed up.

I feel much calmer now. It’s the waiting and not knowing that drives me mad, oh and the hip/pelvis pain but hey ho.

Keep chin up everybody x

@maggie90 try clary sage oil Holland and barrett sell it and Amazon but it softens the cervix and is great for labour on my last pregnancy I used it on the Wednesday and thur in a bath and soaked for 30mins each time and I went into labour on the fri which was my due date I will be using again this time my hypnobirthing tutor also recommended using it from 40 weeks it might help a little bit and better than being induced later down the line xx

@ KHall84

Thank you for tip, I may actually order some-I think the best part is the bath! I’ve been too scared to have one as I’m scared I won’t be able to get out. Husband has said he will help me ha!!

Midwife said cervix was soft but no effacement and in mid position. Also only 1-2cm dialated.

For the first time in a week, I am going to try and sleep tonight rather than going to sleep at 11am!

I think I’m going to watch some hypnobirthing videos over the next few days.

I’ve heard it really helps.

@maggie90 your in a better position then if cervix is already soft and dilating as I wasnt even dilated kast time and within 48hrs I lost muscas plug and was having contractions so definitely try it, and I would definitely recommend hypnobirthing I didnt do it last time but wish I had xx

@Maggie90 definitely look at Hypnobirthing and The Positive Birth Company - really useful and helped me to feel less stressed about labour.
Just woken up to dull but very uncomfortable period type pain - it's not coming and going, just been a constant ache for about 10minutes. Felt like I needed the loo but sat there for a while and nothing happened. It really is very uncomfortable... wonder if it's anything to do with cervix dilating?? Here's hoping eh? It's hubby's birthday today!

@brummiemumm Oh no! This has happened to you two nights in a row, you’re going to be knackered.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. With first baby I had period pains on and off for a few days and when I had second sweep, she told me I was 5cm dilated from them.

I am incapable of sleeping at night for some reason. Going to have a look at that hypno birthing, hopefully it will relax me enough to put me to sleep.

Baby feels very low down tonight so I’m very uncomfortable.

Keep us updated.

Still going with the period type cramps - they're ramping up every few minutes. Much worse than I've had before but then I'm worried I'm just being a wuss! Probably nothing!

@Maggie90 how come you're awake? Struggling to sleep? The positive birth company videos are free on YouTube - definitely worth a watch! You can pay for more too on their website

Yep, just can’t sleep at night anymore. It’s awful. Has been going on for almost 10 days. It doesn’t seem to matter how tired I am. Baby very active at night so not sure if that’s keeping me awake or the crippling anxiety of impending labour ha!

That’s exactly how my labour started. I would literally describe it as period pains which got stronger over the course of hours.

I read that between 1am and 4am is the most common time for women to go into labour! Really am keeping fingers crossed for you.

Ooh hope this is it @brummiemumm and that you get some sleep soon @Maggie90 I am up as early labour has started. Waters broke at 12:46am and kept gushing for ages. Contractions have started and coming quite often though short in length. 42wk induction meant to be happening at 8am lol

Little update. Baby Boy arrived Tuesday 7th April 6.30pm. About 17 hrs from when Pessary went in. Waters went at 1am in pushing by 5am. Ended up in theatre to be stitched up up a 3rd degree tear right down into my bum but the baby is amazing makes it sort of worth it. Haha

Sorry to chip in, just adding myself to the mix. Due 26th April but likely to be induced early due to hypertension issues. Had horrendous Braxton Hicks, which I didn't have with first. Considering buying a TENS. Know you can rent but I can always sell on eBay. Anyone got any recommendations or would you say it didn't help? They keep telling me the second one will come faster but the first was induced and quite harrowing so nervous this time. Congrats on all the babies so far. A little nervous of being by myself in hospital this time as hubby has to stay with our toddler.

@beanie1981 I am also due with my second on the 26th April.I was induced with my first and I will probably be induced with this one too due to my age.I have been feeling very uncomfortable the last few days and moving around is getting quite difficult.How are you feeling?I am panicking about not being able to get an epidural.
Congratulations to all the ladies who have given birth in this so far.A scary time to have a baby.

Hi @moussemum! Yes I'm 39 years old and have hypertension so likely being induced at 39+ weeks. I was hoping to not need it but then the BH started and I got scared and thought perhaps I'd rather just be in hospital for it all! Also don't know how long I'll actually be in hospital for which is making the bag packing tricky!!